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Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Nobody: 7:15pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
mutiply: 1, have known her for 3months. 2 she is gonna be 30 in november. 3 we have gone out twice, we stay in different cities but not far from each other. 4 she used to call but stopped the very day i asked her out. She hardly calls me and dnt return my calls if she missed it. She used to chat but not always. 5 Am working but on low key, still trying to get a bigger job,( you know the job challenges in the country) she is working and self dependent. 6. I only spent about 3k plus on the dates which we both ate and drink but i spend alot on recharging my phones, i call her like 4 to 5 times in a day. 7. I like her cause she hard working, has this inner beauty and she is intellingent. Everything about her makes me happy but she does nt feel a thing for me. Dont know how long i can hold on. I dont want to be in the friend zone. NEVER Brother, you are very close to that zone. Plus, did you say you call her 5times a day Hell No! Stop calling her from today and channel that time and energy into finding a better job. Thank me later. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Dygeasy(m): 7:16pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
mutiply: 1, have known her for 3months. 2 she is gonna be 30 in november. 3 we have gone out twice, we stay in different cities but not far from each other. 4 she used to call but stopped the very day i asked her out. She hardly calls me and dnt return my calls if she missed it. She used to chat but not always. 5 Am working but on low key, still trying to get a bigger job,( you know the job challenges in the country) she is working and self dependent. 6. I only spent about 3k plus on the dates which we both ate and drink but i spend alot on recharging my phones, i call her like 4 to 5 times in a day. 7. I like her cause she hard working, has this inner beauty and she is intellingent. Everything about her makes me happy but she does nt feel a thing for me. Dont know how long i can hold on. I dont want to be in the friend zone. NEVERI really wish there was some straight written down rule I could give to you but your story is one I'd have told you to forget about her. No time really for jagbajantis. But seeing that you love her really as said by you, I'd say you give her one more month and arrange another physical meeting. Deviate from the restaurant thingy. Do something else. Her expression and reactions to your gestures should give you all the cue you need. If still negative, you're probably in your thirties, set your life into motion to be an eligible bachelor. If you get what I mean. Cheers! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Dygeasy(m): 7:21pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Nice...You need to understand that playing hard to get isn't commensurate with getting highly valued. You only need to live normally and follow your heart with your brain as the GPS device. Lol! The female folk was created to be wooed and chased. Don't chase Mr. Right away with your face while he's chasing you oo. Cheers! 1 Like |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by lusciouslex: 7:30pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
For the 1st time in a very long while I've come across a brother this reasonable and observant. O.P God will bless you for me and the rest of our kind. If I had my way, every female on this forum would pay for this singular information you are giving out free of charge. Verily, verily, I say unto all ye 'hard to get women' that a time will come that you'll not only trace back the fellow who approached you but pay to get his attention. High 5! To all the brothers who place money and more money above the sentimental old fashioned load of crab. Booyaah! 4 Likes |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 7:33pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Nice... Look at this scenario, would you enter a shop, walk to the shelve and order for a loaf of bread which even though looks like it's just from the over but is squeezed up, or would you rather choose a smooth loaf even though you know it has been out of the oven for like 3 hours. Now here are a few tips: Erase the notion that the harder you play, the more the guys will love you. The truth is the harder you play, the more the guy starts to plan on how just to get you, go between your legs and vanish in revenge for the psychological trauma you caused him. You can prove to like him but not making it obvious to him as well as not saying yes to his proposals. Offer to pay at times when you both go out for a date, don't always wait for him to call you. You can send him text just to wish him a wonderful day ahead. The problem is ladies who have no financial, emotional and physical contributions in a relationship will NEVER get respect from her partner. If after the 3rd date your mind isn't made up whether to date a guy, ask for sometime off so you can make a decision. If after a week you don't still like him, tell him you can't date hum, otherwise, just accept his proposal under the condition that you both must not rush anything as you are still trying to study him and confirm your intuition about him. Remember, even in a century of meeting someone, you can't know their entire behavior. 5 Likes |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by cc150615(f): 7:38pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk: Ladies, it is very understanding how you get pressured to settle down and find a man to get married to by family members, friends, colleagues and associates.one packet of lollipop sweet for the op, you should consider writing a book u know! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by mutiply: 7:44pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
@acidtalk, @Three7Ty9 @Dygeasy Thanks, i really do appreciate ur comments and teachings. Have always been a lovelorn, guess i should just focus on the job tins and find happiness else where.The end of love is not the end of life. Thanks once again. |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Waspy(m): 7:47pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
missbronze: Amebo part 2.I'm just being my sisters keeper here. Just being concerned |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by obayaya(m): 7:49pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Dygeasy: You need to understand that playing hard to get isn't commensurate with getting highly valued. You only need to live normally and follow your heart with your brain as the GPS device. Lol! Professor 1 Like |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by tobiboss(m): 7:55pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
mutiply: @acidtalk, @Three7Ty9 @Dygeasy Thanks, i really do appreciate ur comments and teachings. Have always been a lovelorn, guess i should just focus on the job tins and find happiness else where.The end of love is not the end of life. Thanks once again.don't worry bruh, you'll find your soulmate soon |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 7:56pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
cc150615: Your plan no go work. Na jedijedi Dem say make you come use kill me? On the aspect of writing a book, I have been told this over 8years. But by the Grace of God I will launch my book latest by next year. But it's on Entrepreneurship and later the same year, will launch the one on Politics. |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Nobody: 8:01pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Lanre90: The answer to this question is probabilityseconded! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by jnrbayano(m): 8:13pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Nice write up. Making sense from time immemorial |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Dygeasy(m): 8:24pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
obayaya: |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by cc150615(f): 8:26pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk:none for single ladies? I withdraw my lollipop |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Eden007(m): 8:28pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk:My hat's off for this post! Mehn, you nailed it! Only if all ladies think this way. Once I hit on a girl and she plays hard to get, I take it then as a competition I must win. Ladies, kill this hard to get mentality! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by 234GT(m): 8:31pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Three gbosas for acidtalk for this thread! You have dealt thoroughly with the topic. I went to a restaurant to buy wine yesterday, and I saw this cool lady. I wanted to walk up to her, but she was in the midst of four other girls, so I just gave up the idea! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Nobody: 8:52pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk: That point about him getting revenge is really catching my interest. Im actually in a similar situation. There is this guy that i think is good looking, nice but doesnt excite me to talk to him. He asked me out around march n we had a great time but his follow up was weak...maybe he expected me to call. So he went silent but we would occasionally talk. He asked me out again n i always said i was busy bt id see. We met just for a stroll n i felt no chemistry but he tells me he has feeling for me ect. I didnt reciprocate n now he is back asking me out on date and telling me his feelings. Why would a guy chase you for 5 months? Do u think he just wants revenge ? He isnt a bad guy but he can be very proud so i dont get it 1 Like |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:10pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Now seat tight while you strap your seat belt and listen very good. He didn't keep disturbing you for 5 straight months none stop. He asked you out twice within a space of 5 months meaning he was quite mature to give you a long time to think about it before he brought up same discussion. For Heaven's sake ladies need to understand that men have a whole lot on their mind to think and sort out instead of just keep carrying woman's matter on his mind. Only irresponsible and jobless guys will think, talk, dream, read, and chat only about females all day without thinking of how to better his life. If a man ever comes visiting my daughter everyday of the week, I will get him arrested for being a menace to the society. Now back to this your guy, seat him down and ask him what exactly he is looking out for in the relationship? Just friends, campanionship, lovers, fling, or a future partner. BE THAT BLUNT. Secondly, ask him if he is really serious why is he dragging the whole thing? Whatever he tells you is the utmost truth. So listen attentively and hold on tight to it. Thirdly, Never assume Shyness to means Pride. Most people are extremely shy, and so when they talk, people assume they are proud. Because most shy people use words to try to act bold, blunt, and brave when in the real sense they are extremely shy. It is possible it took lots of practice for that guy to summon the courage to ask you out. And your turning hum down made him feel embarrassed and rejected that is why he had to withdraw before coming back months after. 5 Likes |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by obayaya(m): 9:13pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Dygeasy: Can I enroll for tutorial classes? |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Aitee1: 9:20pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Interesting write-up! Sincerely I'm not guilty of any. Op more grease to ur elbow |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:22pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
obayaya: School Fees: 1 Carton of Malta Guiness, One Crate of Soya Malt and 1 Carton of Pringles. |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:26pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Aitee1: Interesting write-up! Sincerely I'm not guilty of any. Op more grease to ur elbow Good to know. Please do not listen to your female friends who will try to advice you otherwise. They are only looking for who to drag along their misery and lonely lives. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Dygeasy(m): 9:27pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
obayaya:lol! Abeegi! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Aitee1: 9:29pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
I'm too smart to be adviced wrongly acidtalk: |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Nobody: 9:29pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk: im takind down notes... Ill be honest your interpretation is that he is a grown man ect but his just a student like me. He is a year younger.... I wish i could give him the credit for everthing you said above but his a student and guys from uni play many games. I was blunt n asked and he answered me with a question... 'what do u think I want?' then he said he wants the same thing he wanted when we first met...to this day i still dont know But thank you for the indepth advice |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by Dygeasy(m): 9:29pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk:Na your own school abi my own? |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:37pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: Student? Well, if you have no plans of settling down soon then you can date him for the experience and to while away time, otherwise, I will tell you to look for a more mature man. As to his response to your question then it is clear he doesn't quite mean well. Since you are not a psychic or soothsayer, how will you know what is in his mind. My humble opinion is, from what you have told me, I doubt if he has good intentions. |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by obayaya(m): 9:38pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
acidtalk: If I pay such fees, na automatic first class in premature _ejaculation.. Dygeasy: lol! Abeegi!. |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by obayaya(m): 9:40pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Aitee1: I'm too smart to be adviced wrongly Madam |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:41pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
Dygeasy: Na your own school abi my own? Na your school but you go sha pay teacher. There's love in sharing biko! |
Re: Things Stopping Single Ladies From Meeting The Right Partner by acidtalk: 9:44pm On Aug 17, 2014 |
obayaya: Leave me to worry about that. |
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