Aminat508:
Which Number has the best arrangement? 1. Sex, Love and Marriage 2. Love, Marriage and Sex 3. Marriage, Love and Sex 4. Love, Sex and Marriage
And why?
Let's hear from You.

fergus0n:
To a real man- 2
To a player- 1
To boiz- 4
To green card seekers- 3






Buht I choose 2

HerexG:
I'm a realist and not blinded by the hypocrisy surrounding the religious folks, as for me 4 is perfect

Why No 4 ?

First as humans we need to get attracted to an opposite sex unlike the animals who just go for the available, getting attracted to an opposite sex is the bedrock of love. Then after attraction, love would set in but for the love to be sealed, sex would have to come in. At this point the couple now see themselves as one, knowing fully well both partners can satisfy each other all the way not holding back a thing. After Love, sex, marriage can then come.

As for me, a relationship without sex is a big No, it is just like planning to live your life forever with a stranger

younghartz:


Until you discover something more than sex you might not realize the gift of having a lady close to you

HerexG:
I'm a realist and not blinded by the hypocrisy surrounding the religious folks, as for me 4 is perfect

Why No 4 ?

First as humans we need to get attracted to an opposite sex unlike the animals who just go for the available, getting attracted to an opposite sex is the bedrock of love. Then after attraction, love would set in but for the love to be sealed, sex would have to come in. At this point the couple now see themselves as one, knowing fully well both partners can satisfy each other all the way not holding back a thing. After Love, sex, marriage can then come.

As for me, a relationship without sex is a big No, it is just like planning to live your life forever with a stranger

pomsky:


......so it's only sex dat makes one not a stranger?
I guess then dat prostitutes would make d best friends.
Maybe also, sleeping with ur mama and sister will also break the barrier of them being strangers to you.

Aminat508:
[b]Which Number has the best arrangement?
1. Sex, Love and Marriage
2. Love, Marriage and Sex
3. Marriage, Love and Sex
4. Love, Sex and Marriage

And why?

Let's hear from You.
Best arrangement is 2. Why? Love preceeds marriage and with happy marriage comes hot and lasting sex.

machi25:
please understand me dear, i don't want to sound too religious but both Number 2 and 3 are morally and religiously in as much as we don't practice premarital sex.my point is that personally I would go for number 2 because I can't marry someone I don't love. Love -marriage -sex is my pick

ideology:


My question was what is love

machi25:
love has a thousand and one definitions.one of which is that Love is An intense feeling of affection and care towards another person

ideology:


Hmmmmmm,
Firstly, love has only one definition, if it is not love, its not.
the greatest mistake people make, I knew you will define love as feeling.

Love is not a feeling, feelings are subject to change, love does not change.

This is the problem of many relationship, its all about how they feel.
When one sees a handsome gent/ cute lady, and you feel wow, kikikikikikikioiii,

When a lady meets a guy with fat pocket or born with a golden spoon, she feels great, and tend to describe it as love, hahaha

Folks just attached themselves to the cuteness, fat pocket and fame, and claim to be in love.
They are just feeling cool because they like what they see. If any of these factors changes, wahala de. If the guy mistreats the lady consciously or unconsciously, that feeling start may start fading away. Which leads to statements like "darling, for some time now, I don't feel anything for you, lets separate for a month, maybe the feelings will blossom again " before you know what is happening, the lady meets another man, the guy may meet another lady, marriage ends, because someone will be accused of cheating.

machi25:
interesting points,so please define love in your own words

ideology:
cc: Machi25

John 3:16
16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son – NLT
Notice the emboldened words, Loved, Gave, Only

Love – Gave meaning love is giving,
Love – Only, Love is Sacrifice

Love is sacrificial giving


Gen 22:1 -12 – Abraham sacrifices his only son
12, And He said, “Do not lay your hand on the lad, or do anything to him; for now I know –NKJV

[size=15pt]A lover is a giver, and it must be sacrificial giving, not giving out of abundance[/size]

Luke 21:1-4 The widows might
1 While Jesus was in the Temple, he watched the rich people putting their gifts into the collection box.
2 Then a poor widow came by and dropped in two pennies.
3 "I assure you," he said, "this poor widow has given more than all the rest of them.
4 For they have given a tiny part of their surplus, but she, poor as she is, has given everything she has." - NLT

Can you give out your last? (Time, Money and Energy) no matter how small it is…

Let’s say Lady Fx has two male friends who wooed her. On her birthday, dude F bought an item @N1000 and he is left with say N500 in his account, guy X took her for shopping spent N100k, took her for dinner and later movies.
The tendency for her to describe guy X to be in love is high, probably because of how she is configured and her level of understanding of realities (truth), hence that feeling of care you described sets in

At night, Dude F , takes N100 from his last N500 and calls her , while guy X may calls her and may also call 3, 4, 5 other ladies and tells them sweet nonsense, of course which is what ladies want to hear.
Note that, they are all giving, but one can give without loving (giving because he has to give, or to make you just feel good and get your attention) but you can’t love without giving.

But Lady FX may decide to settle for Guy X, even against sign that the guy may not be faithful, just because of financial security which she describes as Love
Also note that, No body is happy being financially down, its possible the dude F is working towards something. A little support and encouragement could make a lot of difference in Guy F life.

A know of a female nairalander who did search for job for his boo, and got a job for him, she would have said, the guy is broke , he has no job and follow another man. Today, both running businesses together while working, they got married in April.

That is love, it doesn't mean the guy was lazy. She only fulfilled the scriptures, he that finds a wife, finds a good thing ……
And another saying, behind a successful man is a woman ……

Love is a choice, you don't feel like it, but you make up your mind, hey! this is what I want

Lemme end this episode here

other topics i would love to share with you are

1. What love does
2. The dimensions of love
3. The place of attraction in relationships (so wont misunderstand me) and many others

feel free to ask questions


Prov 9:8-9
9 Teach the wise , and they will be wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn more. -NLT
You are blessed

machi25:
well constructed dearie but we are saying the same thing. Look at it this way; if you don't have an iota of feeling for a person or thing, you won't even think of sacrificing for them. Abraham wouldn't have thought of sacrificing Isaac if he doesn't have an intense feeling towards God. He cared about everything that concerns God which shows he loves him.please tell me about the place of attraction in relationships(3)
Tank, CHEERS!

ideology:
kikikikiiii, God is a spirit, you can't feel it or see it hence you can't develop feelings for something you don't see or touch.

So Abraham Never developed feelings for God, because it is not possible in the first place,


Understand that what Abraham Had with God was good communication, of course, you know communication is only complete when it is both ways. In most relationships today, only one person talks the other just wants to be a reciever
In communication, you talk, I respond, and I talk you respond.

Communication begats trust (faith), trust begats love, see the links and that's what Happened between Abraham And God, not mere feelings.

In the same way, if both of us begin to communicate effectively, over a period, you will begin to trust me and I too, with time it grows to love.

On the aspect of having feeling before you can sacrifice, well its not true, you can sacrifice for a total stranger. Am talking from experience, in fact daily experiences and the reason is simple, everyone have the capacity to love to a certain measure


As for the next discourse, you will have the response tomorrow morning,

Ask more questions on this discussion
Good evening!!

machi25:
I perfectly understand and tanx for making me to am still waiting for the other stuff

ideology:


Sorry deae for belated response, am. Still with you, ave Not forgotten, kinda tight schedule for now, hopefully, by Saturday evening, I'll get you the post.
Hope you are doing great?

machi25:
Okay no problem just don't forget that am waiting,till Saturday then and Good morning