PrettyHausaGirl: Are u white? Cuz here in africa, we blacks take the male folks as the head. In our families, the man is the breadwinner, it is a kindergaten orientation for ur. Religiously Men are often head of churches and churches run by females are less taken serious, we believe that the Man has more of a physical and emotional strength than the woman. I think we in africa love it this way

Les: beauty +brain= Les's acquaintance, NNE, may i get to you mbok??
NB; "no" is not in the options

PrettyHausaGirl: Are u white? Cuz here in africa, we blacks take the male folks as the head. In our families, the man is the breadwinner, it is a kindergaten orientation for ur. Religiously Men are often head of churches and churches run by females are less taken serious, we believe that the Man has more of a physical and emotional strength than the woman. I think we in africa love it this way

PrettyHausaGirl:

Umm sure! What do you have to say to her topic though?

PrettyHausaGirl:

Umm sure! What do you have to say to her topic though?

PrettyHausaGirl: Are u white? Cuz here in africa, we blacks take the male folks as the head. In our families, the man is the breadwinner, it is a kindergaten orientation for ur. Religiously Men are often head of churches and churches run by females are less taken serious, we believe that the Man has more of a physical and emotional strength than the woman. I think we in africa love it this way

Olivia111: Our sexual identity is largely shaped by what we
learned in slavery. Christianity and the entire
concept that a woman was created for a man
HEAVILY dictates the perceptions of what an african
relationship is supposed to be about.

Olivia111: Pretty Hausa Girl,
Manhood is having integrity, fulfilling your
responsibilities, being honest when you realize
that it’s not the easy way out, and being able to
release patriarchal roles and treat people like
human beings and equals, not as objects to
manipulate. The idea of treating women as
equals is a scary thing for a lot of black men
because they feel like they will lose power, that
they will be weak if they don’t rule over women.

Olivia111: We’ve been raised to think that manhood is tied
to oppressing women. You can’t form a healthy
relationship if one partner thinks that they have
to rule over the other for genetic/religious
reasons.

Olivia111: Women were not created to be the
hand-servants to men, no matter how many male-
authored religious texts want to insist that is the
case.

Olivia111: Inequality of the sexes is a belief
perpetuated for thousands of years for no other
reason than to appease the egos of men.

Olivia111: It’s time
we think rationally for a minute and ask ourselves
why the Creator of All, The One Most High, is as
petty and immature as human beings assert.
Why would God be so insecure that the
oppression of over half of the earth’s population is
needed in order for men to feel good about
themselves? Right is not better than left, north is
not better than south, hot is not better than cold,
and man is not better than woman. They are
compliments, not rankings.

Olivia111: Our sexual identity is largely shaped by what we
learned in slavery. Christianity and the entire
concept that a woman was created for a man
HEAVILY dictates the perceptions of what an african
relationship is supposed to be about. African
women still hold on to very strict, very limiting,
indeed very detrimental beliefs about what it
means to be a “real” African man and their
expectations thereof.
All too often, Black women want to use their supposed “gay dar” to identify any man who isn’t hyper-masculine. They make
up the most absurd, most childish things, things
that have nothing whatsoever to do with a
person’s sexual preference, to call out men who
aren’t “real men”. Black women hold men to this
ideal and have no tolerance for any deviation of
the sort, quick to emasculate them if they show a
tiny sign of vulnerability. They end up in
relationships with men who are emotionally
immature, men who are “hard”, who are not really
men but boys in the bodies of adult males and
then they cry and moan that there are no real
men and lament about the frustrations of a
relationship with someone totally incapable of
being committed and partnered.
They are the same women who are MOST apt to want the traits
in men who are the most detrimental to a healthy
relationship. They want a man who is hyper
masculine, who will pay all the bills and provide
unlimited access to funds with no strings
attached, who will blow their back out in bed, etc.

Men who identify their manhood by rap songs,
movies, and video games are immature. Men who
are obsessed with money will not share it freely,
and men who are addicted to sex will cheat on
you faster than you can blink an eye.

Olivia111: Pretty Hausa Girl,
Manhood is having integrity, fulfilling your
responsibilities, being honest when you realize
that it’s not the easy way out, and being able to
release patriarchal roles and treat people like
human beings and equals, not as objects to
manipulate.

Phema: Its amazing how one word (feminism) keeps some men awake at night and causes them chronic indigestion, while "real men" are busy with their lives without a care in the world about some word and having the best of marriages.

The irony of life. . . Hehehehehehe

*continues sipping my hot tea*

eighTHREAD: what has all this bullshit got to do with your topic? Your topic only shows how much you hate men and willing to do anything to destroy them, bloody feminist. You stinking feminists want men to conform to the women of today who only think about spending someone's salary in making her hair when she's jobless and doing nothing while expecting everything to be done for her but don't want to conform to the men of this new age who prefer to while away time playing video games and listening to rap music which is big business now. Double standards. A thread currently on front page talking about the alarming rate of female prostitution in nigerian campus is getting no comments from ladies, I wonder why.

Godmystrength: YOU AGAIN? You don't have to sound so bitter now. Calm down, take a deep breath and slowly and calmly explain your point. The way you address issue like its a fight leaves nothing to be desired. I wonder how you expect people to learn from you if you always go into attack/defensive mode whenever someone is not in sync with your opinion. Sorry for me talking too much. There are people here with stronger opinions than you've got yet they are not like this. And when people start asking how old you are, you will start writing epistle. Na wa for you o.

eighTHREAD: I can't expect any less from a feminist. Keep supporting your kind but don't get mad when guys like me come around to set the records straight.

Godmystrength: YOU AGAIN? You don't have to sound so bitter now. Calm down, take a deep breath and slowly and calmly explain your point. The way you address issue like its a fight leaves nothing to be desired. I wonder how you expect people to learn from you if you always go into attack/defensive mode whenever someone is not in sync with your opinion. Sorry for me talking too much. There are people here with stronger opinions than you've got yet they are not like this. And when people start asking how old you are, you will start writing epistle. Na wa for you o.

Take some lessons from donroxy jare

Godmystrength: SO i am now a feminist and you are a what? You just confirmed my suspicions....... lmao......... Enjoy the trophies you get for setting the record straight......

Phema: Its amazing how one word (feminism) keeps some men awake at night and causes them chronic indigestion, while "real men" are busy with their lives without a care in the world about some word and having the best of marriages.
The irony of life. . . Hehehehehehe
*continues sipping my hot tea*

eighTHREAD: this feminists mantra of real men is becoming quite funny. What is a real man? I believe it's some dummy creation made to suit the feminine carefree ways. It's only a fool that'll buy your bullsheet. After God created me a MAN, I'll now start thinking of making myself a REAL MAN. Was I fake before? Feminists and their stupid excuses.

eighTHREAD: are you willing to listen to the donroxy himself? What has age got to do with contributing to a global issue? How old are you and how old do you think I am? I might be way older than you, so don't let my youthful look which is a blessing from God fool you. I only put up defensive mode(in your own words) when I see someone try to feed me horseshit, or what would you have me do? It's funny how you feminists come up with lame lines like the above as soon as you notice you are getting put to order especially in threads you opened. Old mama

eighTHREAD: yes you are cos how else do I explain the fact that you show up on every thread concerning feminism and also showing support in one form or the other.

fellis:
I was just chuckling to myself while reading through this thread.
If you check you'll find that the loudest opposers to feminism on Nairaland are men that don't live in Nigeria, men that live on the internet and woman haters.

fellis:
Why do these group of people suffer BP at the mention of feminism?

fellis:
1.) They live in societies where their Biblical/Quranic titles of superior sex has been taken from them and gender equality is strictly enforced so they feel cheated.

fellis:
2.) They hardly experience real life scenarios of the massive amounts of sexism women suffer in Africa. All they know about gender issues is the stuff they read on the internet which is mostly comprised of what happens in foreign countries.

fellis:
3.) Men that have been spurned by women or maltreated one way or another so they hate them.

fellis:
If not for the fact that I have met men who actually regard women as equal sexes, I'd have generalized by thinking they are all insecure.

Godmystrength: You see what i am talking about? You just called me an old mama. lol. You really know me o. Good for you. Thank God you know you put up defensive mode. Pele o mr youthful look blessing from God. I only refer to age here because you get to question some peoples maturity with their disposition to things. And have people listened to you now................. You are not even getting the point here so no need of flogging a dead horse.

So far, i don't think i have opened any thread that calls for your attention so stop attributing other people's thread to me. Good luck in your record straightening mission.

eighTHREAD: stop this thing you do. If you can't contribute to the topic, it's best you leave instead of forming maturity all over the place.

Olivia111: Our sexual identity is largely shaped by what we
learned in slavery. Christianity and the entire
concept that a woman was created for a man
HEAVILY dictates the perceptions of what an african
relationship is supposed to be about. .

This is the opening line of the OP's post.

I read it and immediately my mind swtiched off. I was expecting a sound arguement in favor of feminism, but this is just wrong. How can the OP say our sexual identity was shaped by what we learnt during slavery?! Like seriously?!

And that AFRICANS got the concept of Male superiority from a religion that was introduced to the continent just a few years ago.

Another failed attempt by a feminist to enforce Gender equality.



#ItIsStillAMansWorld.