tolustx:
I still ve a lotta fins to say abt dis matter. The idea of beating being an abuse coms frm d western world, whr we ve higher degrees of crime, indecency, infidelity, divorce etc. As africans, it wil do us gud 2 adopt jst a part of dr lifestyle. Definitely d beneficial part and discard d rest. Either u attribute flogging to slavery or not, it works for us in Africa. When my parents beat me, lesson is learnt. I knew I did wrong so I needed to be purnished. Then immediately, everyone is happy again and we start playing again. Grounding ur kid or whatever method u adopt makes u keep dat offense in mind 4 too long and may not ve much effect on d child. Wen dos whips leave marks on my ass and I try sitting wit it and feel d pain again, I wil feel sorry for wat I did and not feel hate 4 d person dat put dem dr. Other physical purnishments leave long lasting effects on d child. I rememba d day my teacher made me do "olomoku iya" (that is ur hands holding ur ears, then bending and rising continuously) for abt an hour, I hated myself 4 d next 4 or 5 days. I couldn't walk confidently, cldnt mount stairs without holding d rails so firmly and so on. Beating helps u correct a child instantly, accurately and in love. If there were a second chance to live on earth, I wld choose to be born in africa and probably to d same parents and corrected wit d whip weneva I err. Beating is d best discipline.

KoloOyinbo:


This is NOT an issue of Western versus African. Beating is widely practiced in the Western world also and has failed there every bit as much as in Africa. The more socially developed countries like Sweden have shown the world the way forward. Each country/culture will eventually follow at its own pace. In some, progress will be swift. In others it may take generations. This abuse has been around for thousands of years and will take many generations to disappear or drop to an insignificant level. Just don't assume that because your parents did it therefore it must be ok. Keep an open mind and see if there is a better way. Countries like Sweden are proving that there is!

femijetto:
I fink it depends how someone is brought up, doh beating is Gud for a child but not often, cos is one of d ways to correct a child.....d scripture support it

Alexsmith20:
As an african man i believe in the adage which say "flog him once and he would flee twice".

but thats not how my wife sees it,she is always keen on pampering the kids base on the facts that she was born and brought up in the states and was not subjected to such method of discipline.

So my question is, is beating a form of ABUSE or DISCIPLINE?

julisa2020:
its dicipline...but when it gets to a certain extent,it becomes abuse...e.g...regular beating of kids at every wrong done dose not always says dicipline...because at a certain stage,beating might become used to the child...so..at times its advisable to use other methods like;tongue lashing and punishments

manutdadex:
i wud beat my kids!! because i was beaten and it helpd me...

tolustx:
ok. But is dr rily a better way? Can u enlighten us on wat option sweden is considering

maly:
Beating or flog a kinds its never not an abuse as africa man beacause I do flog my children and they are doing well

Suarezilla:
It can never be an abuse to use the rod on your children. Parents of this days(educated) have missed this. Some parents go as far as confronting teachers @school whom flog their children for good reasons...this is very apalling to me..I support flogging a child to make dem see wats good and bad

Daresh:
Talk your own, no teacher will flog my child.

Suarezilla:
Why you no open your own school n enrol ur kid there so you can teach him/her urslef? All this indomie generation parents. I pity ur children as u will rise in protecting them from teachers! Protecting them from knowledge !

KoloOyinbo:


Protecting them from Knowledge? A teacher using violence has little to teach a child!

The countries with the highest levels of education are those where physical punishment in schools is illegal. (As would be expected!)

The thread is now becoming pointless. Those in favour of such abuse are unlikely to be convinced otherwise anyway. Progress does not happen everywhere at the same rate sadly.

Much of it is wounded pride that other have a better way of doing things. {personalities always inhibit progress}.

KoloOyinbo:


Protecting them from Knowledge? A teacher using violence has little to teach a child!

The countries with the highest levels of education are those where physical punishment in schools is illegal. (As would be expected!)

The thread is now becoming pointless. Those in favour of such abuse are unlikely to be convinced otherwise anyway. Progress does not happen everywhere at the same rate sadly.

Much of it is wounded pride that other have a better way of doing things. {personalities always inhibit progress}.

Suarezilla:
Why you no open your own school n enrol ur kid there so you can teach him/her urslef? All this indomie generation parents. I pity ur children as u will rise in protecting them from teachers! Protecting them from knowledge !

Suarezilla:
Can you please list the countries out and tell us your source? And when did sparing not the rod become an unacceptable action? Are you greater than God that said that? Look here woman, take away punishment for offences away from this world and you would have taken away knowledge away from this earth. I guess you are of the Ajebo tribe that's why you would argue on this but incase you weren't flogged for wrong doings then am really afraid...more afraid of your opinion on this matter..HaPpy Sunday!

Anglovel:

exactly my style of raising 5 kids for 25years now,very successful, flog mildly once,use powerful persuasive language in subsequent occassions,then spice it up with regular friendly communications with d kids and they become ur friends for life. TRY MY RECIPE....U WILL BE GLAD U DID.....www.anglovel.com ANGLOVEL

Anglovel:

exactly my style of raising 5 kids for 25years now,very successful, flog mildly once,use powerful persuasive language in subsequent occassions,then spice it up with regular friendly communications with d kids and they become ur friends for life. TRY MY RECIPE....U WILL BE GLAD U DID.....www.anglovel.com ANGLOVEL