dinachi:
This is why we said in the other thread in the family section that people should never hide anything from their spouses at all. Some immature children posing as marriage counsellors called for our heads. And I am sure she never even mentioned to her fiance that she ran into the guy again and he bought her some things. @Op <<<your friend is not a good person at all. She is a gold digger, immature for marriage and a slut>>> sorry to say.
Anyways the only solution as it stands now is to come totally clean to her fiance.

prudentcy:
I believe d guy is no longer wit d video clip cos he claimed that he's married with 2 kids.
Definitely, if d guy release d video that shows there's probability dat his wife too may see the video which I bliv he will nt wnt his wife to see it except if he hasn't married.

Get his details on FB, twitter, whatsapp and google and finds out if he's truly married.
Do the findings and don't 4get to ask ur frnds and his frnds in uni. If they av any info abt d guy's current status. After fully knowing his status it will help u how to table d matter b4 ur fiance.

I will advice u to let ur fiance knw b4 u even take any decision on ur own mayb to set up ur ex or anything cos if he finds out or get to knw abt d set up without telling him u might nt b able to save ur ass. Tell him and I bliv he will reason with u how to deal with d issue since is still a threat.
Goodluck.

chimerase2:
So assuming now u b babe way I wan marry na to open ua dirty mouth de reason me say u been do MOJO with ua boi friend
De kind bite way I go bite amu eh even suarez no go believ amu hin go shock becos hin neva see dat kind biting before

MzzTega:

All these things could be avoided,but at that time she was not thinking with her brain now she wants to apply the ‘‘brain power of people''

The guy is bluffing. A video in the uni days,he kept it and his wife did not bump into it,thats cool.

She should tell her fiance,not much of a big deal. Every body has a past.

Shagati:
He has a wife and kids in the US? Very good.

-Source out his family via the internet; Facebook. Twitter. Instagram (get pictures)
-Get as much details as you can about him. Home Address, office, church, favourite bar, strip joint etc.
-Save all the chats between yourselves. (Screenshots)
-Show him all the evidence you have of his cosy little life and tell him if he as much as sends you a message again you will make his life a living hell and destroy any fvcking Utopia he thinks he has.

I can provide the above service free of charge to you


#DamnIhateblackmailers!!!

AsanwaKC:
get rid of him ASAP...he asked for it

jameseva:
Tell him about sex video? Lol!Tell her not to try that nonsense if she likes her marraige oo. Even if the guy posts the recording, chances of your fiance or friends seeing it is pretty slim. Another advice, although bad, is that she should go hookup with the guy to silence him, it's not like it's d first time he's hit it. That way she can save her marriage and beg d other guy to delete d video or something. Whateva u decide, goodluck.

DancingSkeleton:
see wetin Kim kardashian cos

Orkpekyandega:
I thought guys of nowadays especially on Nairaland prefer marrying ladies who are not virgins! So a lady like this one doesn't have a problem at all because she is not new to the game.
Am not mocking her but am suprised that no body is supporting her whereas most people on Nairaland or rather the youth of today prefer to mary a disvirgined girl.
Why then is she complaining?

adeekiti:
In the first why should u make videos with a Man U ain't married to? It describes who u are , pornstars make videos so my question is 'were u a IndecentStar' now u av to pay for it , why crying but here is my candid advice tell ur hubby about ur past if only u never lied abt yourself and if lucky enough u get away with this mehn I congratulate u, it's disgusting making sex videos with a bf Chaii naija babes won't stop to amaze me, Now I see reasons why most men don't wanna get married , that beautiful girl u just met was a IndecentStar in her past so how will she erase it in the future... Una go dey fvck up and down, if I see any girl for Nairaland dey talk abt sex again, I will arrest una, una see una life that girl wey u spoil her with ur kini na another man wife tomoro o, but karma is a always waiting at its bustop omo u go pay o

SimpleJetty:
She should first of all intimate her would-be hubby about the latest trend and of course seek for his understanding. Then they should both work together and alert the police. Now the trick would be to lay ambush for the so-called ex boyfriend(beast) on the pretence she has succumbed to his crazy quest. Then a venue would be agreed upon. Once the animal shows up, the police will get him arrested and he'll face the law cause it's a crime to blackmail someone. Also let her not forget to record there phone conversation henceforth which will be tendered as evidence in a competent court of jurisdiction.

CSTR2:
lol.
Reminds me of that Nigerian yoruba actress that had her sex tape leaked days to her wedding.
She got deservedly dumped by the smart fiance.

benebaby77:



A beg get a link to that video.... I wan know her ring tone.... I hear say dey swear for their in their ringing tone. Nah God I take beg you...

Shagati:
He has a wife and kids in the US? Very good.

-Source out his family via the internet; Facebook. Twitter. Instagram (get pictures)
-Get as much details as you can about him. Home Address, office, church, favourite bar, strip joint etc.
-Save all the chats between yourselves. (Screenshots)
-Show him all the evidence you have of his cosy little life and tell him if he as much as sends you a message again you will make his life a living hell and destroy any fvcking Utopia he thinks he has.

I can provide the above service free of charge to you


#DamnIhateblackmailers!!!

Cutehector:
hey, pls quit the blame game.. They were young and silly then.. Buh d good tin is it aLl happend way way before she met her present fiance.. So if he is understanding, he'l put it aside

6fit:



i pray his not understanding......i wish i know d guy i would hav help him pyrate d video. I will google d guy. Girls like u will not stop advertising pussy for video....i get guy wey need porn star u fit show for audition

AsanwaKC:
get rid of him ASAP...he asked for it

Melahou:


Don't be to sure...cos from experience i can tell you that he may have it on a cd or memory card (edited version)

jayfolarin:
Hi nairalanders. I have been around for a while but this should be my first topic/post in the romance section. This incidence is a long epistle but i'll try and summarise.... I need urgent and reasonable advice here pls..

Just about an hour ago, a girlfriend of mine (a buddy that is a girl) came to me with tears and lamented with the hope that I can offer a 'do not worry yourself, it's a small thing' advice like I usually do.

It was about a boy she dated in d university who bumped into her again about 2weeks ago. As they didn't end things on a sour note back then, she was glad to have met him again and could not even wait to announce to him that she was now engaged with wedding plans underway.

According to her, the boy acted all good and even offered to pay for d stuffs she got at domino's. They exchanged numbers again with d promises of keeping in touch and expectation that d boy will be attending her wedding later in September.

To her utmost surprise and dismay though, the boy has been calling since last week and telling her all sort of things like he has been out of naija since after nysc, has a wife and 2 kids in d US, he still likes her, wants them to get intimate again while he's still in the country, bla bla bla...she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, she said.

The heartbreaking part here is where the guy has now threatened to post a sex video they made together back in school on the Internet coz my homegirl said NO. The attempt at the cheap blackmail just to getdown with her disgusts me to the bone but i'm still at a crossroad on what to do to this guy.

The question now is she thinks the guy is serious, she acknowledged that they recorded intimate sessions on more than 2 occasions back in the uni, she loves her husband-to-be and could get suicidal if he leaves her (her words), SHOULD SHE TELL HIM ABOUT THE VIDEOS??

pretydiva:
Will suggest she tells her hubby 2 b abt it. Then d 3 of u can put heads 2geda 2 set dat guy up n gve him wat he deserves. He's such a big fo.ol frm demanding such frm d gal

chimerase2:
So assuming now u b babe way I wan marry na to open ua dirty mouth de reason me say u been do MOJO with ua boi friend
De kind bite way I go bite amu eh even suarez no go believ amu hin go shock becos hin neva see dat kind biting before