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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by hopeforcharles(m): 8:23am On Dec 06, 2014
MizMyColi:



Awwww.......
shocked

I'm sorry jare.
I came off as harsh, but that's just me speaking with passion.

Honestly, I wasn't expecting you to be this gracious.

Thanks plenty.

I'm glad we have a common ground.

And yes, I won't play down consequence, especially when a person just makes a choice to live outrightly bad. But then again, the grace of God is sufficient smiley

He can and will meet everyone, even if not in this age.
smiley

Lol


lol tis okay, No offence taken.
but do you know I just saw and have been coming across your posts about not been Christian despite been born into it, but been of the Life and Love Religion, sorry if I might infringe on your religious privacy, I wish you do explain more why the change to me please embarassed embarassed, I am quite broad in religious matter but I am highly open-minded that I can even marry a Muslim if I want, I push limits and am inquisitive, your reply is highly anticipated and I will add it to my catalogs of ideas or views.
Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by ALKARULEZ615(m): 8:23am On Dec 06, 2014
#Mizmycoli cheesy

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by MizMyColi(f): 8:42am On Dec 06, 2014
hopeforcharles:

lol tis okay, No offence taken.
but do you know I just saw and have been coming across your posts about not been Christian despite been born into it, but been of the Life and Love Religion, sorry if I might infringe on your religious privacy, I wish you do explain more why the change to me please embarassed embarassed, I am quite broad in religious matter but I am highly open-minded that I can even marry a Muslim if I want, I push limits and am inquisitive, your reply is highly anticipated and I will add it to my catalogs of ideas or views.

Okay......
Honestly, I decided to stop talking about my beliefs.

I replied the moniker up there for reasons known to me.

My beliefs are not in a straight line.

I can be a christian today, atheist tomorrow, agnostic next.....other days, I just get tired of labels.

The only two I never get tired of are those in my siggy.

I really wish you could go through my threads in the religion section.

They'll give you a better grasp.

Then you can ask me questions and I'll reply.

Honestly, I've forgotten most of what I believe or not.
I can be lazy like that
grin grin

I have become oblivious of beliefs........

More than anything else, I want to live and love. Those are enough for me.

There's a link I posted up here, it's a book on Amazon.

Looking at the preview pages will help you get what I'm about too.

That said.......I still practice christian values in one or more ways, but that's chiefly because that's how I was raised and I honestly don't find anything wrong with them.

Truth is Truth, No matter who or what says it.

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Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Nobody: 8:43am On Dec 06, 2014
MizMyColi:


[size=5pt]Okay, this post is a classic example of The Epistle Of Romance According To Coli[/size] cheesy



So, you’ve been called a LovePeddler, you’ve been labelled “cheap or finished goods”. You’ve been told either directly or indirectly; by words and/or action that you could never possibly attract the man/woman of your dreams.

There’s this nagging voice inside of you which keeps reminding you – especially at those moments when you decide to pick up the pieces of your life and move on – that you’ll never be good enough, that you’ll keep having failed relationships, that Love, no matter how badly you desire it could never happen to you!
In your quest for true love, you’ve probably lost count of the number of guys/ladies you’ve dated and or slept with. Perchance, you now subtly consider yourself abominable and unworthy of a good man/woman.

I am here to implore you to change that mind-set, change it because Good is about to happen to you, change it because your worth and value could never be determined by your actions. Every condemnation or guilt that you feel within is either from you or the cosmic rebel, certainly not God (or whichever name you know Him by) such thoughts cause more harm than good in the long run. You must reject them.

You are whole, you are worthy, you are a perfect representation of all that is good. You are royalty, you are beautiful. What you think of yourself right now is inconsequential as long as the eternal truth stated ^^^ above remains

imho, *nodding my head* cool you should fall in line

Yes, you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over. Yes, you keep doing those things which you know quite well are against your principles and they upset the inner core of your being. More oft than not, you consider yourself a failure having not been able to live up to your set values, principles and orientation.
Deep down, beyond your popularity, beyond that killer smile/charm and figure/build you possess, there are those moments when you do some deep soul searching and all you consider yourself as is “One Colossal Mess!”

Well, Guess What grin

[size=14pt]YOU ARE NOTHING SHORT OF THE BEST THERE IS.[/size]

There are those times too, when you know – deep within, that you’re one priceless treasure who’s just getting most of his/her priorities wrong. Sometimes you feel you have it all together, only to realize you’ve been living an illusion.
Listen Sweetheart, there is hope for you, hope for your future and the fact that you’ve read to this length means you desire real change in your life.


So, I’m going to ask two questions:

1.In as much as you desire a package deal for a Husband/wife, considering your flaws, do you really believe you can attract a man/woman that noble/virtuos in your lifetime? In other words, when it comes to romantic relationships, is your head thought in tune with your heart thought?

2.What value do you place on yourself?

If your answers to the above questions were in the negative, or quite hazy – You are welcome to read on wink.




Now, all you need do is make a conscious decision this moment, to take charge of your life and in cooperation with your maker, create the kind of experience you sincerely desire of life.
You’ll need a journal with which to write down the things you desire in your man/woman of the future and your life as a whole. You’ll also make a bullet list of positive confessions, which you should recite whole-heartedly at least 2 times daily or as you’re led. Let those words become a part of you, when conversing with people, look for a way to infuse those words in your conversation.

If you used to think and say “Love only happens in movies” you could change that phrase to something like – “Love Can and Will Happen to Me” smiley
If you used to think of yourself as unworthy and incapable of attracting AND sustaining anything good in your life, you might wanna cancel that thought process by confessing “I am good, I am worthy, priceless people and things are attracted to me, for I am priceless!”

If you continue ^^^ this way, you’ll feel peaceful and stronger, with a sense of direction and perspective.


Thank you for taking time to read.

While writing this piece, a very good e-friend’s siggy to’ally resonates:
We CANNOT become what we need by remaining what we are


It gets better! wink


i think say title na "Stop devaluing your currency"
Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Acekidc4(m): 2:55pm On Dec 21, 2014
Nice Write up Madam! U re 2much!
Re: Stop Devaluing and Belittling Yourself by Acekidc4(m): 3:00pm On Dec 21, 2014
Nice Write up Madam! U re 2much! .! ;DNice Write up Madam! U re 2much! .!

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