aisha2: Do you love him?
Are you marrying him because you make each other happy or just because he is available?

Is he kind? Is he considerate of you?

Is he a good decent honest man?

Are you only concerned because people will talk? Know that people always talk.

McWhillion: Why not, my wife to be is still in junior secondary school

Ruthia: nyz response,

Ruthia: nyz response,

aisha2:

I was thinking you had a real issue please next time let people know you are posting for the fun of it and not because you have a real challenge needing advice.

Nashville: Abeg where is TV01 when you need him?

TV01 abeg come and answer o!

**nothing much to explain, it makes sound biological sense. It lends itself to male headship if maturity and attainment is commensurate. Women age faster given childbirth. The man is likely to be more indulgent and accommodating of his wife as she matures and ages and unlikely to feel the need to prove a point or overly assert himself. The only caveat is the man should be in good physical shape and keep an eyre on trends, but I'd say that about a couple of any age differential** Loving it !

cococandy:
Nothing wrong with it IMO.
If you ask me,it works perfectly.

Anyway I guess I'm different. I've rarely been attracted to guys close to my age.

jaybee3:

What exactly are you attracted to with the age difference?

It has always been a personal thing. maybe because I'm still young and boys my age are extremely annoying. Most likely when I'm 35,I won't consider a 35yr old guy to be immature.

Age is not an accurate measure of maturity #Just saying

never said it was. But most times it is.

I'm also fairly sure that age isn't necessarily correlated with achievements

true

fact of the matter is, whatever characteristics one is looking for can certainly be found in the average Joe irrespective of his age.

I've found older guys to be more refined. And by older I mean in comparison to me(my age)
To me a 35+ guy is an older guy. So it's all relative.
For someone else an older guy is someone in his 50s or 40s depending on her age..so you're right whatever qualities one seeks is present in guys of all ages. It just depends on the woman.

jaybee3:
What exactly are you attracted to with the age difference?

jaybee3:
Age is not an accurate measure of maturity #Just saying

jaybee3:
I'm also fairly sure that age isn't necessarily correlated with achievements

jaybee3: fact of the matter is, whatever characteristics one is looking for can certainly be found in the average Joe irrespective of his age.

Tymax: Honestly, I think 10 years is quite a stretch. The lady in this kind of relationship/marriage is easily manipulated because age difference is a big deal in this part of the world.

For ladies who cannot accept leadership from their peers, this is often the preferred choice. But if you want a husband who shares some memories associated with growing up in your "era"; someone with whom your friends are at ease; someone who would share a joke that takes you down memory lane and doesn't leave you lost in the humour; then by all means go with a man who is (loosely) your peer.

I would not allow my daughter marry someone older who is at least 10 years her senior.

Just my opinion.

cococandy:

bukatyne: @Cococandy:

I don't agree that all guys 25 - 29 are not ready for marriage/mature

I have some 26+ married and doing fine.

Guys are now marrying earlier once they have the means to do so.

Age has nothing to do with maturity

Nashville:

Agreed, I actually got married in that age range sef. And I don mature well well.

bukatyne:

100% supported

alutacontinua:

Dey there
I was once in love with a guy 12 years older, cut him loose cos he messed up but I loved him like tomorrow no dey . When I told my mum about him, she just went on and on about the age difference-in my mind, I was just laughing cos with the way I loved that guy, I knew she wouldn't have been able to stop me. The woman prays too much though, maybe na her prayers make the guy mess up like that


Anyways, buky buky, if your daughter is in love, na chill pill you go swallow

bukatyne: @Cococandy:

I don't agree that all guys 25 - 29 are not ready for marriage/mature

I have some 26+ married and doing fine.

Guys are now marrying earlier once they have the means to do so.

Age has nothing to do with maturity

moca: 10yrs my senior?
No way.

And for those saying women age more than men, I hear u.
Unless u don't wanna keep fit and come from family that looks older than their age,I don't wanna believe that.

Its just that our women stop worrying about their look when they marry and start popping out kids.

bukatyne: I pray not