My girlfriend / wife doesn’t have a personality disorder.
She’s just emotional . Maybe, maybe not. Borderline
Personality Disorder isn’t as mainstream in public
awareness as other psychiatric diagnoses, but it’s a very
real problem that affects many individuals and the people
who are in ongoing relationships with them or trying to
end relationships with them.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a kissing cousin of
BPD. There is usually some overlap between the two.
Most people think being a narcissist means that you’re
conceited or vain–there’s a lot more to it.
Men are typically accused of being insensitive and out of
touch with their feelings. We rarely talk about women who
emotionally abuse the men they claim to love . There are
different reasons why this is a silent epidemic:
a) Society and psychology hold a reverse sexist attitude
regarding the perpetrators and recipients of emotional
abuse.
b) Men have been brainwashed into believing that “she’s
just expressing her feelings” when she’s being abusive
and that “he’s insensitive and doesn’t understand.”
Unfortunately, many mental health professionals
perpetuate this phenomenon through their own gender
biases . Should these men enter into couples treatment,
they often get tag teamed by their girlfriend/wife and the
therapist into believing they’re the problem. Should this
couple actually find a shrink worth his/her salt that tries
to hold the Borderline/Narcissist accountable, said shrink
is duly fired and vilified by the BPD/NPD.
c) Men are too embarrassed to talk about the hurt, pain
and confusion they experience as a result of the way
these women mistreat them.
Warning: Being involved with an abusive Borderline or
Narcissist May Be Hazardous to Your Mental Health
Here are some common side effects of being in an
abusive relationship, whether the abusive individual has a
personality disorder or not:
1) Censoring your thoughts and feelings. You edit it
yourself because you’re afraid of her reactions.
Swallowing the lump in your throat and your hurt and
anger is easier than dealing with another fight or hurt
feelings. In fact, you may have stuffed your own emotions
for so long that you no longer know what you think or
feel.
2) Everything is your fault. You’re blamed for everything
that goes wrong in the relationship and in general, even if
it has no basis in reality.
3) Constant criticism. She criticizes nearly everything
you do and nothing is ever good enough. No matter how
hard you try, there’s no pleasing her or, if you do, it’s few
and far between.
4) Control freak. She engages in manipulative behaviors,
even lying, in an effort to control you.
5) Dr Jekyll and Ms Hyde. One moment she’s kind and
loving; the next she’s flipping out on you. She becomes
so vicious, you wonder if she’s the same person. The first
time it happens, you write it off. Now, it’s a regular
pattern of behavior that induces feelings of depression,
anxiety, helplessness and/or despair within you.
6) Your feelings don’t count. Your needs and feelings, if
you’re brave enough to express them, are ignored,
ridiculed, minimized and/or dismissed. You’re told that
you’re too demanding, that there’s something wrong with
you and that you need to be in therapy. You’re denied the
right to your feelings.
7) Questioning your own sanity. You’ve begun to wonder
if you’re crazy because she puts down your point of view
and/or denies things she says or does. If you actually
confide these things to a friend or family member, they
don’t believe you because she usually behaves herself
around other people.
Say what? “But I didn’t say that. I didn’t do that.” Sure
you did. Well, you did in her highly distorted version of
reality. Her accusations run the gamut from infidelity to
cruelty to being un-supportive (even when you’re the one
paying all the bills) to repressing her and holding her
back. It’s usually baseless, which leaves you feeling
defensive and misunderstood.
9) Isolating yourself from friends and family. You
distance yourself from your loved ones and colleagues
because of her erratic behavior, moodiness and
instability. You make excuses for her inexcusable
behaviors to others in an effort to convince yourself that
it’s normal.
10) Walking on landmines. One misstep and you could
set her off. Some people refer to this as “walking on
eggshells,” but eggs emit only a dull crunch when you
step on them. Setting off a landmine is a far more
descriptive simile.
11) What goes up, must come down. She places you on a
pedestal only to knock it out from under your feet. You’re
the greatest thing since sliced bread one minute and the
next minute, you’re the devil incarnate.
12) Un-level playing field. Borderlines and Narcissists
make the rules; they break the rules and they change the
rules at will. Just when you think you’ve figured out how
to give her what she wants, she changes her
expectations and demands without warning. This sets
you up for failure in no-win situations, leaving you
feeling helpless and trapped.
13) You’re a loser, but don’t leave me. “You’re a jerk.
You’re a creep. You’re a bastard. I love you. Don’t leave
me.” When you finally reach the point where you just
can’t take it anymore, the tears, bargaining and threats
begin. She insists she really does love you. She can’t live
without you. She promises to change. She promises it
will get better, but things never change and they never
get better.
When that doesn’t work, she blames you and anything
and anyone else she can think of, never once taking
responsibility for her own behaviors . She may even resort
to threats. She threatens that you’ll never see the kids
again. Or she threatens to bad mouth you to your friends
and family.
https://shrink4men./2009/01/21/relationships-with-borderline-narcissistic-personality-women/
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Sounds like someone I know . . .

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I slap women who dares disobey me.

A nice research.It explains women

RichardFuld:
I slap women who dares disobey me.

Can you actually slap that bouncer that disobey you?

RichardFuld:
I slap women who dares disobey me.

But mind u there are narcisst boyfriend.. maybe u are one with way u talk....

Cadamlk:
Can you actually slap that bouncer that disobey you?

Bouncer?You mean bodyguard?I will just have him fired.LOL

Op, Men do the above mentioned too.... Op, Men do the above mentioned too....