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Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by eagleeye2: 7:12am On Dec 19, 2014 |
You snoop and call 'imaginary' mistresses...... what then happens when the real mistress surfaced? Like your hubby rightly pointed out "you won't do nadda if he chose to marry another wife"..... I tell women, build up yourself and know that you are solely responsible for your own happiness. Your husband is meant to complement you and you complement your husband. But when you make another human being your "chi" this is often the result. 5 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:13am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Na wa |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Lilamartedi(f): 7:15am On Dec 19, 2014 |
PDPwayoo:I don't think there is any amount of provocation that would make a man wake up one day and decide to walk out from a 10years old marriage and three kids.. From all indications the woman never cheated on him 10 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by MARKone(m): 7:15am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Madam your prayer for your husband get as e be, I am saying this, because I do not understand how an entire family will plan behind you to marry another wife for their son, knowing fully well that you have been together for 10yrs as husband and wife and blessed with 3 children. The action of your in laws and husband might be seen bad, but remember he who comes into equity, must come with clean hands. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:16am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove:Clap,Clap, Clap. Congratulations Lady,you destroyed yer marriage with yer own hands. and i'm so proud of you. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by eagleeye2: 7:18am On Dec 19, 2014 |
CeejayCharles:and after beating sense into his head, they will also beat sense into his heart and make his manhood to rise at the sight of their sister.........Mtchweeee 7 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by kristen12(f): 7:19am On Dec 19, 2014 |
GhaliNaaba:You're saying trash. Just pray it doesn't happen to your sister or your female children 10 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by OsoDupe(f): 7:19am On Dec 19, 2014 |
This is very painful and very sad.I once read that when u hold a grudge against someone,ur joy won't be full, u will feel miserable, my advise is let go of the grudge, be happy within urself. Give ur husband the surprise of not attacking him,that's when his conscience will start beating him for you.Karma is around the corner for your husband. A question too, does d new wife knows he has a wife,if not find out and expose him maybe that will get the marriage cancelled. If she knew already it's time u find ur way out of that house, go to ur mama and be happy. Just remember, Karma is around the corner. Edited well since u were the cause of him marrying another wife, I think it's high time u left the house with ur kids, ur marriage with him is over since he said u are not his true love, go start a new life for urself, who knows, u might find ur own true love and stop seeing marriage as a responsibility. 5 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:20am On Dec 19, 2014 |
sledjama: Your dadda passed on with nothing behind and when your mama will pass on she will defitely leave an estate behind for you to lavish on. Lazy child having hatred for their daddy since 1950. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:20am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Very sad story. The problem is, the man was not ready to fight for his marriage. I wonder.....what type of marriage did he want? One where the woman would ''be sensitive to his every needs''? Sorry, but I have no sympathy for the man. He forgot that his role in the marriage was not to be served, but to serve.(Goes for the wife too). If we men stop behaving as if marriage is all about our needs....and start seeing marriage as an opportunity to serve....then there would be a lot less breakdowns, and a lot more stable homes. TO The OP... Your man has let you down. But now....even though I hate to say this....forgive him, don't curse him and move on. If you can't, that is OK....you can ask for God's help to forgive him. Because as the Lord's Prayer says....Forgive us our sins, even as we forgive those who sin against us. Your husband has sinned against you and your children. Now, forgive him and leave the rest to God. Tough, huh. But no one said that Christianity is an easy religion. Too often, it involves a calling to forgive others even as Christ forgave us and served as a sacrifice for our sins. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by eagleeye2: 7:20am On Dec 19, 2014 |
condralbede:Guy you suppose dey preach for all the MFM people....... wey dey always shout, "fire come down and burn him and destroy him" The God that I serve is a God of mercy and second chances. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by slap1(m): 7:21am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Sorry dear, but you set the ball rolling. I wish you a quick recovery. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by bigiyaro(m): 7:24am On Dec 19, 2014 |
This is Africa, polygamy is normal, why acting like the whole world is coming to an end, after this, another wife will still follow much later. Get use to it. 3 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:24am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Bridgetown: Oi....her dad left them and their mother alone ages ago....for another woman. And you expect them to suddenly have warm feelings for him after that. Once knew a family where the same thing happened. And it started a chain of events that led to one of the children being emotionally scarred for life....which led him to make bad choices that led to his passing on at a young age. It is a painful thing...betrayal. That is why the Bible condemns adultery....it leaves a lot of hurt and wounded people. Hope no one betrays you like that. 16 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Edusouls(m): 7:24am On Dec 19, 2014 |
kai,marriage is not easy, anyhow it is done,anytime, no matter if you marry graduate or not,if your wife is house wife or working class.i reapeat marriage is not easy, this 10 year old marriage exploded like a timed bomb, and blew it into bits and pieces, well this woman just told us the tip of the iceberg. the real saga that sunk this marriage is best known between this woman and this man... 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by folabayo1(f): 7:25am On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:25am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove:rubbish ... with this abusive words, I don't think you are a good wife material 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by kevoh(m): 7:27am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Bridgetown:Took the words out of my mouth . |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Misogynist2014(m): 7:27am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove:What is bad about polygamy ? You want him to eat beans all the days of his life? 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:27am On Dec 19, 2014 |
jossi994: Now, now...don't be letting off the man easy. It is the man's fault.....he went after other women because his wife was not so perfect as he originally thought. And that is where the problem lies. When getting married....don't look for a human goddess. They do not exist(except in the mind of some manga authors). Women are imperfect. Learn to live with their imperfections....as they would with yours. Stop blaming the woman....why was the man such a coveter of his neighbor's property!? 17 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:27am On Dec 19, 2014 |
My advise... Firstly-keep calm(very important), Secondly-You can choose to attend the wedding if you wish(but if you can't then its all good, Thirdly-Do not pack out of your husband's house (yet). Am sure you must have told your parents the issue on ground so therefore it will be good for you and your kids to go and spend sometime with them.You need to clear your head and mind.I know it will be difficult at first,in fact it may look impossible but it is what you have to do for yourself and your kids.Good thing to know your husband said he will still be responsible for you and your kids. After all these, you need to get a job(very very important). Your husband's salary don divide as per say new wife don enter and he thinks he is in love(infatuation). so its gonna be one quarter for ur kids(little or nothing for you) and the remaining for new wife and himself. This is the time to be independent and fend for yourself cos your husband is just gona be responsible just for a while but I hope he will be responsible for his kids o. After clearing your head and mind,its now up to you if you wana return as the first wife or be a single mum...but I strongly advice you listen to you parents and do what they want you to do.I will recommend you to return to your home and take you place. Now you need to stop being jealous.(calabash don break already)so its of no use anymore. If you return to your husband, please please and please be always patient and calm,no need for competition o...abeg just perform your duties as a wife and face your kids squarely and your job. But you can also decide to divorce your hubby and become a single mum. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Whobedatte(m): 7:30am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Edusouls:GBAM! 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:31am On Dec 19, 2014 |
john4reala: Look at it from her perspective....her husband ran away from home because he was not man enough to be faithful to his vows. Some of you people....and am sure you go to church on Sundays. Thing about marriage....it is not one long road of enjoyment. It is where you learn the important human lesson....that people can be loved inspite of how bad they are. And the husband is a weak willed person.....he is incapable of loving people inspite of their weaknesses. Sorry.....but he isn't a man. He is a failure. And the woman...for all her issues...did not go and conduct an affair behind her hubby's back. 13 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Larrylarex(m): 7:33am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Marc9:Who told you she's a lovely wife? Didn't you read what she typed above? A woman that won't give his husband rest of mind, calling and harassing his boss, what if he lost his job? Is that your definition of a lovely wife? This woman feels like she's a goddess and there is nothing her husband could do without her, that's why she said she never knew he could cope without her during the separation period. Moreso she talked about the patience of his husband, but for a very patient man to take such step, then she must have frustrated his life to the zenith! Meanwhile, have you heard the husband's side of the story? There might be more shocking revelations! There is no way the op will not have euphemised some of her undoings, 'elejo 'o ni ro tie l'ebi laelae'! Now to be sincere what the husband did was wrong, he could have handled it in a more matured way, but some women are just so unreasonable and unyielding! 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:34am On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: She never said the husband was cheating initially , she was insecure and assumed any woman close to the husband had an affair with him , she even went as far as warning a colleague off him. Stop trying to make it seem the husband was one randy goat and that her dependence on her husband was her undoing , I know feminism is the motto for young ladies nowadays but it shouldn't excuse women when they do wrong. Anyways the man gave her clear warning of her actions and what it would result to 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:34am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Eyah A wise woman buildeth her home but a foolish woman... 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Btruth: 7:34am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Madam you need to tell us the whole story. What have done to your husband? Your husband cannot just wake up and decided to marry another woman if he is happy with you. Most men find it difficult to stay with 2 women, even one alone sometimes can be headache talkless of jumping beds between 2 women. Anyway, text your husband, since he won't pick your call and asked him to call my MTN number, at least I will find out what happen from him and probably talk some sense into his head to stop the wedding. At least we still have the whole of today, a bi? |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by okiezman(m): 7:36am On Dec 19, 2014 |
This is a copy and paste thingy |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:37am On Dec 19, 2014 |
davdandam:EXACTLY....THIS OP WOMAN AIN`T TELLING US SOMETHING. FROM HER POST I CAN DEDUCE THAT (1)SHE HAS ALL ALONG BEEN EXTREMELY INSECURE!! (2) THIS HAS BEEN A HIGHLY LOVELESS UNION! (3) OP IS NOT A NICE PERSON, SHE HAS ISSUES, SHE SHOULD LEARN TO BE LOVING AND NICE TO THE HUSBAND. BUT ALAS ITS TOO LATE. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by roqrules04(m): 7:37am On Dec 19, 2014 |
It's simple OP, u'r Husband married a second wife |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by chronique(m): 7:40am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Train up a child the way He should grow and when He's old,He will not depart from it. Some of the problems we have today,can be directly traced to the inability of some parents to do what they should have done(train their kids properly). There's no way I'd be married,and now go an tell my parents that they should come and join me to pick another wife. Despite the fact that I'm from a polygamous home,no one of them will follow me(my mum especially). I know my siblings would quarel with me over it. Life isn't so complicated;humans make it what it is. 5 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by SexySapphire(f): 7:41am On Dec 19, 2014 |
If this is true, it is devastating. I can understand the hate and anger going through your mind at the moment. Lemme just drop my two cents as a lady. What your hubby did is unforgivable buh I think I understand why he did it. As u said earlier, u were chosen for ur hubby by his relatives which means both of u didn't meet each other, date, fall in love and all those paparazzi so definitely u guys av been coping with each other in the marriage cos it's a loveless marriage. I'm sure u went into the marriage wit the notion that both of u will fall in love with time which obviously didn't happen wit dear hubby. Now he has found someone he thinks he's in love with. I'm sorry if this hurt buh I jst av to say this, u partly drove ur hubby into it. You calling his contacts without prove dat he is indeed dating them is what brought up this issue to the extent that u guys had to be seperated for 3months and in the course ur hubby sought for refuge in the arms of this lady in question. When u came back home, ur hubby had already become use to ur usually attitude so he didn't bother to respect or hide anytin from u and as usual, u also started nagging. Nothing irritates a man more than a nagging wife and so ur hubby came to the conclusion dat so far u will always nag, he has to bring in the love of his life who will always calm him down when u start nagging. Bae, the thing to do now is to ensure the wedding doesn't happen, go to the place where they will be joined together and disrupt it. U don't av to be violent about it, just walk up to the priest or whoever that is gonna join them and explain situation of things to him. And pls now is the right time to dust ur certificates and be on the look out for job. Now is not the time to be heart broken, it is the time to strategize. I'm not going to tell u to leave his house or not buh if u're ever gonna leave, pls take ur kids along. I wish u all the best. 1 Like |
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