alutacontinua: It's not possible
that's why I perform IQ test on any guy that comes close to me

Perform on yourself too

Itoroetti:

i doubt if u are a graduate.
how does dis concern GEJ?What have ur fadaa achieved in his miserable life?
someone with phd is what u refer to as blockhead.
if u dont respect people's fada,dont expect urs to earn any respect.

heey,u dint have to bring his fada into dis.it shows u Dn't respect ur dad too.plss grow a dick nt stop acting girlish.its a social site dude.dnt quote me plsss cos I wnt see it.

Nice one, I couldn't have said it better. Are you a teacher or counselor?

@ nedu2000 maybe the boy is actually dyslexic; a learning disorder marked by a severe difficulty in recognizing and understanding written language,leading to spelling and writting problems.
It is not caused by low intelligence or brain damage.All the boy needs is special education and a counselor.

But if spelling and writting isn't his problem,then find out what he is good at just like other people have suggested and help him grow in it. We can't all be professionals you know....

uboma: No one is a blockhead. And calling your Uncle's child one will not help matters at all. No matter what a child does, don't call him/her derogatory names or compare them with other children who may be doing better.

If you really want to help, you need to have a heart to heart chat with your Uncle's child. First, gain his trust, so he can open up to you. It could be that something went wrong during his formative years (6-10 years). Please answer these;

Did this child grow up with his biological parents or with a relative?

During his formative years, did his parents play an active role in his life? Did they play together as a family? Was the father/mother always around to LISTEN and talk to their child? During his early years in school (nursery to primary) were his parents interested in his school activities? Did they guide him with his homework? Did they find out from his teacher(s) the performance of their son? Or was it just the *enrol your child in school, pay his fees when due, buy school materials? Is this the cycle they followed?

I always tell parents that *children are what we make them*. Once you miss it during their formative years, then you've lost out big time. It is simply not enough to just send your child to school and leave them at the mercy of their teachers. Parents need to play an ACTIVE role in their child(ren)'s life.

And mind you, if you are sure that the parents played their role during his formative years, then the child may be better off learning a vocational skill. If having listened to this boy, and its obvious that he just doesn't like school, then find out his hobby or the skill he's interested in and build on that.

Look around the world today, not all the well to do men actually completed their schooling. But they have excelled in their chosen fields.

There's so much to say but time... I wish I could have a chat with your Uncle's child. Are they in Abuja?

NB.
Calling a child derogatory names only serves to worsen him, make him more reserve and won't bring out the best in him/her. No one was born a dullard. Please take note.

exactly lk dah indian movie "like stars on earth" the dull boi turn out to b d best artist fr d skool wt d help f a teacher daht discover his talent

Itoroetti:

i doubt if u are a graduate.
how does dis concern GEJ?What have ur fadaa achieved in his miserable life?
someone with phd is what u refer to as blockhead.
if u dont respect people's fada,dont expect urs to earn any respect.

i was actually enjoying d intelligent nd funny comment before I saw urs.very irritating

@ op, if I were your cousin and somehow figured out that this thread was written in this manner about me, I'll be very pissed with you. Apparently, even you are not well enlightened about what LEARNING DISABILITY is. People with this condition are not morons, They just don't see how solving (x-y)(x+y) would affect their lives. They learn differently and can learn faster when taught things that are practical that is why vocational education should be highly encouraged. The western world has figured this out but we here don't encourage it. To even think that this is what we were into before being colonized baffles me. Then again,Your cousin may not have learning disability. There is this old traditional tale about how villagers kill trees. All they have to do is gather around the tree and rain abuses on it every day and gradually, the tree starts drying away. People are different and react differently, some kids get better after constantly being bitterly scolded but some others become shadows of themselves because their motivational spirit has been killed off! Before anything Only doses of encouraging and loving treatment from family members can make such kids 'rediscover' themselves and know where their talent lies.

And GEJ isn't someone's father right?
Respect is reciprocal.

chimauk: heey,u dint have to bring his fada into dis.it shows u Dn't respect ur dad too.plss grow a dick nt stop acting girlish.its a social site dude.dnt quote me plsss cos I wnt see it.

nedu2000: hahahaha!I never repeated a class o & I represented st finbarr's at cowbell's maths competition

oga I also finished from St finbarrs 2004 set

peppyluv02: And GEJ isn't someone's father right?
Respect is reciprocal.

is he ur father?dats d question u should be asking...let GEJ or his children fight bk.dem no send u message.na only be citizen?

uboma:

You lack the ability to comprehend my post so I wouldn't even bother breaking it any further for you or anyone else in your shoes because you still won't get it. Do as you wish with the child and even your children too. Give them names, call them DULLARDS, they are your kids or supposedly loved ones. And watch them improve because you tagged them *dullards*.

Touche! See how you contradicted yourself! If I lacked the ability to comprehend what you wrote and you actually feel there's no point breaking it any further for me! I believe in your mind you must have concluded I am inept at comprehension right? Does that make me any different from the dullard the op and I was talking about? And you who a while ago was preaching love, tolerance and patience couldn't practice same with me? So you see my friend we all have a breaking point! That stage when we can't take it anymore. I hope you can see why the op referred to his cousin as a dullard? You just did same unknowingly with me. Hypocrite! Learn to practice what you preach. #Uboma is your internet not back on yet? I'm still waiting for your response to the bolded! You have the humble pie in your hands do the needful or forever be tagged a Coward and a hypocrite.

durella4: Nothing s wrong about d child nt even d parent,ve seen cases were both parent re stark morons yet thier children still excel academically. D only tink he nid s determination,wen onces he take dat step am sure he's gonna make it.

If d parent ve try education and it does nt work,let dem try vocational training 4 him i blive dat s were s future lies after all d re so many peepz doing vocational trainin n re makin it in life.

this your English eh





Are u the blockhead the op posted this topic about?

kennynelcon:

Lol ur funny

babes be like 'I want to sleep', and niggaz reply 'lol, you are funny'. smh for u

uboma:


TB Joshua cannot help him either. Don't be deceived by what you see on the TV and what you hear people say about him.

Onitsha is quite far... If you can, please sit him down or take a long walk with him and dig deep. You will be surprised at what you'll learn...

TB Joshua can not help? God can not help? The impunity with which people like you insult God is appalling like He is just another human being. Have you been to the SCOAN or have empirical evidence that Joshua is a fraud? I am very sorry for you and the path you have chosen.

Now to the discussion. Who told you no one is born dull? I am rather shocked at the number of people who agree with you. It is like you live in this bubble created by your imagination. I have a friend that is dull actually I have friends but I will focus on this one guy because all his siblings I know are dull and unable to pass exams on their own. We were in the same primary school together, same class with me and his younger sister in the same class with my younger sister and my younger sister was in touch with even younger siblings that did poorly in class. Their dad was a full time politician and mum was a full time house wife. There was nothing their parents didn't do to help them learn. Even as a kid I could notice how hard their parents tried to help them learn. Their problem was not the inability to learn but the ability to retain what they had learnt. It cut across all spheres of their life where they had to learn then remember after some time. Now what do you say to that? My friend and most if not all his siblings are currently in the uk and really do not need to bother about making their own money like most of us.

That is just one case. I know a 16 year old girl who just wrote her primary 6 exam with little chance off passing, she has a cousin like her too-the cousin has actually stopped trying to be in school and her parents understand. This girl I know has a 12 year old sister under the same roof with her in JSS 2. Who do we blame in this case?

And what is this talk about using derogatory words. We are Africans not Europeans or Americans. That is what africans do to prevent a person doing the wrong thing to correct itself. Why do you think so many nairalanders bash and laugh at people when they are down when they should be giving encouragement? It is built into our psyche, that is how africans-true africans think. We do not pamper failure with the hope it will correct itself. When you fail this term and get flogged by your dad followed by mouth bashing from mum which often lasts a term and get reminded of your failure whenever you miss any house chore. Next term, you will struggle to out do yourself.

No wonder so many new parents are failures with raising up their kids.

We shouldn't deceive ourselves with vocational training, if the boy can't learn in class, he most likely can't learn anywhere. He doesn't seem like someone who wants to learn at all. I wonder how he got this way. Does he know how hard it is to survive in society when you have nothing to offer.

Yea its possible
but vocational school is an option

GboyegaD: You people should help him understand how best he assimilates and once he gets that, things will get better. Do you guys taunt him for his non-performance? Are there other things that interest him that he is willing to try? This and many more in my opinion should be where you should start rather than concluding by tagging him as you have done.

he doesn't do will in academics na,but very good with his hands(repairs,technical issues) but a JS3 drop out is no good,at least he has to be thorough in terms of secondary school education-writing a letter,spellings,punctuations,maths before he'll be able to venture into any sort of technical school.
NB: the military was considered but he's physically fragile

tell ur uncle 2 ask his wife if he slept wit timaya ( d only man dat got 7 in jamb)

blink182: TB Joshua can not help? God can not help? The impunity with which people like you insult God is appalling like He is just another human being. Have you been to the SCOAN or have empirical evidence that Joshua is a fraud? I am very sorry for you and the path you have chosen.

Now to the discussion. Who told you no one is born dull? I am rather shocked at the number of people who agree with you. It is like you live in this bubble created by your imagination. I have a friend that is dull actually I have friends but I will focus on this one guy because all his siblings I know are dull and unable to pass exams on their own. We were in the same primary school together, same class with me and his younger sister in the same class with my younger sister and my younger sister was in touch with even younger siblings that did poorly in class. Their dad was a full time politician and mum was a full time house wife. There was nothing their parents didn't do to help them learn. Even as a kid I could notice how hard their parents tried to help them learn. Their problem was not the inability to learn but the ability to retain what they had learnt. It cut across all spheres of their life where they had to learn then remember after some time. Now what do you say to that? My friend and most if not all his siblings are currently in the uk and really do not need to bother about making their own money like most of us.

That is just one case. I know a 16 year old girl who just wrote her primary 6 exam with little chance off passing, she has a cousin like her too-the cousin has actually stopped trying to be in school and her parents understand. This girl I know has a 12 year old sister under the same roof with her in JSS 2. Who do we blame in this case?

And what is this talk about using derogatory words. We are Africans not Europeans or Americans. That is what africans do to prevent a person doing the wrong thing to correct itself. Why do you think so many nairalanders bash and laugh at people when they are down when they should be giving encouragement? It is built into our psyche, that is how africans-true africans think. We do not pamper failure with the hope it will correct itself. When you fail this term and get flogged by your dad followed by mouth bashing from mum which often lasts a term and get reminded of your failure whenever you miss any house chore. Next term, you will struggle to out do yourself.

No wonder so many new parents are failures with raising up their kids.

We shouldn't deceive ourselves with vocational training, if the boy can't learn in class, he most likely can't learn anywhere. He doesn't seem like someone who wants to learn at all. I wonder how he got this way. Does he know how hard it is to survive in society when you have nothing to offer.

I sincerely wish ur comment had arrived earlier for everyone to see,however not all kids as well as adults thrive after receiving criticisms & corporal punishment sometimes the use of incentives can be an option

chimauk: oga I also finished from St finbarrs 2004 set

I finished 2000

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blink182: TB Joshua can not help? God can not help? The impunity with which people like you insult God is appalling like He is just another human being. Have you been to the SCOAN or have empirical evidence that Joshua is a fraud? I am very sorry for you and the path you have chosen.

Now to the discussion. Who told you no one is born dull? I am rather shocked at the number of people who agree with you. It is like you live in this bubble created by your imagination. I have a friend that is dull actually I have friends but I will focus on this one guy because all his siblings I know are dull and unable to pass exams on their own. We were in the same primary school together, same class with me and his younger sister in the same class with my younger sister and my younger sister was in touch with even younger siblings that did poorly in class. Their dad was a full time politician and mum was a full time house wife. There was nothing their parents didn't do to help them learn. Even as a kid I could notice how hard their parents tried to help them learn. Their problem was not the inability to learn but the ability to retain what they had learnt. It cut across all spheres of their life where they had to learn then remember after some time. Now what do you say to that? My friend and most if not all his siblings are currently in the uk and really do not need to bother about making their own money like most of us.

That is just one case. I know a 16 year old girl who just wrote her primary 6 exam with little chance off passing, she has a cousin like her too-the cousin has actually stopped trying to be in school and her parents understand. This girl I know has a 12 year old sister under the same roof with her in JSS 2. Who do we blame in this case?

And what is this talk about using derogatory words. We are Africans not Europeans or Americans. That is what africans do to prevent a person doing the wrong thing to correct itself. Why do you think so many nairalanders bash and laugh at people when they are down when they should be giving encouragement? It is built into our psyche, that is how africans-true africans think. We do not pamper failure with the hope it will correct itself. When you fail this term and get flogged by your dad followed by mouth bashing from mum which often lasts a term and get reminded of your failure whenever you miss any house chore. Next term, you will struggle to out do yourself.

No wonder so many new parents are failures with raising up their kids.

We shouldn't deceive ourselves with vocational training, if the boy can't learn in class, he most likely can't learn anywhere. He doesn't seem like someone who wants to learn at all. I wonder how he got this way. Does he know how hard it is to survive in society when you have nothing to offer.

Word! Uboma hope you read this? Break out of that bubble you live in and face reality! Dull is in the dictionary for a purpose.

block head

nedu2000: I know most parents talk about how their kids finish 1st in class then who's the child that finishes last!!
My uncle's 16-yr-old child is such a person,he's dad bribed his way into secondary after he failed common entrance,after repeating JS1 and JS 2 twice,his dad was called in by his school principal(govt school) to come and carry away his ward!!My uncle not knowing what to do,send my cousin down to Lagos to live with us and join my little brother in his school(they are both age-mates but my brother is in SS3).
In Lagos,he couldn't pass the qualifying exam to my broher's school so we had to make do with one of those secondary schools that don't arrange such exams. In school,the results didn't change 22nd/24 students after 3 attempts in the same class?haba.He also possesses criminal tendencies as he forged his last term results,he doesn't write notes claiming he's a slow writer and its a natural liar. His parents are confused.
Surely there are parents who's wards aren't(weren't) doing well academically,what's the way out?

I was once such a student who was not doing well in my most early education years. In my Transition class I remember being locked up in class along with another student for not being able to come up with any English word that starts with the letter 'Y'. The other buy later repeated several classes and was known as the dumbest kid in school.

But to the shock of me and many others I got to be 12th in class in Primary 1 in the first term and 1st by 2nd and 3rd term. Primary 1 was the immediate class that followed Transition. Since then I'd been either 1st or 2nd. In JS1 I was 2nd in all 3 terms, but I began to be an average student and out of the 1st 10 positions from my JS2 when I got introduced by my parent to be friends with a non-serious cousin of mine. This was to help me stay in school (as I was mostly a loner and so bored of school). I picked up again when I changed school in my SS1 where I ended my SS3 as 2nd overall.

I never understood the sudden change in my academic performance in Primary 1 until I read the book "Gifted hands" by Dr Ben Carson. The author was the dumbest kid in class who became the best and later an acclaimed world best neurosurgeon. It was when I read how the mother of the Dr had prevented her two kids from playing, instead forced them to be going to read books in the library and provide reviews each day, then I recalled that my late father had done similar thing to us (with more focus on me, being that my only brother was doing well). I could remember how my father (a former maths teacher, then a banker) would have us locked in the house and given some homework to do on our own. I remember more of how he taught me how to study maths on my own using maths text book. He would make me learn to solve new maths problems on topics for the next term on my own and I must complete all the exercises that accompany the topics. He would show me how to solve the ones I couldn't solve when he comes back from work. It wasn't interesting at all as our friends would come to mock us through our house window. Each day we would study from about 8am that my parent leave for work till 12pm when my Aunt would come and unlock the door for us to join other kids to play. Mum (a teacher) would be back around 2pm and you have to go to bed around 3pm. My dad seriously frowned at playing football and till date I and my only brother don't play nor have interest in watching football.

In summary I would say such corrections are best at the early formative years of a child. That is when it is easiest to help a child develop the habits and attitude you want to see in them. It is best time to influence a child and get them to grow with that influence. This becomes increasingly difficult as the child grows older. With my experience I'm sure that a child can be influenced to improve in almost any area (academic or otherwise). But I'm not sure how effective such measures may be for a child who has gotten to his/her teens. The best way to know is to try but at this age you must be very careful of being overbearing on the child which can result in depression, attempt to run away from home and in worst case suicide attempt. A teenage is more intolerable of parents interference in their lives, so any efforts must be done with much caution and more especially with the consent of the child. I would seriously recommend the book "Gifted Hands" for the parent and the child. The child would see from there that his/her case is not hopeless and would likely be more willing and cooperative with the parent on the measures to be taken. He or she would understand very well that the parents are doing it for his/her own interest and would reduce the change of the child viewing it as punishment.

That's my submission. Wish you the best in this.

Thats one thing with Nigerians. Not everyone is destined to go to school and later" become a doctor, banker, lawyer or scientist." If your child isnt responding to academics, there must be something else he or she is good at, and i tell you, that thing once spotted and developped would bring more money and recognition than any paid job. Some are born to lead!

alutacontinua: It's not possible
that's why I perform IQ test on any guy that comes close to me

babe, perform on me. i'mma out score einstein.

nedu2000: I know most parents talk about how their kids finish 1st in class then who's the child that finishes last!!
My uncle's 16-yr-old child is such a person,he's dad bribed his way into secondary after he failed common entrance,after repeating JS1 and JS 2 twice,his dad was called in by his school principal(govt school) to come and carry away his ward!!My uncle not knowing what to do,send my cousin down to Lagos to live with us and join my little brother in his school(they are both age-mates but my brother is in SS3).
In Lagos,he couldn't pass the qualifying exam to my broher's school so we had to make do with one of those secondary schools that don't arrange such exams. In school,the results didn't change 22nd/24 students after 3 attempts in the same class?haba.He also possesses criminal tendencies as he forged his last term results,he doesn't write notes claiming he's a slow writer and its a natural liar. His parents are confused.
Surely there are parents who's wards aren't(weren't) doing well academically,what's the way out?

The child in question probably is suffering from dyslexia. But most children usually out grow it after a while.
I know it can be frustrating teaching a child that can not catchup. You feel like venting out your frustration on him/her. The foundation really matters. Look at his family line. Is there anyone with that syndrome or symptom? Alternatively did he grow up in a happy home?
As much as your uncle has done his best, I believe he should resort to prayers.

What a mess. Giving money to move the child to secondary school was wrong. Parents should learn not to help their kids cheat in exams, etc. because on the long run it will not be in their best interest. The child from the word go was not serious with his studies. Arranging for extra lessons for the child will help.

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nedu2000: he doesn't do will in academics na,but very good with his hands(repairs,technical issues) but a JS3 drop out is no good,at least he has to be thorough in terms of secondary school education-writing a letter,spellings,punctuations,maths before he'll be able to venture into any sort of technical school.
NB: the military was considered but he's physically fragile

In that case, let him go to a Technical School for his High School.

uboma: No one is a blockhead. And calling your Uncle's child one will not help matters at all. No matter what a child does, don't call him/her derogatory names or compare them with other children who may be doing better.

If you really want to help, you need to have a heart to heart chat with your Uncle's child. First, gain his trust, so he can open up to you. It could be that something went wrong during his formative years (6-10 years). Please answer these;

Did this child grow up with his biological parents or with a relative?

During his formative years, did his parents play an active role in his life? Did they play together as a family? Was the father/mother always around to LISTEN and talk to their child? During his early years in school (nursery to primary) were his parents interested in his school activities? Did they guide him with his homework? Did they find out from his teacher(s) the performance of their son? Or was it just the *enrol your child in school, pay his fees when due, buy school materials? Is this the cycle they followed?

I always tell parents that *children are what we make them*. Once you miss it during their formative years, then you've lost out big time. It is simply not enough to just send your child to school and leave them at the mercy of their teachers. Parents need to play an ACTIVE role in their child(ren)'s life.

And mind you, if you are sure that the parents played their role during his formative years, then the child may be better off learning a vocational skill. If having listened to this boy, and its obvious that he just doesn't like school, then find out his hobby or the skill he's interested in and build on that.

Look around the world today, not all the well to do men actually completed their schooling. But they have excelled in their chosen fields.

There's so much to say but time... I wish I could have a chat with your Uncle's child. Are they in Abuja?

NB.
Calling a child derogatory names only serves to worsen him, make him more reserve and won't bring out the best in him/her. No one was born a dullard. Please take note.

though my like makes it 109likes, bt i think 109,000000likes shld b more lyk it...