topup:

It depends on how much I love him, family will always be family and if he is worth fighting for, I will fight for him, and pray that my sister comes down from her high horse.

I know how much responsiblity will be on my shoulders, having to reassure her that she's not been replaced and such.

I think this can be sorted over a heart to heart conversation, it works all the time for me and my sis, we're very close (used to be a lot closer though ). The heart to heart reassures the sister, where they stand in the other sister's life and let's both sides understand the other.

If you just fancy this guy, I still think try your best with the relationship and just ignore your sister, but if you are sure he is THE ONE, you should fight for him and have the conversation.

*Toyinrayo:

Petty situation.

If my man can't eat my food (which he better ), what's my sis (thank God am the oldest) 's own with it?

Na her mouth she dey use eat am?

In this situation, I think God for responsible naija men ^{*sips juice*}

iice:

Tough situation. I always thank the stars for my brothers
I agree with Topup on the heart to heart talk. If you used to be close and tell each other anything, i think you have to talk and hopefully it's works out. If it doesn't, at least you told her what is in your mind and heart. Maybe if she saw that foreigners aren't that bad

I know exactly what you mean by being offended. My SIL always flies into some rage when someone says shit about my bro or the family Warrior princess na wetin we dey call her

davidylan:

she's racist? Oh well except to whites of course.

SeanT21:

DO NOT TAKE SIDES.***Keep them away from one another.Do not talk to your sister about your Bf and do not talk to your bf about your sis.***Stay Neutral.

biina:

Qs:
1. Does she say them to his (ur bf's) face, and if not does ur bf know that she says such behind his back?

biina:

2. Are your parents and/or her husband aware of what she says?

biina:

3. Whats ur bf's opinion of ur sis?

biina:

Your best option is to avoid having to choose between your bf and ur sis, as they play different roles in your life

Tatase:

I think to keep the peace just keep your love life (with your boyfriend) separate from your family life (with your sister) for now. They don't have to be best friends, even though obviously it would be easier if they at least got along.

There's no real need for your sister and your boyfriend to interact since they can't get along but make time to hang out one-on-one with your sister because it's important to maintain family ties and also its not nice to ignore your family/friends just because of love. However, when u guys are hanging out, just keep the discussions off your love life and if she asks about him, just tell her that you don't like what she has to say about him but that YOU like him/he makes u happy, and then change the subject to something else.

Also don't say bad things about her husband and if she persists in talking badly about your boyfriend, excuse yourself from your hang out session and leave so that things don't get into a nasty screaming match again.

gabrywyl:

Well the problem is that if he comes to my hometown, he automatically stays in my family's house and my sister is always here as well so how can I avoid? its really impossible ooo

Riskie:

As long as you did not choose your sister's husband for her she has no right to choose who you date. You should tell her this. Maybe there are things you don't like about her husband, but I'm sure you don't make a fuss out of it. In the end your sister will not be the one to live with your guy, so it's honestly none of her business. All your family can do is give you advice. They have no right to impose anything on you. Your bf seems to be handling the situation in a mature manner and he should continue to do so. Maybe your sister will come around eventually when she sees that he is kind and patient. If not, then oh well, it is not her life.

brutal:

Damn ur sister.there's nothing 2 be confused about.she mussn't force anything on d poor guy.if i were him i might hit and teach her some lessons.

gabrywyl:

Tatase,

Ok, thanks. Ill try that and see how it goes. have you ever had this problem before?

lil dainty:

@POSTER I DONT REALLY UNDERSTAND UR SISTER'S BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS U ND UR BF BUT I SUGEST U SHULD B NEUTRA ND KEEP DEM AWAY 4RM EACH ODA . . . . . . . . , DNT FTY UR SIS COS UR FAMILY WIL ALWS B DERE . . . . . . . . 6YEARS OF DAT LOVELY RELTNSHP SHULD NOT B A WASTE . . . . . . , . .

brutal:

Every white or foreign women wish to have a feel of d black man's sugarcane.she might secretly wishing and dying to have a thirst of it.y not arrange a black dude to mess d madness out of her 2 cool down d temperature.

brutal:

Every white or foreign women wish to have a feel of d black man's sugarcane.she might secretly wishing and dying to have a thirst of it.y not arrange a black dude to mess d madness out of her 2 cool down d temperature.

You forget that you're advising a sister to set up a sex mate for her >>MARRIED<< sister just so that she can realise that once you go black you never go back. Lol.

Tough situation Gabrywyl, really it is, it seems you've tried really hard already, tried to argue it out, stick it through with him (6 years!!), tried the heart to heart. It seems the only thing left is to marry him (if you're planning to that is), she's being stubborn, and sometimes older sisters can be, especially if the type of relationship you have with her, is one that she's usually in control and advises you what to do. I hope she hasn't made any threats about disowning you as a sister, and I hope she's not being irresponsible.

Apart from being racist, are there any logical reasons why she detests the idea so much?? Is your boyfriend a worthy match - come now, let's hear the honest truth. Is he your perfect guy?? Or do you often complain about things he does to your sister??

Its not like he doesnt like the food, just that he is trying to avoid taking too much sugar and my sister always loves sugary stuffs so she always buys sugary food for all of us and when someone is not eating, she will get offended.


Ehrrrm, all of you live in one house?
Hmm, so she wants to be diabetic, but he doesn't. Why don't you educate her on something called personal right and healthy food?

To you it might be petty cause like what you said, you're the eldest. My sister is 5 years older than me and usually the eldest are always know for their bossy attitude. . .

Yes yes, I'm bossy, I won't lie about that
But I do know my limits. . . .Just tell her to chill out (nah, wnt work. wouldn't take that from my sis)
Why don't you do oyur own shopping


I talked to my bf about this and he told me to ignore her but it just gets to my nerves. . . .

It's getting to your nerves because she's someone important to you.
Like I said before, all this can be solved if you do yourown shopping