donpeey22: Please i have a question to ask those of saying. that it's silly to make one's sibling or parent next of kin. My question is: is it also silly for me to be 'wasting' my hard earned money in paying my late uncle's son's school fees and meeting his other needs and even those of his mum atimes since his dad died leaving nothing to inherit? Please answer me so that i can stop spending my money on the lad and channel all the money in building my own family. Thanks in advance.

uplawal: The answer is your blood is better,hence your kids,part of you runs in your children,whereas your wife came from somewhere not from you, so its easier trusting that part of you.

temitemi1: My wife come first in all my thinking!

uplawal: Am sure you are not a married man.

Dcmg: As for me,for me to marry in the first place would be solely because of having children,all this "life Partner" stuff na waste of time for me,i don't believe in that thing.Like seriously,my purpose in life na to get life partner?No.
If your purpose in life is to have a life partner,good,but has for me,i'm not living my life for any fvcking life Partner.
As for me,i'm not making any woman my next of kin,if i dnt have any child then i'm giving all my estate to Charity

bukatyne:

My dear,

Some people are NOT married and do not understand what marriage means

Should my husband/wife know my salary?
Should tell my husband/wife about the raise?
Should I build a house in my name only or let my spouse know?
Should I have investments hidden & separate?
Should I iron my wife's shirt?
Should I cook rice for my wife?
Should I cook chicken for my hubby (I like fish more)?
Should I? Should I not?

Kia it is boring!

Even if the other party deserves such treatment, the marriage is not healthy in the first place.

Dcmg: Is that so?Eyah!
But all your generation shall be "Slowpoke"

litetias:
See this retar*d. Your grammar is poor. FYI the correct thing to say is all your descendants shall be slowpoke. Ewu

donpeey22: Yes!!! Though i know that the odds are very rare for a woman to be wealthier than her husband and/or die before him, but in the event that it happens, then, the husband does not and should not AUTOMATICALLY qualify to be the trustee to her wealth. If her children are not up to the legal age to inherit her wealth, then her most TRUSTED person, which could be her sibling, husband or friend should hold her wealth in trust for them until they are upto the legal age.

uplawal: Selfish man,you need elders to talk to you,what about children in your extended family,charity begins from home.

cococandy: No it's not rare for a wife to be wealtheir than her husband.
Personally I think if two married peope have come to the point where they can't trust the other person to look out for the best interest of kids when one of them dies,there's something fundamentally wrong with union.
Fixing whatever that problem is,is better than living in fear and writing a funny will because you don't trust yout partner to take care of your kids

sexybash: Why do women worry over will and properties? Honestly
Work and save buy your own properties
Abi why una parent send una go school

abbey621:


It's all about the weakling complex. Most women dream of handsome, wealthy husbands to take care of them, they feel it is the right thing and exactly what they deserve in life. It's only in advanced countries that women are gradually debunking such beliefs. In Nigeria however, husbands or boyfriends are known as caregivers, from hair extensions to monthly allowance; girls are just too ridiculous. For every 10 girls in 9ja, 8 are dependent on their boyfriend or husband, the little money their parents provide or their own personal funds isn't enough to keep up with their extravagant lifestyle, they got's to belong...

Samsonklin:
Nothing bros, @least not anymore. My kids all the way.

donpeey22: You know the truth but just don't want accept. 99% of women in their selfishness, seek wealthy men for marriage. Even women who are relatively doing well Financially still will not marry a man who isn't atleast as wealthy. It's been known that most married people lose trust way into marriage, don't be Carried away by d lovey dovey thing you are still enjoying as a newly married lady, you may understand better later in your marriage, though i pray yours wont be too bad.

abbey621:


It's all about the weakling complex. Most women dream of handsome, wealthy husbands to take care of them, they feel it is the right thing and exactly what they deserve in life. It's only in advanced countries that women are gradually debunking such beliefs. In Nigeria however, husbands or boyfriends are known as caregivers, from hair extensions to monthly allowance; girls are just too ridiculous. For every 10 girls in 9ja, 8 are dependent on their boyfriend or husband, the little money their parents provide or their own personal funds isn't enough to keep up with their extravagant lifestyle, they got's to belong...

Godmystrength: I am worried about this your statistic...........8 out of 10 girls?
So that means 8 out of 10 guys are financial responsibly to their girlfriends/wives?

abbey621:


Yes! Yes! Yes! The figure could be as low as 6/10 girls when you factor in girls from very very rich background and as high as 10/10 when you factor in girls from very very poor backgrounds. The second part of your question is simple, the guys might not honor their requests but girls are still going to ask, they feel it is their God given rights as a female.

donpeey22: I'm happy that you ended up accepting that the woman 'carries' her own child and not that she's being 'punished' with 'baby-carrying' like some of you make it seem. When a man and a woman agree to have children, it is because the both of them want to reproduce their genes for the purpose of continuity of life. The woman provides her egg while the man provides his s,perm(50,50). The woman carries the foetus, while the man pays her medical bills and provides her other needs throughout the nine months period(50:50). So none is doing the other an exclusive favor. The focus should be on the offspring when considering whom to inherit the spouse's wealth in the event of death. However, a DESERVING spouse can have a PORTION of his/her spouse willed to him/her. Likewise a DESERVING relative. People should not expressly be entitled to inherit their spouse's wealth in the event of death, even when they are directly or indirectly responsible for the death. Forget the 'life partner' sentiment as many of the so called 'life partners' have caused the deaths of their supposed 'life partners' for selfish gains. You know it's very rare to find an ideal partner, so in 90% cases, people marry for all the wrong reasons which in most cases are selfish.

litetias:
Third time unlucky cos this one was not funny. But methinks the underlying issue with you is not village trouble like you so erroneously think but its that old woman that you fuc*ked some time ago then you dumped her. The thing is she placed a curse on you that you will never get laid again. So your lack of pus*sy is affecting the normal working of your brain. You have resorted to masturbation but its not helping matters. And to top it all of the old hag died of heartbreak.

This is not fair..




We are unequally matched. I may be banned by Seun for bulling a Minor.

sexybash: If you know you want to focus on a man
Then tell your parent not to waste time sending you to school
Abi. You can even master the art of scheming
Learn to work for your own money so you can afford the luxuries of life you need

Godmystrength: Are you trying to say that all girls from very very poor backgrounds are going to ask/are asking to be spent on by their men? And that fewer girls from very very rich background would do same? I just want to be sure i understand you clearly

abbey621:

Absolutely! When I say very very poor background, I mean poverty drenched household. Guys from such backgrounds are usually hard working but they are also very wise, most times they look for girls who can help their situation not one who can make it worse.

Also, guys from very very rich backgrounds are less likely to be dependent on their woman's wealth. In fact, they end up being victims because they fall into the hands of girls who will exploit them for monetary gains. Now don't get me wrong there are exceptions to every rule and statistics can be skewed or manipulated but you get the gist....

Godmystrength: how does this look? Just know that as we have girls gold diggers so do we have boys gold diggers and also as we have girls chopping guys' money, we also have guys chopping girls' money. So don't be too hard on the girls alone........ Everyone has stories to tell o

soulglo:

No ones talking about boyfriends here. You cannot be married and even if you are you most certainly have no investment accounts. Definitely no retirement accounts or even college accounts for the kids. You cannot possibly understand the financial responsibilities both parents have to their kids if you think that expecting to have a plan that would benefit the family unit is scheming. It's called growing up and taking responsibility. What is wrong in saying one persons income could be for running the family and funding the short term emergency fund. The other could be for investments and long term savings like college funds and retirement funds. A plan like that would never work if you both are selfishly holding unto your money or if one spouse knows without a doubt that should the other drop dead they are are screwed. This is why people secretly build houses, buy land etc. why would they be honest when they know that if their spouse drops dead they would have nothing. what the hell sort of marriage is that.

abbey621:

You are 100% right, back in my college days I've seen plenty guys taking advantage of rich, naive girls.

Blockus:


WOW!!


Why does this sound troubling to me?

I cannot be in a simple Boyfriend and Girlfriend relationship with someone I am uncomfortable with, let alone be married to one.

Haba!! And you eat her food every night and fall asleep in her presence. You no dey fear for your life?!