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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 11:57pm On Jan 04, 2015 |
My friend what are you on about? sukkot: |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by khattab02: 12:08am On Jan 05, 2015 |
kilokeys:never my brother! |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by ugojamali(m): 12:11am On Jan 05, 2015 |
I've seen a few married guys complain exactly like the OP. They say. . They've lived with the same woman for years, know her totally, know all her curves, spots and blemishes; have had sex hundreds, if not thousands of times with them; done all the styles imaginable; know how she reacts during sex; seen her in her best and worst times; seen her bleeding; seen her pushing out kids; All these for years. They say they get tired. They get bored. Passion dies. The blood stops racing as it used to. I don't have that experience cos I've not lived with a woman. But people who have said it so I know where the op is headed. The question is. . If it happens then what do you do? But it will definitely happen at some point in your marriage unless you don't live 365 days with your wife. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Ilekokonit: 4:11am On Jan 05, 2015 |
sukkot: True talk and the problem gets compounded when the initial love that birthed the marriage begins to fade away especially if you got married for the wrong reason(s) e.g due to societal pressure or if you didn't marry your soul mate in the first place. If your wife or husband is not your soul mate, it WILL get to a stage that mutual hatred will replace the original love which was not really rooted in the first place because you rushed things without thrashing out compatibility issues or maybe one party played the other "419" love just to step up and get some benefits from the marriage without the hapless partner realising this. A lot of men rush to get married to ensure they get "on demand" sex whilst a lot of women rush to get married because of societal pressure or because they got pregnant whilst courting. These reasons are NOT cogent enough to warrant getting married but a lot of people make the same mistakes over and over again as has been happening for donkey years. I believe that HONEST, OPEN and healthy arguments during courtship will reduce the divorce rate in society because such arguments will bring out the other persons real character, likes and dislikes and each party will then be able to make an informed decision as to whether they want to spend the rest of their lives with a partner whose basic character they now to an extent understand as revealed from their healthy unsupressed arguments. But will today’s deceptive, pretentious character traits in people allow them to show the other party their real character in a healthy argument?? There is just too much deceit, scamming and outright PRE-MEDITATED DECEIT in today’s relationships that even dating is like putting a gun to your head because 9 times out of 10, you will be deceived / scammed by 21st Century partners. Some people even resort to NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) mind games to try to control their partners ? Regarding 2 people sleeping on the same bed for 352 days a year, its true that todays people need their space and the advent of smart phones and internet on the go, a lot of nonsensical TV programmes and irrelevant time wasting internet sites have all conspired to make us so individualistic and selfish that we NO LONGER genuinely love ourselves in the true sense of it and on top of this, the stress in making a living in a Global Recession that remains relentless 7 years on means that everyone just wants to be left alone after a hard days slug and sleeping on the same bed with someone who has probably began to irritate you or eat into your chill out time further stresses 21st century marriages. I believe that the glue / cement that held our parents marriages together is no longer sold in ANY market. Marriage is becoming more of a trap nowadays. On another tangent, I marvel when I read threads like "will you date a broke man” And I wonder why some people have eyes but cannot see and have ears and cannot hear. Or is it a function of immaturity ? Like I mentioned above, this 7 year Global Recession is unrelenting and at its inception in 2008 it was adjudged to be worse than the Great Depression of the 1930's (in my opinion the current one is not even a recession but a Depression which is a worse situation compounded with negative equity and a credit crunch). If the likes of Woolworths and Lehman Brothers that have been around for more than 100 years can go under because their creditors pulled the plug. If Ireland and a few other countries can humbly accept economic bailouts to survive. If China is now a major lender to America then you will see that the WHOLE world is living in an UNCERTAIN and UNCHARTED FINANCIAL ERA with nobody being able to guarantee their financial future. Now with millions of men and women losing their jobs globally (2.5 million unemployed in the UK alone), why would some people still use money or the lack of it as a factor in making the most important decision in their lives - the choice of a life partner That's why I believe that someone can be highly literate but still be a current affairs / financial illiterate. To compound this Achilles heel (which to me is a major character defect) is the fact that Black people especially Africans (Nigerians categorically) worship money hence everything including their relationships are "greedily" scrutinized through the grubby prism of money hence their marriages don't stand the test of time. But they make the same mistake OVER and OVER again forgetting that money comes and goes and NOBODY can lock money inside a room because "riches certainly make themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward heaven. Proverbs 23:5" Money is needed in todays world but if one overtly or covertly bases matters of the heart principally on money then that relationship WILL fail as its foundation was faulty to start with. He who has ears, let him hear. 2 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by 12ema: 4:44am On Jan 05, 2015 |
OPINION:The OP of the thread is a m.oron and jobless with too much time on his/her hands; yes or no? |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Tallesty1(m): 6:31am On Jan 05, 2015 |
sukkot:wow..... I have found my run-away twin brother. 2015 is gonna be good walahi. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by Nobody: 9:02am On Jan 05, 2015 |
striktlymi:atall,a wife wil always b a wife.. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by dheolexaone(f): 10:42am On Jan 05, 2015 |
sukkot: U now have a familiar and spiritual related PROBLEM(S) Get a life and live in the positive world rather than wasting in idealistic world! |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by dabossman(m): 2:44pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
sukkot: So after having separate rooms, what next? At what point does sharing the same living room, kitchen, doting on the same old kids become too familiar too? How long will it be before she needs to get her own apartment so that you guys can keep things fresh? You can then share romantic dinners once every week, just like when you where dating. That would be cool right. After all, 10, 20, 30, 40 maybe more years of marriage is too much familiarity for any sane person to handle? Ehn, OP? |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by dabossman(m): 3:04pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
MurderX: So you're saying sleeping with your wife is like sleeping with your sister? Have you "slept" with your sister before? But on a serious note, sharing a room with your sibling, even a sister, is in no way comparable to sharing a room with your wife whom you share conjugal experiences with? I think the misconception here is thinking that marriage is all about se.x. Is the OP expecting se.x every night? |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by asodeboyede(m): 3:25pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Some people trying so hard to be wiser than God! God wired and configured it so! If such as what this op is saying happens, that means such marriage is under spell or attack(except some pastors that restrains sex for SOME period)! As someone committing incest is under spell or attack! |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by 1dickatatime: 4:12pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Elvis Presley has an acute medical condition. Men my closeness to my wife has actually made the thing sweeter I miss home like mad anytime I'm out of town let alone seeing her in flesh and blood. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by bot101(m): 4:28pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
kilokeys:Laff Ma Head Off, Holy Moley! |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by bettiesofttouch(f): 6:49pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
delishpot:. Dia's def no luv btwn u 2 cos if dia is, exactly wot he has listed above wld b d oda of d day n it'll spice tins up in dat marriage n mk it fun. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by bettiesofttouch(f): 7:00pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Ilekokonit:. He who have eye let him c dis nw o. Food 4 d wise. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by lataziz(f): 7:53pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
ur wife/husband is nt ur sista/broda nd nva wil b no mata wat excuse u give |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by haryomikun(m): 9:23pm On Jan 07, 2015 |
kilokeys:Y u dey talk like ode like dis naw? 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:04pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
dheolexaone:how about you stop being gross and graphic and start being idealistic ? that would be much appreciated |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:10pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
asodeboyede:thats a big lie from the pits of hell 1 corinthians 7 vs 8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by GoodFaith: 3:11pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
sukkot:do you kiss your sister/brother mouth to mouth? do you sometime have sex with your brother/sister? Please cut the BS Hell NO You learn to love the person for what she/he represent You learn the good and bad Love might likely be strong because of together and sacrifice you both have had |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:12pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
1dickatatime:i am sure you are newly married. give it time. we aint talking about 1 or 2 year old marriages, dude. after 5 years i am sure you will prefer to be in the pub than to return home lmao |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:17pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
lataziz:its an allegory. nobody is saying your wife is your sister. am saying your wife is on the level of familiarity that you have for a family member. its at a level where you dont view her as someone you want to have s-e-x with again. you see her as a friend and companion and family. you dont want her for -s-e-x just as you dont want your siblings for s-e-x but you like having them around sometimes. 1 Like |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:17pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
haryomikun:kilokeys na real mumu |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:18pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
sukkot: GoodFaith: |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by GoodFaith: 3:19pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
[quote author=sukkot post=29607203][/quote] check your P and D wife have to make some change-- dress or hair style smell good wife /husband |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:21pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
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Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by GoodFaith: 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
[quote author=sukkot post=29607285][/quote] we men are greedy include me he can justify his BS |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by sukkot: 3:25pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
GoodFaith:exactly. thats my point. try not to get too familiar. leave some mystery. getting separate rooms is a start. introduce a level of sophistication. no farting around each other etc lmao. no cave man behavior in the house 2 Likes |
Re: Sleeping With Your Wife Or Husband Is Like Sleeping With Your Sister Or Brother by TDstarr: 6:39am On Jan 13, 2015 |
coolviv:thats slavery not love, read manipulated man, by esther |
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