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Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 1:38pm On Dec 04, 2014

[size=5pt]Okay, this post is a classic example of The Epistle Of Romance According To Coli[/size] cheesy

So, you’ve been called a LovePeddler, you’ve been labelled “cheap or finished goods”. You’ve been told either directly or indirectly; by words and/or action that you could never possibly attract the man/woman of your dreams.

There’s this nagging voice inside of you which keeps reminding you – especially at those moments when you decide to pick up the pieces of your life and move on – that you’ll never be good enough, that you’ll keep having failed relationships, that Love, no matter how badly you desire it could never happen to you!
In your quest for true love, you’ve probably lost count of the number of guys/ladies you’ve dated and or slept with. Perchance, you now subtly consider yourself abominable and unworthy of a good man/woman.

I am here to implore you to change that mind-set, change it because Good is about to happen to you, change it because your worth and value could never be determined by your actions. Every condemnation or guilt that you feel within is either from you or the cosmic rebel, certainly not God (or whichever name you know Him by) such thoughts cause more harm than good in the long run. You must reject them.

You are whole, you are worthy, you are a perfect representation of all that is good. You are royalty, you are beautiful. What you think of yourself right now is inconsequential as long as the eternal truth stated ^^^ above remains

imho, *nodding my head* you should fall in line

Yes, you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over. Yes, you keep doing those things which you know quite well are against your principles and they upset the inner core of your being. More oft than not, you consider yourself a failure having not been able to live up to your set values, principles and orientation.
Deep down, beyond your popularity, beyond that killer smile/charm and figure/build you possess, there are those moments when you do some deep soul searching and all you consider yourself as is “One Colossal Mess!”

Well, Guess What grin

[size=14pt]YOU ARE NOTHING SHORT OF THE BEST THERE IS.[/size]

There are those times too, when you know – deep within, that you’re one priceless treasure who’s just getting most of his/her priorities wrong. Sometimes you feel you have it all together, only to realize you’ve been living an illusion.
Listen Sweetheart, there is hope for you, hope for your future and the fact that you’ve read to this length means you desire real change in your life.

So, I’m going to ask two questions:

1.In as much as you desire a package deal for a Husband/wife, considering your flaws, do you really believe you can attract a man/woman that noble/virtuos in your lifetime? In other words, when it comes to romantic relationships, is your head thought in tune with your heart thought?

2.What value do you place on yourself?

If your answers to the above questions were in the negative, or quite hazy – You are welcome to read on wink

Now, all you need do is make a conscious decision this moment, to take charge of your life and in cooperation with your maker, create the kind of experience you sincerely desire of life.
You’ll need a journal with which to write down the things you desire in your man/woman of the future and your life as a whole. You’ll also make a bullet list of positive confessions, which you should recite whole-heartedly at least 2 times daily or as you’re led. Let those words become a part of you, when conversing with people, look for a way to infuse those words in your conversation.

If you used to think and say “Love only happens in movies” you could change that phrase to something like – “Love Can and Will Happen to Me”

If you used to think of yourself as unworthy and incapable of attracting AND sustaining anything good in your life, you might wanna cancel that thought process by confessing “I am good, I am worthy, priceless people and things are attracted to me, for I am priceless!”

If you continue ^^^ this way, you’ll feel peaceful and stronger, with a sense of direction and perspective.

Thank you for taking time to read.

While writing this piece, a very good e-friend’s siggy to’ally resonates:
“We CANNOT become what we need by remaining what we are

It gets better! wink

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 1:41pm On Dec 04, 2014

I've posted this before, but a thread created by Godiloveu and some snide remarks by some persons has caused me to repost it.
I earnestly wish, my purpose for resurrecting this post is achieved.

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Cwaya(m): 1:42pm On Dec 04, 2014

Nice Epistle !!

Great words of encouragement..

Ur Head is there cool

But e-toolz oo, Me I no fit dey recite my wishes 2 times oo embarassed

I fit no go work that day !! cry

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Vivly(f): 1:47pm On Dec 04, 2014

lol. Epistle of Romance section.

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by okikife(m): 1:48pm On Dec 04, 2014

You are during great dear keep it on i love that. I believe also u follow what you wrote?

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Smurfette(f): 1:53pm On Dec 04, 2014

Wow educative, encouraging and inspiring, i have learnt alot. Tanks mizmycoli.

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Greatomotoy: 1:53pm On Dec 04, 2014

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by toreoluwa(f): 1:56pm On Dec 04, 2014

well composed,tnks,,u try sef cheesy

..vry educative,, wish u can be area sis....winks

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Hitter(m): 1:58pm On Dec 04, 2014

okikife:
You are during great dear keep it on i love that. I believe also u follow what you wrote?

During ke.. downing ni undecided

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by mployer(m): 2:01pm On Dec 04, 2014

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Mprex(f): 2:02pm On Dec 04, 2014

Low Self Esteem

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 2:02pm On Dec 04, 2014

I feel like crying
Thumbs up coli

You still remain the only ladie I have dared to woo on nl

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by ronald4lif(m): 2:04pm On Dec 04, 2014

Noted!

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Booty4me: 2:20pm On Dec 04, 2014

Summary please.. I school in ekiti

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MisterLongman(m): 2:26pm On Dec 04, 2014

MizMyColi:
I've posted this before, but a thread created by Godiloveu and some snide remarks by some persons has caused me to repost it.
I earnestly wish, my purpose for resurrecting this post is achieved.

Tremendous write-up I must say. Talking about Godiloveu's thread, many comments shows the judgemental attitudes of Nigerians or should I say Africans. Instead of relieving One of his/her misery, they add to it.
Yet the Bible they claim to read says that they should first remove the log out of their own eyes before trying to remove the speck in their brother's eye.
When someone commits some wrongdoings that they have not done, they automatically believe that they are better than him/her when nobody is indeed perfect.

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 2:31pm On Dec 04, 2014

MisterLongman:

Tremendous write-up I must say. Talking about Godiloveu's thread, many comments shows the judgemental attitudes of Nigerians or should I say Africans. Instead of relieving One of his/her misery, they add to it.
Yet the Bible they claim to read says that they should first remove the log out of their own eyes before trying to remove the speck in their brother's eye.
When someone commits some wrongdoings that they have not done, they automatically believe that they are better than him/her when nobody is indeed perfect.

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 2:34pm On Dec 04, 2014

Cwaya:

Nice Epistle !!

Great words of encouragement..

Ur Head is there

But e-toolz oo, Me I no fit dey recite my wishes 2 times oo I fit no go work that day !!

shattap...swear by amadioha that you read it finish.
Coli...lemme boot my brain mbok, I gatz read/understand all.

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by IamLEGEND1: 2:40pm On Dec 04, 2014

i can't fit said anytin 4 hia.

reason?

lowed selfish estimating ant badt ingilish

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Cwaya(m): 3:05pm On Dec 04, 2014

Kachisbarbie:

shattap...swear by amadioha that you read it finish.
Coli...lemme boot my brain mbok, I gatz read/understand all.

Lol ! kachi don kill me ! grin

aswear ah read am finish.

as for de "shattap" , back to sender ! tongue

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 3:34pm On Dec 04, 2014

*Dead*

Kachisbarbie:

shattap...swear by amadioha that you read it finish.
Coli...lemme boot my brain mbok, I gatz read/understand all.

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 3:46pm On Dec 04, 2014

Counselling
I have this feeling inside of me,that counsellors are good liars. Nobody should misunderstand me,but its my belief that the counsellors are usually trying to make you believe some things they don't believe themselves,since their main aim is to make you happy,make you normal.

It works. An optimistic mind is always a happy one. To me its like this, make them optimistic,make them happy,happy till they die

Ayamlaykorn

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Tallesty1(m): 3:49pm On Dec 04, 2014

NNE MURỤ ORANILE NDEWO. OKWU GI KWỤ oto ka aka nri chukwu

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by snadguy007(m): 4:07pm On Dec 04, 2014

I was here wink

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Unluvable(f): 4:10pm On Dec 04, 2014

Tallesty1:
NNE MURỤ ORANILE NDEWO. OKWU GI KWỤ oto ka aka nri chukwu

Hilarious signature grin

Damn it!!!

Just finished reading the piece, it's nice. Too bad I'm not a fan of all rosy-good-ending.

I am a firm believer of Einstein law of motion stating that "When one body exerts a force on a second body, the second body simultaneously exerts a force equal in magnitude....."meaning there's always consequences either good or bad for all our actions.
I apply this to myself, does it mean I don't go astray? no! but I also brace myself up to face the results that will come.
Life is garbage in, garbage out!
So if you've really messed up, it's gonna hunt you....that's just the way it is

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 4:19pm On Dec 04, 2014

snadguy007:
I was here

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Beennkumar(m): 5:11pm On Dec 04, 2014

"We CANNOT become what we need by remaining what we are"

Awesome! cool

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 5:38pm On Dec 04, 2014

Nice

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 5:39pm On Dec 04, 2014

Kachisbarbie:

shattap...swear by amadioha that you read it finish.
Coli...lemme boot my brain mbok, I gatz read/understand all.

Dies

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by LEvuls(m): 5:52pm On Dec 04, 2014

Seems all the wise men and women of NL just gathered here.

Spoted

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 6:26pm On Dec 04, 2014

See this impersonator o cheesy

Kachisbarbie, ina fukwa?
Biko, there's only one Teeo on Nairaland.
He is e-NoMore.

And I was crushing on him o o embarassed

I for just open thread or send PM angry

It is well sha.

teeoo:
Nice

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 6:28pm On Dec 04, 2014

MizMyColi:
See this impersonator o

Kachisbarbie, ina fukwa?
Biko, there's only one Teeo on Nairaland.
He is e-NoMore.

And I was crushing on him o o
I for just open thread or send PM
It is well sha.

Eya, sorry.

Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 6:30pm On Dec 04, 2014

teeoo:

Eya, sorry.

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