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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 2:51pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
jnrbayano:what difference does that make and how is this question relevant ? lmao |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 2:55pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
now i am not advocating living with women you are not married to. these are past mistakes i made in my unenlightened days. so let me just throw that out there so you dont think i am a reprobate sinner. i have repented from doing that |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jnrbayano(m): 2:59pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: From your answer I can deduce you don't live together anymore. The past tense "lived" you used severally is also a pointer. Now, why don't you live together anymore? Lack of the "unimportant" piece of paper. No? |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:03pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
jnrbayano:i was young in mind. i wasnt really ready to get married both mentally physically and spiritually. i was still going through discovering myself etc etc. many reasons. i wasnt ready to plug into the rat race so she can view me as responsible. 2 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by delishpot: 3:04pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Ok. I get you now. Its not a bad idea sha. Many women wont mind.as long as romance is part of the deal. Because this different room idea is the fastest way to make a marriage get boring. When husband and wife live in thr same house like 2 strangers. What makes you guys feel like you know each other? What makes it possible for both of you to be able to care for each other in times of sickness? What do you think makes it possible for mothers to man up and care for a sick grown child? Because they have seen it all and done it all for that child. Imagine if that child was given to a nurse to do all the work and then obeday the nurse couldnt come to work early, how will that mom see her babys poop and vommit and spit? She will feel disgusted. That is because she and that child did not bond. Same reason kids care for parents too. They believe the parent packed their shite when they were babies and went the whole nine yards to care for them, thus its easy for them to do same when parents need help. So my dear its not all that bad. If sanitary towel annoys you, tell her to keep it away from your sight, if you hate the smell of her $Hit, get a house with two toilets/ bathrooms so you guys have another place to use if one just finished pooping. . Nights when you want to be alone, you can leave the room for another room every ones in a while I am sure she will understand. 4 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:12pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
delishpot:trust me when i say that is the solution to every marital problem. its not normal for two grown human beings to sleep in the same bed all the time. one may be someone who snores, or likes rolling over and occupying all the bed, some people start sleeping in a certain position and wake up in a totally different position, some people are noisy in bed etc etc. i think it is cute if done every other day but not all the time. listen, there is a reason why over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and this is because people fail to realize that we are individuals first and couples next. every human needs some space. when people cant get space to breath is when they divorce most times. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jnrbayano(m): 3:15pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: So you see that that "piece of paper" requires maturity of the bold for it to be signed. Is just living with a woman same as getting into a marriage union with your spouse experience-wise? Answer! 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Percentile: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Owkay.. Dats d problem. Its like u've libved wit dozens of dem in ur lifetime.. No wonder d sick notion u got. Nonsense! 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
jnrbayano:really ? maturity is needed to sign that marriage certificate ? care to tell me why most marriages end after only 1 year ? maturity eh ? 3 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Percentile: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Owkay.. Dats d problem. Its like u've lived wit dozens of dem in ur lifetime.. No wonder d sick notion u got. Nonsense! |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by delishpot: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Like I said, I get where you are comming from. But, that alone is not the solution to a long lasting happy marriage. If the woman doesnt mind then by all means go ahead, just that with this idea of yours, if there is still no love, trust, romance and all, this arrangement will become borring soon. Before you know it, you may not allow her access to your room as offten as she wants, yesss, and you may not want to hang out in her room as offten as she wants too. what if she desires to be around you a lot? And you say no, you want to be alone. she will start resenting you and before you know it, when you enter her room for sex, she will start feeling like a tool. And then soon enough she will ask what you want when you enter her room. When you invite her over ahe may say she cant come now. Where is the romance in that one? So like we both agree, yeah there are times a man newds his space and should be able to get it but it shouldnt be the only rule. What about people who cant affird such luxury? They shouldnt marry or? If a woman made this same post now, it will be termed gold digging. Cos not every man can afford such big homes. 8 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:19pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Percentile:hey it is what it is bro. lmao |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jnrbayano(m): 3:23pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Maturity is required doesn't translate that all who sign it are matured. Does it? I ask again, Is just living with a woman same as getting into a marriage union with your spouse experience-wise? 2 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:23pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
delishpot:ahhh but you miss the point. this is directed only for nightime. throughout the rest of the day you are hanging out together, going places, watching tv etc etc. then at night if she has a headache or just wants to have privacy she can retire to her space. and likewise me. you making it out like we seperate for the rest of the day. this is strictly sleeping arrangements. throughout the day we are hanging colliding colluding and collaborating. and you dont need a big home in order to have 2 bedrooms. i have yet to see a one bedroom apartment or flat in naija 2 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:26pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
jnrbayano:brah ? marriage certificate is just a piece of paper. i think you are placing wayyyyyyyy too much emphasis on that piece of paper. a piece of paper does not change who you are 4 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by jnrbayano(m): 3:32pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: You will understand when the time is right. Aurevoir friend 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:35pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
jnrbayano:nothing to understand. its just a piece of paper. ini edo got married and divorced in a year. many of ya naija celebrities get married and sign paper and get divorced in a few months. a marriage certificate does not change who you are or your intentions. i think you are placing unnecessary emphasis on it. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Rilwayne001: 4:14pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by TDstarr: 4:19pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
delishpot:even the days of our fore fathers women have their own quaters, they dont cook when on their period, no wonder the marriages were forever p.s. read things fall apart by chinua achiebe 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by TDstarr: 4:30pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot:true 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by delishpot: 4:32pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
:Pn TDstarr: That was because the men had many wives. The mans room had to be free cos no one wife can dominate the bed. The man had a woman in his bed every night. The wives had their duty roaster and besides, those men had plenty kids you can imagine how it will be if all the women and kids lived under the same roof and the husband slept with all the women in the same bed every night To make life easy and avoid wahala, each wife was assigned her hut, where she and her kids will have freedom and privacy. No who took my salt? Who stole my meat? Who removed my soup from the fire and put her stupid pot? Who removed my wet clothes from the line? Mama mary go to the back its my turn to sleep on our husbands right hand side That was why. Those women had no choice. If they did, they would not have lived that life. Ask any woman from those days. Ask them why they did not leave, 99% of them will say...... leave to where? No escaping the obvious they had no choice o. 6 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by AbuMikey(m): 4:38pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Lol, Obadiah 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by delishpot: 4:42pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: Ok o. Like I said, with good planning it may work but if you dont plan well, it may not work. I did not say more than that o. you still need more than 2 seperate rooms to make a marriage work. Das all. I know couples who practiced this type of arrangement, their marriage is just hanging there. It did not improve their relationship at all. It takes a lot for a woman to have a happy sex life. It is doable but it requires more effort to keep the union glowing |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by TDstarr: 4:43pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
delishpot:not so bro, women naturally need space, my mum has her own room, same with my dad and they still tell each other i love you, 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 4:44pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot:This is just gross. 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 4:45pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot:WORD 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 4:47pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot:Lol. Werey. 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 4:49pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
kilokeys:Lmao |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by MrPresident1: 4:51pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
Different strokes for different folks. Wallahi talahi, YAH is the best planner 1 Corinthians 7:26-28 26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ilekokonit: 4:52pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
sukkot: In most 21st Century marriages, love dies a gradual death the minute the kids start coming possibly because the familiarity actually starts breeding contempt or tiredness from the amount of work involved in raising a young family or because you grow apart due to lack of open communication or boredom and resignation or fear of living with someone you are no longer on fire for and over time the love just depreciates due to bad treatment of one party by the other and the person who should normally be your best friend now becomes comparable to your worst enemy. Or how do you explain the epidemic proportions of divorce in 21st century marriages. It is now no longer till death do us part and no one mates for life anymore at least not on the long run and it will get worse with the freedom the internet age brings to promiscuity and instant gratification at the blink of an eye couple with the sheer greed amongst todays humans. Animals (e.g pigeons and some other birds) on the other hand are now better than humans at mating for life. The evidence of marriage becoming more obsolete by the day and going towards extinction is clear for all to see. Marriage, fools rush in where angels fear to thread. No wonder the Bible says to abstain from marriage if you can hold your self. Most people pre-marriage don't realise that the wedding day is a 100 metre dash whilst the marriage proper is a marathon than you can only successfully run if you patiently wait for and marry your soulmate. 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ishilove: 4:52pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
delishpot:Delish, you sef... You and sukkkot fit. You both have a love for graphic language. 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by delishpot: 4:56pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
TDstarr:Like I said before, if the woman is fine with it, then go ahead. Its like this, a woman with kids will naturally say ahh, kids are fun to have, kids are good I wont trade them for anything and she means every bit of it but she cant deny that she had to sacrifice a lot of her own comfort, sleep and peace of mind just to be a parent. That is to say, for every move you make, if you do not plan it well, it may back fire. I never said its a bad Idea, I always said that alone wont help his marriage. I have seen marriages where the mabvworks in Abuja and his wife and kids are in PH, they still say I love you to each other and mean it. My poibt is, if it isnt planned well, the marriage wont survive. I remember my mom had her own room too. She loved my dad too. But look well, you will see that they are not that sexually involved unlike those that sleep in the same room where hubby can just turn around and reach for his woman at night . Most women at that stage have even given up on $ex , they are happy to be left alone. Dem don tire. I am not saying a man shouldnt have his alone time o, but it shouldnt be the norm. How can a young marriage cope 1 Like |
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