waley007:
I have been very nice to my girlfriend kemi and she has really taken me for granted..she even cheated wit a guy abroad which I nabbed her yesterday,saw dia chat..now shes proving sturborn and arrogant to me..at times its good to be nice and its also not good to be nice,if I had been a bad guy,den I would have been bad....dont know if I should continue with her afta she begged me but shes still proving sturborn with it

silvernice:



A post making front page doesn't make nairaland a chauvinist arena bro.

Evathyst:
Up Nairaland! Progress!


Dts d code for space booking, else ur plot would be sold to d highest bidder. Lolz! Coming back to comment later.

Wisegeek01:
A lady may want a nice guy, because he's "nice"
but in
reality or wired in her subconscious mind, she doesn’t.
Because she thinks Nice is weak – it’s boring.
She wants excitement.
She wants mystery, surprise, drama.
She needs a
bad boy.

So don't blame. .. It's how they are wired*

iceberylin:
Magas be like....

poweredcom:
Well play ur game proper guys..don't trust women too much...be a playa..also if u must be nice to dem...aint notin bad being a nice buddy..but learn how to be a playa also

mecussey:


.lol..na him be say i don enter international community

2scorehigh:


Guy, how you take know? Abi na you be the electrician wey do the wiring?

rago:


1st comment so far
I like ds guy!

dasparrow:


Listen, if you are naturally pleasant - which you should be to ALL people irrespective of gender - then you really have nothing to worry about. If you pretend to be nice to a lady because she is someone that you would like to date, then there is a possibility that she might see right through your fake antagonizing self and dismiss you, lol. When she does, you then come on Nairaland and open a thread such as this one and begin to make stereotypical statements and generalizations like the BOY that you are - because REAL MEN don't act that way - and your fellow boys will come and applaud your childishness. If you don't like women, go and become a homosexual/gay and date your fellow men. Lastly, don't expect to have peace, joy and happiness in any relationship of yours involving a woman because you already think negatively about women and as a man thinketh, so are his ways says the bible. No woman who knows are true worth will stick around with a man who has a nasty character. It is a complete turn off.

By the way, your MOTHER is a woman too. You can start by being very nasty to her. It should be your mum's early Christmas present from her female-hating son whom she made a mistake to carry 9 months in her womb.

blakky97:

Just as you have NL in nigeria here, they have an equivalent forum in UsA called TOPIX. I want you to check from time to time and see what makes fp there. See intellectual discourse and contributions. Not all these fp that flaw logic in all facet. What is the meaning of a post like this? Don't the op have sisters, cousins, aunties, and friends? If one of them told him how badly she's been treated by her boss or colleagues on account of been female, will he be laughing and defending his points? Come on! Fp worthy materials should be scrutinized by intelligent people.

monex:
when you are nice. i mean nice. you cannot be taken for granted because it is on your terms.

like andromida said, it is the fake nice so she would notice you that gets taken advantage of. you niceness is your personality not something u do to please women.

and yes, nice guys can be enigmatic. she hates the fact that it is not about her but about you. she realises that you would still be nice to her if she wasnt beautiful, sexy, intelligent (and the other desirable values). those features cannot be a bargaining chip. you are nice to her because you are a nice person. you expect nothing from her hence you cannot be taken advantage of.

linnyx:

The best quote ever. Well said and accurately put. You are hailed!

MissMeiya:


End thread

drlawizle:


Thats not true my dear...you girls always have a way of turning nice guys into "weyrey" except the ones dat dont wanna learn...I once decided to take pity on a girl I met @d car park who said her money remained only #200 to be paid...I & another lady decided to pay #100 each to balance her money...then we got chatting and allowed her even use my tablet to make a phone call to the man she was going to meet...in her mind she thought she had seen a maga...she never knew I was just catching my fun...when we dropped she didnt know where she was going so I decided to help her call the guy for direction again den I described the direction to the place for her...all these while I sensed she was just studying me thinking she had caught a big fool...she got the shocker when I didnt even ask for her digits & waved her goodbye...d@s how she quickly requested for my number..I gave her nonchalantly. The fool started flashing me since then...me too was just playing along & forming maga..until today she said she's stranded financially....I just yearn am straight say I dey broke & get plenty responsibility..she say she thought doctors always have money & d@ she even thought I'm a senator the day she saw me...me just laugh throway...girls always want us to believe they are mysterious...thats a pure fallacy...how can someone with a fish brain be...she has started jelljng for me sef cos I just turn her down in a way she has never seen b4...I rarely call her sef & I cut her calls most times cos I no really send am...as from now I no go even call am again sef...she must burn credit small too abeg...enough of the fun...lets get down to business.

obidiegwujane10:
don't worry for one day u will fine love out of being nice

obidiegwujane10:
don't worry for one day u will fine love out of being nice

ak4God:
From experience,ladies dont fancy nice guys..they take them as mugu...The worst is going out of your way to please them..they will never love you.Ladies like hard/bad guys...So no to Mr Do good for Ladies.

mecussey:
Just be urself but don't trim yourself to please a woman. Have it in mind that money is the power of a man. It is better to have money and be searching for love than to have love and be searching for money.

mecussey:
Just be urself but don't trim yourself to please a woman. Have it in mind that money is the power of a man. It is better to have money and be searching for love than to have love and be searching for money.

venivedivici:


Dude, don't get it twisted. This isn't 'male chauvinistic' in any way. We all know that 'nice' in this context doesn't relate to courtesy, etiquette and the like. Those are perfect chivalrous, gentlemanly traits.
'Nice' in this context refers to being a mugu, sometimes even inadvertently, because you want to be seen as caring or so. Any reasonable man would respect a hardworking, high-earning woman, because the probability of falling mugu to her would be quite low.

Missmossy:
I reserve my comment

englishmart:
I will continue to be nice to ladies. If they mess up, karma is always ready to strike

blakky97:

Just as you have NL in nigeria here, they have an equivalent forum in UsA called TOPIX. I want you to check from time to time and see what makes fp there. See intellectual discourse and contributions. Not all these fp that flaw logic in all facet. What is the meaning of a post like this? Don't the op have sisters, cousins, aunties, and friends? If one of them told him how badly she's been treated by her boss or colleagues on account of been female, will he be laughing and defending his points? Come on! Fp worthy materials should be scrutinized by intelligent people.

andromida:


I don't get how this gal has used you or taken advantage of your niceness. It seems to me you are participating in a game where you both know where it will end.
@bolded apparently you call this gal wey you no send how e be say you no send her? and what is the business you guys are getting down to back for ground money for hand? Your niceness ended when you gave her 100 naira and allowed her to use your tablet the rest of what you've been doing is a plan to take advantage of the situation. Do what you want but no one is taking advantage of your niceness here.