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So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 5:52pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
What is the best thing one can do in this situation. I had an argument with my boyfriend due to his lack of understanding and distance. Making me feel too left out n we are still together especially when u call just to know how he's doing once in a while. I even asked him if the best thing was to have a break so my mind would be clear n he said no. Well after the argument, I didnt speak to him for like a week, then called him and his phone was switched off. 2days later I got him, and asked him, he sounded differently, like we weren't even fighting. So I asked him why his phone was off, if he was ok, n he said he just needed time to himself, we talked for a few mins. Then I called him that noght n his phone was off again, then tried it this morning with blocked id and it was on. What do I do cos I dont even know if this is a relationship anymore, I'm tired of being the one trying to make it work. I have a feeling that he has another woman maybe even living with him n I cant just go to his house as a surprise before i find out something else n dont want to act too desperate. I want to call him this morning but want to say the right thing. Do I invite him over for a talk even though i know he moght not show up, or ask him over the phone or what? It's getting to a new year. Im already hurt and would be hurt but I just want to know what's going on or where I stand. Pls what is the best I can do? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by JustGood(m): 5:58pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
that's the end of it jare. The guy don tire |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 6:01pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
It's ok if he is, u know cos there are millions of people out there but no one wants to feel used. I am a straight forward person. Talk to me cos even if i try to move on, i would still be hurt on way or the other if this is the way it would end. I've asked him n by the way we have invested a lot. if u want to move on or a break, then he should tell me, that's why I want to talk to him. Am i wrong here? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by whatever90(f): 6:03pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
monicaa,so u still went back to that same guy dat has been chasing girls anyhow abi? comot for hiaaa jooooo |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 6:05pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
I'm asking the best thing to do. Cos that would the first step to healing. Should I talk to him over the phone for the last time or what? n tell him my mind, that I know there is another woman but i would have respected u tell me. Different people have different ways of handling situations. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 6:06pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
@Whatever90 If this is what u came here to add, pls leave, im not ready for all these. Where did I mention I went back to the same guy?? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by whatever90(f): 6:08pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Monicaa: story,then i guess u must be very cheap then,since any Man you date,gets tired of u abegiii,its d former guy,no be u just come online they beg people to advise u concerning the matter? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 6:10pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
@Whatever90 Thanks |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by meexteriox(m): 6:17pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
I really feel your pain. A guy that treats a lady this way has missed the bus to decency. I mean he should be bold enough to tell you his mind, no matter what. From the picture you've painted, you've been trying to put a rein on this relationship for a long time. Or don't you think, you've tried too much to make your guy happy neglecting yourself? My only candid advice, is to give him a break and see how it works out. Really, i don't think this guy really care for you as mush you do, from all indication. Give him a break, and i think you are scared of losing him. Fortune favours the audacious. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by princekevo(m): 7:15pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
awww that is so sad my sister jst count him as a man gone, coz if you ever get him back he will never be the same. Accept my sympathy in advance. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 7:23pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Remove your mind from the whole thing. Just let him be. I think he wants to break up with you. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by whatever90(f): 7:24pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
princekevo: sympathy ke?d thing is dat she does not want to let dis same man go,dis is not the first,second or even 15th time hes acting like dis,its either hes out there chasing women,or leaving their pics on his fone,dis is d same man dat told her dat the feelings he has for her has faded away,still dis monicaa still dey pursue am for back like pom-pin monicaa im not being harsh,but for real girl,dis guy jazz u abi na wetin?which kain fake blind love be dis one?or dont other men talk to u outside?dis is bcoming irritating u know |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by HRhotness(f): 7:31pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
is it a new man or the same one who she's been begging even tho he cheated on her continuously? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 7:35pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
HR.hotness: I think it is a new man. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by HRhotness(f): 7:36pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
chika98: that quick eh? and already with problems too. . . |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 7:37pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
HR.hotness: Some people LOVE being in relationships. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 7:45pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Monicaa: SNAP |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 7:49pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Busy_body: Trouble maker oshi |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 7:54pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
chika98: Okay seriously, we have to campaign to stop people bullying Danke, are you in Isn't it funny how she is always being asked to leave I can imagine the type of rfebel she was in school, I bet she made her teachers cry in school |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 7:56pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Busy_body: I know right? the other day it was playville abi wetin be her name again. She told her to "walk" out of her thread. lol |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 7:58pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
@meexteriox Thanks for ur understanding, It seems u were the only one that understand from a matured perspective and Chika98. As for the others, I dont know what to say, U can only talk if U've been there but if not, I guess I'm the only one that knows wats up! n would handle it by God's grace. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 8:01pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
chika98: lol and she was like "there I was minding my own business, when she rudely asked me to walk out. . ." Gosh, she's something else. What do you say we raise money to buy koboko to whip some sense into Monicaa I know she needs closure, but I don tire |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by springss: 8:01pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
chika98: Tell me who does not love being in a (good) relationship? Look, this lady has simply asked for honest advice and the best each of us could do is tell her what we would do if we were in her situation. Why belittle her or act as if she's stupid? If you can't respect other people's feelings then do not post. Those who have never been caught in the emotional turmoil of the heart will obviously never understand her point of view. Good for you if your life is so very perfect. So of us are not so lucky. Monicaa, there are possibly two things at play here; logic and emotion. Logic suggests that it might be over, but emotion wants to hold on. You can't really force a relationship. You both have to really want each other for it to work. Otherwise, one party will give and give, but get little in return. Trust me you don't want to be the only one giving. It will stripe you of all your self-esteem. It's hard to end relationships especially when there's no other person to fill the vacuum. If I was in your situation, I would search myself deep inside and trust my gut feel. If your gut tells you it's over, then it's truly over. If you walk, time will heal your hurt and pain. In time, you will learn to be indifferent towards him. You don't want to keep pouring water into a basket. It will not hold. Besides, he's not the last guy on earth, |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by HRhotness(f): 8:03pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Monicaa: enough with d drama jor. . . folk r just curious, afterall u came here crying about ur boyfriend that cheated and it was assumed it was all over. this was only a couple of weeks ago so how is it possible that u r already having problems with ur new boyfriend? and where did u find d time to get a new boyfriend seeing as u were threatening to kill urself over d old one |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 8:04pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Monicaa: Monicaa, put yourself out of your mystery and go to his house, you have nothing to lose, finding out firsthand that he has another woman would give you the closure you need sharpish. It's unhealthy the way you are dwelling on this and is surely not good for your health. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 8:06pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Busy_body: You shoulda seen me laughing my butt off that day. The chic will make someone hit their head on the wall one of these days. springss: Bia. . Fall the waaaaay back! you hear me. . just fall back! I believe Monicaa is talking about a new dude here and she JUST got out of a bad relationship. I asked her the other day why so soon? Just because some of us don't come here to cry doesn't mean we don't know the first thing about heartbreak. All we are trying to say is that she uses her head and not her heart in this situation. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 8:07pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
HR.hotness: It's the same guy, she just has a problem of letting go which is understandable |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 8:10pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
@Springss Thanks a lot dear, U just concluded it all. It's hard for me to believe that most of these people that post rubbish or just like yabbing n running their mouths are matured. People have feelings. Of cause I've got zillions of friends, family, admirers, guys at my feet at this very moment, God especially n so on but when it comes to matters of the heart, most times u want to keep to urself or see if u could get an insight. I'm Nigerian so sharing point of views with other Nigerians isn't bad but most of you are, can't even say the word Simple, if u have no reasonable thing to say, then don't post. It isn't by force. There are still some reasonable people to give advice on here, even if it's just one person, a word is enough for the wise. I'm not the kind of person to be exchanging words esp wit pple I ain't seeing Springss, once again, thanks for ur maturity, only those that are n have been there can really tell how it feels. |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Busybody2(f): 8:12pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
chika98: Chika it's the same guy, I think he is just messing with her head; Monicaa: |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by chika98: 8:14pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
Busy_body: oh. Then Monicaa you need to move on! What has guy this got sef? I see the sex is that good huh? |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by osisi6(f): 8:17pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
@ the poster,the man has actually said in unspoken words that he's not interested in you. He's avoiding you and it's obvious. Move on and forget him. and don't cheapen yourself The only man worth pleading with for forgiveness or reconciliation when there's a misunderstanding is one who has walked you down the aisle. The others are just passersby There are plenty fishes in the ocean and I ain't talking mackerel |
Re: So Confused About My Boyfriend- Pls Help by Monicaa: 8:18pm On Nov 21, 2008 |
I don tire, Busy_Body, ok now what same guy or not? Newayz like i said, if u dont have anything reasonable 2 say, then vanish! as simple as that. N i'm good. Would handle the situation myself. It will be well @ Chika98 I can end this post. I'm not holding on to the guy. It's just not a good thing to feel when u part with someone for reasons u couldnt see n so on. But it's good. It will be well n I'm good. I'll handle it myself n thanks for the gud contributions. |
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