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8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Borrusia: 1:29pm On May 14, 2015
1. You pick the wrong person because you
expect him/her to change after you’re married.

The classic mistake. Never marry potential.
The golden rule is, if you can’t be happy with
the person the way he or she is now, don’t get
married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put
it, “You actually can expect people to change
after their married… for the worst!”
So when it comes to the other person’s
spirituality, character, personal hygiene,
communication skills, and personal habits,
make sure you can live with these as they are
now.

2. Choosing a life partner based on physical
attractiveness

This is not bad but, before that , it
must be taken into consideration that beauty,
as it is, is a natural wealth for a short period
of time. Humans change with respect to time.
If the person does not age, there are other
factors that can really take the attractiveness
of the without us not able to do anything
about it. We are just life flowers, wild and all
rosy in the morning but gloomy and weak by
night fall. Have you asked yourself whether
you will be able to live with the person should
all the attractiveness fade away

3. Another factor that influences bad
partnership decision is $ex.

Most ladies especially, when in their youth, desire men who can actually make them feel good in bed. But
we must not forget that it is a lifetime decision
and a long term execution of plan not a short
term one. The problem is that sometimes we
forget that it is a long term decision we are
taking and thus choosing a partner for that
journey should go far beyond the physicalities.
Imagine eating one particular food for a month,
two or three. Would you ever have an appetite
for that particular food in the next month to
come? Definitely no! It is same with $ex.
Having $ex with one particular person for a
long period of time can be boring sometimes
thus not good factor to consider when
choosing a partner. Intimacy is always on the
woman’s terms. Men are goal-oriented,
especially when it comes this area. As a wise
woman once pointed out, “Men have two
speeds: on and off.” Women are experience-
oriented. When a man is able to switch gears
and become more experience-oriented, he will
discover what makes his wife very happy.
When the man forgets about his own needs
and focuses on giving his wife pleasure,
amazing things happen.

4. You choose the wrong person because you
do not share a common life goals and
priorities.

There are three basic ways we connect with
another person:

•chemistry and compatibility

~share common interests

•share common life goal

Make sure you share the deeper level of
connection that sharing life goals provide.
After marriage, the two of you will either grow
together or grow apart. To avoid growing
apart, you must figure out what you’re “living
for,” while you’re single — and then find
someone who has come to the same
conclusion as you.
This is the true definition of a “soul mate.” A
soul mate is a goal mate — two people who
ultimately share the same understanding of
life’s purpose and therefore share the same
priorities, values and goals.

5. You choose the wrong person because you
get intimately involved too quickly.

Intimacy before the commitment of marriage
can be a big problem because it often
precludes a fully honest exploration of
important issues. Physical involvement tends
to cloud one’s mind. And a clouded mind is
not inclined to make good decisions.
It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in
order to find out if a couple is physically
compatible. If you do your homework and
make sure you are intellectually and
emotionally compatible, you don’t have to
worry about it. Of all the studies done on
divorce, incompatibility in the intimate arena is
almost never cited as a main reason why
people divorce.

6. You pick the wrong person because you do
not have a deeper emotional connection with
this person.

To evaluate whether you have a deeper
emotional connection or not, ask: “Do I respect
and admire this person?”Most people choose
to accept anyone as a life partner because of
the fact that they are probably ageing. This is
most common among women. Most women
believe that once they get to their late twenties
and still man less, must accept anyone
without consideration if not, much about the
composition of the man they are going to tie
the knot with which sometimes ends up in
disaster.

7. Pity, they say is the sweetest form of
love.

Actually, I don’t see any sense in that.
How can you make a choice of a wife or
husband based on that? It is too cheap. If you
going out with someone and think the person
doesn’t march the kind of husband or wife you
intend marrying, why don’t you just forget
about the person and ignore the fact that the
person will probably change one day. In fact it
is the worst mistake and harm you can ever do
to yourself.

8. You pick the wrong person because you
use the relationship to escape from personal
problems and unhappiness.

If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably
be unhappy and married, too.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably
be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does
not fix personal, psychological and emotional
problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate
them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your
life, take responsibility to fix it now while you
are single. You’ll feel better, and your future
spouse will thank you.

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Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Nobody: 1:31pm On May 14, 2015
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Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Princecalm(m): 1:32pm On May 14, 2015
With all this, some people might never get to find the right person which is to confirm that marriage is not meant for everyone.
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 1:37pm On May 14, 2015
ain't got tym to read long dumbshiiii†,
Neeeeeeeex† angry
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Twaci(f): 1:50pm On May 14, 2015
Nice one OP, am writing this down.

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Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Nobody: 1:56pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:
ain't got tym to read long dumbshiiii†,
Neeeeeeeex† angry
If I should let out what I have in my jugular, you'd be left reeling in the wrought for only God knows when, I didn't ask for your comment neither did I request for your opinion, understood?
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:02pm On May 14, 2015
Borrussia:
If I should let out what I have in my jugular, you'd be left reeling in the wrought for only God knows when, I didn't ask for your comment neither did I request for your opinion, understood?
release waheva stewpid shiiii† u av in ur leekin store. undecided
That fuçk u tink u exchangin words wid.? angry

I type weneva i wanna ok? Crap.!
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Nobody: 2:05pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:

release waheva stewpid shiiii† u av in ur leekin store. undecided
That fuçk u tink u exchangin words wid.? angry

I type weneva i wanna ok? Crap.!
Its quite demeaning to engage in a war of words with lousy fella, whereas I don't wanna be the one to derail my own thread.

Just swerve -----------> and remain swerved-------->
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:12pm On May 14, 2015
Borrussia:
Its quite demeaning to engage in a war of words with lousy fella, whereas I don't wanna be the one to derail my own thread.

[s]Just swerve -----------> and remain swerved-------->[/s]
mor0n, dats old, plz type sumtin new@bolded txt.
Nd nice alternative to avoid mi cuz more chaos looms on ur rickety thread already. lipsrsealed
Now plz...

Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Svelteb(f): 2:16pm On May 14, 2015
Nice one op, the post is really enlightening.
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Nobody: 2:19pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:

mor0n, dats old, plz type sumtin new@bolded txt.
Nd nice alternative to avoid mi cuz more chaos looms on ur rickety thread already. lipsrsealed
Now plz...
Its obvious you want a fight and I will give you one, kindly tag me in chat central thread and you'll be in for a shocker
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:23pm On May 14, 2015
Borrussia:
Its obvious you want a fight and I will give you one, kindly tag me in chat central thread and you'll be in for a shocker
mtcheeeeew.

Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Colospor(m): 2:27pm On May 14, 2015
With all due respect please shut the fvck up and stop derailing.

Thanks

@ dharay99
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:30pm On May 14, 2015
Colospor:
With all due respect please shut the fvck up and stop derailing.

Thanks

@ dharay99
watz up píg.?
Follow suit okh...

**bunch of babies**
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Colospor(m): 2:31pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:

watz up píg.?
Follow suit okh...

**bunch of babies**
Improvised dunderhead, you're the kid in here.
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:33pm On May 14, 2015
Colospor:
Improvised dunderhead, you're the kid in here.
++yaaawns++
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Colospor(m): 2:36pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:

++yaaawns++
Why are you so foolish, is your foolishness hereditary or you probably hit your head on a pavement when still a kid, stop derailing; is that too much to ask for, or are you dyslexic?
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 2:43pm On May 14, 2015
Colospor:
Why are you so foolish, is your foolishness hereditary or you probably hit your head on a pavement when still a kid, stop derailing; is that too much to ask for, or are you dyslexic?
hey son,
So uve finally come outta ur hiding circle.
I wanda y yhu so pained like likah misfortuned imp

I enjoy derailing low life threads like urs..so next tym u store up more sense in ur next thread.

++qoute mi baq++
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Colospor(m): 2:56pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:

hey son,
So uve finally come outta ur hiding circle.
I wanda y yhu so pained like likah misfortuned imp

I enjoy derailing low life threads like urs..so next tym u store up more sense in ur next thread.

++qoute mi baq++
You must be high on opium for this statement you mentally deranged vapid slubberdegullion, I've been reading scriptures and attending sermon about how God love peoples but I'm now having a second thought because Gods decision to put you among living organism is not out of love, an ant existence is far more better than yours in this galaxy, your idiocy level can be measured with that of Mr. IBU, you are amazingly lugubrious in every ways and you're not worth more than the saliva of a mad woman.

Your typo eloquence reeks of a perpetual uneducated fvcktard and I'll gladly eat raw stinking ponmo than engage you any longer, you're now free to go kiss a blarney stone for all I care.
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 3:08pm On May 14, 2015
Colospor:
You must be high on opium for this statement you mentally deranged vapid slubberdegullion, I've been reading scriptures and attending sermon about how God love peoples but I'm now having a second thought because Gods decision to put you among living organism is not out of love, an ant existence is far more better than yours in this galaxy, your idiocy level can be measured with that of Mr. IBU, you are amazingly lugubrious in every ways and you're not worth more than the saliva of a mad woman.

Your typo eloquence reeks of a perpetual uneducated fvcktard and I'll gladly eat raw stinking ponmo than engage you any longer, you're now free to go kiss a blarney stone for all I care.

this is wah happens wen u still under ur parents...mehn hw sterwpeed can u get d more.?
I see u conjured most of doz lame line from doz diss threads and its old mahn...seen enuff of doz old stale words.
Ur cocksuçking brain shuld tell u hwfa u've gone outta ur lane cuz its gonna b u & I til mommah calls.

Nd here is d tin, are doz d outdated lame lines u were scaring me of? Lolz nigga u erroneously empty upstairs and who Eva excreted u into ds good world made a gigantic error.

I'm all here 4yhu pussy-àss nigga.
++plz quote me back goat++
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by Colospor(m): 3:13pm On May 14, 2015
dharay99:


this is wah happens wen u still under ur parents...mehn hw sterwpeed can u get d more.?
I see u conjured most of doz lame line from doz diss threads and its old mahn...seen enuff of doz old stale words.
Ur cocksuçking brain shuld tell u hwfa u've gone outta ur lane cuz its gonna b u & I til mommah calls.

Nd here is d tin, are doz d outdated lame lines u were scaring me of? Lolz nigga u erroneously empty upstairs and who Eva excreted u into ds good world made a gigantic error.

I'm all here 4yhu pussy-àss nigga.
++plz quote me back goat++
Here goes the tale of a mentally deranged psycochalgia psychopath.
Re: 8 Common Reasons You End Up Marrying The Wrong Person. by dharay99: 3:23pm On May 14, 2015
Colospor:
Here goes the tale of a mentally deranged psycochalgia psychopath.
dont telme u tired of ur long boring posts cuz ds aint wah im expectin...

Plz cook up all ur dull verses n reply me like a real son of a crayfish hawker.

++plz quote me baq lazy ãss++

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