timawoku:
dunno? The society sucks!!!

Tallesty1:
You Too?

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There is nothing person will not see on this nairaland.

I just highlighted the few reason men find it difficult to forgive a cheating partner and someone is preaching equal rights already.

Equal rights in cheating?

Jesus Christ In Heaven.

Where does equal right feature in this?

Did I say "Reason women must forgive a cheating partner"?

Will your equal right change the heart of women?

If yes then the equal right is satanic.

It is not a must that your forgive him. If you can't then leave, nobody is gonna blame you.

We want equal right yet we collect heaven and earth from men that want to marry us....

We want equal right yet it is men that propose to and engage us.

We want equal right yet it is a must that a man provide for his family.

We want equal rights yet dating a broke is a no no even when we are broker than broke.

Is it only in infidelity that you want equal rights?

Why is it that women are declared brave when they hit men but men are brutal cowards when they do the same?

Why is it a mistake when a woman gets into the men's restroom but a man is perverted in the reverse?

Why are courts lenient with female criminals but males must be put down soon?

Why is it that when a woman is doing work a man is required to help her and not the same when the reverse is occurring?

No one is encouraging infidelity and that a man cannot forgive does not mean that a woman must forgive. Nobody is saying that.

So aside with this equal right thingy.

It is getting boring already.

centjamie:


The man is the head of the family.Nature made it so not the society.

eighTHREAD:
Any thread in. Which you see cococandy, bananabender and carefreewannabe, just know the issue in discuss really hurt their feminist ego . They are mad at the privilege a man has in this fuckinb world

egobetatoday:


Lol. I hope they will have these privileges in the world after. Wats d use having it in this world and be judged by it in the next world.

BananaBender:


How did nature prove/indicate that the man is the head of the family? You still didn't answer the question.

carefreewannabe:


When you refer to science, you should be able to back up your statement easily.
It is not my job to find proof for the gibberish you wrote there.

MzMariah:
That I can't even explain. I've seen cases where a man will cheat and they will keep saying its normal for a man to cheat but when a woman cheats then they will almost kill her. them no even wan hear at all.

There are things that can never change and this is an example of it. A man will cheat on his wife and if his wife cheats on him then..........

I don't pray for a cheating partner sha o.

BananaBender:


The problem is prayer cannot do anything to save Nigeria. Stop praying and start taking an active role like changing your mentality and that of everyone you can influence.

It's sad that gender equality and fairness is now a 'dream', equality between genders should be a mandated right.

pickabeau1:

I think a punitive approach by women will act as a deterrent as cheating is a personalitything and equality of cheating is a weird concept

So what do u suggest are practical ways society can make the judgement on cheating the same

hamilton62:

Haven't you heard nor seen a case where a man is divorced and some percentage of his fortune is taken by the woman because the man was unfaithful?
There are many marriages that the wives cheat but the men being the family oriented type consider their children's future and decide to still stick in the marriage praying for a change, so it's too the other way round.
Cheating doesn't start in marriage, for all I know, if you are unfaithful in your relationship as a lady or gent, dear me, you are bound to cheat in your marriage. It all begins now before marriage.
Let's try to avoid this pls... I know it's not easy but we can do this and if you have someone who is unfaithful but you know he or she loves you, try to reason with the individual, never downcast your little effort influencing their life because it will definitely do, if not with you, it will with the person in another relationship when you must have left...
Thanks.

tmosco:


I don't believe in creation from evolution bt I know God created the world and as punishment for eating the Apple she will always be under a man and suffer pains at child Birth. Being under a man means he is the head.

okpanachil:


Untill today I didnt know there were some challenges bigger than prayers.

Grendel:


You don't know how powerful sex is?
sex can solve so many problems when given at a right time .

BananaBender:


How did nature prove/indicate that the man is the head of the family? You still didn't answer the question.

BananaBender:


I erased the rest of your post because I agreed with it.

I don't know what exactly you mean by 'equality of cheating' but what I was proposing is that men and women should be held to the same standard when they cheat. Men should be responsible for their actions, it is not right that they are given a free pass by the society.

I am in no way, encouraging women to cheat.

The most practical way is to change the mentality that the male gender is superior to the female. We have to change the mentality that the man is the default head in a marriage. The truth is, the head is allowed some things that the subordinate isn't allowed. That breeds imbalance and equality.

Society should stop ignoring the men when it comes to preaching about chastity. Women are encouraged to be virgins but but the male child is perceived to be a wimp if he stays a virgin. This system will always fail because the male child needs the female(in most cases) to be a "man".

Women should be taught to be financially independent. A women who can't fend for herself is indirectly being forced to stay with a cheating spouse. Providing for the family should not be solely undertaken by the man.

A lot of things about the Nigerian society feeds on gender inequality and until that is eradicated, there is always going to be double standard.

Tallesty1:
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Like I said, if you really want to liberate women then make men the head and save women some troubles.

BananaBender:


You didn't use nature to explain sh1t, you just quoted a storybook.

Let's assume that storybook is true, Jesus came to cleanse us from our sins and remove the curse/punishment from us, right? If what is written in the new testament is true, why are we still suffering from the curse/punishment placed on humanity in Garden of Eden??

Tallesty1:
I really don't wanna reply you but I just can't help it............

You are a Christian? Cause what I'm going to say will make sense only to Christians.

A man is the head of the home, he started everything from 4st step and that gives him upper hand in some certain areas.

Being the head here does not imply that he should oppress his wife, No... You and I know that women cannot and can never be 50/50 equal with men. Although you can believe what you like but truth is unchangeable.

A man being the head makes marriage wonderful…no more arguing, no more strife, no more fight for power. Only having one leader makes life so much simpler. God absolutely knows what He is talking about and His way is the only way that truly works.

I'm about to get bible involved.

First, let me say that God sees men and women equally. At the foot of the cross there is neither male nor female. Galatians 3:28 says – “There is neither Jew nor Greek,there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

But we should not forget that Ephesians 5:23 says For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. If we make this passage obsolete, we lose Christ and marriage without Christ is full of pain and misunderstanding.

Now, in Genesis 2:17 before Eve existed, God commanded Adam to not eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. And then in Genesis 3 –it is Eve who first took the fruit in verse 6 –and ate it.............then she gave the fruit to Adam and he ate it too.

Now Eve ate the fruit but Romans 5:12 tells us that sin entered the world “through one man and death through sin.”

Eve sinned first – so why didn’t sin enter the world through one WO-man? According to scripture we see Adam – the one who God had given the command, as being held responsible for the sin of he and his wife. And we see the first picture of headship.

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

Like I said, if you really want to liberate women then make men the head and save women some troubles.

ifoundmyperfect:


Just coz something is widely practiced doesn't make it rait. You are right about the perception of most nigerian men towards a woman. It started off from the days of our fore-fathers. This has been corrected to a large degree when folks saw the need to educate their girl child too. Its only a feeble illiterate woman that lacks orientation/enlightenment that would allow herself to get trampled on. The examples you cited are common amongst them. Some of una sef don't help matters n forcefully make ursef look like a rag-doll or more like a madam-easy-life. You lazy around with little or absolute no contribution to assist d man. As for me, I don't like that perception u raised, datz y I saw d need to correct you. We are product of the decision we make. Stand for what is right, not necessarily comforming to what is widely practice. There r still sane men out dere.

ifoundmyperfect:


Just coz something is widely practiced doesn't make it rait. You are right about the perception of most nigerian men towards a woman. It started off from the days of our fore-fathers. This has been corrected to a large degree when folks saw the need to educate their girl child too. Its only a feeble illiterate woman that lacks orientation/enlightenment that would allow herself to get trampled on. The examples you cited are common amongst them. Some of una sef don't help matters n forcefully make ursef look like a rag-doll or more like a madam-easy-life. You lazy around with little or absolute no contribution to assist d man. As for me, I don't like that perception u raised, datz y I saw d need to correct you. We are product of the decision we make. Stand for what is right, not necessarily comforming to what is widely practice. There r still sane men out dere.

ifoundmyperfect:


Just coz something is widely practiced doesn't make it rait. You are right about the perception of most nigerian men towards a woman. It started off from the days of our fore-fathers. This has been corrected to a large degree when folks saw the need to educate their girl child too. Its only a feeble illiterate woman that lacks orientation/enlightenment that would allow herself to get trampled on. The examples you cited are common amongst them. Some of una sef don't help matters n forcefully make ursef look like a rag-doll or more like a madam-easy-life. You lazy around with little or absolute no contribution to assist d man. As for me, I don't like that perception u raised, datz y I saw d need to correct you. We are product of the decision we make. Stand for what is right, not necessarily comforming to what is widely practice. There r still sane men out dere.

pickabeau1:
Bro.. forget the bible
In most cultures, patriarchial cultures dwarf matriarchial or matrilineal ones

Most in Africa, the Jews, the Arabs, etc