The cardinal rule of a friends with benefit relationship is not to let emotions get in the way. But what looks easy on paper is often much more difficult to follow in real life. So if you begin to suspect that your friends with benefit relationship is turning into something deeper, here are a ten signs to watch out for.

* You Call Each Other More Often

Regular communication is one of the hallmarks of a satisfying relationship. When two people are in love, they wish to keep in touch the whole day – through phone calls or text messages - even though they may be living under the same roof. Thus if you find that you and your friend are regularly exchanging emails, phone calls and text messages and especially about things not directly related to sex, like asking how your presentation/test/interview/trial went or whether you have finally got your car fixed - chances are you are exploring the space outside a strictly friends with benefits relationship.

* You Expect More

Even more significant than your frequent
communication is the fact that now you care
whether or not your friend replies to your
texts or emails right away. You check about a
billion times, refreshing the page over and
over. Likewise if you receive something from
your ‘friend’, you feel like replying
immediately and in case you don’t, he/she
usually asks about your tardiness the next time
you meet. Other signs of greater expectation
are when you seek their approval about a
new haircut or outfit and upset if they don’t
notice.

* You Are In Each Other’s Thoughts

A veritable sign of a budding relationship is
two people thinking about each other more
often than before – even when they are doing
things not directly related to a partner. For
instance you may be browsing through a
shopping mall and you pick up something your
‘friend’ had mentioned they needed. You think
you do this because you were out and it’s no
big deal but it is a distinct sign that he/she is in
your thoughts. Again your ‘friend’ texts you
funny things when out with his/her gang, just
because he/she is thinking of you.

* You Want To Hang Out

And not only in places where you can make
out. Instead you find that you like doing other
things with your ‘friend’; for instance you both
like jiving in a karaoke club or biking for long
distances. You meet in an art gallery and spend
an enjoyable afternoon browsing through
paintings or take part in a cooking class and
have fun trying out recipes. Sharing mutual
interests is one of strongest bonding factors in
real couples and if you are doing the same
with your ‘friend’, it is likely you are
discovering the pleasures of a real
relationship.

*You Find Other People Unsuitable

Yet another sure-shot sign of a growing relationship is when you begin to lose interest in other potential partners. For instance after you have been on a date, you can’t wait to see your ‘friend’ to tell them about how dumb the guy was or how the girl ate pizza with a fork. Likewise when your sex buddy has an actual date or ask you for dating advice, you always find flaws with the new people or tell them they can do better.

* You Are In No Hurry

The nature of your sexual relationship is sure
to hold a few pointers if you have been
moving from a strictly friends with benefits to
more emotional involvement. For instance
when you start kissing, you enjoy it for a long
while and are in no hurry to get to the final
base. In fact you may even be kissing more
often as a greeting and not just as a pathway
to sex or out of obligation in the morning.
Similarly after a hook up you are in no mood
to part ways quickly; so after you spend the
night together, you probably sleep in and get
brunch the next day.

* You Cuddle Up

After you hook up, you stay in each other’s
arms and nuzzle each other’s necks and talk
sweet nothings. You cuddle or put yourselves
in a spooning position. All these are behaviors
are ways of reinforcing emotional attachment
through physical gestures and could signal red
flags in your friends with benefits relationship.

*Sex Is No Longer The Most Important Thing

You go over to hook up with your ‘friend’ but
end up watching TV and eating pizza
together. Or perhaps he/she massages your
back for you when you go over after a
stressful day at work. At times like these you
don’t even need sex and happily fall asleep
leaning on each other on the couch. When sex
is no longer the primary focus in your
relationship, it is evident that you are getting
closer to each other in an emotional or even
romantic way.

*You Do Things For Each Other

A surefire sign of a friends with benefit
relationship turning into something more is
when you both like to do things for each other
that are not remotely connected to sex.
Perhaps one of you has cooked for the other
one or one of you has made the other a mix
CD. Again you may have gone out of your
way to collect your friend’s favorite dessert
for a night he/she is coming over or perhaps
he/she has surprised you with a gift of your
favorite book or painting. Indulging each
other with things and gestures not connected
primarily to sex are one of the common traits
of a deepening emotional attachment.

*You Are Less Secretive

While society has become more accepting of
different kinds of relationships, a sex buddy is
still someone that you would not like to
advertise in your daily life. Thus if you find
yourself becoming less secretive about your
relationship with this ‘friend’, chances are you
are looking for a relationship based on trust
and honesty instead of something furtive. Thus
now when your ‘friend’ posts something to
your facebook wall, you probably don’t fly
into a panic and delete it immediately before
anyone sees. Also you don’t mind being clicked
with your ‘friend’ and it being available for the
whole world to view – indeed you may even
feel a certain pride that your relationship is
now out in the open and does not exist solely
behind closed bedroom doors.

After all these things, do The Needful when necessary


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Sex is powerful especially when you have it with the same partner regularly. You don't put hot coal on your laps and hope it won't burn you.