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Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 9:21pm On Oct 29, 2014 |
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Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by GSKing: 10:37pm On Oct 29, 2014 |
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Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by AreaFada2: 3:46am On Oct 30, 2014 |
iyabodeh: That's just an excuse. It is about a woman's attitude when she earns a good income. You can be a successful woman and be an humble wife. But lots of women cannot. Their success make them arrogant and disrespectful to their man. Because their contribution to family upkeep makes the man now less of a man. When the man now complains, accusations of insecurity start flying around. Myself and all my friends cannot imagine telling a wife to stay at home if she wants to work. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 6:18am On Oct 30, 2014 |
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Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 6:40am On Oct 30, 2014 |
Gorgeous58: From my own perspective, is this an assumption or generalization?. It is easier said than done depending on who is the breadwinner, and who is the backup. Every relationship is different, and each difficult period is resolved based on case by case basis |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Jollymich(m): 7:59am On Oct 30, 2014 |
nke afu so kwa. onye akiko mgbe ochie. o ife taa. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 8:00am On Oct 30, 2014 |
ferdimako:Lol, funny question. But to be honest with you, the higher u go up in life as a single young man, the more difficult it is to find a reliable, worthy spouse...and if not for many reasons, lots of such guys may remain single for life. To answer your question- FEAR of unknowns. @Gerrard59, you're really a funny guy, and to make u understand, I am going to write a long comment, find time and read it, if u feel like. Like I told you, I don't believe in girlfriends! And take it or leave it, I can't spend on a girlfriend but I will squander on a wife (the mother of my kids)- you heard me so well! And of course, a girl I'm dating won't have the gut to ask me for money cos fear won't let her. Girls or ladies only ask/demand money and stuffs from guys they don't respect or they feel that they are smarter, better, bigger than and doing a favour being their girlfriend. When they meet a guy who they sure know is better than them in many ways, they lie low and become exceptional; that's y I don't care if girlfriends are asset ot not cos most are faking it, so wait till u marry her. And if u think that dating a working class girl means dating an asset, then u are daydreaming cos many working class ladies earning big income can suck u dry, and even demand more from men than the unemployed ladies...so its all about the personality of a lady and not only her employment or financial status most times. I prefer humble girls from well-to-do family background to just working class ladies who pretend to be assets but are potential tigers waiting to devour their man. y I prefer ladies from well-to-do family background to just working class ladies is because girls from well-to-do families are trained to be assets unlike the presumed working class ladies who still collect and demand bigger money from richer men to meet up with their exorbitant high-fly lifestyle. So don't bet on the assumption that every working class lady is an asset cos most of them earn big and squander it on frivolous things and still run back to demand bigger money from their men! And I insist, if my future wife ends up becoming the next Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, believe me, it won't stop me from taking care of her and my kids, with God as my strength! I am not writing this to please any eye reading, but what I desire and pray for- to be a responsible husband and father irrespective of my future wife's financial status. What am I ranting about NOT ALL WORKING CLASS LADIES EARNING BIG INCOME ARE ASSET, don't be deceived!! goodmorning 2 Likes |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 8:45am On Oct 30, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: from your experience or from your reading/watching CNN? Congrats on your intellectual theft! Also that man in CNN also made references to women getting upset about tiny pieces of cheese/biscuits on the car steering. Should we now say that's a statement of fact, that women are likely to get upset at the most trivial of all things? |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by delishpot: 8:45am On Oct 30, 2014 |
rattlesnake: See king solo of all people sef dey ask for virtuous woman? Chei women don surffer. A faithful husband who can find? I do not see any problem with stay at home moms. Inshort if finances would allow, I recomend for women who are moms to small kids to stay at home and care for their children. Its not easy to be a stay at home mom esp with women like the OP raising noses and acting all hollier than thou towards stay at home moms. As long as the family can save money for rainy days at the end of the month and the woman at a later date( when kids are bigger) can pull from that fund to start a business and then grow as the kids become independent thats fine by me. Not every woman who has a job will be super made. So biko, women should face their business and allow others live as they feel will benefit their families. Women sef. Na una dey kill una own self. That is why a man wμore like solomon who could not control his tom wee wee can still be bold enough to ask for a virtuous woman as if he even deserves one. What will she be doing in his palace? Wont her heart break when she sees the number of women he drags to bed day in day out? It is selfish of men to ask for what they cant give. 1 Like |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by delishpot: 9:19am On Oct 30, 2014 |
DailyNews: 100000000 likes. You understand life better than most men. If not for age ehn, I would marry my daughter to you. Cheii Ezigbo Nwoke. May God catapult you to heights beyound human comprehension. NB remember me then sha o. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by CHoccolaTE: 9:30am On Oct 30, 2014 |
Let me add this important bit: If you want to marry a woman who is self reliant and who doesn't get money or sustainance from you then for your own good and peace of mind, do not expect submissiveness from her. The whole idea of woman being submissive to her husband is built on the premise that the man will be responsible for her upkeep and daily needs. That was how our grandparents intended it to work when they decided how leadership would work in marriage. Don't expect that you will live under the same roof with a woman and then demand obedience and submission when you two are contributing equally in the marriage. Infact she is even doing more than you because she also takes care of kids and cooks and cleans and donates to running the family. Don't expect her to humble herself before you because it won't happen. If she is the considerate or pretencious type, she'd not show you arrogance to your face. She'd wait for you to turn your back or leave the house before discarding whatever rules or laws you made and doing anything she likes instead. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 9:39am On Oct 30, 2014 |
DailyNews: Bros, it is good that you have this mindset, but I would advise caution. Make all the prayers you want and insult other men all you want, but the thing is, life tends to throw curveballs. You can't go into something as final as marriage thinking everything will be as you plan and thus not "spreading" your (and your partner's) idealogies to cover several situations. Guy, at any point in time, ANYTHING can happen. Whether you are a worker or CEO of your own company. If these things happen you need to be sure of where at least one of your biggest chips lie, which is the co-operation and mental preparedness of your wife for the trial at hand. You see this everyday, and I even saw a thread here on NL today of a man whose business is suffering and the wife now disrespecting him publicly and otherwise. Why will she not act that way when her mind was never adequately PREPARED for a point in time when that might need to be the necessary situation? The days are getting quite interesting. No female is worth marrying in these times if she is vehemently against being supportive when challenges come. I have personally experienced being "at the top" of something before, feeling invulnerable...and then life throws a plot twist and it's like starting over again (thankfully the twist happened before I took on any marital responsibilities). I know it feels good to beat your chest and say all these things (I did too!), but guy, the fact is, you must have several "modes" planned out or you may have serious issues in your marriage when these curve balls come. You need to define yourself and your marriage to cover more than just you ALWAYS being the one pulling something. Even back in the day, it was not everyday the man brought home a new kill from the hunt. Maybe sef the man got injured and couldn't go out to hunt for weeks/months, etc. What the family would survive on during those periods, is the plants the woman had already been planting and harvesting in the backyard. Be wise and Plan wide. Peace. 1 Like |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 10:07am On Oct 30, 2014 |
You see this everyday, and I even saw a thread here on NL today of a man whose business is suffering and the wife now disrespecting him publicly and otherwise. Why will she not act that way when her mind was never adequately PREPARED for a point in time when that might need to be the necessary situation? This is the thread I was referring to earlier https://www.nairaland.com/1967834/wife-makes-hurtful-comments-curses |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by secondi1987: 11:29am On Oct 30, 2014 |
See as guys dey rush share and like the post 1 Like |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 11:49am On Oct 30, 2014 |
the topic: "women; Becoming asset rather than liabilities" is one that one would have thought would get resident feminists on NL excited since it is in line with what they claim they stand for. But as soon as they saw that men were responding enthusiastically in support of the OP, they turned against one of the most important of their faith- the independability of the women folk. This show of ingenuinety inconsistency from our resident feminists is more than enough proof that if men become ok with all the current feminist agenda, these women will become anti- the very values they are currently trying to entrench in the society. Instead of them to be happy that some men are atleast becoming ok with having a woman who can go out there and be successful, they are here getting angry at nothing. It seems these women want the sbjugation of women to continue. Afterall, thats what makes them relevant. Remove all the subjugation of women from the society and these resident women here on NL would have absolutely no relevance anymore. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by ehiw1: 12:09pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Well, there are women out there who s willing to work for the benefit of her family and i m one of them by His grace |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 12:47pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
delishpot:Lolz, in Mr C's voice- is your daughter light skin Thanks so much delishpot, with God as my strength, I won't forget you ma, thank u You know, in as much as I do criticise ladies who demand money/financial favours from their so-called boyfriends and rebranded boyfriends; fiancee, I am never in support of a man not taking absolute care of her wife/kids cos to me, wife means a lot. But as for girlfriend, that one is just a fun partner to me, so I don't really care if she works or not, that's none of my business, but don't dare demand any financial favour from me as your boyfriend cos I haven't paid your dowry and u still have living parents/siblings plus your job (if any). Only unwise men, promiscuous married men and desperate men trying to lure ladies into promiscuous bed at all cost spend foolishly on girlfriends. Get closer to real guys with swag, and u will weep cos most of them don't spend a dime on ordinary girlfriends, instead girls even flaunt their little money n career success to trap such rare guys So guys, let's call a spade a spade, if u want a submissive wife, pls be ready to take at least 85% of the family's financial responsibilities or else, you're operating under probability. With due respect to men in such shoes (not mocking anyone pls), but how does it feel when u call your wife or girlfriend to borrow u money to pay house rent Borrow u money to pay school fees Sitting down with her to share the family financial responsibility 50-50 Or sitting down idly at home or club, or wherever waiting for a lady to send u money or pay your bills I am sure every man in such situation is just a walking corpse, dying silently in pains, even though most won't agree. Dear Lord, please and please, don't ever let my condition get to that stage pls. I want to be able to take absolute charge of my family's financial responsibilities, so help me God! Even if my future wife ends up becoming a billionaire, make me so comfortable not to rely or depend on her income, amen! Ever since I was born, no woman has given me penny, not even a gift, except my lovely mum and sister; the two special women in my life and I have never wished to get any help from any woman, call it ego- YES! My future wife should use her money to invest for her kids, help her parents and siblings that trained her, do charity works, and also invest in God's house, and if she feels, she can assist with some of our family financial responsibilities, but not as a mandate! I pity single ladies who have lucrative job/career or business, but don't have any serious man cos na mostly hungry guys go de rush you, and that's y most of such ladies end up marrying gigolo @2buff, I understand ur point bro, but that's my desire and prayer; I value my integrity so much cos I have noticed that 80% of marital issues in the world today, revolves around financial issues. 3 Likes |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 3:39pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
craziebone: I believe I quite clearly preceded my post with the words "in my experience". If CNN has added a relationship woes segment to it's subpar daily repertoire, I can only be amused. 2 Likes |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by delishpot: 5:10pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
DailyNews: Ha ha. My daughter na half caste o. She yellow like paw paw but she is only 3. Cheiii see now. You cant wait for her as long as you are not one of those baba agbaya i e Yerima of Zamfara and co who rob cradles as seun will translate it. You na MAN. That is how a man should reason and I pray for you. Indeed You and all other men who know the importance of being the man of the home. May God give us strength to carry our responsibilities and to meet all obligations. May our families enjoy us so teeeyyyyyyy kingdom come. And may he give you guys who are not yet married good wives who will compliment you in truth and in spirit. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by rhames(m): 6:25pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Good thinking good product. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by PreciousBro: 8:00pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
CHoccolaTE: What a load of crap!! You definitely pulled that out from your an.us because its SsSh!t!! Talking through your hat huh ? In the bid to break the headship ascribed to man by God you defy wisdom and the default order of things, The idea of the being submissive for what we know is solely on the gender(woman) and on the premise that the opposite se.x,your husband(man) should love you. You can't in any way understand that because you're in such a haste to clamour for the removal of submissiveness" and hence devoid of wisdom, the headship ascribed to man is not in his providing power but the fact that he's providing and many other criteria ,now providing is just one criterion, No matter what a woman does to assist or support,even though it could be more than the man,it still leaves her in the helper's" category, a woman!! Wooed out from a man" and as such can't grow a phallus in between her thighs If there isn't submission,shall we also take away,Love ? What about respect from both parties and understanding ? A wise woman would know that nonetheless,and assume her position. Talk sense, Talk wisdom,I'm really not in the mood to school some unwise creatures on here! |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 9:00pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: fact is...you NEVER got your warped idea that "men tend to take things in the general sense of it and women do not" from any so-called "personal experience". Your use of the "irresponsible" example gave you away as a thief of intellectual property! Why don't you just click on this and see that not everyone can be fooled! http://edition.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/10/25/o.glass.ego/ at least you should have te decency to own up to your fvck up, in that way, i would respect you more. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by redsun(m): 10:42pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Gorgeous58: So you guys still live in the world of wholeheartedly depending on men to survive? There is no freedom in that kind of world. A life without self independence is beyond, like it doesn't exist. |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 11:27pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
craziebone: Spare me. I couldn't give less of a shyt about your 'respect', or lack thereof. But as a matter of course, you yourself deserve as much as you gave. In all honesty, what would you have liked? A blow by blow account? That a reoccurring situation prompted me to call someone irresponsible etc, and to have it be answered in a similar manner isn't as inconceivable a notion as you'd make it seem. Though oddly enough, when I finally get a moment to overlook my initial surprise of its being, I should probably thank you for providing a corroborating piece of 'lit' for my case, even if it is from CNN i.e Craptastic "News" Network. Now buzz off - or more appropriately - leggo' of the 'bone', Crazie 2 Likes |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 12:58am On Oct 31, 2014 |
DailyNews: So if your girlfriend gets you a gift you will tell her to return it? Or maybe you just haven't been in an actual loving relationship... |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 7:28am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Abeg wetin be the name of the lady who posted this. My brother is doing his wedding tommorrow and we've got no bride yet. Won't mind if you can be oo. #Thumb up for this. Nice one 1 Like |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by aminaeke: 11:43am On Oct 31, 2014 |
i hav waited long for this post, i have a job that pays very well and my husband too, but he insist we do not need all the stress that i should stop mine so i would have more time at home. he wants to come bck anytime and meet me at home to tend to all his needs but honestly i cnt stay just at home like that, yes he takes care of my need without asking for my money but i need my job at least to take care of personal needs( my siblings, his family sometimes) i cnt be asking for money from him all the time. pls what do i do? |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by aminaeke: 11:46am On Oct 31, 2014 |
1000 likes, ur so funny Tuham: 1 Like |
Re: Women; Becoming Assets Rather Than Liabilities by Nobody: 12:43pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
aminaeke: You need to make him see how important having your own money is to you. I don't think its good for a woman to be 100% reliant on her hubby for her financial needs its always cool to have your own money. |
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