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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MizMyColi(f): 3:19pm On Sep 25, 2014

There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by 1one: 3:37pm On Sep 25, 2014
olaxco2f: ODE

grin grin grin



tongue tongue tongue
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by 1one: 3:41pm On Sep 25, 2014
dancok: if u turned it to religious no problem I do like it.are u a grail messenger,I mean do u read grail message.I like it too.

Naah.. I don't read grail message.


I'm a Christian.


The "Jesus is my Lord, he's my saviour" Christian.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Andy790(m): 3:48pm On Sep 25, 2014
love & sex is interwoven....one cant do without d oda
Love witout sex aint luv.....
Sex witout love aint sex.....
Dats y its meant 4 married pple....
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Nobody: 3:51pm On Sep 25, 2014
1one:

Naah.. I don't read grail message.


I'm a Christian.


The "Jesus is my Lord, he's my saviour" Christian.


ok u are welcom
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:
There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)
am clapping!clapping!! That means we are of same mind,we can be together u know,guy and lady of like minds.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by chidekings(m): 4:00pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:
There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)


what sort of telepathy is this.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by naijaboiy: 4:00pm On Sep 25, 2014
I can't even date undecided
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MizMyColi(f): 4:04pm On Sep 25, 2014
chidekings:


what sort of telepathy is this.

LoL
smiley
How D'ya Mean?
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by chidekings(m): 4:04pm On Sep 25, 2014
1one: You see the truth of the matter is this.. As human beings we have become too supposedly intelligent, we've come to question every single thing about our existence on earth, this in itself is not bad but it becomes worrisome when we begin to question some laid down rules, and precepts, tenets that were formed eons ago by our maker in the absence of petty human intellect sentiments or logic.

We may come up with 50 reasonable notions some of them even clinically or medically verified, why two consenting adults should have sex before marriage.. After all, it's "their" bodies,they are mature enough to make decisions about their sexuality... They are in love, and so while dating having sex is just another expression of this love.

It really is JUST NONSENSE.. if you're not married you have absolutely no business with SEX.. if Kongi has worried you so much that it has turned to malaria or typhoid, yet having sex to cure that malaria is stilll wrong... Did you create yourself? Do you have the slightest, faintest idea about how long you would live?.. Can you count the Number of hairs on your head.. Can you be in a million places at the same time revealing yourself in the same capacities across these million places?.. The Answer is No... Yet The same person that spots all this abilities and power has said... "DO NOT HAVE SEX WHILE DATING.. KEEP IT TILL MARRIAGE.. I CREATED YOU NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND, AND SO MY THOUGHTS ARE DIFFERENT FROM YOURS...NO MATTER HOW REASONABLE YOU SEE HAVING SEX WHILE DATING.. IT IS NOT RIGHT BECAUSE I HAVE SAID SO"

We really don't know what we are doing to ourselves by sleeping around, we think all is well because we don't see any consequence, when in actual sense we can't even see beyond our noses.

I don't intend to make this post a religious post that's why I didn't exactly reflect any religion here.. and pardon me if this post does not do justice to your question @OP..but the truth of the matter is SEXING WHILE DATING IS WRONG.

IF 6.9999BILLION PEOPLE ON EARTH DO IT, IT DOESN'T STILL NEGATE THE TRUTH.


sorry for quoting the whole piece.but truth be told,what u said is the raw fact.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Leetunechi: 4:05pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:
There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)

please date me.,i promise no sex embarassed

even after our Marriage cheesy cheesy tongue

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by 1one: 4:07pm On Sep 25, 2014
chidekings:


sorry for quoting the whole piece.but truth be told,what u said is the raw fact.

smiley

Unfortunately not many people see it that way.

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by chidekings(m): 4:14pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:

LoL
smiley
How D'ya Mean?

how come weh have almost the same view on this topic wrongly interpreted by the world.

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MissSlimbody(f): 4:32pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:
There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)


I been wan talk dis same thing o, buh na english b my problem gringrin

I'm standing right beside you sis: Ÿ̲ø̲u̶̲̅'re not standing alone.

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Crocz(m): 4:34pm On Sep 25, 2014
dancok: how come u are a free thinker?I think free thinker does not belief in God,can u enlight me.


That was suppose to be a sarcasm, where is your sense of humour?...and besides this is a new generation bro
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MizMyColi(f): 5:04pm On Sep 25, 2014
MrIknowAll: CLEARS THRoAT
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Histrings08(m): 5:05pm On Sep 25, 2014
Let's stop dating until when we're ready for marriage,by so doing,d issue of pre marital sex could be eradicated...if u date someone for like 6months nd after then u both get married, it will be easier compare to dating 4 like 6yrz or more...
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MizMyColi(f): 5:07pm On Sep 25, 2014
Histrings08: Let's stop dating until when we're ready for marriage,by so doing,d issue of pre marital sex could be eradicated...if u date someone for like 6months nd after then u both get married, it will be easier compare to dating 4 like 6yrz or more...
Word lipsrsealed
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by hensben(m): 6:11pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:
There is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty (The Creator) gives him understanding, of what is right, of what is wrong.

I hate to sound "holier than thou" but then, I'll say it as it is.

SEX before marriage is wrong, very wrong and I don't wanna date a guy who doesn't share this belief, no, not again.

It is one thing to do a wrong thing and admit you've done wrong

It is another thing, on an entirely different plane this time, to do a wrong thing and claim that it's okay (kini big deal).

imo, in that regard, it shows a person's conscience has been seared in hot iron.

If sex is what I need to keep my man in a relationship or part of what I need, then it is better I tell myself the truth, relationships aren't meant for me.
What am I saying sef.....the relationship is doomed already once sex is involved (please this is a personal opinion).

Look, I'm not condemning sex before marriage because my bible says so (I haven't opened the bible in close to a year).
You might say that I'm still being influenced by my former religion (to some extent, maybe)

But Y'see, there is this knowing, this knowing, its just there, I can't explain how it got there, but I believe that it's innate in all of us, whose consciences are still alive - Discerning right from wrong.


Like I've always posited:
Sex Is Worth Waiting For. There's a right time for everything under the sun.
Emotions are powerful, yes. But they are not more powerful than those who wield them.
All we need is a change of heart and the right mindset.
This is my conviction and I'm not saying it's absolute.

Though, I'm not perfect, Though I stand alone, I'll keep standing, standing for what I know to be right.
It is NEVER TOO LATE to do the right thing, virgin or not.
Thank You.

Signed: Mizmycoli(f)
I concur with you, immorality in the society today is just too high to say the least, thanks to social network.
..Now, a guy thinks if he doesnt sleep with a girl, she will feel he is not man enough and she might be sleeping with another guy, same with a lady who feel if she deny her guy s.ex, he might be getting it from another lady and at the long run, he might fall in love with the girl(my opinion though).

Sis! i guess you had a nice day
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by MizMyColi(f): 6:17pm On Sep 25, 2014
hensben: I concur with you, immorality in the society today is just too high to say the least, thanks to social network.
..Now, a guy thinks if he doesnt sleep with a girl, she will feel he is not man enough and she might be sleeping with another guy, same with a lady who feel if she deny her guy s.ex, he might be getting it from another lady and at the long run, he might fall in love with the girl(my opinion though).

Sis! i guess you had a nice day

Different Strokes, Different folks.
It is what it is.

Yeah, had a nice day.
You?
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by hensben(m): 6:27pm On Sep 25, 2014
MizMyColi:

[font=GeorgiDifferent Strokes, Different folks.
It is what it is.

Yeah, had a nice day.
You?
[/font]
Yeah! insecurity is the cause of it, my observation.

My day was good too
smiley

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Nobody: 7:03pm On Sep 25, 2014
[quote author=MizMyColi][/quote]mizmycoli u did't quote back.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by naturally: 7:17pm On Sep 25, 2014
merit12:


African weed on pointt

Wow, so you do weed? Jamaican one I guess
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by naturally: 7:19pm On Sep 25, 2014
MrIknowAll, abeg carry your virus comot for here
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by PDPblogger: 8:01pm On Sep 25, 2014
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by udemzyudex(m): 8:15pm On Sep 25, 2014
We have been hearing that sex before marriage is bad right from when we were young and even before we were given birth to.

Our fathers and mothers made us to believe that it is wrong and even the bible said so, judging from the way things are going on now especially in this 21st century,most people don't keep to this rules again.

Having sex whether single or not is a decision and not love cos if it is love then i'll assume that those that patronise the sex hawkers love them.


You can have sex whether u're single or married,even some married couples don't have sex,even for more than 2yrs or more. Saying that sex is for married people alone is wrong,thats my own opinion.

If you both agree to have sex fine and if you don't like it fine..just stick what pleases you.

I always tell girls this,guys will always ask for sex,even when the body is not ready that second bros is always ready.

the percentage of guys who won't ask for sex in a relationship is low,even guy that want to marry you will first of all impregnate you to see if u're fruitful.
Guys will always ask for sex,those who don't have the courage will go into self servicing,the percentage of those who won't bother is 0.001%..yeah

If you're not ready for sex then stay away from relationship... Till u're ready to get married.

Me don talk my own,the truth is always bitter.

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Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Sep 25, 2014
[quote author=MizMyColi][/quote]

You claim you have a former religion and which is it?
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Nobody: 9:07pm On Sep 25, 2014
1one:

What is the meaning of "nack am" undecided
na only u waka cum ooooo
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by 1one: 9:09pm On Sep 25, 2014
daresma93:
na only u waka cum ooooo

gringringrin
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by CoachDX: 9:23pm On Sep 25, 2014
Sex is awesome and the beauty of it is that it creates a bond between the two involved. The mystery is, that bond is a very powerful tool but ONLY works in marriage. If tried in a dating relationship, the bond turns around to be a break-up and most times, you'd wish you never started it.
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by Enasco1(m): 9:29pm On Sep 25, 2014
If u have Google, Google it!!! If u dnt borrow sombodi's fone n google!!
Re: Why Do We Have Sex While Dating? by happykidArotiba(m): 10:02pm On Sep 25, 2014
OrlandoOwoh: I wonder why some guys hype a lot about sèx. I live my life in such a way that it means nothing. I've been in a close friendship with a girl (we're now far from each other) in which I told her I would like the two of us to prove to young people like us that they could be together without having sèx. She agreed. Even till recently when I called her, I told her not to allow her fiance or any guy for that matter have sèx with her. She agreed. Whether she had turned another girl, I don't know. But each time we meet, we have this innocent indiscribable affection for each other.
sorry, is dat a kind of punishment or something

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