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Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by adorable29(f): 7:41am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Typical Nigerian mentality! Blame the woman for the husband's cheating ways! So, she isn't perfect. So she outta love, insecurity and fear of losing her husband snooped on her husband's fon and challenged her husband's mistresses. Is that enough for him to betray his 3 kids and wife and discard his family? If he could have 3 kids with his wife and live with her for 10 good years, why can't he be wise enough to try and work on his marriage. Now the bombshell! HOW CAN HE TELL THAT THIS NEW WIFE WILL BE THE ANGEL GOD SENT FROM HEAVEN TO GIVE HIM THE PERFECT MARRIAGE! I laugh at some men! Soon this new angelic wife will start having her own kids for him, become stressed with family, work and kids, become insecure cos she has had 3kids and don't look as hot as she use to and also try to snoop on her husband's fon cos she is also afraid to loose him! So what is he gonna do then! MARRY ANOTHER PERFECT WIFE! Hahaha! Yeye dey smell! 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by otokx(m): 7:42am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Does OP have a male child? How is it that the family is now totally on the man's side? Women should learn to work and a regular job at that no matter how "rich" the husband is. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by condralbede(m): 7:42am On Dec 19, 2014 |
eagleeye2:Same to the one I serve Broo... 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:43am On Dec 19, 2014 |
adorable29: Yeah...and the man will keep on searching for the perfect wife....until infinity. When will we humans learn? If we are not perfect ourselves....why expect others to be perfect? 11 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Larrylarex(m): 7:45am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Edusouls:Ori e pe jare! Tell them o |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by GhaliNaaba(m): 7:46am On Dec 19, 2014 |
kristen12:Shut up! I see you hate the truth. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Sleekyshuga(f): 7:47am On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by stagger: 7:48am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove: |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by kristen12(f): 7:48am On Dec 19, 2014 |
GhaliNaaba:Get lost! Which useless truth can drop from your mouth 5 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:50am On Dec 19, 2014 |
kristen12: Truth is bitter. It happened to my sister cos she is an abusive wife and i supported the husband openly b4 the family. Now she is on her own and the man is married to another woman. From the bottom of my heart, i sympathize with this nice woman and i didnt say the man is right but most women have bad mouth/bad behavior. I have seen a woman telling her husband " i dont blame you, is because i married u" when i had better men looking for me. (this is very provocative) No man is prepared to live in hell that is called home. 7 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by lakamua: 7:50am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Your husband is a very very good man. He gave you all you needed yet u went frustrating his life and trying to spoil it even after warnings. You married him for money and he knows. He is quiet so he wont tell u but the proof is clear. He has found a woman who truely likes him, rich or poor |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by IDEApro(m): 7:50am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Before a man embark on this journey, his home front is a living hell. Op, you chased the man away. Stop seeking for pity party. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by GhaliNaaba(m): 7:51am On Dec 19, 2014 |
kristen12:. Not well trained child. You better learn how to behave in your husband house or else he send you packing. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:53am On Dec 19, 2014 |
The problem started when you were the one chasing women away from him, no man who truly loves his wife would put her through such. All i can say now is, use all that energy you have put into hating him into something more productive. Figure out how to move past this, it wont be easy but just try. Start living your life for you and your kids because at this point and time this is all that matters. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by EHoudini: 7:53am On Dec 19, 2014 |
With d amount of venom, poison in u and vitrolics coming outa u; methinks 'ur husband' must really be some special breed of a man to have taken all in whole 10yrs. The man it right. She's hateful n deserve a little worse 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by GhaliNaaba(m): 7:54am On Dec 19, 2014 |
IDEApro:yes oooooo. Reading from the woman shows. She is a woman no reasonable man should pray for in life. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:55am On Dec 19, 2014 |
SexySapphire:wow! brilliant post coming fro a lady. THANKS. nagging is a cancer to a man. nagging must be avoided at all cost in marriages! 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by adorable29(f): 7:55am On Dec 19, 2014 |
bushdoc9919: Its funny tho, in this present age (not necessarily the older generation)..... I have observed around me that men who abandon their families for their mistresses almost always show regret... I may be wrong but here is why I think is the reason. In those days, it was normal to just opt for a new wife but in this present age, it isn't! Ordinarily a decent, religious (Christian) and well behaved girl with good value systems and good conscience shouldn't date a married man. Talkless of marrying him when he hasn't even divorced his first wife. If she is from a good family, her parents ought to vehemently reject the marriage unless ofcourse he is very rich and just after his money. What kind of value system and behavior does that portend? So even the girls family are irresponsible. So character and personality wise, the new wife may even be worse off! This new wife may just be pretending and showing only her angelic character for now. The man eye go soon neat! 13 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by lakamua: 7:55am On Dec 19, 2014 |
You even left him for 3months hoping he will not be able to cope. Most women over rate their importance o. Hope he has shown you dat every fuckin woman can be replaced like tyre d moment she misbehaves 3 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Misogynist2014(m): 7:58am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove:Your story sounds like nollywood movie, it can't face my manly questions. If at all its true, then it means your narrative prowess is poor and mental capacity is low, giving a viable reason for him getting married to another chick. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by kristen12(f): 7:58am On Dec 19, 2014 |
GhaliNaaba:Mr trained adult. Train your children well and send your advise to your sisters, if not they'll beat them to pulp, throw their pieces inside Ghana must go and send them to your house |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 7:59am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Just like that? Wow!! This story is incomplete |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by lakamua: 8:00am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Your husband is a patient man. I would hv kicked u out on d first day of the marriage. This is a typical case of a non wife material. Keep behaving like an internet girl and doing all the trash they tell you. Hope they will come and save ur marriage now 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by rollingpoint027(m): 8:01am On Dec 19, 2014 |
what a sad xperience n sins he said he wud marry anoda woman and dere's nutin u can do abt it,luk at d brite side.....u av 3 wonderful kids and dos shud be ur main concern n not a man who decides to ovaluk 10yrs of marriage..........kids are the ultimate reward of marriage n u av 3 luvly kids. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by janvier27(m): 8:01am On Dec 19, 2014 |
He will definitely have his own stories too. Cursing your husband and father of your children isn't right. Now is time to face the challenge of showing more love and empathy.if you still have that much love, hang on. Talk him into getting yourself and your kids a separate apartment. Work on improving yourself in every respect, especially being financially independent. It's never too late to start that. Continue to respect and show him love. You stand a very good chance of getting him back fully and intact. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 8:02am On Dec 19, 2014 |
hatelove:You guys were done at this point. Sorry for the way the whole thing played out. I guess he never really came back to you once you had that first huge problem. However, I fail to see why you think he deserves curses. At worst, you're both complicit. Have you cursed yourself for your involvement? |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 8:02am On Dec 19, 2014 |
lakamua: Did I miss a line? Where in the OP's statement did she mention she was frustrating her hubby's life? Which sane woman would do that? 4 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Jessyj616: 8:03am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Is your hubby a muslim or any other religion that allows more than one wife? If no, dear scatter the wedding ( i am taking this personal) when the pastor asks "is there anybode here with a reason on why this duo shouldnt get married?" rise up. If indeed his religion agrees pls pack your bags and children outta the house before you subconsciously kill somebody and get convicted for murder. As for you op....ahah.... For your husband to say you took your marriage as a a responsibility not love....check yourself did you usually welcome him home, ask him how his day went and so on. Sorry i am not thinking, i am taking this personal 7 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 8:03am On Dec 19, 2014 |
dominique: For once a woman read and grasped the story , even some men didn't read the story. I was once in a similar relationship where I had this girlfriend who constantly harassed any female she sees with me while I never cheated on her , the final straw came one day when she came to my apartment saw an unknown lady and started raining curses on her , the said lady just kept her cool and waited for me to return home. On getting home I noticed there was so much noise coming from the apartment , I entered and I saw my girlfriend shouting and cursing this lady , the lady simply just said to me , " brother mi , e ti ri iyawo fe o " , meaning , " my brother you haven't found a wife to marry yet" , she was my younger cousin from Ibadan who came into Lagos for 3 days on a business meeting. Immediately she realised who she was she started smiling and saying , " aburo oko mi bawo ni , e ma binu si mi , mi o mo pe eyin ni aburo oko mi " , ( my husbands younger sister how are you , do not be angry with me I didn't realise you're his younger sister ). Needless to say the relationship went downhill afterwards. Really some women send their men into the arms of other women but I wouldn't have taken the step the man took as I believe once a man makes the decision to marry he should do everything possible to make that marriage work , if it is still in the courting phase he should just pull out. 8 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by dhabeautyjas(f): 8:04am On Dec 19, 2014 |
OP, i am.......hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..................... in fact ................ i don't know what to say. the deed has been done, there is no need apportioning blames, both of you had your share of the blame. Way forward is what you need right now. 1. Leave that house as soon as possible 2. Try getting a job no matter how small the income is. 3. You should not choose spouses for all of your children (this is where the real problem started). 4. there is no need thinking of re-marrying, u have 3 kids already. 5. Make up your mind you will make it and go for it. 6. Teach your female kids to be self sufficient and never be insecure (that has caused you a lot) 7. don't ever think of hurting him or his wife. its obvious he never loved you, he just married u for marriage sake and he has found love. when you are in TRUE love, There is no going back oooo. thats why i have never been an advocate to arranged marriage. May God help you as you take your bold steps in life. in some years time, you will look back and be proud of yourself and achievements. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by dhabeautyjas(f): 8:05am On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: dear, you just spoke my mind. this issue is very dicey and needs right thinking mind to act. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Sleekyshuga(f): 8:05am On Dec 19, 2014 |
This is indeed a sad one, and an eye opener to the single/younger ones out there.. Ladies feel whenever they are told not to work and become a housewife, they are the most loved.. My dear, you are only being manipulated and controlled.. Also, we pay so much attention to marriage, forgetting that 'Marriage isn't a bed of roses'.. It comes with its own trying times.. Why get into it when you aint ready, and this readiness covers all spheres of life.. This isn't the time to heap blames on anyone.. Brace yourself, and draw your strength from God.. You have a life to live.. You have your kids to sacrifice for.. If for nothing, live for those kids.. You have people out there looking out for you.. Prove to them (husband n his next wife) that you can still make something out of life.. Don't go out there making troubles or fighting with them.. He has made his choice.. I wish you well... #Life can be a bi**ch sometimes... 2 Likes 1 Share |
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