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Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by peren: 2:07pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
poster pls i think you should accept your faith and learn to live happily with your new wife, you are the major cause of your problems so for me now you should try and live with the consequences. live peacefully with them, get a job and secure your own future and that of your kids, do this with urgency. Your not the first person who's husbands marries another wife. Take solace in the fact that your the first and his only legal wife. Live Laugh and Love. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Jeolight: 2:33pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
I don't see any reason why d woman should be blamed here. if the man is no longer interested he should divorce d woman. settle everything with her and d children. men don't consider how women feel if they ate taking another wife. it is EVIl to the present wife she might die of heart attack. if it is d man that is checking d woman's phone you people will say it is okay but d woman can't check d man's phone. men, God is watching. madam pls go out of that house before you kill someone or die of heart attack. God will take care of you. 5 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
As much as i SUPPORT, RESPECT and CHERISH the HOLY marital instituion called POLYGAMY, i do not support what this man has done, if the story is true. Going into polygamy without the full consent of your WIFE, means utter DISRESPECT for the woman in question. How on earth do you want a GROWN individual to be a part of polygamy without her full consent? Even if the lady was being too pesky, he shouldn't have just got up and entered into another marriage without first properly dissolving the one he was into, if it was the only way out. Men like your husband, op, are the reason people look down on polyamy. His likes are the reason feminists have the gut to talk to us the way they feel like. Those men here saying "this is Africa" are only being immoral and unreasonable! Polygamy does not equate to unfairness, incosideration and immorality. Infact, the HOLY institution of marriage called Polygamy is contrary to all what you men, who are telling her "it's aFrica" stand for. To the feminists here saying men telling their wives to be housewives only means an attempt to control, i would quickly like to point out to you that the op never mentioned that her remaining a housewife was a criteria she had to agree to before the got married. She did not mention it that even after they got married, the man made sure she got no education. That the man made sure that she did not work while they were married. So i cannot understand how we can draw up, from her story, that the man controled her because she isn't empowered! Haven't you seen where a man left an 'independent' woman for someone else? So what do we tell the man who is not too 'empowered' and married to a woman who is 'independent'? 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 2:48pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
craziebone: What is this bunkum? 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by dBard: 2:49pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Thank God dis is coming from a lady. My wife's friend was also in this kinda situation..dating a banker n very insecure cos of the difference in status n u can guess how that rtnship ended. My ex was d same way during my service yrs,esp in camp..Calling,checking up,nagging to d point I dreaded seeing her calls, and yet I avoided situations that will compromise me cos of her to the point my fellow female corp members were calling me gay..long story short, am married n not to her. It's quite simple, recognize ur insecurities n work on it. Every man just wants peace of mind. I think the o.ps husband is making a mistake with this marriage to his love but I understand d y. The o.p is the architect,builder n decorator of her own misfortune n I doubt she has the mental fortitude to deal with the subsequent 'matters arising' |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 2:54pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: the "bunkum", whatever it that means, implies babyosisi. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 2:56pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove: Upbringing and culture has a lot to do with this These are the sort of stories you hardly hear in Igboland That a man will be wanting to marry a second wife and the family of that second wife asks him to go reconcile with the first one before marrying their daughter What nonsense is that to make matters worse he even had the guts to inform your family ahead of time that he is marrying another wife but will pity you and stay with you and your family accepted this You end the first marriage and move on to the other wife This is 2014 for heavens sake All this communal bed sharing Una never hear of HIV Where are you from because this is all strange to me This is just so messed up First your parents give you out in an arranged marriage and now negotiating to keep you after the man has replaced you,are you no longer their child? Sorry at poster,all these your tales sound very pathetic You better get out of that environment before you go crazy If this were me,no man will have the guts to stand and tell my father this Fear no go gree am,say wetin happen,was I chiseled out of a stone Is he doing me a favor by marrying me or what? Biko grow some backbone,there are three children depending on you 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by lafflaff123(m): 3:04pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: 10 likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by cococandy(f): 3:07pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
jaybee3: |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Saraha1(f): 3:11pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Hmmmm. This is serious. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 3:13pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
All these young ladies,you better learn from these stories o First of all never ever you give a man the impression that he rescued you and your family from shame ,even if he did You never talk down on your family or belittle them before your husband That is the only reason a man will have the audacity to walk up to a woman's parents and tells them he is about to replace their daughter and your own brother who drank off the same milk as you tells the man not to tell you yet nobody in that family gave both your pathetic brother and the so called husband a dirty slap and tells them both to go to hell and burn to ashes. You haven't told us details of this marriage arrangement Is this man the one feeding your family?I highly suspect that 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Goldenboy007(m): 3:15pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Women?!!! They will start the battle whose war they can't win! When you started this battle did you ask for advice? Now the war is bigger than you and you have started cursing and seeking advice!! Now the story may be real or fictitious, however instead of young ladies to learn from this they are busy giving useless vindictive advice as if they have the experience! 90% of you will push your husband/fiancé out with your attitude!!! I have read so many advice from girls, ladies and women on this forum and it's amazing the valueless society we find ourselves!! Men are no saints but many of them have conscience. There exist in every man a king and a mad man, it now depends on the one you address. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by CoCoLav(f): 3:20pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
bushdoc9919: Men like you exist? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by etomama(f): 3:22pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Madam I feel for you but I believe that the Lord can still redeem your marriage. Please DO NOT pack out of your matrimonial home. Intensify on your prayer rather than cursing your first love because d battle is going to be fierced afta d so called wedding o . you will see things that may want to make ur blood boil, just allow God. To fight for you. In the same vein, pls go get ur self a job. The Lord will renew the wine of your marriage. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by PehaKaso: 3:23pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: Pls spot on & educate them. In this thread, I just discovered the Nairaland ladies who lord over their spouses just because they are career ladies. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Olufemiolaolu(m): 3:27pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Sorry you ruined ur home ur self. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Terry68: 3:35pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
I partly give you the blames. I don't think its right; punching and combing the content of your spouse phone. It's not always healthy. Many homes and mere relationship has ended due to this. You should have continued your good wife exhibition and at times table your observation romantically with him to cling that change you desire. Many guys including me don't like people(even my best friends) going through my text messages. Don't give your hubby reasons to leave you. Always try to avoid him getting angry even if he's mean. There are many women out there wishing they were you. I will kindly advice you stay off their marriage line/house to avoid you kids and you being maltreated. "I think the jealousy was over displayed" |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by lafflaff123(m): 3:38pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: You will be here on some fictitious moniker soon seeking for advice, loser. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by ladej(m): 3:41pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
if you don't learn we will be waiting for your post in the near future. na u know....#PHONECHECKER Juzzybabe: |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 3:47pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: Fixed. Preaching to someone that they "should've found (or need to find) the 'right' person" is in no way a sufficient answer. Most people feel they have the 'right' person, and the unpredictable is prone to creep into the most common of relationships. In truth, her advice was spot on, or in your words 'GBAM'. 3 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by ladyju(f): 3:52pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Oh my God! What a humiliation. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by dhabeautyjas(f): 3:57pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
humilitypays: its true there are frustrated successful women out there. but did u read between the lines? from all she said, the man has completely written her off, she has her own faults, yeah but have you also thought about the fact that the man also may have his own (most gentle men are more dangerous, he may have been having affairs since they got married but his gentility will be ccovering for him.) now the man doesnt want her as he said he doesnt love her. so do you expect her to remain in the house and be molested with their new found love and also tormented, is it not better she picks her life before its late? |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by DollyParton1(f): 4:04pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
lakamua:just like ur Grandmother, mother, sister(s), Aunties and female cousins 3 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by WUMBOS(f): 4:05pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
so sorry about dat madam.......................pls just try 2 comport ursef,i believe all will be well |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by LaRoyalHighness(f): 4:12pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Na do or die affair ni? VenusBetty: |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by adorable29(f): 4:17pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Timbuktou: What is this one saying? Mr alignment! Please help me align my post to the right thread! |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by adorable29(f): 4:38pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
@poster, my sixth sense tells me this story is as fake as my fake eyelashes! Your write up has no direction. One the one hand, you are cursing your husband and on the other hand, you are EMPHASIZING how you caused him high blood pressure and how his new wife is so wonderful and how your husband deserves to be happy.... It appears to me that you are seriously defending the man's action in reply to the comments here! Your post on this thread seems "psychologically unusual" for a woman who JUST DISCOVERED her husband is getting wedded tomorrow! Are you trying to do a research for a nollywood script or something? Anyway, even tho I seriously think this story is as fake as nicki minaj's booty, I believe that lessons can be learnt from it. But I am not fooled. YOU ARE A GUY who created a new moniker just to get opinions on this subject matter! My take! 3 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: see your life? Your problem is just your antagonism to polygamy. My dear, if you don't want it, don't do it! No one is forcing you. After reading here post where she painted a pic that she was the one at fault, this is still all you have to say! The problem with you feminists is that you just think women are not humans who could make mistakes. When she opened this thread, you all were trying to point out that her not being educated and empowered is the reason the man is "controlling her". I want you to take a look at her post again and see if there are gramatical errors there. Does her post resemble that of an illitrate? Typical of you feminists. Even when the woman confessed with her own mouth that she took advantage of her husband being quiet, you still want her to play the victim and not take responsibility. Infantilizing women is one of the ways feminism is deciving women around the world. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 5:16pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Evina:Somehow, this comment goes unnoticed while tons of rubbish advice given to the OP is being hailed as the "modern" way to handle issues. I can bet that many of the women talking rubbish here will be singing "had I known" in the future. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by egobetatoday: 5:25pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
its just a pity for the women folk. na wa oo. i like the fact that the Op didnt hide the fact that she was at fault. but why will a lady date a married man in the first place? why? How will u feel if u are put thru the same? like my hubby will always say- women are their biggest problem. they a problem to themselves and to other women. its just a pity sha. they will try all they can to make sure they are a part of a married man's life. like say na the national cake be dat. the annoying thing is dat these successful men will not decode that its just because of their money. Do u think that same girl will marry u as a second wife if u were a bricklayer? and once they marry these men they begin to go to all the spiritual places in the world to make sure they tie d man to themselves n d mumu man will be like this is the kind of marriage i wanted not knowing the juju under the bed. flirt as much as u want but for God's sake not with a married man now. there is a word called Karma oo. To think that some of those husband snatchers are here reading it Mtchewwwwwwww. Go n look for your own man ehhnn. 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Shirley07: 5:27pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:The difference between your aunt and all these working wives is, one has no life outside her husband while the other has various things to keep her mind on. I'm sure you won't like to be like your aunt.. As a matter of fact, having no life outside marriage is the root of all these nagging, low self esteem bla bla. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 5:31pm On Dec 19, 2014 |
egobetatoday: First you complain about women being the biggest problem to each other and then you continue bashing women. Are you not guilty of what you complain about? And how have you chosen to ignore the fact that it was the husband that took the vows and promised something to his wife and not the other woman? 3 Likes |
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