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Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by annietech: 11:00am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Even at 18 her parents still beat her. They drain her emotionally. She's very scared of people and pain. She's become used to it. There are scars all over her body. Her arms, legs, back.. bears the mark of this daily 'wire' flogging. But they love her... she knows they do. Her prayer is 'Lord, don't let me hurt my own kids this much'. Should a child be trained into adulthood this way? She's still very pretty.. but the scars on her heart and body remains.... |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by iconize(m): 11:10am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by hippyzuki(f): 11:17am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Aizebioje:lol na ur gf or wife Silient treatment 4 children again |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by wiringdpt(m): 11:22am On Oct 23, 2014 |
tongue lashing is worse than beatings. Peterken05: |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by bamdexfarms(m): 11:32am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Alexsmith20: Never, beating your child is the best discipline ever!!! Or would you tell ur child's teacher not to beat her? |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by HopeAlive14(m): 11:43am On Oct 23, 2014 |
Do not be consumed by anger while beating otherwise you will end up inflicting harm than good. Beat with the aim of correctiing and with a mind of love. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Sagamite(m): 11:45am On Oct 23, 2014 |
iconize: Homofuuktard, is that not your homosexual community? |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by mofayodeyahoo: 11:52am On Oct 23, 2014 |
rod of correction or flog to tell then say i pass you for now, forgetting young shall, wisdom is profitable to direct.. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by lonelydora: 11:59am On Oct 23, 2014 |
smartmom: His mum was in the kitchen cooking. But she didnt find it funny when she came out. I had to buy sharwama that day to make her happy. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by manutdadex(m): 12:08pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
ShakurM:not to dat extend...kids are like lame leg,u can hardly av control ova dem and dey wont understnd u dat much wen u start to explain,at dat moment dey will understnd u ,jst some mins latr dey are back to wat u scolded dem for...but cain na like constant reminder |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by naijaboiy: 12:15pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Jamean:Yea,,the use of words should be guarded with caution... I'll stick to that. My Dad has a way of advising someone to the extent that you'll feel remorse instantly and want to change. It always works. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by DNA9(m): 12:23pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
[quote author=naijaboiy post=27372679][i]I don't go with flogging... Tongue lashing and punishments would do Bros,, pikin 4kup, Flog d hell outter d nigga. Simple. Tongue lash ko, Tongue Lash Ni. Did my father tongue lash me? |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by naijaboiy: 12:30pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
DNA9: and how does the way you choose to handle your children affect me? Did my father flog me? |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by DNA9(m): 12:46pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
[quote author=naijaboiy post=27382300] [i]and how does the way you choose to handle your children affect me? Did my father flog me? Too much vocal correction aint cool 4 a man,, dats too feminine... Dats my point.. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by naijaboiy: 12:49pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
DNA9:Opinion respected... But that's the way I choose to handle my children and it didn't make my dad less a man in any way for not flogging me. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 1:12pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Beating: Discipline Over-beating: Abuse |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Wisegeek01(m): 1:14pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
That's discipline, but I guess what's really important about discipline is letting the kid know why he's been disciplined at times (like when they are old enof to understand stuff) so they don't grow up hating on their parents. .. But I don't support the use of some kinda stuff like belts, Rods or actually beating em up, like u were wrestling or something* Just saying tho* |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 1:16pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
I think we are missing something here: floging is not discipline but punishment and i think we are mixing up the two. Discipline is the forming of the mind and character for responsible living while punishment is the causing of pain and discomfort for wrong doing. The two are different and lets not get it mixed up. In administering discipline, you sometimes punish. Discipline is a complex whole which include punishment, reward, concelling, instruction etc. Remove punishment and you may never be able to discipline. I find it ironic that majority, if not all, of those who claim floging in barbaric and backward and counter productive, are also pro jail term and solitary confinement, pro chemical castration etc. 1 Like |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
manutdadex: i am currently a student teacher and there are these two very notorious noise makers. Their own case is so bad that while you look at them in the eyes and tell them not to make noise, thats when they do it the more. One day, i got fed up and reported them to the principal who took them out to serve punishment. After they finished serving the punishment and i was going to their class for extra lesson that very day, one of the boys who were punished earlier saw me coming and closed the door to my face! |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by dekung(m): 1:38pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
I completely subscribe to beating children in this part of the world cos this kids can actually get under your skin. I beat my kids and they neither hate nor fear me but and they understand the limits of my playfulness with them. I also talk to them when the need arises. The thing is parents should just understand how to balance the correction methods however it is important that when a child is threatened to be reported to his parents he or she should cringe a.little otherwise we are only breeding little tyrants 1 Like |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by CAMNEWTON4PRES: 1:39pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Lashes on the butt :discipline .after 03warnings for the same offense Beating/lashes all over the bodies= abuse, the belt should b used to correct and not to mark the body + itnshould never be used as first intention. Children are not horses or donkeys |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by chronique(m): 1:41pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
If done sensibly and reasonably,it is discipline. If done without proper caution and care and excessively,it becomes abuse. 1 Like |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by grandlexuz(m): 1:47pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
It is a tricky situation. Some people say picking up a crying baby every time they cry is spoiling them! I di craze for leave my pikin make e cry! Most parents just vent their anger on their kids in the name of discipline. My neighbour beats her 2 years 5 month old daughter every now and then. This morning as I listened to the confrontation between her and the little girl that obviously ended in spankings I was taken aback! The little girl got 30 solid spankings for defecating on the bed. She is a single mother of three little children and I seriously think what she thinks is discipline is actually revenge on the kids. She is quick to curse them etc.. I do not beat my kids, but I do shout at them with threats of a good beating. Sometimes I pick my belt and frighten them. It is always enough to make them adjust. Scolding is enough to make my little boy cry! I would never use a cane on my kids. The guilt would be too apparent. I was a stubborn little boy. I had enough beatings from my mum to cover my born and unborn kids!..Lol Corporal punishment at home is outlawed in the following countries- including 5 African countries By year By country 2010 Albania Albania 2014 [a] Argentina 1989 Austria 2014 Bolivia 2014 Brazil 2000 Bulgaria 2014 Cape Verde Cape Verde 2010[6] Republic of the Congo Congo, Republic of 2008 Costa Rica 1999 Croatia 1994 Cyprus 1997 Denmark 1983 Finland 2000 Germany 2006 Greece 2013[7] Honduras 2004 Hungary 2003 Iceland 2000 [b] Israel 2010 Kenya 1998 Latvia 2008 Liechtenstein 2008 Luxembourg 2013 Republic of Macedonia Macedonia 2014 Malta 2008 Moldova 2007 Netherlands 2007 New Zealand 1987[9][c] Norway 2010 Poland 2007 Portugal 2004 Romania 2011[12] South Sudan 2007 Spain 1979[d] Sweden 2007 Togo 2010[14] Tunisia 2002 Turkmenistan 2004 Ukraine 2007 Uruguay 2007 Venezuela |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by SITS: 1:55pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
If one had the kind of 3 kids (all boys) that I have, reasonably occasional flogging or spanking spiced with dialogue or scolding would arguably be inevitable under the present Nigerian socio-economic climate. Parenting is such a taxing calling that has no one-size-fits-all approach. Regardless, circumstances and timing are critical considerations for effective parental discipline. 1 Like |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by manutdadex(m): 1:59pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
craziebone:lol...little rascals...na cain sure pass... |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by iconize(m): 2:01pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
Sagamite: The fagggot was even talking about kids, as if he can make babies with his fagggot biatch. Tell us, what do you know about reproduction, you incestuous homo? Is this not your homo partner professing love to you. masonkz: |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by grandlexuz(m): 2:04pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
SITS: True Talk! |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 2:32pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
wiringdpt:yh, sure. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Riclord001(m): 2:39pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
manutdadex:i hope u won't be beating dem becos u were beaten |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
menesheh:can you pls tell me how beating can mode someone for better adulthood? Can you tell me the lessons(emotional, psychological) you've learnt by someone using force or beating you? I never blamed my parents too, they didnt know better, they arent open to other ways or possiblities of dealing with children, if they did they wouldnt do that the last paragraph shows you're a fundamentalist. Doing something because people have been doing it or because a book says so isnt the best reason to do it(the something). Why cant you think for yourself? challenge the status quo, look for answers, look at things objectively, analyzing every subject on the matter. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
adonbilivit: the pikin wey go spoil go spoil. |
Re: BEATING YOUR KIDS; Discipline Or Abuse? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
oasislomo: boss, u don vex? |
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