crackhaus:
This is just one of many examples on the web, there are others...you can check them out if you want to:

False or fake feminism.

When Women act or say they are self sufficient and don't need Men for happiness. Also striving for equal rights and equal standing.

Basically being independent from Men's help and becoming self sufficient, yet not dismissing the social perks. Which if they did, would make them truly self sufficient.

Female: I'm not going to have sex right now, I don't want to. I should not be treated as an object because I am a Woman. I am going to be strong, I don't need any help from Men to be happy.

Male: Ok. I think that is good.

Female: Good, hold my bags and come shopping with me, and my birthday is coming up, buy me a gift. $500 minimum.

Male: Cut the Pseudo-Feminism crap.

crackhaus:
When you quit getting upset over my antics of yesterday and today 'apparently', you'll begin to feel it.

crackhaus:
This is just one of many examples on the web, there are others...you can check them out if you want to…

Pseudo Feminism
False or fake feminism.

When Women act or say they are self sufficient and don't need Men for happiness. Also striving for equal rights and equal standing.

Basically being independent from Men's help and becoming self sufficient, yet not dismissing the social perks. Which if they did, would make them truly self sufficient.

Note:
I am NOT saying that Women have no social disadvantages and that Men have no social advantages.

Female: I'm not going to have sex right now, I don't want to. I should not be treated as an object because I am a Woman. I am going to be strong, I don't need any help from Men to be happy.

Male: Ok. I think that is good.

Female: Good, hold my bags and come shopping with me, and my birthday is coming up, buy me a gift. $500 minimum.

Male: Cut the Pseudo-Feminism crap.

carefreewannabe:

So if a woman feels she is happier with a man by her side, she cannot refer to herself as a feminist?

And I am saying that both, men and women, have social advantages and disadvantages.

This example is unrealistic.

cococandy: You won't understand.
Wetin dey do me pass nairaland.
Story for another day

pickabeau1: LOL...

So many -isms, not enough people to be -ismed
Leading to one person carrying multiple ideologies as they feel in their spirit

crackhaus:
A true feminist is all about girl power, equal standing/opportunity/intellectual capacity, in charge of her own life, choices, and most importantly her own happiness... How can such a woman be 'happier' only when a man is in her life and supporting her emotionally and otherwise?

How does a true feminist who is all about self-sufficiency, equal earning and social power - still want to enjoy the benefits that come with being a woman, ergo, social perks?

A feminist believes that the social disadvantages of being a woman grossly outweighs that of men, and that the advantages by direct proportionality is totally inconsequential compared to that of men.

In the mind of a feminist, men don't have problems in this world...and when one does, it's either his own fault or the fault of a submissive woman who let him have his way.

I'm sure you read through the example with the notion that each statement happened concurrently.

The first statement is probably by a feminist who is single and not dating or married.

Her second statement is probably after she finally got into the dating game.

The man in his first statement has no problem with a strong confident woman.

The same man now dating that woman he thought to be all self-sufficient is surprised to hear her talk about her upcoming birthday and how he should spoil her with gifts on that day.
He remembers her first statement about not needing a man to do stuff for her...she must have said that when he was trying morning, noon, and night to win her heart.

Is it still unrealistic?

crackhaus:
As the spirit leads Indeed.
Picking up multiple ideologies and not realizing that one might actually oppose the other in its basic agenda if carefully looked into.

TribalEAST: carefreewannabe

carefreewannabe:
........not representative of the feminists I know.
You have not described a feminist, you have described a selfish person.

BananaBender:

Feminists can be expected to be selfish because they are humans. Agree?

crackhaus:
Sounds like one, types like one, aggressive like one, never accepting her wrong even when it's clear - like one...and most of all, supports the eradication of gender roles.
I'm sorry but I'd rather she say she isn't one herself...you know, for posterity sake

carefreewannabe has admitted she does not support doing away with 'traditional' gender roles, I typed this again for posterity sake.

cococandy and bukatyne don't know what wave of feminism they belong to...typed again for posterity sake.

carefreewannabe:

You know my answer but before anyone twists my words, I will say the following:

Any human being, man or woman, can be selfish or very selfish.
This is a personality trait.

Misogynist2014: Carefreewannabe is not a feminist. I am beginning to like her version of feminism but I only dislike her way of communication. As for tribaleast, don't kill yourself on feminist matters. I also was troubled when I first heard the word, women over there are getting the consequences of their actions. It is until you know the propaganda behind feminism, that is when your mind can be at state of rest like mine. Read this link http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Evils%20in%20America/Feminism/feminism_is_evil.htm I think carefreewannabe just wants women to be treated well and taken care of. I think we should all be feminists. That does not mean I'll stop being an internet warrior

carefreewannabe:

I didn't expect you to understand it so quickly. I didn't even expect you to understand it at all.

I am very happy about it, though.

carefreewannabe:

A true feminist. It reminds of some women who try to manipulate men by throwing around the phrase "real man". Just saying.

She can be happier because she is a human being, who like most people, needs to love and be loved.
This doesn't mean that she cannot take care of herself or that she can't be happy single.

Just because a feminist doesn't need a man to take care of her financially or otherwise, doesn't mean that she doesn't want to love and be loved.
I don't know who told you so?

Which social perks?

I believe that this is very true of some places in this world.

Really? Says who?
I know plenty of feminists on and off NL who would strongly disagree.

You made it look like a dialogue.

It is unrealistic and it is not representative of the feminists I know.
You have not described a feminist, you have described a selfish person.

Misogynist2014: Stop selective quotation! It doesn't mean I think we are equal but I just think we should be treated equally, with adequate respect, while still respecting traditional roles to a logical and modern degree.

shizzle11: lol....i get you bruv, not like i'm trying to defend her thou. In one of our conversations, i asked if she was a feminist and she clearly told me she isnt one. I agree on her aggressiveness thou, sometimes way too unnecessary, its in womens nature whenever they are on the defensive, they could be so verbally belligerent. I consider her views a little more liberal than the official nairaland feminists, i need to reaffirm her position on this, i truly hope she isnt one thou

crackhaus:
That's exactly what it means.

A self-sufficient and totally satisfied woman needs no man to offer her his love, she has all the love she'll ever need within her.
Also, if she needs a man to be 'happier', then that means she would otherwise only be half happy or not happy enough if there's no man in her life. QED

Be honest....for the average woman, is being taken care of financially mutually exclusive from being loved?

A feminist insists that she doesn't need a man to be fulfilled...whether this need is purely on finance or on love is trying to water it down by picking and choosing.
She doesn't need a man to be fulfilled, full stop: It includes his love, his money, his d1ck, etc..

You know, I'd rather not dwell on them.

Not some.
A lot more places than you know or care to admit.
Of course you would say that.

Don't you think the problems of men are little compared to that of women in this world? Be honest.

Well I don't write movie scripts for a living, should I have included 'two years later' or 'sometime in the near future' before you get it?

A feminist at her deepest core is actually quite selfish...honestly.
Everything must be about her and her problems in the world when people (both men & women) are dying daily in wars, genocides, and politically motivated killings - others are dying of starvation, malaria, and Ebola in some places...feminists don't see this.

crackhaus:

Okay since you say she's clearly stated that she isn't one, I take your word for it.

Touché @emboldened

shizzle11: Yeah bruv, being like 3months or so we had the convo where she said that, otherwise i would easily dig it up for emphasis.

Quite touche

carefreewannabe:

To you, not to me and not to plenty of other feminists. You have misunderstood something.

Since when is feminism about women saying they don't need men AT ALL?

I don't understand

This is what YOU think feminism is about and now I know why you have such issues with it.

And again since when is feminism against love, marriage and relationships?

You could have done better. Anyway.

Just because I feel that women are treated unfairly in MANY places, doesn't mean I don't see other problems and don't care.
This again is a wrong conclusion.

crackhaus:
What have I misunderstood?

The ones that gave those quotes in the OP seem to be of that opinion, don't you think so?
The hypocrisy here is that some of them were married.

If she wants to be loved, a time will come when she'll also want to be taken care of financially by that man who loves her.

Both desires are not mutually exclusive, they can happen at the same time.

Not really what I think, it's what some feminists say that leads me to that conclusion.

I know about the agenda to end women suffrage, this is the one true feminism...every other agenda developed out of selfishness and self-centeredness.

One wave of feminism was against patriarchy, that about explains your question.

How do you mean?

Okay.

crackhaus:
Sounds like one, types like one, aggressive like one, never accepting her wrong even when it's clear - like one...and most of all, supports the eradication of gender roles.
I'm sorry but I'd rather she say she isn't one herself...you know, for posterity sake

carefreewannabe has admitted she does not support doing away with 'traditional' gender roles, I typed this again for posterity sake.

cococandy and bukatyne don't know what wave of feminism they belong to...typed again for posterity sake.

crackhaus:
I'm not actually anti-feminism, I'm anti-pseudofeminism

TribalEAST: look at you below

The brains of fathers who become the primary caregiver for their children show similar patterns to those seen more regularly in mothers, according to a study testing the neurological basis of parenting.


http://mobile.bloomberg.com/news/2014-05-26/fathers-brains-change-for-role-as-primary-caregiver.html

Acidosis: kandiikane

are you a feminist/do you support the movement?

bukatyne:

Why are you giving yourself headache over what wave we are?

We might never meet you know

bukatyne:

I am anti pseudo anything myself

I do not do 1 leg in and another out

kandiikane:

I believe the two genders are equal....