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Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by mystmoze(m): 9:49am On Dec 19, 2014 |
You too go en marry sombody els na,wetin de dia 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Onegai(f): 9:49am On Dec 19, 2014 |
bushdoc9919: God will forever bless and increase you for this thoughts of yours. A lot of men feel like Marriage is a trap and they are doing women a favour. Since you are all so sure you can get sex easily and buy food, please stay away from us women. I'm so scared right now, I'm marrying a man whom I'm planning on supporting his career, and stories like this and the ones I've seen in real life make me want to be a single mum rather than stay, support and sacrifice for a man who will denigrate the fact that I'm a Stay-at-home mum and conveniently forget the times I stood by him, helped him with contacts and advise about his career, every meal, every time I put my life on the line bearing children that have his DNA, any prayer I spoke on his behalf and say "what do you contribute?". I've seen a man who started his life and took a loan from his MIL, once he made it, he began to cheat and beat his wife. Another, it was her aunt that helped him to a nice job and he went from humble to coming home late smelling of female perfume and refusing to give his wife money to support the family from the job her own aunt found for him. OP, LEAVE. Face your life. I say this with experience, YOU WILL LAUGH LAST. In these situations, God is never asleep. BE it in 10 years' time or 25 years' time, you're going to look back and smile. I've seen this scenario play out so many times, the story always ends with a remorseful man. Always. Better keep your sanity and above all DO NOT BECOME BITTER. 7 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Evina(f): 9:51am On Dec 19, 2014 |
veave: Hahaha Veave, your aproko satellite dish signal strong pass startimes. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 9:55am On Dec 19, 2014 |
humilitypays: I'll go with the "spell" part of it. 10years of marriage and he's just noticing this bad side of his wife.. plus abandoning his three kids.. That spell is a strong one 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by easy4beno(m): 9:57am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Firstly, I would like to say that I don't base my judgments on one side of a story, and I also have to say that your husband MAY be doing the wrong thing which I am made to believe that something must have triggered a man to go to that very extreme length. However, from what I have read so far about your illustration, I think you are using the very wrong approach to handle an already wrong situation. They say two wrongs do not make a right and I think he's wrong and you are as well wrong with the curses you have been raining on your husband.. Now to my question, I want to believe that a man would not just wake up in a day to marry someone else, the question is, what has been happening all these days without you being sensitive to? Who has your husband been rolling with in terms of friends lately? Now to you, I want to believe that the marriage hasn't been working for a while now and you refused to do anything about it, for your husband's family to wake up one day to unseat you shows that you have not had a sound relationship with them for a long time, for crying out loud, this is someone you have given birth to three children for, so any forces from relations to crumble the marriage MAY be baseless because this is africa where you have to give birth to children for your in-laws to be pleased with you.. So my conclusion is that you played a significant role in pushing your husband out to another woman's hands and now I guess you are paying for it dearly, I understand that I may be wrong but something tells me I'm being just and fair with my conclusion. Now my advice for you now is to just be seeking the face of the Lord, pray HARD for God's direction, miracle may suddenly happen and it may also mean that you may have to move on with your life and children because dragging the kids to this kind of matter may be harmful to them and to their future..May two cents for you, I hope that you will take the right step! 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by famtech: 10:01am On Dec 19, 2014 |
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Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Almeida: 10:01am On Dec 19, 2014 |
The genesis!! Am I the only one seeing this?? All was good, but you suddenly became insecure. Why??. You invaded his privacy severally, he warned you. You didn't listen. This tale is one sided. Sorry to say, but you have to come clean if you sincerely want unbiased views and comments on you situation. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Newerakings(m): 10:07am On Dec 19, 2014 |
I have carefully read the post with keen interest and I'm tempted to declare the man a monster not because of the woman in question because she partly share the blame for the marriage breakdown but because of the three innocent kids that he is about to jeopardize their future with this misguided marriage.... some persons may not understand except you are from a polygamous family... to the lady this is my candid advice no matter what happens don't ever leave your children if it means staying with that man as a first wife then you have to bear, you are not the first to experience this my mom was also a victim. your children should henceforth be your primary focus otherwise you will lose everything when the children become wayward .. Thank God the Man agrees to take care of the children and you so its no good packing out I will not help anything it will only have an adverse effect on the children's future. I can't imagine the life of a child who grows up in a polygamous home without their mother... its painful though but you have to move on what has happened has happened thanks 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:09am On Dec 19, 2014 |
humilitypays: I think i read the man expressly said he now has his love or something like that and yes in this instance the matchmaking didn't pan out well like everything in life matchmaking also has its risks. Character is important but if we are to start blaming it won't end so she is jealous for her hubby, insecure but he was cheating until he found a new wife who do we blame the most? the jealous wife of the man who couldn't keep his marriage and thought to hell with his wife after all he didn't choose her? Everyone did what they thought was best for themselves unfortunately she is worst hit. Blame solves nothing so i don't want to dig but if i were to dig what was he doing that got her insecure and how many women of her age at that time, with their world built around a husband would've been calm and cool, smiling at him, all warm and welcome when they are feeling scared? 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by anumide(f): 10:11am On Dec 19, 2014 |
chai! Just when I decided to let go of my fear of marriage and accept bae's proposal? Why did I come to nairaland this morning sef. Mizmycoli say something |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by BuddhaPalm(m): 10:16am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Another attention seeker... |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by MizMyColi(f): 10:18am On Dec 19, 2014 |
anumide: Follow your heart. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by anumide(f): 10:20am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Almeida:'come clean' how o? From the post, it's obvious the woman took 90% of the blame upon herself. What else should she do? Write an autobiography?. Anyway, I doubt that she wants ur 'unbais' views. She has about six pages of that already. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Forwetinnah: 10:22am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Was the OP properly married?? Not all these come-sidon-for-house-born-schindrens-for-me arrangement o. As in real Marriage...i dont think her husband would have the guts to go that far if that was the case. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Mzgracie(f): 10:22am On Dec 19, 2014 |
One major reason why I am scared of marriage. Even the good ones (wives) still suffer from their cheating husbands. Life is changing. Marriages change and evolve into somethings we can't really do not want. What is the way forward? What can we do to make our marriage an outstanding one? What can I do to make my marriage an outstanding one? I think it depends majorly on the woman. What if the man is not helping matters? What if he is not the understanding and the caring type? These and many more are questions bothering my mind. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Wendy80(f): 10:23am On Dec 19, 2014 |
What of the other woman who knows she's destroying a home just becos she wants to bear Mrs. Some women sha, how do they sleep @ night. Am not exonerating OP though. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by anumide(f): 10:24am On Dec 19, 2014 |
MizMyColi:Just one line? *sobs* You are the only reason I visit nairaland o |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by humilitypays(m): 10:24am On Dec 19, 2014 |
andromida:Really a sad situation, the husband didn't try at all, at least for the sake of his innocent kids, some men are brainless sha, sighs. Though I suspect the new wife must have used spell on him, its possible. May God help the poster overcome this difficult period, sad |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by tania28(f): 10:25am On Dec 19, 2014 |
So sad,scared of all this introvert guys,always quite,can never predict what they are up to.sweetheart prayer is the key to getting back your home,don't lose hope,have faith,forgive,and learn from your mistakes.may God be with you n your kids. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by humilitypays(m): 10:28am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Mzgracie:I can feel your fears, but no human can guarantee you a future happy marriage, just develop good character, be the best partner u can be and make God your solid rock and He will make things beautiful for you, fear not, God liveth for those that believe and run to Him. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:30am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Dear Lord, I pray that every family going through tough times this season will find love, joy, peace and your blessings now and always through Christ our Lord, Amen. Woman, please apologise to your Hubby, pray for him and your kids God be with you all |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:36am On Dec 19, 2014 |
humilitypays: Why spell? many people are selfish and live only for themselves. Maybe there was no spell he just wanted the new wife badly and she is willing sometimes life is that simple. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:40am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Tashamania:It's not impossible. But he must have met her when wifey moved out and didn't stop seeing her when she came back. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:44am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Cheì,am xo scared of getting married.This marriage of a thing is very flexíble.Men'i am scared. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 19, 2014 |
adorable29: Read and comprehend , the husband wasn't cheating on her before they separated and it was her ways that made them separate. It was evident that the man was fed up with her prying , nagging and insecurity before the separation , he even asked for a divorce before he started seeing someone else |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 10:56am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Adorable29, I think you're on a wrong thread. Your comment doesn't align with the information of the OP of this thread. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by marnboy(m): 11:00am On Dec 19, 2014 |
easy4beno:Rational mind; u know one when u see one! I wonder when i see some kind of comments, u can't just get up one morning and break a marriage of ten years. D only advice that we can give her as u said is just prayers so that both of them can have a change of heart not curses. |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by yemivictor: 11:05am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Almeida: You're on point, sir! Couple issues have to be addressed with both parties in attendance and i find it quite amusing when mostly wives, fiancees or GFs come on here for counselling with a one-sided story. You'd now see the teenagers (and non-teenagers with zero matrimony experience) dishing out advice on one, three, ten-year-old marriages. IT'S GONNA BE A COMEDY SHOW!! While the therapeutic effects of sharing these issues, even on NL, cannot be ignored. Please do not take most of these responders too seriously, especially when they haven't heard your husband's version of how you marriage has come to this state. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by marnboy(m): 11:09am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Gabbysky:GBAM |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Ilovenigeria(f): 11:09am On Dec 19, 2014 |
neoapocalypse:Thank you very much!!! This is what happens when women think that when you get married and offer him your virginity, that will be all. Don't be surprised that the lady the hubby intends marrying Might be a runs girl but she really knows how to make the man happy and stay out of his hairs? I wonder why some women can just relax and enjoy their marriage to the fullest. When you nagged and pushed him away, where do you think he goes to drink and rest? Enjoy your marriage, instead of looking for who to fight or nagg just focus that energy on your kids. Some nights ago, I saw my neighbours hubby selling his wares @ikeja under bridge around 9:30pm shouting on top of his voice. Only for me to later see his wife fighting him for coming home late that same night. Honestly we should help our men for our marriage to work. Sometimes give then benefits of doubts, trust and respect them, give them their space and time, and above them show them love and kindness. 8 Likes |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by DollyParton1(f): 11:10am On Dec 19, 2014 |
babyosisi: Thou spaketh the koko of all matter. 1 Like |
Re: HELP: My Husband Wedding Comes Up On Saturday by Nobody: 11:13am On Dec 19, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Well spoken milady |
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