skyfullofstars:
I always see posts of complaint towards women.

Why don't we also make a post against men? We, the women, we also deserve a good partner by our side, and i'm sure we could name a hundred examples why men are far from perfect...

Nobody is perfect, neither women nor men.

Since you don't such written about men, why not write one

Hian! Nice write up

Good, but i can bet that over 50% of Nairalanders didn't read the whole write up before liking and commenting. Never assume that all or most single ladies of marriageable age fall under any of these points. It makes you judgemental and that is not a positive attitude either.

For those groaning and waiting for life partners, we wait now for our whole being to be free even as the Spirit pleads with God for us in groans that cannot be expressed in words.
Are you waiting for a life partner\spouse or child or job or admission or promotion or approval or test results? Are you waiting? Know this:
Romans 8:18, 25 ... what we suffer at those present time cannot be compared at all with the glory that is going to be revealed to us. But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
Since we are His children, we will possess the blessings He keeps for His people, and we will also possess with Christ what God has kept for Him, for if we share Christ’s suffering, we will also share His glory (Romans 8:17)
God be with you

misssclassy:
There are a lot of single ladies out there who are supposed to have been married but still remain single. Most have had relationships and for some reasons such relationship failed, with them being the primary cause of such failures, while some haven't even had the any.
Most times this is as a result of certain reasons that these ladies may be ignorant of

So here are some of those probable reasons why a lot of ladies who seek to marry still end up remaining single.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable.
Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such
And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen.
These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want.
Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that,
but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices.
You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Being Too Critical About Everything
A lot of ladies are too critical and judgmental about issues and they tend to always look at things from a pessimistic point of view.
They always tend to see nothing good in anything and they always look for someone to blame their predicaments on. All this can be really frustrating for their partners
Some are not even appreciative of little and always expect more.
They even go all the way to blame their partners for their own wrongs and most men just can't live with them.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see.
A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress.
They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them.
Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Giving Up Too Easily
A lot of women who might not be having it good in a relationship just tend to throw their hands up in the air and say, “I give up, there’s no point continuing"
But they fail to realize that not every guy they meet is the perfect guy
They forget that each experience be a learning experience, and they get discouraged easily.
They fail to understand that there are always trying times in every relationship and patience and perseverance is needed for things to work things out.

Written By Misssclassy

Nice post. you may want to write for these guys: https://thebachelorsng./put-your-matter/

misssclassy:


I should be happy that you quoted me? Who the fvck do you think you are?
Just Listen to yourself. Who the hell are you?

If you should think for a single moment that i give a fvck whether you or anyone takes me seriously or not, then you must be more clueless than our former president.

Arrant nonsense!

cc Lalasticlala , Ishilove , Royalroy , Seun

misssclassy:


Please just shut the fvck up and stop being sentimental.

Can't you read? Didn't you see that I used "Ignorantly"
I am only referring to ladies that are ignorant of what feminism is really about.

Next time, if you want to quote me you should be reasonable and decent about it , and don't just come to spew trash born out of mere sentiments.

Have a nice night!

cc Lalasticlala , Ishilove , Royalroy , Seun

DeRay98:


Since you don't such written about men, why not write one

...! What a meaningful comment, thank you, you have enlightened my day. Hope you will become the president tomorrow, we need more people like you!

Antoinne:

That's not an attack. It's an opinion. Write-ups like this are the reasons Nigerians stay ignorant. Any Tom, Diiick or Harryc wakes up, grabs a pen and begins making verdicts on other people's lives. Tell me, what's wrong in "joining the feminism band wagon", if that makes a lady satisfied? Is marriage the pinnacle of a woman's achievement? Do you know how many poor souls will read this and begin inferring things that are not actually wrong with them?

I beg to disagree with articles like this that paint subjective issues with a color brush. They certainly don't encourage a lady to keep her head up and hold her shoulder high. There's more to living than marriage. And behavior should be by themselves and not fashioned to nick a husband.

Missclassy, please don't be angry, but I think this lady actually has a point - and I am aware people (males) have been pilling up on her.

BTW, this is your newbie "friend" , Arhitez. I promised I'll read your post then comment. I've now just read it and I am ready to offer MY opinion.

In my opinion your post is good (for nairaland at least) but not great or even very good.

The topic u chose to address is a very sensitive topic that should have been preceeded by a long preface. In absence of that, your post conveys a sense that marriage is a do or die ultimate price for a lady.

I know u said, in passing, that you are addressing ladies who want to get married, but u should not have said that just in passing. You should have spent at least a paragraph emphasizing that point. You should also have spent some time emphasizing that a lady should not settle for some maniac just to be married, that it would be better for a lady to stay single than settle for some jerk. You should also have emphasized that the reason some ladies are single may have nothing to do with anything on your list, every case being different.

Finally, you should have also made it clear that, as in advanced conuntries, it is perfectly ok for a lady to be single, and that ladies, single for whatever reason, should be able to keep their heads up and their shoulders high, disregarding our unreasonable and primitive Nigerian/African norms and attitudes.

BTW, don't listen too much to what many nairalanders are telling you. As you can see from their grammar and spelling, most of them are not all that literate.
So don't take it too much to heart when they tell u you are very intelligent or a very good writer or some such.

I hope none of this upsets or angers you. It is just my take on things.

Thanks.

^^ This guy has a good head on his shoulders! Your honesty makes it all the more remarkable. Keep it up.

misssclassy:
There are a lot of single ladies out there who are supposed to have been married but still remain single. Most have had relationships and for some reasons such relationship failed, with them being the primary cause of such failures, while some haven't even had the any.
Most times this is as a result of certain reasons that these ladies may be ignorant of

So here are some of those probable reasons why a lot of ladies who seek to marry still end up remaining single.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable.
Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such
And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen.
These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want.
Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that,
but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices.
You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Being Too Critical About Everything
A lot of ladies are too critical and judgmental about issues and they tend to always look at things from a pessimistic point of view.
They always tend to see nothing good in anything and they always look for someone to blame their predicaments on. All this can be really frustrating for their partners
Some are not even appreciative of little and always expect more.
They even go all the way to blame their partners for their own wrongs and most men just can't live with them.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see.
A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress.
They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them.
Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Giving Up Too Easily
A lot of women who might not be having it good in a relationship just tend to throw their hands up in the air and say, “I give up, there’s no point continuing"
But they fail to realize that not every guy they meet is the perfect guy
They forget that each experience be a learning experience, and they get discouraged easily.
They fail to understand that there are always trying times in every relationship and patience and perseverance is needed for things to work things out.

Written By Misssclassy

TRUE!!!

Oahray:
^^ This guy has a good head on his shoulders! Your honesty makes it all the more remarkable. Keep it up.

Just saw this.

Well, well, thanks dearie.

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Here it is again:




Missclassy, please don't be angry, but I think this lady actually has a point - and I am aware people (males) have been pilling up on her.

BTW, this is your newbie "friend" , Arhitez. I promised I'll read your post then comment. I've now just read it and I am ready to offer MY opinion.

In my opinion your post is good (for nairaland at least) but not great or even very good.

The topic u chose to address is a very sensitive topic that should have been preceeded by a long preface. In absence of that, your post conveys a sense that marriage is a do or die ultimate price for a lady.

I know u said, in passing, that you are addressing ladies who want to get married, but u should not have said that just in passing. You should have spent at least a paragraph emphasizing that point. You should also have spent some time emphasizing that a lady should not settle for some maniac just to be married, that it would be better for a lady to stay single than settle for some jerk. You should also have emphasized that the reason some ladies are single may have nothing to do with anything on your list, every case being different.

Finally, you should have also made it clear that, as in advanced conuntries, it is perfectly ok for a lady to be single, and that ladies, single for whatever reason, should be able to keep their heads up and their shoulders high, disregarding our unreasonable and primitive Nigerian/African norms and attitudes.

BTW, don't listen too much to what many nairalanders are telling you. As you can see from their grammar and spelling, most of them are not all that literate. 
So don't take it too much to heart when they tell u you are very intelligent or a very good writer or some such.

I hope none of this upsets or angers you. It is just my take on things.

Thanks.

Wish I could like these posts a million times. Always feels good to know there are men out there who don't think a lady being single even at the ripe age for marriage,is cursed. Pity most ladies out of desperation have turned to advisers and zombies even when they are single and exhibit the characters they preach against.
Sometime ago,a pig posted a pics of a very dirty disgusting kitchen with a caption' if you bring a lady home and she doesn't clean this kitchen,she's not a wife material'. You need to see these ladies confessing on how they will immediately turn to house helps! Chai! On a first date? They sure can give 'BJ' to a guy who wears one boxers twice, it's part of being a wife material. Anyway I hope they got the pms they were expecting that day. God knows I can't be with a pig who will have to turn his house into a dustbin and when ready to settle down,he goes in search of a willing slave aka wife material.
Even an agbero is searching for a wife material in Nigeria .
Thou the op is right but is marriage really an achievement?

Raalsalghul:
Why can't people just let the single ladies be? It's not as if there are no single men out there.

codeafrica:
you are the one spewing high level nonsense.shytty nonsense straight out of your anus. i am a member of a civilized,human society and there are very many unmarried women that have my total respect, dont know which "respect" this azz-hole is talking about.
would you want a woman to be with you only because she's looking for "respect" and "honour" in the society?
me thinks she's better off not being "respected" or "honoured" if marriage meant marrying a dude who spells "ladies" as "ledies".

Raalsalghul:
Why can't people just let the single ladies be? It's not as if there are no single men out there.

Bro, the society is skewed against the women folks.

These women can't just live their own lives. What a crazy world!

peppyluv02:
Wish I could like this your posts a million times. Always feels good to know there are men out there who don't think a lady being single even at the ripe age for marriage,is cursed. Pity most ladies out of desperation have turned to advisers and zombies even when they are single and exhibit the characters they preach against.
Sometime ago,a pig posted a pics of a very dirty disgusting kitchen with a caption' if you bring a lady home and she doesn't clean this kitchen,she's not a wife material'. You need to see these ladies confessing on how they will immediately turn to house helps! Chai! On a first date? They sure can give 'BJ' to a guy who wears one boxers twice, it's part of being a wife material. Anyway I hope they got the pms they were expecting that day. God knows I can't be with a pig who will have to turn his house into a dustbin and when ready to settle down,he goes in search of a willing slave aka wife material.
Even an agbero is searching for a wife material in Nigeria .
Thou the op is right but is marriage really an achievement?

No, it is not and will never be. People just allow their selves to sink in the sea of society's expectations (especially the ladies).

Jenams:
This post reminds me of my experience wit an FBN staff in Abuja. I'm 27 and she is 29. We've bn friends for a while and my intention was to make a move for a relationship wit her. I went to her branch dis very day to deposit 50k in my account like I always do every other month towards my buildin project somewhere around fct, I was having only 550 naira in my wallet that afternoon, my would be gf requested I buy her lunch so I gave her 500 out of the 550 in my wallet. Na so dis babe just vex return my money, tellin me it's too small bla bla bla. I quietly took bak my cash and left. #good riddance!

Right move!