hmmm, scary comments. I don't know for other ladies but i can't stand a husband who cheats. Be it nigerian or non-nigerian. I don't care what the society are gonna say, i'm not praying for a husband who cheats, but if he does, i'll divorce him. Women surfer alot, we're always degraded. I have feelings, you men have feelings, we should respect that.

I don't know about you ladies but if a man cheats on me,it ruins everything for me.

I wonder what he said to her to woo her.
Were they the same things he said to me?

I wonder what he said when he was about to cum.
"You're the sweetest woman I've ever had"
I know he said that to me too.

He must have complimented her beauty in ways he did to me.

Maybe lied too. "I'm single. Not married. Divorced. Just broke up". Anything to get her to relax and open up.
I like to feel that I'm the apple of my man's eye.

If he could forget how valuable he said I was,if he could discard my well being and feelings the moment he see another,then it means I'm not the woman I thought I was to him.

It will make me feel CHEAP.

It is not acceptable. Not even slightly acceptable.

I don't know what he'll feel if I cheat on him but I'm pretty sure it's akin to what I'll feel if he cheats on me.

I despise cheats...

Yea amma typical naija breed...

@op, I believe the word you intended was 'moan', not 'mourn'. I may be wrong of course
Anyways, like so many of the things that induce strong visceral reactions in humans, a man's aversion to a cheating wife has it's roots in biology.
No man wants to be conned into spending his resources on raising another's offspring. It also explains why this strong jealousy is only felt when the wife is prime se,xually and still of childbearing age( or looks it). No man gives two fhux if his postmenopausal wifey plays the field.
Sperm Wars, people.

missberrypop5:
hmmm, scary comments. I don't for other ladies but i can't stand a husband who cheats. Be it nigerian or non-nigerian. I don't care what the society are gonna say, i'm not praying for a husband who cheats, but if he does, i'll divorce him. Women surfer alot, we're always degraded. I have feelings, you men have feelings, we should respect that.

Why say women suffer a lot?
Or always being degraded?
Your belief becomes your reality...
We are product of the choices we make...
Cheating isn't just one sided...
Both sexes are guilty...

I can't forgive a cheating partner, and I don't expect a partner to forgive me (if caught cheating).

Babe r u talking about Aleku?

MzMariah:
You just reminded me of a culture in my village. If a man cheats on his wife it has no side effect but if a woman cheats (sleeps with another man) then she is as good as dead if she doesn't confess and have the necessary sacrifice done. She go just die like chicken.

We all are hoping and praying for the best sha, nobody wants a cheating partner.

coogar:


excellent post!
may the gods of your ancestors be with you.

Iseeeeeeeeeee

not about naija mhen bro... its men in general....

worldwide.......

check dz

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1236435/Why-men-forgive-wifes-affair--theyd-expect-YOU-forgive-them.html

I will treat a cheating partner the way I will treat a mortal enemy, i can't forgive it......not when he hasn't paid for it.

beeevan:
I will treat a cheating partner the way I will treat a mortal enemy, i can't forgive it......not when he hasn't paid for it.

nobody is saying you should forgive a cheating partner. we aren't even excusing the men. just putting it out that one is slightly worse than the other.

a cheating wife is worse than a cheating hubby.

coogar:


nobody is saying you should forgive a cheating partner. we aren't even excusing the men. just putting it out that one is slightly worse than the other.

a cheating wife is worse than a cheating hubby.

I see no difference, a cheating man is as disgusting as his female counterpart .

beeevan:

I see no difference, a cheating man is as disgusting as his female counterpart .

of course, when both genders are unmarried, one is as disgusting as the other. however, after marriage.....a cheating wife is worse than a cheating husband.

the risk of paternity fraud alone makes a cheating wife worse by default.

BoboYekini:
@op, I believe the word you intended was 'moan', not 'mourn'. I may be wrong of course
Anyways, like so many of the things that induce strong visceral reactions in humans, a man's aversion to a cheating wife has it's roots in biology.
No man wants to be conned into spending his resources on raising another's offspring. It also explains why this strong jealousy is only felt when the wife is prime se,xually and still of childbearing age( or looks it). No man gives two fhux if his postmenopausal wifey plays the field.
Sperm Wars, people.

Exactly............


Thanks for the correction

There's never gender equality since time immemorial.
A man can cheat and still love his wife... it's a different ball game for a woman.


Please, y'all should leave man and woman matter... e don tey, no be today.

cocoberry:
Babe r u talking about Aleku?

Lol.

BananaBender:


Not even close. The society is me and you. You might not see the change in your generation but it will surely reflect in that of your kids.

Can you explain the correlation between cheating in a marriage and gender equality
I get the relation to equal opportunities, education, jobs, access to property.

Pls, am driving...I cannot type now Pls, am driving...I cannot type now

Life is too short not ti cheat on ur partner...forgive me or not daz ur cup of tea!!

BananaBender:


Why is that more acceptable to the society?

I don't understand it too,that society accepts a cheating husband, and not a cheating wife? Truth is,no body should cheat,if you don't want to be cheated on,then don't cheat on your partner. ...I don't even get why people think a woman will forgive her man if he cheats on her,she might pretend to forgive and move on,but she will never forgive it.

coogar:


of course, when both genders are unmarried, one is as disgusting as the other. however, after marriage.....a cheating wife is worse than a cheating husband.

the risk of paternity fraud alone makes a cheating wife worse by default.

And the risks of getting infected with a deadly sexu.ally transmitted disease isn't worse?

Nice one OP. Waiting for one clueless female NL member to create a counter-thread with lame reason why women can never forgive a cheating partner.

-when you are wooing the woman she adopts a very high moral standard by playing hard for 6 months, 1 year and even 2 years. so a man expects that high morality for ever. so the woman cannot play hard to get(iam not cheap) and then open her legs for a third party.
-during love making, the man is the subject, the woman is the object(no pun intended). it is the man who rams on her, it is the man who fondles her all over, it is the man who ejacu1ates into her. basically the man uses the woman(no pun intended). hence men pay for se.x.
-the society believes that in time of sex a woman does the man a favour(may not be true). so when the woman sleeps out, it is assumed the woman is doing another man the same favours.
-principally se.x involves 3 things- b00b squeezing, but+ squeeezing and pene+ration. and the woman is still on the receiving end.
No pun intended, these are some of the reasons why a man could never forgive a cheating wife or girlfriend. however a man should respect and honour his spouse and so cheating is equally bad.

BananaBender:


It can change, starting from you. Change your mindset, you are only thinking like the product of the society you grew up in. One way to do that, is by encouraging and teaching gender equality in social institutions.

So you mean women should start cheating as much as men

Fkforyou:
I am here to read peoples comment. Although I want to say something.

when were u released from quarantine center

Tallesty1:
Before I start this, I want to make it clear that I'm not a sexist.

People say it is a man's world, and honestly, it is. I will show you how.

Nature gave us some bonus and women gave their support. Even if a man forgives a cheating wife, the women(society) will not.

Here are the few reasons some men find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife(They are what I heard men say. I didn't author some of them)

1: EGO:- It certainly has alot to do with their ego being bruised. The thought that another man was able to sleep with Someone they believed they had "ownership" of breaks them to pieces as most of them think the women incapable of sex without emotions, meaning the woman loves another. Remember men are like a lioness that can kill most animals for its cubs but will not allow another animal to even play with its cubs.

2: GUILT:- If a woman cheats, the man will never forgive not only the woman but himself no matter whose fault it is. He feels he has failed as a man to protect and keep his own.

3: THEY CAN'T FORGET:- When a man is making love with his wife, it is a sacred rituals the way she moan shows that his sacrifice has been accepted. So if she makes love with another man he will be thinking the temple is no more sacred and when he make love to her and she moan, it will be disgusting cause it will be like that is the way she moaned for the other guy!

4: YOU HAVE LOST HER IF SHE CHEATS:- Female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship. For men, cheating often tends to be opportunistic—they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and the cheating doesn’t necessarily mean anything emotionally. In fact a man can sleep with a woman today and not remember her again but for a woman to have sex with you(in most cases)you must win her heart to win her body.

5: HE PAID YOUR PRICE:- I guess i gotta be blunt here. I know we call it marriage but I think women are being bought in a way. Don't kill me yet, let's analyze it. He buys engagement ring. Proposes to you, you accept then he decides to see your people. Your people accept him and give him a list containing heaven and earth. He agrees to pay, he pays for everything and when your parents feel they have collected enough, they hand you over to him. Then you automatically change your name(Change of ownership) which confirms that you are now his own.

I have seen where women sponsored their marriage and the men don't care when they cheat soI believe the day you stop asking for head-cutting bride price for us to marry then we won't bother much, imagine paying all that money and she gives it to another man..

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

100% Correct you did not add the money spent before you collect the marriage list

Marriage is an institution. Love is blind. Am not prepared to enrol into the institution of the blind. I wil have kids but I can't marry. Period.

MizMyColi:
Hmmmmmm
Eleyi Gidi Gan.

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Talking about paying her price - well, that's true, let's not forget that the same way the guy forwent scores of women to pay her price, she forwent scores of guys to accept his price

Owh, OP, I think the points you raised are valid and affects both sides of the divide equally, depending on the individuals involved.

Thank God for the finishing of your points.
I d v said that you were supporting cheating women.
Last Bullet
I m waiting for the counter thread!

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it bride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

Check out!.

Nna nwanne cheat me, I cheat yu man nor go vex, I don't know why some people feel so pained when their partner cheat on them lol, nna this is a free world o,