proxillin:


Predictable.

So you can do that to your husband?

So how will you react when Your husband start having confidential chat with one of your ladies or your make up artist?

We all know how you will behave.

When a guy challenges you, its jealousy, but when it the other way round, hell will fall

Oyind17:











You are taking sides with your friend. if the lady is doing all that, why is your friend hell bent on marrying this lady? I wish I can hear the Lady's side of this story. My man was angry cos I didn't pick his call, my phone was on silent and he sent an annoying msg to me. If he opens a thread on Nl I know the kind of advice people will give him.

naijaboiy:

[b]We are all commenting based on the story line given to us.

This is not a case of thinking out the box sir.

And don't tell me you don't know that anybody can pretend or hide their through character when it comes to getting what they want from someone. You can't know the true character of everyone before getting close to them. In fact it's 85% of the time highly impossible.

And just so you know the best way to hide something from someone is to leave it open. She obviously didn't hide her chats with the DJ so that her fiance will not suspect something fishy. And it was when they started speaking on phone that he suspected something.

She collected his phone number for strictly business and didn't even inform him that it was her own wedding but a friend. If the DJ should call their phone conversations should be strictly for business and nothing else.

There are a lot of evidence. How about her countenance whenever the DJ calls and the fiance is present? She acts strange and sometimes excuses herself just to speak with him.

If you are in his shoe and at that point you are still giving her the benefit of doubt then i'm sorry you are really in for the shocker of your life.

You don't need to catch her red handed,,pants down in bed with the DJ before you call it an evidence. [/b]

proxillin:



Please read the story line. And my story line suggests I am speaking for him.

Yes I am speaking for him. Infact I am speaking for him.

agarawu23:
still on my point, The lady left her conversations because her mind is clean. we are only reading the guys part of the story without hearing from the lady so we can't just jump into conclusion.

she told the DJ the wedding is for her friend doesn't mean she wants something from him, she might just wanna be free to beat the charging price and moreover that's not q big deal on the issue on ground. I may have money to buy a car and when I get to the dealer, I can tell him I am buying it for my friend and he doesn't have much money cos I am the one lending him just to get get it at cheaper price.

[b]She isn't picking the dj's call in the guy present doesn't mean things are going on between them. [/b]We are talking about marriage and not bf and gf issue o because I still blv the guy has a lot of choices before he chooses to end up with the girl. If he doesn't trust the girl, he won't have wanna marry her so therefore he should hold his trust and tell the lady to end all conversation with DJ.

The guy way know pure cos he has already made up his mind flirting around after marriage that means even of this issue didn't come up, he will still fvck around.

we shouldnt trust the guy that much jare. though ladies aren't to be trusted too but this issue isn't what "WE" think

proxillin:


One doesnt need a special interpreter or dictionary to deduced all your points from the my story.

Thank you for summarizing it for them.

You even made more simpler than I did.

I guess my writing skill is not that good. Because these people can't still read and understand what I wrote.

naijaboiy:

There is a difference between getting jealous and being suspicious of your partner.

Jealousy leads to suspicions but one can be suspicious without getting jealous.

And let's agree with you that the Op's friend is jealous are you insinuating that it's wrong for him to get jealous?

Are you saying it's right for his fiance to flirt with other guys few months just before her marriage?

You have been married once i'm sure you didn't condone your husband flirting before or even after marriage.

agarawu23:
still on my point, The lady left her conversations because her mind is clean. we are only reading the guys part of the story without hearing from the lady so we can't just jump into conclusion.

she told the DJ the wedding is for her friend doesn't mean she wants something from him, she might just wanna be free to beat the charging price and moreover that's not q big deal on the issue on ground. I may have money to buy a car and when I get to the dealer, I can tell him I am buying it for my friend and he doesn't have much money cos I am the one lending him just to get get it at cheaper price.

She isn't picking the dj's call in the guy present doesn't mean things are going on between them. We are talking about marriage and not bf and gf issue o because I still blv the guy has a lot of choices before he chooses to end up with the girl. If he doesn't trust the girl, he won't have wanna marry her so therefore he should hold his trust and tell the lady to end all conversation with DJ.

The guy way know pure cos he has already made up his mind flirting around after marriage that means even if this issue didn't come up, he will still fvck around.

we shouldnt trust the guy that much jare. though ladies aren't to be trusted too but this issue isn't what "WE" think

So why on earth will she agree to go on a date with the DJ?

In your opinion,,she's not flirting. Agreed.

Now why did she agree to go out on a date with him?

Or you didn't read that part too?

agarawu23:
you are him then

hotwax:


She isnt picking the call infront of her life partner. In marriage, 2 becomes 1. And afterall its the guy to pay for the DJ service.

Habbaa...Listen to yourself. All these are just feminist cover excuse

naijaboiy:

So why on earth will she agree to go on a date with the DJ?

In your opinion,,she's not flirting. Agreed.

Now why did she agree to go out on a date with him?

Or you didn't read that part too?

agarawu23:
was the guy blind when the lady started the conversation with the DJ ?

I think I have share my own view, you can share yours too.

Moana:
I dont think it makes sense to just assume something and act on it immediately. They need to sit down have a serious talk about this. If it means including the DJ and clearing things out just to be sure of whats really going on, then taking proper action after that.

hotwax:


So its a mistake for the guy to trust the lady with the DJ.

So it means, the guy should not assign a male driver to her, else mummy will be fcking drivers.

A wife you can't trust a male with is not a wife. She is Olosho...no other name

Houseboy, electrical boy, gardener LOL

I actually respect your opinion no matter how lopsided it is

proxillin:


Well i might be taking side. I have summoned them for a meeting.

He was hell bent to marry until last week when the shiiit hit the fan.

Why is the lady not opening up to the DJ that she is wedding?

Is there a shame in getting married?

So many questions that requires answer

agarawu23:
now you are talking about "trust" , can you make up your mind to marry a lady you don't trust

The guy is a flirt himself with negative mind. his thinking might not be real.

don't forget he has already made up his mind to start fvcking around after marriage. from that statement , you will get my point

proxillin:


Yes I am him because I will be one of his men in suit.

I summoned him (myself) and her for peace meeting.

So I am summoning myself.

You deserve a medal in logic

agarawu23:
okay , since you are close to the couple to be, can you tell us the kind of Lady she is ? at least you will know her and I blv your friend will have been gisting you na. so tell us make we hear

proxillin:


This issue is more than what you saying. The guy cried over this issue. He is regretting his decision. He is fraustrated, he said if he ever goes into the marriage, he will play games too. He will make the marriage a hell for her.

Dont you get it? He spoke out of frustration.

hotwax:


She isnt picking the call infront of her life partner. In marriage, 2 becomes 1. And afterall its the guy to pay for the DJ service.

Habbaa...Listen to yourself. All these are just feminist cover excuse

proxillin:


Seriously, I dont want to offend God.
I dont know her much. But I have seen her engaging in a public brawl before.

Thats why I said she is arrogant. It doesnt mean she is a flirt. May be she is a flirt.

You know one thing about people's affair, he might not want to tell me everything about her.

He only opened up to me when I pestered him on what is going on.

proxillin:


Seriously, I dont want to offend God.
I dont know her much. But I have seen her engaging in a public brawl before.

Thats why I said she is arrogant. It doesnt mean she is a flirt. May be she is a flirt.

You know one thing about people's affair, he might not want to tell me everything about her.

He only opened up to me when I pestered him on what is going on.

Oyind17:

There's nothing wrong in been jealous. but for him to say he'll having gfs is wring . it'll be better he call off the wedding

proxillin:


Seriously, I dont want to offend God.
I dont know her much. But I have seen her engaging in a public brawl before.

Thats why I said she is arrogant. It doesnt mean she is a flirt. May be she is a flirt.

You know one thing about people's affair, he might not want to tell me everything about her.

He only opened up to me when I pestered him on what is going on.

agarawu23:
she agreed on a date with him? accepted.

can't you make a decision without taking step? she might just wanna make story short with her conclusion, ladies are like that. I will keep shut only if the husband can tell us the lady has been flirting around before.

You are just going around in circles man.

The evidence is there clearly for you to see. You are waiting for the husband to come here and tell you if she has been flirting before.

In other words you are trying to blame him for his fiance's bad deeds.

Okay,,keep waiting.

peeparty:



public brawl? please explain in details maybe it might help others.


public brawl? please explain in details maybe it might help others.

agarawu23:
hmmm!!!
The guy is talking as if he met the lady a week to their wedding. she is arrogant doesn't mean that character can make her do anything. everybody get for body.

If you guys are 100% sure the Lady is a flirt, nothing bad if you guys can end the wedding.

BUT

your evidence must be solid.