Codedone:


Just my thought.

As a child i would listen to my parent,and my father mostly largely due to fear,d most my mom will do is ground me,stoppin me from doing some certain tins,wish didnt rili stop me from doin watever i lik,wen it was jst me and my mom at home(takin some few gadgets or toys from me for a while wont kill me,lol).but putin my dad in d mix or just a threat by her of tellin my dad,was enough to turn my obedient switch on(he knew how to cane d evil spirit off).and am hapi he did wonder how i would be if d worst they could do was ground me.
we shouldnt feel because some western countries dnt can apply dis method of discipline makes it wrong,and if u tink their method is better than ours,have a rethink.

tete7000:


Beating when properly used doesn't do any harm to one's self-esteem rather it enhances it. Yes, when not properly used it can be abused just like even freedom when excessively explored can create problems for the child. The problem with many of us have is in trying to find balance between discipline and abuse. What parents often fail to do is that they can't create an environment where their children feel they love and care for them to the point that they won't harm them. Beating as a discipline only makes sense when a child first feel the parent loves him and won't hurt him. If that kind of parent then beats the child, it sends the child into some kind of introspection as to what could I have done to make my parent who loves me so much to pick cane and flog me? As per fear, in a any relationship between a superior and a subordinate, their must be some element of fear. What you want to avoid is a paralysing kind of fear that denies the subordinate ability to express his feelings. Parents are symbols of authority and as far as I am concerned must carry some fear factor when dealing with their wards. I will find it disgusting if I give instructions to my child and he feels no fear as to know there could be serious repercussions if my instructions are not carried out to the letter.
I am of the class who believe in using cane on children when necessary and nothing changes that perspective of mine. My children know that and at the same time are well aware I love and care for them. Their self esteem is intact and can converse with me without any paralysing fear in them. Our relationship is one borne out of mutual respect and understanding.

Aizebioje:
Not every offense should be corrrected with the rod. Beating kids incessantly is abuse. However,once in a while the rod should be used. Trust me. Silent treatment has a much more disciplinary effect than unnecessary flogging and beating.

fr3do:


:/ Ipa, you are getting it wrong.

What will your kids be scared of when you are not there?

Teach them responsibiliity and initiative!

manutdadex:
we were told child development start at age 4-5 but dis days i wud say age 3...d rate at which kids pick up habits is...........

iconize:


Fagggotmoron, stop running.

Another of fagggot biatch of yours quoted you asking if you survived the last homo party you had.

Have you changed your diapers? I'm sure its filled up already.

KoloOyinbo:
Those who lack the intelligence or imagination or are too lazy to think of better ways to discipline their children will resort to violence. The child may learn to resent the parent but even if he/she does not learn this they will almost certainly learn to use the same methods on their own children thus perpetuating this abusive practice down through the generations. This will be justified by such nonsense sayings as 'Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child' or 'It never did me any harm'.

Surely in an educated and civilized society there are other and better ways.

Still, Culture take time to change so I don't expect this vile and savage practice to die out anytime soon (more's the pity).

From a personal perspective my own parents used violence only very occasionally (Although Ireland in the sixties still had canes in schools and parents used belts on their children). I have resented EVERY incidence of this and when I became a father myself always tried to refrain from this barbarity despite all provocation.

The more civilized countries that have banned such practices (with varying degrees of eradicating it) have found that alternative methods work better.

Sagamite:


Homofuuktard, do you buy diapers for all4naija after you dig his arsse for poo.

maokz:


Leave saga alone. I love him

iconize:


Fagggotmoron, why did you refuse to answer the guy who asked how you survived the last homo party you had?

Have you changed your diapers? This fagggot biatch use 10 diapers in one day.

Sagamite:


Your homosexual community has been having discussions?

msokz:


Leave saga alone. I love him

iconize:


Fagggotmoron, how much does a pack of diaper cost?

You use 10 diapers in one day, biatch, your life is a tragedy!

Peterken05:

yh, if they are not happy, they would have stopped, what do you think?

fr3do:


They are worried and scared!

Sagamite:


How much do you buy it for when you use it, homofuuktard?

iconize:


Senses = 0

Intelligence = 0

Homosexual banging ability = 100

You see your life?

Whoever cursed you is dead!

Sagamite:


Homofucktard, did you just tell us N100?

Wow!

iconize:


Sagamoron, you look very hot to you fagggotbiatches.

Another of your fagggotbiatch just stood up in your defense on the other thread.

Meanwhile, have you change diapers?

Peterken05:
they are insecure as well

Alexsmith20:
As an african man i believe in the adage which say "flog him once and he would flee twice".

but thats not how my wife sees it,she is always keen on pampering the kids base on the facts that she was born and brought up in the states and was not subjected to such method of discipline.

So my question is, is beating a form of ABUSE or DISCIPLINE?

Aizebioje:
Not every offense should be corrrected with the rod. Beating kids incessantly is abuse. However,once in a while the rod should be used. Trust me. Silent treatment has a much more disciplinary effect than unnecessary flogging and beating.

mirexxx:
the rod doesn't mean flogging alone na, there r oda ways u can discipline a child. if am grounded 4 an hour,without my gadgets n locked in my room chaii i give up on dat strong head o. beating kids sha. dey dont 4get it o and might hate u sef

mhoyo772:
There are different kind of Children. Study your child and know the mode of discipline that he/she adheres to most. Some children does not like to be beaten, but the moment you talk sense into their brain,they llisten and change their ways, some listen more to instruction through punishment, while some r through beating. All these are various forms of discipline

Peterken05:
it is pure abuse, why would inflict pain on your child and be happy about it. Thats psycho. Most people beat their children because the holy books say so.

Juzzybabe:
It is a form of discipline. It only becomes an abuse when you flog unmercifully and unnecessarily. But a simple way out of all the troubles is FEEDING THEM WITH THE WORD OF GOD FROM INFANTRY. I learnt that from my aunt and pray to pass it on to my kids. You will have very less work to do on them.

macof:


Yh as the so called word of God has been used to instil fear the mind of the gullible since 30AD