babyosisi:


Did you read the story at all
The woman was married
After a nasty divorce,her ex husband started telling the stories of her past which he knew before marrying her
Her abortions and her mother's mental illness history
Now who made the initial error?
Who is now hurting?

eddychis:
Trust is the bedrock of a relationship. Always be open to your husband, if you hide anything he will still know. Since there is nothing hidden under the sun, one day it will be blown open. Is better you tell him, than keeping secret and he finds out. He will believe there are many more things you are hiding and that could lead to divorce.

babyosisi:


Every single girl that had aborted was impregnated by a man
Every one of them
And almost all those abortions were done by a man
No be so?
Where are those men and their confessions?
And you will run and blab because your mouth is itching you
Women use your heads
Don't come out holding the shorter end of the stick o
And start crying for self inflicted injury

babyosisi:


Every single girl that had aborted was impregnated by a man
Every one of them
And almost all those abortions were done by a man
No be so?
Where are those men and their confessions?
And you will run and blab because your mouth is itching you
Women use your heads
Don't come out holding the shorter end of the stick o
And start crying for self inflicted injury

1stCitizen:


Abegi!!! You faked your certificate and got a plum job thereafter decided to ask God to forgive you but still continued on the job. Even started paying 50% of your wages from the fraudulently gotten job as tithe. Nna, God wey go punish you eh!

oseod:



Its possible that all men have impregnated a woman, and caused an abortion............highly plausible.......
So all men men have the same dirty secrets and are bloody hypocrites..
So all ladies shouldn't bother to come out clean even if the man in question regards it as important..(for his own reasons whatsoever).since there is a 100% chance he's a hypocrite.........

It all makes sense now....thumbs up babyosisi. ( have you ever considered been a marriage consultant, u'd do very great )

babyosisi:


I even wonder why a man would even be interested in knowing who and who his intended wife dated or slept with in the past
I can understand diseases but an answer is not enough sef,in today's world only a fool will get married without testing for STDs
It sounds like a self esteem issue to me for a man to be asking details of men that came before him,that is my opinion
What is he asking for?
So that what will happen ?
Mine didn't ask me any of those questions at all,is that abnormal?
He actually snatched me kinda sorta from another man so asking about past men is fruitless
I wasn't a virgin and didn't pretend to be and that is enough history that there were others before him
Same way there were a legion before me,doesn't change a thing

shrekandfiona:

My spouse and I met in my workplace though different departments. I was there years before he joined.

When we started courting and I knew he was someone I could marry, i didn't have any issues with his questions. However later on he told he that he had heard several rumours about me in the organization how I slept my way through the job and how I got pregnant at will for my colleagues

Note that he already had an opinion of me Which I wasn't even aware of while dating. According to him when I answered all his questions, he discovered I was a very blunt and truthful lady and he knew he could spend his life with me.

If I was unfruitful in marriage I wouldn't know if he would have used my past against me but as I speak to you, in our almost 1 decade of marriage none of my revealed secrets has ever been mentioned by him.

Babe, you are entitled to your opinion / views how be it weird. I still love you.

kenex4ever:
bros u see fake for wetin I write? U wan tell me say throughout ur university (that's if applicable) u never ask ur friend question for test or exam (or any other form of minor cheating like copying assignment)? So for dat reason u go reject ur cert n start afresh. If na so then d lightening of the thunder wen go fire alone go burn bush.

babyosisi:


I said if there are chances he knows your past then by all means come clean when asked
Wisdom is the key

1stCitizen:


Bro I be primary 2 drop out. I no know book at all so my papa no let me go school. Even teasher no gree teash me sef, but I smart enough to know the difference between an analogy and whether statement dey directed at you. Peace!

babyosisi:
What things should you keep

1. Things you know will shatter him emotionally.for instance a woman,a friend's mom here was teaching me to cook native soup and told me some not so good things about my MIL,claiming she treated my FIL badly.I will be a fool to tell those things to my husband.The consequences will be far reaching so I will be taking that info,true or false to my grave.

2.Details of issues in your own birth family.
Believe me your hubby ain't telling you all of his
So don't go painting your siblings and parents in a terrible light.Some stories you must tell obviously but always leave some details that have to do with family integrity to yourself.Keep your parent's and family honor where necessary especially if you fear it may be used to taunt you as some immature men do.

3 your infidelity ..
This is a controversial one,I believe in faithfulness ,let me make that clear first of all.Women being emotional beings feel the guilt of infidelity more than men.It is wrong to cheat,I will not condone it and by Gods grace will never .However,if you happen to err as humans often do and are remorseful, repent and confess to your God and take that secret to your grave. Revealing it can be disastrous and will serve no purpose.Just go and sin no more .If you are a habitual cheat,of course you should seek divorce rather than living in deception.

Sophyrocks:


Hahahhahahaha.

I heard osho baba's wife gist o. Mehn, men are soooo gullible. Just be beautiful and lie that you are virgin they will just lick your feet. Who does osho baba think he is deceiving with the 'Virgin story'? For im mind e wise well well bypassing nigerian women to marry a foreigner after sleeping with so many Edo state university babes. Infact his s.excapades are well known all over edo state and girls can tell the size of his organ sef. I read a blog where girls were washing his dirty linen. Chai! After trying so hard to avoid a runz babe, he ended up with one for a wife.

My belief is men that think they are soooo smart living anyhow lives usually end up with ladies who are just like them. Cunning man die, cunning woman bury am o. You have a very bad lifestyle feeling like a cat with 9 lives, life will throw at you someone who is just like you. Karma works o.

babyosisi:


Exactly
Especially if you know he will use it against you,you don't need to tell him about every man that has poked you
Unnecessary detail
If you worked as a hooker( ashawo) and has turned a new leaf,you are free to keep that detail to yourself
It's not necessary to share all that worthless tale in order to appear honest
Old things are passed away,leave them that way
He isn't telling you all of his so you need to keep yours too
Don't show out yourself in a terrible light and destroy your reputation by blabbing about details of your past,destroying yourself with your own mouth.
If you had 5 abortions ,must you talk about them with your man?
What for?
Has he told you how many abortions he sponsored?
O ho
So why the details

BlackOnassis:


Ashawo and abortions are "worthless tales"? OMG!

Guys, are you listening? We are in deep soup

babyosisi:


Whether you will use it against her or not is not the issue
The main issue is,what purpose will those details serve in the first place?
Nothing
So why share all of those?

cococandy:
if you guys want to stop being in deep soup, zip your pants.
Your penisses contribute to ashawo business and is the main reason why abortion takes place.

You have part of the blame too.

babyosisi:

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3weeks and a girl has told her whole life history
For what?
That is why I want girls to use their heads
Women keep your diarrhea mouths shut
Zip it
You ain't getting no medals for your stories
You are destroying your own selves with this talkativeness
Keep it to yourselves
Love should not be synonymous with foolishness

cococandy:
if you guys want to stop being in deep soup, zip your pants.
Your penisses contribute to ashawo business and is the main reason why abortion takes place.

You have part of the blame too.

cococandy:
if you guys want to stop being in deep soup, zip your pants.
Your penisses contribute to ashawo business and is the main reason why abortion takes place.

You have part of the blame too.

BlackOnassis:


I think we should try to stick to the topic here.

The topic is about coming clean to your spouse about the things you've done in the past that can affect your long term relationship. If a lady is going to hide an abortion and involvement in prostitution as "worthless tales", I really want to know what counts as worthy tales in your books.

babyosisi:


People misquote me and misread me and add pepper to my posts
Men are keeping their stories,women please keep yours
That is my message
The consequences are grave in our society
Talk less
Come clean to your God and end it there for the most part
don't give any information that was not asked and if asked,you have a right not to answer or answer it in your own way

babyosisi:


Exactly
Especially if you know he will use it against you,you don't need to tell him about every man that has poked you
Unnecessary detail
If you worked as a hooker( ashawo) and has turned a new leaf,you are free to keep that detail to yourself
It's not necessary to share all that worthless tale in order to appear honest
Old things are passed away,leave them that way
He isn't telling you all of his so you need to keep yours too
Don't show out yourself in a terrible light and destroy your reputation by blabbing about details of your past,destroying yourself with your own mouth.
If you had 5 abortions ,must you talk about them with your man?
What for?
Has he told you how many abortions he sponsored?
O ho
So why the details

cococandy:


Ok So would you confess to your wife how many times you have patronized prostitutes or told your ex to have an abortion because you weren't ready to be a father? That just serves no purpose.

As far as I'm concerned, there are no worthy tales as such except if you have cause to believe you're infertile or have a health problem that can affect your marriage. If you knew about it before marriage, then definitely tell or else the marriage is null and void.

But if there's no such dangers and you're just blabbing because you want to offload your guilt on another person and put them in a tight corner, there's no need for that.

The old me is the kind of girl that would probably confess all because I have this nagging voice in my head whenever I'm in love that makes me want it to be as pure as possible. And to me that meant confessing all no matter how minute because I thought it would help.

But Maturity has taken over. Now I know such things don't pay. Serves no purpose. Doesn't make the relationship better and worse of all hurts the man you love.

If I did it before I met you, if it has no way of affecting our health or childbearing possibilities, if it won't come back to be in your face (eg things like dating your husband's old friend can come back in your face. So that I'd tell him.)

if it is not any of those,it belongs in the past. I'll leave it there. Ces't finis.

1stCitizen:


Why would Paul confess when he was a known butcher. Did he have a partner and was it written that she did not know him well?

On the case of the woman...you just wrote that she was CAUGHT Someone that was caught now confessing makes no sense.

The point we are making here is if you enter any relationship, be it personal or business or a more serious thing like marriage, get into it devoid of fraud or the relationship will be cursed from day one.