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|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 3:19am On Mar 21, 2009|
abeg no kill me with laughter here o
the toys dnt really have to be gianatic, it could be just little superman/hero little statues, cars/ just any little thing that could help keep him busy since the church dont have any special room/programs for the kids and i dnt suggest keeping him at home
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Tgirl4real(f): 12:13am On Mar 22, 2009|
Lol @ Ebony. I feel u sooo well. Those kids can be sumthn else.
Here is what we did in my church when we had a similar problem. We created a small corner in d large room we worship in and asked for some women volunteers who will take d kids rotationally. They have picture books, notes, games, and even watch cartoons some times.
I know it doesnt solve the problem entirely, but it reduces their disturbances. But, in a situation where this wont play out, then, u need to take him out briefly to play outside doing sermon . I know kids are generally restless, so u need a pile of activities to match this.
At worst, let him stay home till he is a bit more matured. Lol
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Tgirl4real(f): 12:15am On Mar 22, 2009|
Going back to the teenage pregnancy issue. Is abortion the best solution in this case?
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 12:42am On Mar 22, 2009|
My daughter who turns 7 in 3 weeks was being bullied in school in London at the age of 5, she complained to me a few times and my wife had a word with the teachers but it continued i then took my daughter out one weekend to London Aquarium and i spoke to her at length (please dont think a 5year old is too young to be spoken to) during the train ride and advised her to give the boy a good going over knowing fully well my girl is the tallest in her class anyway, i explained to her that she must not be coming home to tell mum and dad of such things again and must learn to stand up for herself.
This is more like it. I don't understand why they refused to take action when your wife came reporting. In Nigeria the bully would have been severely beaten, talking from experience.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 2:38am On Mar 22, 2009|
i honestly hate abortion and i can honestly say i will never allow my daughter if she comes home pregnant to even consider abortion. the guilt of it will never allow me to sleep and chasing her out is even worse cox then my BP/guilt will definitely go up lol thinking how she is doing/where she is/ what is happening etc. it will be painful though you know to see your daughter who you thought knew better than not to come home pregnant but then she is still mine and i will accept her. so abortion is not an option for me.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Pepeye(f): 9:19pm On Mar 22, 2009|
Parenting techniques differ person to person; traditional parents want to go strictly by the books. .
but a more modern approach being touted in western culture encourages dialogue and subtle negotiations
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by 4 Play(m): 9:27pm On Mar 22, 2009|
For goodness sake, what a boring topic! Just look at all the women. . . blah,blah, blah. . . about raising kids. Even Morenike dey put mouth.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by tope2000(f): 9:33pm On Mar 22, 2009|
its not a boring topic
im loving this thread
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by 4 Play(m): 9:36pm On Mar 22, 2009|
I love this thread. I love anything you love. Bia, why you remove your picture?
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by tope2000(f): 9:39pm On Mar 22, 2009|
lmao. . . . .ofcos u must love everything i love
i just wanted to change my profile pix
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by 4 Play(m): 9:43pm On Mar 22, 2009|
To be honest, I can't stand kids. They are a selfish, whinging collection of parasites, rather like a lot of Naija women actually.
Please change your profile back. The sight of you melts my heart.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by tope2000(f): 9:49pm On Mar 22, 2009|
lmao. . . . are u serious??
I want to have lot of kids ooooo
Awwwwwww. . . .
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by onyinye2(f): 9:51pm On Mar 22, 2009|
4 Play:I love how you just described yourself tolotolo
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 11:45pm On Mar 22, 2009|
that's more reason why our dearest Tgirl opened this thread so the 4rom east to west, north, south, old, new, can share their ideas/tips/discuss their own individual or cultural methods of parenting.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 9:44pm On Mar 23, 2009|
Pepeye:That's the point
Tgirl4real:I was thinking that, but then the Lord said "Let my children come to me"
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Tgirl4real(f): 10:31pm On Mar 23, 2009|
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 11:39pm On Mar 23, 2009|
Another scenario (esp for Sissy and TG) :
Your teacher keeps complaining that your kid(s) is/are misbehaving in school, disrupting her lessons and messing around. What do you do?
Obviously, excess spanking and warning at home does not help the situation
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 4:52am On Mar 24, 2009|
what is the class level of the child, cox i would have to implore different spanking degree depending on which level they are
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by sistawoman: 3:50pm On Mar 24, 2009|
I have had this happen with three of mine here is what i did:
Remember that every child is different and requires a different approach to discipline to work, keeping that in mind parents must adjust their discipline techniques to suit each child.
My now 11 year old was in 1st grade and the teacher called me at work to complain that he was leading the class in being disruptive and that it was so bad she had to call.
This was a lucky break for me but not so lucky for him because the teachers at the University where I worked were on spring break and I was all alone and 10 mins from his school.
I went to the school, pulled off my belt and spanked him in front of the class.
That one movement of embarrassment followed him each year, the children would tell the new teacher what happened and tell them to call me if he ever acted up, until we moved to Baltimore. The fear that I would do it again has kept him on the str8 and narrow since then.
The embarrassment that my 11 year suffered was told to my 9 year old girl and has kept her from cutting up because she knows I am more than capable of coming to her school and doing the same thing. I have never received a call from a teacher for her.
My now 7 year old. When he was Kindergarden he had a hard time adjusting, listening and performing well in school. spankings at home and time-out, restrictions, nothing was working.
There were 2 female teachers and one male teacher. I asked the school at the last resort to move him from the female teacher class to the male teachers class. He stopped cutting up and became the head of his class. This male teacher still checks in on him this year and is keeping him on track. With him it really was nothing that I did per say but what the male teacher did for him.
Before I move to spankings I talk, talk and talk somemore. I ask them to be honest, tell me what challenges they are having and how can I help them succeed. It seems that this approach is working more and more with the older children, because they realize I am not faking it but mean it. So they open up more. They tell me just what is on their minds and dont hold back. At first they thought I would get mad but I tell them this is your one moment in time to be completely honest about me, you and everything else and I am not allowed to get mad, to hit or throw a fit. I give them an opportunity to talk freely w/o the fear of disrespect. Something I wished my parents did with me.
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 9:44pm On Mar 24, 2009|
sistawoman:LOL, I'd have love to see this.
But won't this being seen as CHILD ABUSE?
sistawoman:Sounds like someone I know.
"Toyin, mo fun e ni 1st and second warning. O moh wipe tin ba mu e ni eemeta ma fe lu e ku"
That actually worked. Because if they misbehaved after excess warnings, they don't have any ground to stand to get angry. They knew they were warned, not once, not twice but more than three times
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by tiffcisco(f): 10:43pm On Mar 24, 2009|
I thought I'd ask a question on here. Are spankings very common in Nigeria? I would assume so. I am just wondering as I am American and my fiance is Nigerian. I know we will live in Nigeria. In my family there were a necessity. If my parents didn't spank me, I'm sure I would have turned out to be quite the little terror. My fiance is the most patient and calm man I've met, but I'm sure he does believe in spanking, though we have not discussed this too much. Just wondering is it common practice. Or have they jumped on the silly notion that children can be disciplined and never have to be spanked. Also, just wondering, Sistawoman, are you American?? I think so, but just wondering, lol!! I really enjoy reading all of your posts!!
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 3:47am On Mar 25, 2009|
if i get those "teachers calls" he/her has some serious explaining to do.
first i would start by confronting him/her with the teachers complains, and we would have serious discussions about the instances, i would warn him/her, advice them to change their behaviors and that i don't want to get those calls again from the teacher and if i do there will be serious consequences. if the calls persist, i would schedule a meeting with the teacher, with him/her included, and i would tell the teacher the discussion i had with him/her and the complains they had, and i would allow the teacher and the child to negotiate without interference to see if the problem is going to be solved. i would Follow up with the teacher and the child as to how things are going and i will be ready to mediate.
and if things don't get resolved after the meeting and the follow ups, then i would show my colors cause they cant really do that, cox during my time i didn't. i would have to establish serious rules and must sure i stick to them. grounding them would be on the list, privileges would be taken away, and i would be coming to his/her classroom to check on them during class period no matter the embarrassment it might cause him or her. spanking and flogging wouldn't be excluded. when it comes to education, i don't mess with it and i will definitely show them what i am made of if they scroll around. handle them with tough hand and they will learn you ain't joking
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 3:52am On Mar 25, 2009|
~Sissy~:Truth be told, I can't be a teacher cuz I'd bruise any kid that disrupt my class.
And what is the alternative if none of your suggestion works?
What if your child is being disruptive in class due to peer pressure?
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 3:54am On Mar 25, 2009|
i'm really by your strategy
the teacher didn't report you to child services for the belt spanking?
oh well! if that settles the case, then . . . but then i rather do the spanking at home
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 3:59am On Mar 25, 2009|
No2Atheism:lmao. . . . .what am I?
Ok, to get to her, you gotta bribe me.
I have her YIM and number
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 4:00am On Mar 25, 2009|
~Sissy~:That's what am saying.
children and family would have come to get the kids from her
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 4:10am On Mar 25, 2009|
yes, peer pressure is a very powerful force that can seriously hinder a child's academic achievement, so if i pin- point the cause of the child's distraction in class as PP, then i would definitely focus on it and helping him/her get through it / or avoid it totally cause no matter how hard it may seem it is totally resolvable.
if all my initial plan doesn't resolve the issue, and lets say pp is not the problem, and if he exhibits the same pattern of behavior at home, i would get him/her evaluated for Attention-deficit disorder
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 4:12am On Mar 25, 2009|
yes Nigerian parents and teachers do use spanking and flogging to discipline children
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 4:14am On Mar 25, 2009|
tooto lo so. sugbon bawo ni waa se nan omo e and send him to school with marks?
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 4:18am On Mar 25, 2009|
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by Nobody: 4:20am On Mar 25, 2009|
Aren't you yoruba?
|Re: Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child by ~Sissy~(f): 4:26am On Mar 25, 2009|
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