Hy nairaland ,

TGIF, today is a chilling out day for most of us. pls I've got a question to ask. How many percent of a gal's responsibility a guy is to wield, I knw for sure some guys will say am not her father dis and dat, but you know dating isn't free, time, attention is money even tho love is free, u cnt be going out with a girl and you won't assist her with one responsibility or the other, although I have issues asking guys for money I really don't knw how to do it but dat doesn't mean I don't have needs that I struggle to meet and need assistance, @least as my boyfriend you should be sensitive to my needs and try as much as possible to meet some, although I was dead sick a time like that and I was broke @ the same time I couldn't ask my bf for money to go to the clinic but I outrightly told you I was very sick and the illness was serious, he said he was going to be praying for me, ofcos I believe in God and prayers but I also think when one is sick he/she prays and visit the doctor. I didn't like the fact that my friend went through my msgs and saw dat and she talked abt it and was like....ur guy is strange, u are sick he said he'll pray for the sickness to go instead of talking how u ll get yourself treated.

Anyways, I did self medication and got a little better I was silence about everything because am bad with asking guys for money but I appreciate if he is sensitive to my needs but then again I didn't want to put too much pressure on him too, but I want to know the level of demands one can ask from ones boyfriend, like if am sick shouldn't I expect my man to say "how ll u see a doctor and get yourself treated?" am not a person particular abt fashion and all other ladies luxury I jst focus myself on the important things of life plus am not demanding but I felt a relatnship should be like we help each other

Anyways, what do u think its sensitive to ask your man for, and wat percent of responsibility should a man carry for his babe

Thnx guys

percentage of responsibility a guy should carry.

GIRLFRIEND = 10% that only involves taking the bills when u take her out.

WIFE = 50% because you also have the kids responsibility and others.

None

its more like u are advertising yaself. That's BTW though

i do give my girlfriend money, not that i owe her shiiiit
same way i will give to a random man/woman that needs help

even nicki Minaj and beyonce still get taken care off by their men..... tyga bout a super car for his Kendal who is already a millionaire last week. SO







let me wait for NAIRALAND guys to come and run their mouth here.

Once in a while if he has the fear of God, he should give you some money for hair and some little things. If he is really financially stable, she should put you on an allowance. I don't subscribe to demanding for it though, allow him use his mind, if he refuses to use his mind, ask with love ( ) if he still does not use him mind, the conclusion is he is a selfish guy, u either run, or manage him.

firstEVA:
Once in a while if he has the fear of God, he should give her some money for hair and some little things. If he is really financially stable, she should put her on an allowance.

Do i smell a Godly gold digger here?

deadZONE:
Do i smell a Godly gold digger here?

INTROVERT:
even nicki Minaj and beyonce still get taken care off by their men..... tyga bout a super car for his Kendal who is already a millionaire last week. SO







let me wait for NAIRALAND guys to come and run their mouth here.

are u a super model? do u have those curves and boobs? how much have u spent on urself? or u think nicky minaj and beyonce where picked off from the gutter. money attracts money, a guy feels more secure spending his money on a rich girl knowing he can fall back on her when things get bad... not some broke ass like u

firstEVA:

i dont know why u NAIJA girls have this impression a guy must do everything for u. poverty mentality... your parents sent u to school so u would come out and be independent and not waiting for a guy to buy u pant nd bra

firstEVA:
Once in a while if he has the fear of God, he should give you some money for hair and some little things. If he is really financially stable, she should put you on an allowance. I don't subscribe to demanding for it though, allow him use his mind, he he refuses to use his mind, ask with love ( ) if he still does not use him mind, the conclusion is he is a selfish guy, u either run, or manage him.

Really? So a guy is supose to take care of your needs? But in the end, you will claim equality in the name of 'feminism' lol. Respecting a guy and letting him make certain decisions will be an issue, yet you want him to provide. Hope you aint one of those feminists?

I can only friend a girl if she have a job.

zaragal:
Hy nairaland ,

TGIF, today is a chilling out day for most of us. pls I've got a question to ask. How many percent of a gal's responsibility a guy is to wield, I knw for sure some guys will say am not her father dis and dat, but you know dating isn't free, time, attention is money even tho love is free, u cnt be going out with a girl and you won't assist her with one responsibility or the other, although I have issues asking guys for money I really don't knw how to do it but dat doesn't mean I don't have needs that I struggle to meet and need assistance, @least as my boyfriend you should be sensitive to my needs and try as much as possible to meet some, although I was dead sick a time like that and I was broke @ the same time I couldn't ask my bf for money to go to the clinic but I outrightly told you I was very sick and the illness was serious, he said he was going to be praying for me, ofcos I believe in God and prayers but I also think when one is sick he/she prays and visit the doctor. I didn't like the fact that my friend went through my msgs and saw dat and she talked abt it and was like....ur guy is strange, u are sick he said he'll pray for the sickness to go instead of talking how u ll get yourself treated.

Anyways, I did self medication and got a little better I was silence about everything because am bad with asking guys for money but I appreciate if he is sensitive to my needs but then again I didn't want to put too much pressure on him too, but I want to know the level of demands one can ask from ones boyfriend, like if am sick shouldn't I expect my man to say "how ll u see a doctor and get yourself treated?" am not a person particular abt fashion and all other ladies luxury I jst focus myself on the important things of life plus am not demanding but I felt a relatnship should be like we help each other

Anyways, what do u think its sensitive to ask your man for, and wat percent of responsibility should a man carry for his babe

Thnx guys

1. Wife: 100% because the both of u are 1.
2. Girlfriend: OYO

dicefrost:



Really? So a guy is supose to take care of your needs? But in the end, you will claim equality in the name of 'feminism' lol. Respecting a guy and letting him make certain decisions will be an issue, yet you want him to provide. Hope you aint one of those feminists?

I am not a feminist

ORACLE1975:
I can only friend a girl if she have a job.

cos u don't want responsibility

I am not obligated to carry any part of your responsibilities. The only difference between a guy and a girl is the gender.

These days where women are clamouring for gender equality which they have more or less achieved, they cannot now jettison the responsibilities/consequences that come with gender equality. If you work and you have an income, you should be responsible for your needs.

Now, as a human being and not just a guy, if I am in a relationship with somebody, it is necessary that I give as is convenient and reasonable for me to. That means that my girlfriend can also take me out to eat or should at least offer to offset a fraction of the bills when we go out EXCEPT I insist. As a guy, I also have to be wise enough to realise that in order to make my babe feel more special and wanted I should go an extra mile.

What many Nigerian girls do not understand these days is that a relationship where giving is mutual and almost equal is sweeter and very intense because it is a partnership and there is always something to look forward to. I have a colleague who she and her husband always look forward to birthdays/Christmas/anniversaries, etc because they both go out of their ways to spoil each other. And pls don't tell me that in exchange for the material things I give you, I get your attention. Your attention is not supposed to be paid for. It is not an item or service.

In a nutshell, spending on someone you love is supposed to be discretionary and not obligatory. The only person who is obligated to provide for a girl is her father and I say so because the father-daughter relationship is not a partnership. He brought you into the world and is expected in conjunction with your mother to bring you up. By the time you are married, it is a partnership and a partnership works when both parties are alive to their "responsibilities".

firstEVA:
Once in a while if he has the fear of God, he should give you some money for hair and some little things. If he is really financially stable, she should put you on an allowance. I don't subscribe to demanding for it though, allow him use his mind, if he refuses to use his mind, ask with love ( ) if he still does not use him mind, the conclusion is he is a selfish guy, u either run, or manage him.

Make sense....

firstEVA:
Once in a while if he has the fear of God, he should give you some money for hair and some little things. If he is really financially stable, she should put you on an allowance. I don't subscribe to demanding for it though, allow him use his mind, if he refuses to use his mind, ask with love ( ) if he still does not use him mind, the conclusion is he is a selfish guy, u either run, or manage him.

I do not owe you an allowance.

If you are financially stable would you give me an allowance?

.

All does shouting they can't carry any responsibility and Gold digger, u plan on dating a girl for free??...I don't get

zaragal:
Hy nairaland ,

TGIF, today is a chilling out day for most of us. pls I've got a question to ask. How many percent of a gal's responsibility a guy is to wield, I knw for sure some guys will say am not her father dis and dat, but you know dating isn't free, time, attention is money even tho love is free, u cnt be going out with a girl and you won't assist her with one responsibility or the other, although I have issues asking guys for money I really don't knw how to do it but dat doesn't mean I don't have needs that I struggle to meet and need assistance, @least as my boyfriend you should be sensitive to my needs and try as much as possible to meet some, although I was dead sick a time like that and I was broke @ the same time I couldn't ask my bf for money to go to the clinic but I outrightly told you I was very sick and the illness was serious, he said he was going to be praying for me, ofcos I believe in God and prayers but I also think when one is sick he/she prays and visit the doctor. I didn't like the fact that my friend went through my msgs and saw dat and she talked abt it and was like....ur guy is strange, u are sick he said he'll pray for the sickness to go instead of talking how u ll get yourself treated.

Anyways, I did self medication and got a little better I was silence about everything because am bad with asking guys for money but I appreciate if he is sensitive to my needs but then again I didn't want to put too much pressure on him too, but I want to know the level of demands one can ask from ones boyfriend, like if am sick shouldn't I expect my man to say "how ll u see a doctor and get yourself treated?" am not a person particular abt fashion and all other ladies luxury I jst focus myself on the important things of life plus am not demanding but I felt a relatnship should be like we help each other

Anyways, what do u think its sensitive to ask your man for, and wat percent of responsibility should a man carry for his babe

Thnx guys

But your boyfriend is a stingo sha

zaragal:
All does shouting they can't carry any responsibility and Gold digger, u plan on dating a girl for free??...I don't get

Do you buy a relationship? I don't get. We have a funny picture of what relationships are these days.

Why do I have the feeling this thread will make sense with controversial and satirical comments.

I don't think anyone can give a precise answer as to what level of financial responsibility a guy should shoulder in a relationship. This should generally depends on his financial strengths and how far they've come together.

There are basic needs of lady that a guy should see to. Things like hairdo, manicure, and some other bills can be taken care off, voluntarily, by a guy in a committed affair. For some who are more buoyant they do set out a monthly budget like someone already stated. But all this is done voluntarily.

I'm aware this won't go down well with some guys but they should understand that relationship comes with responsibilities and which money is a prime essentiality. I'm equally aware we all do condemn women who kind of bring about the money factor in a relationship just so they might not mislead others but fact is, money is very vital in the sustenance of a relationship and shouldn't be discarded or undermine under any guise.

I'm interested in knowing if you really think your boyfriend had money but tacitly or deliberately decided not to help. Do you think he had money to help and how serious was the ailment? I'm asking because I've noticed that a lot of women thinks a man always have money. Like men have different schemes of generating money and whenever they don't assist, it's deliberate.

TS2:
I am not obligated to carry any part of your responsibilities. The only difference between a guy and a girl is the gender.

These days where women are clamouring for gender equality which they have more or less achieved, they cannot now jettison the responsibilities/consequences that come with gender equality. If you work and you have an income, you should be responsible for your needs.

Now, as a human being and not just a guy, if I am in a relationship with somebody, it is necessary that I give as is convenient and reasonable for me to. That means that my girlfriend can also take me out to eat or should at least offer to offset a fraction of the bills when we go out EXCEPT I insist. As a guy, I also have to be wise enough to realise that in order to make my babe feel more special and wanted I should go an extra mile.

What many Nigerian girls do not understand these days is that a relationship where giving is mutual and almost equal is sweeter and very intense because it is a partnership and there is always something to look forward to. I have a colleague who she and her husband always look forward to birthdays/Christmas/anniversaries, etc because they both go out of their ways to spoil each other. And pls don't tell me that in exchange for the material things I give you, I get your attention. Your attention is not supposed to be paid for. It is not an item or service.

In a nutshell, spending on someone you love is supposed to be discretionary and not obligatory. The only person who is obligated to provide for a girl is her father and I say so because the father-daughter relationship is not a partnership. He brought you into the world and is expected in conjunction with your mother to bring you up. By the time you are married, it is a partnership and a partnership works when both parties are alive to their "responsibilities".

Oga wat are you saying....did u read and digest my post @ all....pls go and date a woman dat ll be feeding u nah, it's not a fight no nid for stories

TS2:


Do you buy a relationship? I don't get. We have a funny picture of what relationships are these days.

It's simple ooo...oga don't do anything for ur woman have her go out with u and pay ur bills okkk...and be a MAN abeg don't quote me again

ronald4lif:
Why do I have the feeling this thread will make sense with controversial and satirical comments.

I don't think anyone can give a precise answer as to what level of financial responsibility a guy should shoulder in a relationship. This should generally depends on his financial strengths and how far they've come together.

There are basic needs of lady that a guy should see to. Things like hairdo, manicure, and some other bills should be taken care off by a guy in a committed affair. For those who are more buoyant they can set out a monthly budget like someone already stated.

I'm aware this won't go down well with some guys but they should understand that relationship comes with responsibilities and which money is a prime essentiality. I'm equally aware we all do condemn women who kind of bring about the money factor in a relationship just so they might not mislead others but fact is, money is very vital in the sustenance of a relationship and shouldn't be discarded or undermine under any guise.

I'm interested in knowing if you really think your boyfriend had money but tacitly or deliberately decided not to help. Do you think he had money to help and how serious was the ailment? I'm asking because I've noticed that a lot of women thinks a man always have money. Like men have different schemes of generating money and whenever they don't assist, it's deliberate.

When did you become her father?

Givers never lack!

ronald4lif:
Why do I have the feeling this thread will make sense with controversial and satirical comments.

I don't think anyone can give a precise answer as to what level of financial responsibility a guy should shoulder in a relationship. This should generally depends on his financial strengths and how far they've come together.

There are basic needs of lady that a guy should see to. Things like hairdo, manicure, and some other bills should be taken care off by a guy in a committed affair. For those who are more buoyant they can set out a monthly budget like someone already stated.

I'm aware this won't go down well with some guys but they should understand that relationship comes with responsibilities and which money is a prime essentiality. I'm equally aware we all do condemn women who kind of bring about the money factor in a relationship just so they might not mislead others but fact is, money is very vital in the sustenance of a relationship and shouldn't be discarded or undermine under any guise.

I'm interested in knowing if you really think your boyfriend had money but tacitly or deliberately decided not to help. Do you think he had money to help and how serious was the ailment? I'm asking because I've noticed that a lot of women thinks a man always have money. Like men have different schemes of generating money and whenever they don't assist, it's deliberate.

Guy you make sense....you make so much sense.......i don't buy the idea of demanding too much or putting pressure on him ooo. Inshort I like being independent and do tinz myself cos that gives me confident, but thing went roughly for me this few days plus I felt sick....i felt dis sickness was an extreme. I mean you couldn't assist your sick girlfriend

Abt his financial status he didn't tell me I didn't know, I recently stopped working and he is working

a girlfriend who is hungry = 0%
a girlfriend who is pulling her weight = 0%
Fiance = 5% she better be pulling her weight
wife = 50% i wont marry a leach so we would be cool

oreos:




When did you become her father?

Waiting for ur kind...... , now get off my thread

oreos:




When did you become her father?

Taking up some responsibilities doesn't mean you're her father. For a guy to wow a woman money is needed. What's that thing to impress a woman that usually doesn't require money. Money must always come to play whether a man is her father or not.

This thread will get very interesting pretty soon. Well, things are changing, so, we have to change with the times. Gone are those days when women were totally submissive and obedient to the husbands. The clamour for gender equality has gained a lot of momentum and is now across board. Women now see and carry themselves as being equal to men.

Based on the above, I don't think a guy has any obligation as to shouldering financial responsibilities. It is not mandatory for any guy to shoulder his girlfriend's financial obligations. On the other hand, if he wants to do it out of the goodness of his heart, good and fine. But making it look like a compulsory component of a guy's duty is wrong.

However, it becomes a different argument when they are both husband and wife. In that case, he is the head of the home, it therefore becomes his responsibility if the wife has nothing to do. If however she is also financially buoyant, they share the load.

A guy from the 'goodness' of his heart can decide to do it, but it is not a must. Giving a girl money is not a total expression of love. Buying of gifts and valuables are even more meaningful to me.

That being said, I don't ever intend to go into any relationship with any lady who is not financially independent. They are the ones who ask such questions as the OP

zaragal:


Guy you make sense....you make so much sense.......i don't buy the idea of demanding too much or putting pressure on him ooo. Inshort I like being independent and do tinz myself cos that gives me confident, but thing went roughly for me this few days plus I felt sick....i felt dis sickness was an extreme. I mean you couldn't assist your sick girlfriend

Abt his financial status he didn't tell me I didn't know, I recently stopped working and he is working

Well, he's working doesn't translate to having money. He sure got other responsibilities.

From your conversation with him prior to your sickness did he at any point gave the impression that times are hard or not? Didn't he usually assist you before then?