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Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by dinachi(m): 11:38pm On Mar 01, 2015 |
Chillisauce:What of the times prior to this incident when she was the one actually doing the BEATING and still fvcking him. Pls stop reasoning like a demented chimpanzee! Animals everywhere, that's what some ladies like OP ex have turned into. OP was unfortunate to find himself with a psychotic patient parading herself as a normal human being and God saved him from her and you are here ranting trash. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by poik(m): 11:41pm On Mar 01, 2015 |
mcdokwe: That girl needs to be prayed for. Deliverance. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 4:43am On Mar 02, 2015 |
DICKtator: u see this ^^^^ that's how a real guy's reasoning should be,....we all have somethings in common, like BEING ALLERGIC TO BULLSHII ,HATE stupid shii, SEEING THINGS THE WAY THEY REALLY ARE WITHOUT SENTIMENTS and TREATING F UPS WHEN ITS DUE. some smart ladies will learn but most of the FISH BRAINS and some that have lost their at the mercy if saloons won't. hahahhahahah lol any reasonable lady will realize that she should never try such thing on a man after reading all these but the stuupid ,unreasonable, dumb ones will still do a similar thing to their partner tomorrow... THANK GOD THAT SOME GUYS STILL KNOWS THEMSELVES DESPITE HOW CRAZY LOV CAN MAKE THEM... 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by twerkjack: 8:15am On Mar 02, 2015 |
Agrika:BUT IF ITS UR FELLOW MAN PROBABLY ONE BIGGER THAN U,, NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES U MIGHT JUST SHUT ND PERM..............BEATING CHILDREN IS NOT EVEN ACCEPTABLE TALK MORE OF A WOMAN.....WHERESTHE SENSE IN HITTING A FULL GROWN ADULT?? SO THAT "WHAT"WILL HAPPEN? 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by repogirl(f): 9:34am On Mar 02, 2015 |
I feel she harboured deep resentment towards you which kept on piling up and she didn't know how to express it, so instead she chose to fight, insult and call you names. She might have been influenced by her friends' negative advice or maybe she just wasn't happy with her life and with you. I didn't see you mention that you were married or engaged, being pregnant and having a kid under normal circumstances can be trying to a woman, hormones and all that, now talk more about a woman who has underlying issues in her relationship. From where you explained her as a low maintenance chick, I am forced to deduce that you might have also taken her for granted. Women who expect little materially expect much more emotionally. You said you let her take control during sex, what if she wanted more? What if she didn't want to be in control all the time? I think she couldn't express herself to you and you couldn't understand what was going on with her, but don't think for a second that she deserved the beating she got. Could you put your hand to your own mother if she had done the same thing? No, you wouldn't have. Why? Respect! You might not know it but you took your girl for granted, lost respect in her and she might have sensed this and it probably added to her annoyance and dissatisfaction with you. Finally, if you indeed believe she deserved the beating you gave her and that you don't know the reasons she left, then its for the best she did because its better to be alone than unhappy with the person one is with. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by dinachi(m): 9:37am On Mar 02, 2015 |
twerkjack:Shut your hole! If it is her fellow woman that she shut the door, smashed her phone, I bet the girl will beat her to a pulp! Can she verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abuse a woman bigger and stronger than her the way she has been abusing the husband? That is the correct question! Her fellow woman will not condone half of what the husband have condoned without beating her to a pulp. Pls stop reasoning from your anus! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by mcdokwe(m): 10:30am On Mar 02, 2015 |
repogirl:I said I wasn't going to comment on this again but your post is reasonable and as such elicits a response. Maybe I indeed erred in my choice of diction. But people fail to get the underlisted from my post The lady meant much to me I never intended to hit her She provoked me most times without intending or knowing it maybe taking my resilience for granted too Her sharing issues concerning us with strangers wasn't helping the relationship The post wasn't about justifying my actions until others made it so It was about causes and reactions We all are expected to learn from this, Just like I tried doing with her, I would always storm out from my parents, siblings, friends and just anyone just to avoid using exchanging heated words and possibly blows not because I am scared of them, but because I don't want to regret my actions later. I still would chose her above many others like I've done before, but really wish she gets helped to understand some of these things because I believe it would also help in her day to day relationship with others outside me. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by TV01(m): 10:51am On Mar 02, 2015 |
mcdokwe , good morning. I have come to this one a little late, so I won't read the whole thread before commenting - indeed, I don't really need to. I don't subscribe to the mantra that "a man must never lay his hands on a woman". For one, it's not hollistic or complete; there should be zero tolerance for any kind of abuse from men or women. Secondly, there may well be occassions where laying hands on a is actually neccessitated. For example where a life is endangered. I am, however, of the school of thought that believes a man should always rise above any emotional hysterics from the women in his life - and certainly not respond in kind. And where at all possible, refuse such women entry into his space. You give something away as a man when you allow yourself to respond emotionally to a womans provocation. Always try and rise above it. I am heartened by the fact that you realise you could have handled the situation differently - and better. Take the lesson - become a better man. Best TV mcdokwe: 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by TV01(m): 2:34pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
LAGATA:You do well to seek peace and resolve issues peacably... LAGATA:...but this I don't get You confronted you wife with incontrovertible proof of her cheating? She vehemently denied to the point of causing a fight? You slapped her during the scuffle? You spent all night pleading with her - presumably to forgive the slap? You took sleeping pills ontop ! Guy, you are treading a dangerous path. Slapping her was probably not the wisest thing to do, but if you have lived peacably together for 7 years and have evidence of her cheating, the slap is the least of your problems. Sounds like you've been killing yourself to keep the peace for a while. Possibly what makes her think she can behave as she chooses. Your play after the slap - which even if regrettable was not the worst thing you could have done, or even the crux of the matter here - only made things worse TV 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Kakagiwa(f): 3:53pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
misterh: Well said 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Onyiido: 5:58pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
sweetcocoa:Don't mind her. Sometimes the way some ladies behave makes me think if they ever deserve a "one in a million man". The moment a lady pushes a man to the wall, she deserves what she'll get, besides they are using being the weaker sex as an excuse to infringe abuse in r/ships and marriages. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Onyiido: 6:10pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
sweetcocoa:Sweetcocoa, I love ur writeups, thumbs up $ don't mind those girls that are here ranting the guy should never have lifted his hand to hit her when it was obvious she called for it. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by puhleeze(m): 8:31pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
sweetcocoa: Walahi, if to say I neva marry, I for marry you quick quick, and if to say my wife no be decent loving woman, I for marry you as second wife with first class privilege.... Nne you will marry a decent man and you go born pikin(s) wey get sense like you. Leave all those tufulufus and efulefus wey no gree growup .... 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 8:41pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
OP, remember that is easy to lose your temper with someone you are physically more powerful than. If your girlfriend happened to be the world karate champion , I guarantee you would not have lost your self control even if she smashed your phone and computer to bits. Remember, with power comes responsibility. You have not yet learnt to behave responsibly and to take responsibility for your actions. 5 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Shirley07: 9:48pm On Mar 02, 2015 |
What a Coward! |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by logica(m): 6:52am On Mar 03, 2015 |
GenBuhari:You made no sense. Proof: his girlfriend lost her temper with him. Does this imply she's more powerful than he is? Even if she was the world karate champion and she angered him enough, he could resort to the use of a deadly weapon; and deathly force. Or world karate champion can deflect bullet? Maybe the moniker you used is affecting your ability to reason. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by sambisa5: 9:36am On Mar 03, 2015 |
GentleToks:by the Grace of God i don't think am an illitrate even though i hail from africa,,, bride price as a topic needs to be well discussed, whenever it calls for it,,,and not that we are making it the most useful topic on nairaland. Nooooo One problem we have nowadays is that we tend to be swifting away from the original culture to embrace the western culture,,that is why you c some girls, naked on the street becos they felt,tying wrapper is now an outdated mode of dressing i didn't say western culture is bad in anyway,but we shuld always av at the back of our minds that we r not from the western world,we r from africa. We av our culture,the western world has theirs,,,since ancient time till now,bride price is what gives u confidence that this woman is mine,,,, as a matter of fact where i came from,,if u don't pay ur woman's bride price,she is free to sleep with any other man she wants,,,becos she is not married yet even if she has children for you,,, on the other hands, if she tries such when her bride price has been paid,,the curse is that her children starts dying one after the other till she comes out to confess,,,,we don't joke with B.P where i came from. My elder brother married a kogi lady,,now,,the father of the girl at his age was still in a rented house,,,now my brother went into that family,built a house for his father-in-law to be n all dat.. On the day of traditional wedding,the man refused to take bride price from my brother,,due to reasons best known to him,,perhaps, he never dreamt of bin a landlord in his life time,but my brother made the dream come thru for him.... So some fathers may not take bride price from u,if u av won their heart....dat doesn't mean they dash daughters for free or don't know the implication of it.... I think u must av done somethng, which took the place of the bride price.HAVING HIS APPROVAL TO LIVE WITH HIS DAUGHTER IS THE KOKO |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 1:48pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
EggovinMma:you haven't told me the person behind this handle. I sent you a PM but u ignored it. Oh well... Have a nice day. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 1:51pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
2sExy1: I didn't. Check again. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 2:34pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
EggovinMma:you didn't reply anything. Just checked. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 2:51pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
2sExy1: My mail is having problems, just noticed.Will reply as soon as I resolve the issue. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 2:53pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
EggovinMma:ok. I guess you are using yahoo mail. Thats why. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 2:55pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
2sExy1: Nope . Gmail 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by freshbear(m): 3:14pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:a very dumb post.lacks logic. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 3:21pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
EggovinMma:that's weird. Can you log into your account? You can send an email to doyen2fine. Its a gmail. |
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Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 7:52am On Mar 04, 2015 |
2sExy1:I believe she is lynpetra. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by dinachi(m): 11:03am On Mar 04, 2015 |
GenBuhari:Lets for a second pretend that you are making sense. Can the woman in question verbally abuse, challenge and smash the phone of another woman that is stronger and bigger than her without being beaten to a pulp? Can all the ladies here running their mouths here tolerate half of what the OP tolerated without beating the hell out of her? Hypocrisy is the worst type of self deception. The OP is a quintessential gentleman, I swear! That woman owe him an apology big time. My bother God will give you a virtuous woman that will give you peace. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 2:30pm On Mar 04, 2015 |
softysparky:Na wa o. I think say u dey avoid me. Thanks for the heads up. |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Agrika: 9:05pm On Mar 04, 2015 |
twerkjack:Nobody said it's acceptable, but women should first and foremost ACT like ladies, u no say d man pass u for power, fit even pass u for height and every every but u go dey look for trouble up and down...later when he "stylishly" hit u, u go begin dey halla...and u know d irony of the whole thing, u need to see these women with thier bosses in office or with any male in any place of authority...so so Yes Sah! yes Sah!....erm by d way am not a "fellow man" am ur fellow lady 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 11:04am On Mar 05, 2015 |
2sExy1:Avoid kwa You sure say na me, anyway how are you? 1 Like |
Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by Nobody: 11:22am On Mar 05, 2015 |
softysparky:I am fine. Na u cos I send u pm one time u sef ignore me. Na wa o. This thing Nairaland babes dey do e no good o. Eh |
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