bodashee: @Godismystrength, that's so good to hear. Happy for u.

Wendy80:

Hahahahah

Godmystrength
Thank God for the happy ending. **clappinghands**

hispinkolo: @Godismystrength
I go love ooooooo .
Happy for youuuuu. I'm sure he will repent.
Good job!

snazzylove: Happy for you gal.
But come and finish d story...lol

snazzylove: When I was younger, my mama used to say that husband and wife issues are always settled on the bed, I didn't understand it then, thought she meant just sitting or lying on d bed to settle the matter . But now I know better. @Godmystrenght: putting momma's advice into practice . Kip it up.

Godmystrength: If that is the case, then i won't take it as an INSECURITY issue at all. To me it becomes a TRUST issue....

mamateniola1:
It's indeed a trust issue! I know what d way yu feeling now because I once experienced it. My boyfriend now DH will call my phone lik 1million times because he was seriously suspecting I was up to something or with another guy.so irritating!!
Start by telling him he should drop his Friends numbers just two of them so that yu can be calling them to check on him whenever his number isn't going tru. Don't show that you are angry so that he wnt know yu wan do 'do me I do you '.

bodashee: @snazzylove.....that end of story that you are searching for.......

mamateniola1: @Godmystrenght oh Good that you have resolved it. Marriage no be easy thing!!

Godmystrength: My eyes are so wide OPEN o so there will be no surprises. He know i have a soft heart ni and he is always using that against me ...

In fact, i am still observing him closely to see if he will keep to his words..

Icherishu:
Dear I used to be like you, though a part of me is still like you. But marriage has toughen me up, though not to the extent I want but I am getting there. Experience has thought me that anything you don't want later, you have to deal with it as they arise.

You need to be a bit tough on some of the issues. Unless you realised that every day you are being drained emotionally trying to please a lot of people.

I will still advise that while you are watching still collect his phone and delete all the numbers that is related to your work people. Then go to your contacts and change the names. Cos from what I can feel here, you ain't strong emotionally to lock your phone becos you don't want the drama that will accompany it.

Very insecure men are very manipulative, I have been there once but dear I must tell you I carried my load and run as far as. It was easy for me though cos we were dating. So now that you are married to him, don't just see it as love. Try to handle it by being firm. It isn't easy though cos this is a hubby we are talking about, but remember that your job is also very important

mamateniola1: @bodashee, ehugss for you. I love smart women.

I alwaya tell ple that God has deposited so much in us as women. We are powerful. If we look inwards we will find that power then we have to know how to use it. We should also Choose d battle we fight, not all battles are worth fighting. Some battles you fight without talking n some you talk. We shld choose rightly.

DH doesn't always stand up for me infact I tell him always that 'I know I am on my own ' except In some cases (tho a very good guy )so I don't even mention or report anyone esp his family (tho dey r not bad).
I have just one SIL that enters my house d way she likes afterall na my Bros house.you know that kind of thinking. Even when she is coming, she only calls her brother she has never called me one day to say I dey come oh, even if she dey go, I will just see her bag, some times I ask, you don dey go, some times I wnt even look her bag talkless of the owner of the bag.I never mentioned it once to DH,i m cool with it. The only thing is that as she has come and didn't inform me, I behave like she doesn't exist in the house. I can go out and come back in the evening.it's none of my business. If I feel like going nude in my house, I go nude, she will even enter our bedroom without knocking sef. Even if she wan cook, she will call DH and ask wetin we wan eat. DH will then turn to me if we r together and asked what will she cook? I will answer anything she wan cook make she cook.

now, let me anger some anticipated questions- we used to be good, not best friends even before I marry, we talk about her boyfriend's and I advise as my wisdom reach, we talk about several other issues so I can say our relationship isn't that bad as inlaw concern, even now, she still talk to me about what she wants me to hear, I guess, she even enters my room, take anything even wear my free sized tops n I ask her for things if I like but I don't ever take her things behind her or ransack her stuff like she wil do to me. Yet she no feel m worth informing when coming to my house

for me, m cool cos as she dey treat me na so I go treat her. She is a woman and one day be married to another person 's brother.

Godmystrength: Doing that will not achieve much because he is very good with numbers. It can only work for new numbers (the ones he hasn't seen/noticed). Even if i delete all the contacts on his phone he can't be bothered because most numbers are in his head and he only has some few written somewhere and they won't include my colleagues numbers.

Lock phone ke? That won't work o. The next thing is for him to just ask for the password (cos he will assume i locked it because of our son). If i refuse, hmmmm, let's not even go there........ It has happened before and it wasn't funny. A very serious matter indeed.

Mind you, he wasn't like this before marriage. He acts less bothered about my phones. Maybe because i have VERY FEW friends so less contacts on my phones and even less calls. MOST of my contacts and calls are family members

Icherishu:
Then you have to use the communication techniques. Talk more. Talk more and talk more.

Godmystrength: that i do/am doing now my sister. May God help me.

bodashee: @snazzylove.....that end of story that you are searching for.......

freecocoa: Na wa o.

Since when is insecurity now a sign of love biko nu? I've read countless times in this family section that an insecure man is a no no, abi is insecurity a bad thing only when dating and turns into love after marriage?

Make una remember say some of us never marry and are learning from una o.

snazzylove: Choiii!!! Am not taking this again. Wia is dis bobo? #runs off# honeyyyyyyyyyyyy...

megamindmaster:
Hmmm. This thing "night love" that you people are sharing @snazzylove and Godismystrength, continue... There is Godu o... Easy o!

bodashee: @snazzylove, I've got 3D glasses o. Shey make I borrow u?