Nothing wrong in absolutely and outwardly expressing love to your favorite child.

Parent should love unconditionally. However, this is most often not the case. When favoritism exists among siblings, it enables siblings to think, what can I do to get it right with my parents. Often attimes, we have become sterotyped to the norm that favoritism promotes hatred, bitterness and rancour in the family. This is however not the case in most situations.

Pataki: Nothing wrong in absolutely and outwardly expressing love to your favorite child.

Parent should love unconditionally. However, this is most often not the case. When favoritism exists among siblings, it enables siblings to think, what can I do to get it right with my parents. Often attimes, we have become sterotyped to the norm that favoritism promotes hatred, bitterness and rancour in the family. This is however not the case in most situations.

Interesting perceptive. You don't think it can lead into a deep seated sibling discord well into adulthood?

Pataki: Nothing wrong in absolutely and outwardly expressing love to your favorite child.

Parent should love unconditionally. However, this is most often not the case. When favoritism exists among siblings, it enables siblings to think, what can I do to get it right with my parents. Often attimes, we have become sterotyped to the norm that favoritism promotes hatred, bitterness and rancour in the family. This is however not the case in most situations.

No vex, bros. But do you have any children?

I think I can relate with what @pataki is trying to say. While growing up, my parents, dad especially didn't hide it that I was his favourite kid. He was so protective and bought me things more than the others. He took me out during weekends and holidays more than my siblings and traveled to see me in school more than he did with them. Through all of this, my brothers only makes jest of me to be daddy's girl. There has never been an iota of jelousy in them. They only tease me with it.

I think if siblings begin to hate their parents' favourite child, there's other underlying problems in the family. I have families around me now where the favourite kid is clearly identified without trouble.

But in a polygamous home identifying a favourite child can cause big trouble.

zayhal: I think I can relate with what @pataki is trying to say. While growing up, my parents, dad especially didn't hide it that I was his favourite kid. He was so protective and bought me things more than the others. He took me out during weekends and holidays more than my siblings and traveled to see me in school more than he did with them. Through all of this, my brothers only makes jest of me to be daddy's girl. There has never been an iota of jelousy in them. They only tease me with it.

I think if siblings begin to hate their parents' favourite child, there's other underlying problems in the family.I have families around me now where the favourite kid is clearly identified without trouble.

But in a polygamous home identifying a favourite child can cause big trouble.

It could actually be the main problem especially when it goes beyond the "normal" mommy/daddy likes you better thing.

I tend to agree with Zayhal on this, your relationship with your siblings will play an important part in how you handle favoritism, you can tease the perceived favourite about his/her status, you can player hate on the person or(my personal favourite) you can turn the person into a mule a la "go and ask daddy/mummy for xxxxx you know they will answer you"

^^^^

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Tgirl4real:


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I replied your mail o. Or didn't you get it?

I did. U missed ma bday parry.

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Alafia oo, sorry to digress

netotse: I tend to agree with Zayhal on this, your relationship with your siblings will play an important part in how you handle favoritism, you can tease the perceived favourite about his/her status, you can player hate on the person or(my personal favourite) you can turn the person into a mule a la "go and ask daddy/mummy for xxxxx you know they will answer you"

I miss reading your diary. It's been a while,Pls update. Thanks

my son will be 1 year old in two weeks.what multivitamins can you recommend for him.we had given him ABIDEC,do we continue with dat or get a different stuff.He is healthy though,i just want to be very sure he's getting all necessary nutrients.

nice topic

filcast: my son will be 1 year old in two weeks.what multivitamins can you recommend for him.we had given him ABIDEC,do we continue with dat or get a different stuff.He is healthy though,i just want to be very sure he's getting all necessary nutrients.

I'm not a medical personnel, but I am a mother. Ur baby doesn't need any multivitamin as long as he is healthy and he is eating well.

Tgirl4real:

I'm not a medical personnel, but I am a mother. Ur baby doesn't need any multivitamin as long as he is healthy and he is eating well.

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If your baby is eating right, i know toddlers can be "picky" eaters, but if hes at least getting "diverse" healthy food choices, i personally see no need for vitamins. however, there's nothing wrong in supplementing with vitamins as long as it is within the recommended daily dosage. It is up to you to decide. Also, you have make sure you aren't overdosing him on one type of vitamin esp if they are getting enough of it from food. if you do decide on vitamins, make sure it is in the right form to avoid choking. Always check with your pediatrician.

filcast: my son will be 1 year old in two weeks.what multivitamins can you recommend for him.we had given him ABIDEC,do we continue with dat or get a different stuff.He is healthy though,i just want to be very sure he's getting all necessary nutrients.

Your son is probably still heavy on cereal, and not yet fully introduced to solids.
Most of the cereal products are fortified with vitamins, and as such you may not really need extra supplements unless a doctor advised you to do so.

Interesting study.

Many Babies Fed Solids Too Early

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/25/solid-food-for-infants_n_2948940.html?utm_hp_ref=parents-babies

"In the study, 40 percent of mothers said they gave their infants solid foods before the age of 4 months"


"Studies have also linked the early introduction of solid foods with an increased risk of chronic diseases later in life, such as obesity and eczema. In addition, starting babies on solid foods early may reduce the duration of breastfeeding, and breastfeeding itself has been shown to have many health benefits for kids."

zayhal: I think I can relate with what @pataki is trying to say. While growing up, my parents, dad especially didn't hide it that I was his favourite kid. He was so protective and bought me things more than the others. He took me out during weekends and holidays more than my siblings and traveled to see me in school more than he did with them. Through all of this, my brothers only makes jest of me to be daddy's girl. There has never been an iota of jelousy in them. They only tease me with it.

I think if siblings begin to hate their parents' favourite child, there's other underlying problems in the family. I have families around me now where the favourite kid is clearly identified without trouble.

But in a polygamous home identifying a favourite child can cause big trouble.

Thank you very much. You succinctly stated it better.

~Sissy~:


Interesting perceptive. You don't think it can lead into a deep seated sibling discord well into adulthood?

Nope. Siblings build the relationship they want with each other as the years go by. I could have chosen to hate my brother because my father punished me more than him. But no. My brother and I are good friends.

~Sissy~:
^^^^

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Most def, been busy pretending to be an adult, how's things?

Lol. things are fine o


@ALL

HAPPY EASTER!!! hope you all had a wonderful and festive celebration!

~Sissy~:
Lol. things are fine o


@ALL

HAPPY EASTER!!! hope you all had a wonderful and festive celebration!

Celebration is been good so far.

Where is Chamotex?

Happy birthday to u dear. #hugz n kisses#

Tgirl4real:

Celebration is been good so far.

Where is Chamotex?

Happy birthday to u dear. #hugz n kisses#

I trust u had a wonderfunfilled easter

Champie, don disappear as always

I don't/can't recall if this has been previously discussed in one of the 40+ pages of this thread, so pardon the lapse in memory if this is a repeat.


I'm sure you have heard parents- your own, families/friends, and maybe even you tell your kid(s),nieces, nephew etc they can be anything in life (esp career-wise), achieve what they want etc. Do you really think that line of thought/statement is true? Can your child truly become anything in life or be only better/best in what they are actually good at. Do you believe each child is born with a certain area of interest that they can be "efficiently" good at or does each child have a wide range of interest/career parts etc.

[size=4pt]I hope the main point was not lost in that whole preamble
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U didn't miss d point babes.

I think both ways is possible. A child can actually be whatever once he puts his mind at it and work towards it from dat tender age. There will surely be exceptions though. But this approach isn't healthy. It breeds greedy, self-centered and over-ambitous kids.

But for me, I will rather encourage my child to work at being the best or be better at what he loves to do (his strengths, gifts and area of interest). I believe everyone has a gift for something. All of us can't be d same and we can't be everything. So, instead of encouraging my child to be ambitious, I will study him and encourage him towards his area of interest till he is matured enough to make his choices.


Pataki, I hail o.