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Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 6:50pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: Monogamy is based on the premise that only TWO people are involved in it. If one of the partners cheats, then he is no longer monogamous. sorry you still haven't make sense out of these. First of all, polygamy begins with cheating.How else do you get a second wife? Secondly, even if did reduce the number of cheating men, it would possibly increase the number of cheating women. Why can you have a woman in your bed 7 days a week but your wives have to sleep alone when you are with the other one? 2 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Shirley07: 6:53pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz:Epic fail! Monogamy has more pros than polygamy whichever way you argue it. 3 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Shirley07: 6:55pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:This. 3 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: Please try and calculate before making conclusions. Do you know what being monogamous and polygamous means? How does polygamy reduce cheating men? How? How does a man get a 2nd wife? isnt it by cheating on the 1st wife? If he wants a 3rd wife, isnt it by cheating with another woman? Do you know polygamous men with many wives still have concubines outside? Na wa for you o. 2 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by tintingz(m): 7:05pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:Yes it is no longer monogamous. But the wife in the monogamous marriage with a man that cheats still sees the union as a monogamous setting. That's deceiving. First of all, polygamy begins with cheating.How else do you get a second wife?Not all begins with cheating, because religion like Judaism, Islam, Mormon etc frowns at adultery. So in most cases the bringing in another wife is being discussed with the first wife after or before marriage. Secondly, even if did reduce the number of cheating men, it would possibly increase the number of cheating women. Why can you have a woman in your bed 7 days a week but your wives have to sleep alone when you are with the other one?Then you should tell that to the women that accept polygamy marriage proposal from the men. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Agrika: 7:11pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
chiefinalowo:Is your first wife from SW or SE |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:22pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Yup! Marry chief for his money, as wife no 3, then get your groove on with the hot blooded young stud outside. Diaris Godu o. 2 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by tintingz(m): 7:28pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Polygamous men marry them, monogamous men keep it secret by having mistresses, girl lover. Many Polygamous men will make it known to their wives about bringing in another woman right from the beginning. A monogamous man will never discuss these to his wife but keep cheating. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:35pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
ileobatojo: 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:35pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: And you think this makes us grateful now or what? 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by tintingz(m): 7:41pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:Polygamous marriage involve women and women are the final say to it. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Saraha1(f): 7:43pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
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Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:43pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: Well, the two examples on this thread show something else. 2 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:49pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: There is no difference between a Polygamous man and a 'monogamous' man who keeps concubines. Both sets of men attend to multiple women. Even if a 'monogamous' man hides his adulterous acts from his wife, he is still having dealings with multiple women and would always be financially responsible for the needs of his concubines. We are looking at the actions of both sets of men. they are the same. Ask an adulterous man why he is seeing other women apart from his wife, he will say he is 'Polygamous in nature'. BOTH SETS OF MEN ARE UNDER THE UMBRELLA OF POLYGAMY. so such 'monogamous' men are only deceiving themselves. They are only practising polygamy in a modern way. It seems you dnt know the meaning of adultery. Let me help you. Adultery means having dealings that you know you are supposed to have with your mate, whether emotional or physical, with a member of the opposite sex you are not married to. Even jesus said once you keep looking at a woman to have a passion for her, it is adultery in the heart. So Polygamy starts once you cheat on your 1st wife with another woman and you keep mistresses outside in order to have more wives. Once you are not faithful to your spouse, you are an adulterer. Polygamy is full blown adultery. Adultery does not reduce adultery. That does not make any sense. It is not certain that most polygamous men let their 1st wives know. As you can see from a comment from a polygamous man in this thread, his wife never knew from the begining he was going to take another wife, not until after 4 years. he married another wife to get a child since they were childless. So its possible some 1st wives were never aware from the begining. If they were, perhaps they would never have agreed to marry in the 1st place. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:51pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
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Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 7:58pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Sophy, dear, I have to disagree with you for once. There is a difference between a polygamous and a supposedly "monogamous" man. The latter does not throw it at his wife's face. 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by SAMBARRY: 8:04pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
It's part of the love they are sharing aftetall there is loff in sharing and to crown it all I can bet they are all using the same toilet where the infection can be strengthened well well, that is if they don't steal each other's pants carefreewannabe: 2 Likes |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
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Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
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Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:09pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: A man who defends his cheating towards you is rubbing it in your face. a man who believes he has to cheat simply because he feels he is polygamous in nature is rubbing it in ooo. Dnt you hear married women narrate their tales of hubbies insulting them even when they have been caught, demanding them to even apologise to them after been caught. My dear, an unrepentant cheat is already rubbing it in. There is no difference. 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:10pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: At least they try to hide it. I am not saying it's right my dear. I just see a difference. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:14pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: Ewwwwwwwww. Toilet infections gush. Enough sharing galore. 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Trying to hide it is not the issue and not the most important factor here. what is most important is their attitude after they have been caught and what happens afterwards. It is the aftermath that determines if they are similar or not. ADULTERY IS ADULTERY JARE. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:19pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: I am with you. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by SAMBARRY: 8:21pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks, carefree and Shirley seriously i don't know ehy y'all are blaming these men for polygamy. It's the women that carry 70% of the blame. Ok look at it this way a man comes to meet you and you know very well he's married. In fact some will tell the women to come and be hid second wife with the excuse of his wife's inability to give birth after 10years of marriage or the wife hasn't been able to give him a male son and so he will dangle lexus jeep in your front that if you give him a child the jeep will be yours. In fact you don't have to work again. Just be doing the shopping and I will be paying the bills and then a lazy alapa masise woman will hear that and immediately will agree. In her mind she thinks he will stop there unfortunately their stoopeedity didn't tell them that a man that marries 2nd wife will also marry 3rd 4th etc in his quest to find what is not lost as in the case of chief inalowo.if he finds problem in the 2nd he will marry 3rd if he also finds problem with the 3rd he will marry 4th till all of them destroys his life gradually and collectively |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by SAMBARRY: 8:26pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
The point is if all the women can say no I can't marry a married man face ya wife, all this all men are polygamous bs will end but it's the women giving them justification to cheat, after all it's with another woman he's cheating with and she knows he's married but doesn't care 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:30pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: Hahahahahahahahahaha The bolded cracked me up. you are right jare. If the women aint complaining, why should I? Let them ride on jare. The women are really stupid anyways. Bunch of women in the house fighting over a man who is just like crumbs of bread. Haahahahahahahaaha. This just reminds me of a man i know with 3 wives. what amazes me about their family is that their children hardly feed well. All the time the kids after school would crowd a friend of mine when she is cooking. and the man of the house is always at home so i wonder what he does to cater for the family. The family be like 'every man for himself'. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:31pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: It's not going to happen as long as women depend on men. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by tintingz(m): 8:32pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Yes, mono men are not different from poly men just that one marry multiple wives to avoid the word "adultery". Many people believe what happen in poly marriages does not happen in mono marriages because a man is faithful to his one wife, sorry a lot happen in mono marriages as well poly. It seems you dnt know the meaning of adultery. Let me help you. Adultery means having dealings that you know you are supposed to have with your mate, whether emotional or physical, with a member of the opposite sex you are not married to. Even jesus said once you keep looking at a woman to have a passion for her, it is adultery in the heart. So Polygamy starts once you cheat on your 1st wife with another woman and you keep mistresses outside in order to have more wives. Once you are not faithful to your spouse, you are an adulterer.Since polygamy involve marriage, where's the adultery there? Like have said religion like Islam, Judaism, Mormon etc frowns at adultery, so in most cases the first wife will know about the bringing in another wife right from the beginning. It is not certain that most polygamous men let their 1st wives know. As you can see from a comment from a polygamous man in this thread, his wife never knew from the begining he was going to take another wife, not until after 4 years. he married another wife to get a child since they were childless. So its possible some 1st wives were never aware from the begining. If they were, perhaps they would never have agreed to marry in the 1st place.I didn't say all men discuss about the idea of polygamy marriage to their wives. All I know is that most men from some particular religion background make it known to their wives. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:34pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: Absolutely right. 1 Like |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by tintingz(m): 8:37pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:Men are polygamous in nature just that some men prefer to stick to one wife for some reasons, beliefs. |
Re: Polygamy: Men: How Do You Tell Your Wife,you've Gotten A New Wife. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
tintingz: Women are also polygamous by nature. Just that most don'T show it. 1 Like |
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