IFELEKE:

@topup,
Don't Let The Fear Of Striking Out Keep You From Playing The Game. . .
Tai Solarin once said and I quote ''Look Before you Leap,Good for some,but for me,I would rather Leap Before I look because if you look you might continue looking until you look into oblivion.''
My Advise to you is to keep your options open,you are not too young to keep your eyes out for love what is key is you knowing what you want and sticking to it.
Remember,Life Is all about Risk and you don't Gain until you venture out of your shell. . .

ChuckWoody:

Join me St☆rStruck, I'm sure we'd make a dream of a team 

St☆rStruck:

Sorry bruv, I fly solo.

ChuckWoody:

As you wish dallin, we could've been good doc, bad doc. We'd've had this game sewn up.

Oh well.

Surgery reopens tomorrow folks!

*Toyinrayo:

Agony Uncle,

What is love?
And why do ppl continue to seek after it.

Would you advise a woman to stick to her husband if he continues to cheat on her? (From Movie Reloaded).
Obviously, we continue to say "give him a chance, forgive him, bla  bla", but when is the breaking point?

ChuckWoody:

Sista toyin, only you know where your breaking point is. All i can say is if you decide to remain there know that he'll probably continue to do what he does. Maybe not as much, but one or two skirmishes here n there, every once in a while.

Can you handle it? If you can't then leave his ass. You'll probably get half of what he owns anyways.

Which brings me onto your other question about love.
What I'm about to say will be viewed as controversial but, its undeniable that my observations exist:

Love for many couples is an equation.

Love = wealth + looks + power

In today's world hardly anyone loves for the sake of love. If that were the case my childhood sweetheart would've stayed with me.
I mean, who nowadays stays with their partner simply cos their soul combines to beat in one perfect harmony?

This ain't cynicism this is realism in the Naughties babiee.

eyonigger:
As some people know, when I came to NL, I started with my relationship issue, this is a continuation of what I am presently experiencing, and I need yall help/advise on this. As formerly speculated, my girlfriend resumed FUTO as a jambite, 2 weeks after her resumption, she started acting somehow, I laid out the thread on NL here, and some posts were helpful.

To cut the story short, things were stabilized between us, communication was opened and we found it hard to miss each other, then later on, she started changing, no calls no txt, its only when she needs stuff like airtime is when she calls. Its been almost 2 weeks now that we last spoke or exchanged text, before then, she requested for an Ipod as her bday gift, her calls was constant during this time. It took me like 5 days before I actually decide to send her the Ipod, soon as she got it, she stopped calling, I sent her a txt and was expecting a response, bt she didnt.`So ever since then, I had to let her be, neither of us has contacted each other ever since then.

All am trying to ask yall is, since this gurl was not a demanding type when she was back here in Lagos, a committed and convincingly loving gurl. Is it that she has now found another guy and has made me a new MUGU_CLIENT@KEEPONPAYING.BIZ? Or is it just the normal ego placed on her head that might make her feel "oh well just because he has bought me an ipod and other stuffs does not mean I should be the one to keep seeking his attention, instead he should be the one, My pple I just dnt know what to think anymore, cos am still in love with this shawty.

Please best advise/insight needed. Thanks in advance

EYO!

y me:

wow this is interesting please more post and let me read and good work love doctor

*Toyinrayo:

Thanks, hmmm. . . . your childhood sweetheart?
What happened and were you guys intimate in any way?
Why did she leave you?

If you feel uncomfortable with the questions, simply skip them. You're not enforced to answer

Love= power + wealth+ looks?
I kinda agree with you

ChuckWoody:

you pick yourself up, brush your ass down and you get back on the horse.
You dig, sista?

ChuckWoody:

As you wish dallin, we could've been good doc, bad doc. We'd've had this game sewn up.

ChuckWoody:

Ifeleke, only thing I'd say is Tai's philosphosies can't be used willy nilly for both men and women in all situations.
topup is obviously someone who considers all eventualities and it would seem as although she's weighing up whether she should jump in, her gut instinct is telling her otherwise.

I have also suggested she jump in but something tells me she doesn't really agree with that culture she sees at Uni.

But if it's fun she's looking for then, yeah, Tai Solarin's words fit the bill!

*Toyinrayo:

Agony Uncle, have you forgotten your thread?

We're being agonized here, answer our question na

*Toyinrayo:

Read post #43. . . .What does she want an area boy for?

ChuckWoody:

And yes, she has asked whether we could revisit the past, but I declined. I was beyond doing it for the sake of doing it.

ChuckWoody:

I got into new experiences and all that

*Toyinrayo:

What kind of experiences?

If you don't mind me asking.

ChuckWoody:

I don't mind telling but aren't you married? I don't want to stain your innocent mind.

*Toyinrayo:

LOL, what does my marital status have to do with this?

Answer my question, plz

ChuckWoody:

Your marriage has filled you with the purest of images.  So far be it from me to start making you see differently.

ChuckWoody:

But if you insist, I was a slut for a while.  You know (well, I hope not!), sticking my knob into any bit of snatch with a pulse.  I mean fat, skinny, anal, 3somes.  All in the name of new experiences.

I didn't care how they rated my performance, twas all about self gratification.  Went on wild holidays, caught a dose a couple of times (had to take a trip to the clinic).
Must add, I was never rude to women (well not knowingly), and I made sure things ended as amicably as possible.  Never burn a bridge, is my motto.

But then as I got older in the mind I slowed down.  Let the youngbloods come through. 
Now i only play the odd exhibition match    Though i find flirting just as much fun.

*Toyinrayo:

What is this?
You dashed me husband? 
Though my mind is pure, very very pure 
Caught a dose? Explain. . . .have you gone to the clinic again recently? If not, I'd advice you to, no offense 

I know you were a slut, I see the way you're trying to get down with women on this forum 

Explain what you mean by exhibition match (I'm a lil slow on these things hmm. )

ChuckWoody:

So you're not married hmmmmmm

ChuckWoody:

Oh, and I only flirt, only a bit of fun. I don't mean no offence to any of my buuuriful sistas on here

ChuckWoody:

I'm not as desperate as some of the clowns I've noticed on here.

ChuckWoody:

I think you know what I meant by 'dose'

ChuckWoody:

And I got myself checked out at the start of the year. Clean bill of health. Well, physically I'm clean but the mind is tainted

ChuckWoody:

And you know what I mean by exhibition, dallin.

*Toyinrayo:

The "odd session". . . .ahhh.

ashewo pikin

ChuckWoody:

Oh no, there goes another chance of marriage. My past always catches up to me

*Toyinrayo:

Who are you marrying?

Better keep trying to butter up StarStruck. . . .