Milly02:
I caught my girl chatting on whatsapp and telling a guy that she loves him. she was even kind of saying it feels stupid to ask a guy out but that she just have to do it cause of the love she has for him.

femidejulius:
And u are still calling her your girl.

It should be your "ex-girlfriend"

The smiley on Nairaland is too small for my LOL.

From the way you've spoken; you seems to love the babe so much; so just dress up & follow them on the date & introduce yourself as the ex-lover. If they buy you drink don't refuse it. When they start kissing, cover your face & smile.

" My girlfriend" indeed!

u should know its time for u to get out of dat relation-sheep.

onosprince:
She is gone...

[size=18pt]Not yet.
She is still sampling the two to make up her mind on the better love.
She has tasted the OP and wants to sample another sugarcane.
Lest we forget, 99.99% of Nigerian girls do the same thing every day.
Let us be honest and stop pretending and fooling ourselves.
Many Nigerian guys are giving girls money which the girls use to cook soups for the other guys in their love life.
It is like you give a girl money to buy a nice underwear and she later displays it for another guy who removes it before forking her.
We guys are also guilty of double dating, cheating and flirting.
Once, whilst one girlfriend was busy cooking for me in the kitchen, another one was undressing in the bedroom and calling to show me her new sexy underwear which I am sure another guy gave her the money she used in buying it.

See "Six Degrees of Paris Hilton: The Global Reach of One Vagina " on http://kissesandroses..com/2008/06/six-degrees-of-paris-hilton-global.html, it is a must for every guy to know how romance goes beyond us with girls and women.

"Pick any random person, and if you dig hard enough you'll find
that they had sex with somebody, who had sex with somebody, who had sex with
Paris."
It is a long sex chain with even links to Osama bin Laden. The sex chain could have linked to Nigeria if the writer continued to follow it.

It is a must read for anyone who has not read it.

Some women can really spread their legs far and wide.

Do you know the sex chain of your girlfriend or wife?

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This is the main problem nigerian girls bring for thier boyfriends these days, when the guy dumps them, they take the whole annoyance on the good guy like say na the good guy and the bad guy day f*uck her together.

Let her go.

I Said Run Very fast...and you are still standing, starring at me.

Sorry take heart

Behira:
Loool u want her to meet u in person so dat u wud still come bak on nairaland to seek advice on how to mend a broken head.

lmao.. Check all my topics, not one I'v created on hw to mend a broken rship.



I dnt kiss and tell

you might have been lacking in one area or two

Milly02:
I caught my girl chatting on whatsapp and telling a guy that she loves him. she was even kind of saying it feels stupid to ask a guy out but that she just have to do it cause of the love she has for him.

Did you say your "girlfriend"?

What girlfriend do you have?

So what kind of advice were you hoping to get here when you opened the thread?

How to woo her?

refreshrate:

Everyone her has asked you to run blah blah blah
You obviously still have feelings for the girl and this doesnt just turn off like a light switch.
The reality is you obviously cant continue loving this girl. Trust is gone.
However so that in two years time when you remember this relationship you feel good with yourself, heres what you do.
1. screen shot that conversation on whatsapp.
2. Call the girl (its taking a lot off of me not to call her stupid right now, i swear) hang out with her like normal and midway when she seems to be having fun. Tell her you really dont think you want to continue with her in the relationship.
3. Make sure its coming out of no where so she doesnt have anything to hold on to as a probable reason. Please please please do not confront her on the messages you saw like i said shes not particularly wise and would want to use that to feel cool with herself that youre jealous.
4. Dont insult or quarrel with her when you drop the bombshell, say it as calmly as when you say i like the dress youre wearing. She will enter a state of shock. when she starts to ask why? Let your mind go somewhere else. Give absolutely no response. She will begin to question herself and talk different things.
Two things are needed for this to work properly, make sure theres no issuee on ground so she doesnt see this coming, dont raise your voice or show any sign of stress in your delivery of the message. You must never ever show sign of anger. Best illustration, you know how you tell a girl youve had enough of to go? Thata what you want to do here.
Make sure the issue is not resolved on that day.
Give her like a week or two.
Two things will happen the quest to understand why youre doing this becomes the major thought process for her making her to think less of that other boy. Thoughts of you doing this will begin to make her realise you were actually a great guy.
Dont ask me why, look around and see why women still stick around with guys who are not very nice to them...or men love bitches. Its the same theory.
Note of warning though i really dont think you should continue planning to love the girl, the essence of this is to downgrade her to side chick (konji na bastard and you wouldnt like it coming with no where to...you know?) So you make her lose the boy, reset her thinking, get steady smashes...and get yourself another reasonable person to spend your resources on. trust is gone in this relationship. Lets not kid ourselves anymore.
Your pride however must be intact.

Best Advice so far
Reminds me of my days as a ''Player''
@Op, just demote her to a side chick u only call when u need her personalized skills in bed.

Abugab:
Brother, is it that u are not fine, loaded in your pocket and down there?
For every man there is a woman and for every woman there is a man.
Go get your woman and run from this one fast......

what does it mean to be loaded down there ? down where ?

ruggedtimi:
jst keep f*ckng her and dnt pay her bills anymore....u hv a reason now not to

you pay your womans bills ?

Milly02:
I caught my girl chatting on whatsapp and telling a guy that she loves him. she was even kind of saying it feels stupid to ask a guy out but that she just have to do it cause of the love she has for him.

Chai so this girl did not manage this toasting, and i told her i was not interested ooo

Cutehector:
I can't even call a gurl my girl until I hav paid her bride price... So if I see smth like dat, I will hav all rights to beat the shit out her stupidity..

correct! Nah jobless guys dey carry girl matter for head.

An average 'GF' in 9ja will claim she's giving u prack whenever u want. Meeehn! Is that the best they can come up with ?#smh

No girl is my girl until I've paid too ooh.

pleiades45:
what does it mean to be loaded down there ? down where ?

Na my mouth u wan hear?

Am sure u r her bank she withdraw from you while someone made deposit in her.SHINE UR EYES boy

Godskidmidas:
Go and check how your number is saved on her phone

hahaha, wow! Hw do u fink she wil save it?

Is not her fault but yours,as you have fails to go deep down inside her rivers of joy

. you must be a clown. what are you waiting for? she just approved your license to love another woman. #BEWISE

lekjons:
i've been laughing since the moment i saw the title of this thread(even b4 i opened it), wait lemme laugh finish,;

op u need a destiny resetting slap!, wait make i laugh small again

Don't break up with her, start dating another girl secretly(if u want, or if u're the lover-boy type), then pretend as if u see no thing, just keep her as a side chick(without her knowing), cos u've been her side guy too, maybe for months(and u don't know), jez keep feck!ng till stock lasts!, who knows, konji might catch u 'hands up' someday and ur real girlfriend may not be around or forming(u know all those 'i'm on my period' ish?), she'll save those days..

afterall that's what b!tches are for.. c'mon be a NIGGA!

lmao...............d guy is daft jaree.......make u leave him make he still dey call dat one hin gel!
#hahahahahahhahahhahahahahhahhahahahahahacantstoplaughing#

sureguy02:


Na wa o

Reminds me of the guy that saw his company putting up adverts for his position

hahaahhha, the best reply ever.

radiokilla:
My advice is: leave her and go on with your life. That can be done gradually by reducing the number of visits, calls etc until you become familiar with her absence.
The truth is that a lady can like a guy for one weird reason, it just depends on who the onus falls on and that's the guy she would go after. I have one here who keeps asking me what I used in getting her onside. I did not woo her, it just happened spontaneously and boom she's eating from my hands. I see the number of calls she gets from admirers and marriage proposers but there she is on my bed making those calls. This has me spitting on anything called long-distance relationship.

your right .

refreshrate:


Everyone her has asked you to run blah blah blah
You obviously still have feelings for the girl and this doesnt just turn off like a light switch.

The reality is you obviously cant continue loving this girl. Trust is gone.

However so that in two years time when you remember this relationship you feel good with yourself, heres what you do.

1. screen shot that conversation on whatsapp.
2. Call the girl (its taking a lot off of me not to call her stupid right now, i swear) hang out with her like normal and midway when she seems to be having fun. Tell her you really dont think you want to continue with her in the relationship.
3. Make sure its coming out of no where so she doesnt have anything to hold on to as a probable reason. Please please please do not confront her on the messages you saw like i said shes not particularly wise and would want to use that to feel cool with herself that youre jealous.
4. Dont insult or quarrel with her when you drop the bombshell, say it as calmly as when you say i like the dress youre wearing. She will enter a state of shock. when she starts to ask why? Let your mind go somewhere else. Give absolutely no response. She will begin to question herself and talk different things.

Two things are needed for this to work properly, make sure theres no issuee on ground so she doesnt see this coming, dont raise your voice or show any sign of stress in your delivery of the message. You must never ever show sign of anger. Best illustration, you know how you tell a girl youve had enough of to go? Thata what you want to do here.

Make sure the issue is not resolved on that day.

Give her like a week or two.

Two things will happen the quest to understand why youre doing this becomes the major thought process for her making her to think less of that other boy. Thoughts of you doing this will begin to make her realise you were actually a great guy.

Dont ask me why, look around and see why women still stick around with guys who are not very nice to them...or men love bitches. Its the same theory.

Note of warning though i really dont think you should continue planning to love the girl, the essence of this is to downgrade her to side chick (konji na bastard and you wouldnt like it coming with no where to...you know?) So you make her lose the boy, reset her thinking, get steady smashes...and get yourself another reasonable person to spend your resources on. trust is gone in this relationship. Lets not kid ourselves anymore.

Your pride however must be intact.

this is the best advice so far. But I doubt the guy can man up to actually pull this off.

lekjons:
i've been laughing since the moment i saw the title of this thread(even b4 i opened it), wait lemme laugh finish,;

op u need a destiny resetting slap!, wait make i laugh small again

Don't break up with her, start dating another girl secretly(if u want, or if u're the lover-boy type), then pretend as if u see no thing, just keep her as a side chick(without her knowing), cos u've been her side guy too, maybe for months(and u don't know), jez keep feck!ng till stock lasts!, who knows, konji might catch u 'hands up' someday and ur real girlfriend may not be around or forming(u know all those 'i'm on my period' ish?), she'll save those days..

afterall that's what b!tches are for.. c'mon be a NIGGA!

now here is a fellow straight outa compton......u just earned a follower homie

Sexologist:
OP, 5 things are involved.......
1. I'm a living testimony, good sex among other things turns a wayward girl into the best wife material....
2. she doesn't want you, deal with it.... Na maga she dey use u do since I swear....
3.start fcxking more my friend.... a girl who toasts a guy is a good fcckerr.... so u dey dull am....
4. OP if u need a good gf let me know

Guru sight u in 8D

Cutehector:
I can't even call a gurl my girl until I hav paid her bride price... So if I see smth like dat, I will hav all rights to beat the shit out her stupidity..

Haba!!!

Omotayor123:

Haba!!!

wat? Are u afraid?

whocanbewho:
this is the best advice so far. But I doubt the guy can man up to actually pull this off.

Its one of the challenges of falling in love. If only the guy go gree he will forever be better for it.

Cutehector:
I can't even call a gurl my girl until I hav paid her bride price... So if I see smth like dat, I will hav all rights to beat the shit out her stupidity..

Why should that even be considered Bro

Xmen149:

now here is a fellow straight outa compton......u just earned a follower homie

Cutehector:
wat? Are u afraid?

Lol