READ What Is Happening To Ladies These Days:
“I Must Marry This Year”
A desperate person is someone who feels she
has no hope and is ready to do anything to
satisfy this burning need. I read the tale of
woe of two individuals that will be getting
married in a couple of months. I will call
them Emeka and Lola (real names withheld).
Lola is in her late 30s and her desire to find
the right guy has gone from hopefully
optimistic to desperation so much that after
only three months of knowing Emeka, she’s
decided to marry him.
The thing about Emeka is that he is the
complete opposite of Lola. She is obsessively
neat; but Emeka never learns to clean up
himself. She is an independent career woman;
he has a chauvinistic streak a mile way. She
manages her money well; but he buys based on
what he wants rather than what he can afford…
and the list goes on. They fight constantly to
the point that it is uncomfortable to be
around them. With the wedding only two months
away, the only thing left to ask is:
“Why would she want to marry a man who is
obviously incompatible with her?”
A female friend of mine also shared the story
of a guy she met, who didn’t even ask her out,
and blurted out suddenly: “Please, marry me.”
He didn’t hear her out, and started making
plans for a wedding. Individuals like this
have an invisible signpost on their head with
the inscription: “Will you marry me?”
After a year or two into their wedding borne
out of desperation to get married, many men
and women soon realise that they are miserable
with their spouses. Yes, you are being
pressured by friends and families to get
married; pressures that make those family
picnics and extended family events bitter
experiences. That is not enough reason to rush
to the altar.
Anything done in desperation is usually as a
result of a decision taken under pressure. The
romance novels and movies showing quickie
marriages and glamour often don’t show the
reality of a couple’s life later in their
journey together. No thanks to singles
seminars which only promise participants swift
marriages without teaching them how to go
through due process in relationships.
According to Dr Angelis: “When you are feeling
lonely or desperate, you are much likely to
make poor love choices and end up in
unfulfilling relationships”. Some people are
so emotionally empty that they are desperate
for anyone to marry. In the end, they end up
in a painful relationship. The following are
the signs of desperation which are not
exhaustive.
Getting too attached too early:
When you start getting attached to a person
you just met and even saying “I love you”
after a few dates, it’s a sign of desperation.
You can make a clean break if you are involved
with a needy, clingy and desperate person.
Having a profile listed with every single
known dating site online:
This is a serious clue that you are desperate.
If your profile is on every dating site you
come across, that is a red flag you must deal
with.
Constantly buying gifts:
Getting gifts is good, but when it becomes too
much it loses its meaning and relevance. This
is usually obtainable among men. The average
dude believes he can use gifts to buy his way
into a lady’s heart.
Wanting to meet the family too soon:
“When am I meeting your people?” Is usually
the question a desperate person asks. You
should give much time before introducing
family and other relatives to a suitor. If you
are dealing with a person who is pushing to
meet your family and you are barely dating two
months that’s a red flag. Allow time to play
its role in your relationship.
Dressing in attire that is provocative:
This is a clear example of someone who is
insecure. This is prevalent among women. If
you come across this type of lady it’s time to
move on to someone who is comfortable in her
own body and doesn’t need to show off her
cleavage to everyone she comes in contact
with.
From a young age many of us have been taught
that marriage is a rite of passage and you
don’t become an adult or a woman until you get
married. This social pressure, real or
imagined, doesn’t make it true. You do not

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Very educative & interesting piece,well done OP.