A relationship is hard work, and
communication is key, but there are just
some things that should be kept to yourself.
Sometimes silence is golden, but sometimes
there are things that need to be said. Its best
to think before you speak.
The last thing you’d want is for your partner to
dump you over something you didn’t even
mean to say.

1.‘Are you really going to walk out dressed
like that?’

If it’s mine then chances are I like it. There’s
already so much pressure for girls to look
flawless and picture perfect.
So, she doesn’t need to be told by you that
she’s not meeting the standards.
She bought that item of clothing because she
liked it- she feels good in it. Unless you have
the money to buy a new wardrobe for her
then maybe you should keep your comments
to yourself and love her for who she is not
what she wears.

2.‘Babe, let’s hit the gym’

This one reminds me of a song by Ruben
Studdard that goes: “Why you wanna change
me, flip all the things that really make me the
way that I am…you used to like your big old
teddy bear…”
If you met in the Burger King queue and he/
she told you about their love for junk foods
then don’t expect him/her to become a vegan
now that you’re dating.
You can only bring up the gym idea if you
notice that your partner has gained some
weight and it’s having an impact on their
health. And even then, be tactful about it.
Everyone is insecure about their body image
and the last thing you’d want to do is hurt your
lover’s feelings.

3.‘If I tell you, you have to promise not to
tell anyone else!’

Nobody likes a Gossiping Gertrude unless of
course Gertrude is your close friend who
enjoys gossip just as much as you do. Don’t fill
the silence with gossip.
If you find that you have nothing to say to
each other maybe you should have a make-
out session or call it a night and go to sleep.
If word gets out and the trail leads back to you
guys, it could get you into serious trouble and
may even hamper your relationship.

4.‘My ex did the exact same thing’

If you’re looking for an express ticket to
Dumpville, then, yeah, bring up your ex. The
only time your partner wants to hear about
your ex is NEVER.
It’s not nice being compared to someone even
if they were a complete douchebag and you’re
just this ball of amazingness.
It shows that you still think about your ex and
maybe aren’t over him/her. Your ex is old
news and it’s time to focus on what’s right in
front of you.

5.‘This song reminds me of my ex’

Again, ex-stories are a no go area. Think
before you talk, even if it’s something as
simple as a song, movie or a joke. Some
things are better left unsaid.

6.‘Nothing’s wrong. I’m fine’

Girls are guilty of saying this. We say it but we
don’t mean it. It’s actually our way of saying
“my world is falling apart and I just need you
to hold me and tell me that everything will be
fine” or “I’m so mad at you right now.”
If you’re guilty of doing this - stop it! Your
partner can’t read your mind. In a
relationship, communication is very
important.
You need to verbalise your thoughts instead
of harboring them. If you don’t, you might
just end up exploding at your partner and
then start bringing up unattended issues from
three years ago.
If something is bothering you rather deal with
it right there and then.

7.‘If you really love me…’

A relationship should not have terms and
conditions, that’s what your job is for. If your
partner uses this line to try guilt trip you into
doing something, then please do yourself a
favour and dump that loser.
It is a mild form of manipulation and actually
shows weakness. If you would like your
partner to do something for you just ask
them, chances are they’ll say yes anyways, and
if they don’t, you’ll just have to accept that.
‘Just chill- you’re overreacting’

8.“Telling a girl to calm down works about as

well as trying to baptize a cat”- @BroCulture
(twitter)
In other words, she will not calm down. Girls
are sensitive and take a lot of the things guys
say to heart.
From the guy’s perspective it probably isn’t
even coming from a hurtful place, maybe she
is being over the top and does need to take a
chill pill; but try finding a more diplomatic
way of telling her to calm down.

9.‘Babe stop being so insecure, he/she is
just a friend’

If your partner voices out their concern about
you spending too much time with a friend of
the opposite sex or being too friendly with
them, respect their worry and maybe cut
down just a little on your over-friendliness.
Your partner will notice and it will mean a lot.
So, instead of being a little insensitive rather
reassure your partner about the true love you
have for them.

10. ‘You’re always too busy for me’

Unless your partner spends 25 hours a day at
work or with his friends or anywhere away
from you, then don’t say this. It comes across
as needy and as if you have nothing going on
in your life. Remember, your partner is an
individual, not an extension of you.

http://m.news24.com/women24/LoveAndSex/SinglesAndDating/10-Things-you-should-never-say-to-your-lover-20130912

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