Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

Amusaopeyemi: I think i'll feel comfortable with my mom than my MIL because i'm the lazy type aka alapa ike. Buh as I no come get mama again, Mother In Law gats love me for you I am o . I'll even allow her breast feed the baby sef afterall na her son pikin.

UniqueGem: You sound eager and ready to push ur mother aside.

Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

vitalclues: I think its more of culture dependent. For the Yoruba's the man's mum is the right person to be there according to their tradition while for the Igbo's the woman's mum.

Unionised: You want to make a mountain out of a mole hill, abi?

Common sense requires that the woman's mother show up immediately to take charge.

In the event that she is unable to, for whatever reason, then the baton naturally falls to the man's mum.

It's not a competition...

korel9:

So you think the typical Nigerian mother will take it in good faith when she's told she has to wait for at least three weeks before seeing her FIRST grandchild that she's waited for for years knowing fully well that her inlaw is there with the child?

I don't think so

bigtt76: In this time and age of boku chat tools ...ping the man's mother with the baby's first pix and invite the woman's mother jooor. Gone are those days of MTN's mama na boy oooo! Now mama gets to see the baby on Facebook or 2go whichever one she indulges in case close

UniqueGem: Okay the truth here (tradition aside): as a man, i will be more comfortable having my Mum around while my wife would undoubtedly be more comfortable having her own mother around. But in life, especially family matter, the male's are always subjected to giving up their opinion for the wife's just for her to be happy. So this leaves the man with no choice than allowing the wife's mother to take charge. I remember When my mum had our last born, my maternal and paternal grandparents both came and everyone was happy, though in such case, the husband must be financially balanced, which is exactly what i'll do when i get married because i really want my mother to be with my kid from the onset. As for the poster that said if the wife's mother is dead, den the wife's sister or any chosen representative frm the wifes family should take charge: This is a BIG NO for me. If the wife's mother is late, then the man's mother should be fully in charge. Any rep from the wife's side should be visiting and nothing more.

Ifewilshere: But wait o. If the two g.m's are late nko, won't d new couple find a way to do their 'omógo' ni? So, when I get married and have pikins, I'll just pretend they are both late and face d omugwo.



Dnt insult me please. Na my opinion. Lyk my friend rightly said, 'am not drunk'

*smiles

UniqueGem: Okay the truth here (tradition aside): as a man, i will be more comfortable having my Mum around while my wife would undoubtedly be more comfortable having her own mother around. But in life, especially family matter, the male's are always subjected to giving up their opinion for the wife's just for her to be happy. So this leaves the man with no choice than allowing the wife's mother to take charge. I remember When my mum had our last born, my maternal and paternal grandparents both came and everyone was happy, though in such case, the husband must be financially balanced, which is exactly what i'll do when i get married because i really want my mother to be with my kid from the onset. As for the poster that said if the wife's mother is dead, den the wife's sister or any chosen representative frm the wifes family should take charge: This is a BIG NO for me. If the wife's mother is late, then the man's mother should be fully in charge. Any rep from the wife's side should be visiting and nothing more.

UniqueGem: lol!! I heard the women charged MTN for that advert.

nikky341:
At the end of the day u have to ask yourself some questions
1) will your wife be comfortable with your mom helping her with her bath as per hot water massages
2)will your wife be comfortable with sending your mom to the market and telling her what to cook
3) will she be comfortable with waking ur mom from a deep sleep late in the nite to carry the baby cos she is really tired and can do with a break.
Omogwu is not just going to stay it's more like providing the new mom with support . It's not about who u the man is more comfortable with it's more about who your wife is more comfortable with , who will guide her in this new faze of her life

fairheven:
I wonder y they shud charge MTN,they had another advert that featured a baby girl,an men did not complain.na wa o

fairheven:
I wonder y they shud charge MTN,they had another advert that featured a baby girl,an men did not complain.na wa o

fairheven:
Yea,my friend is currently in such situation,both mothers are late,so it's the man's sister that is doing the omugo,and it cud as well have been the wife's own sister,but the reason they wen for the man's sister is because of experience

Dieumerci: For the fact that the Op used the word "omugo" ,then you can't push tradition aside and there's no other truth to be told here. Omugwo is well rooted in Igbo tradition and it's the wife's mum that goes for it.

korel9:

Guy study the scenario well using African/Nigerian mentality before jumping into conclusions

korel9:

Guy study the scenario well using African/Nigerian mentality before jumping into conclusions

UniqueGem: Okay the truth here (tradition aside): as a man, i will be more comfortable having my Mum around while my wife would undoubtedly be more comfortable having her own mother around. But in life, especially family matter, the male's are always subjected to giving up their opinion for the wife's just for her to be happy. So this leaves the man with no choice than allowing the wife's mother to take charge. I remember When my mum had our last born, my maternal and paternal grandparents both came and everyone was happy, though in such case, the husband must be financially balanced, which is exactly what i'll do when i get married because i really want my mother to be with my kid from the onset. As for the poster that said if the wife's mother is dead, den the wife's sister or any chosen representative frm the wifes family should take charge: This is a BIG NO for me. If the wife's mother is late, then the man's mother should be fully in charge. Any rep from the wife's side should be visiting and nothing more.

UniqueGem: You sound eager and ready to push ur mother aside.

Cotton: Traditionally by Igbo customs, it's the father's mother that goes first. Modern day practice however has changed that and for reasons earlier adduced in this thread, especially with the new mother being more comfortable with her own mum, the wife's mother comes first.