jomile:
if u don't know what happened den don't judge

Both of us were student in the same uni

He wanted to drop out of school cos he couldn't pay his fees, I sacrificed my fees for him right from 200level till wen he graduated

Our plans were wen he graduated nd get a job he will assist me in clearing the debt i was owning in school cos of him

But he did not keep his promise, he did not, he left me wen i needed him, but i was dere wen he had nothing

His only excuse for d breakup was dat his level has change nd he wants to change his taste in women

safarigirl:
the word is bi-racial. Half-caste is a derogatory term

Joy1706:

I will not marry a guy who has nothing. I will not also leave if he loses everything cos I will love the man I marry

tonychristopher:
That's all I can say to any guy here

munchfani:
Nothing is certain except change...READYMADE GO BROKE SOMEDAY

Owoplenty:
when a man choose to answer "flash" you to know something is wrong with is financial statues and acumen

DrGroove:

Where is it written in the Bible that a man should bleep a woman he hasn't gotten married to?

Flashh:


How did you came-up with stúpid conclusion?

Haven't you heard of a superhero called "Flash"? You you haven't just Google it you will know about him.

And for you to have deduced brokenness in my post, that shows you can only read to your comprehensive skill is just to low.

I am not broke nor trying to defend broke guys, I am just trying to let people like you know relationship isn't about money which most ladies go in their with the mentality of gaining money from their boyfriend.

Relationship is all about love, loyalty and trust, if you, ladies should go into relationship with love for the man not the love of his pocket.

You are making it look like it's only men that love sex, in a relationship ladies too want and expect their boyfriends to ask for it in in a relationship but they are just good at hiding their feelings even if they want it.

If it's sex both party enjoy it not like money when one a leech on another person's hard earn money.

canDy4eva:
woriz all dis? Make ur point n leave it at dat na!

I was only trying to vindicate myself to those that misquoted me.

humilitypays:
Good evening bro, sincerely, in as much as I would like to argue some of your points, I am nodding in agreement to all u said, well said.....very mature and sensible response

francizy:


OK. Thanks, thanks, thanks. Blame my English teacher for teaching me English in Igbo language...

Adanna28, sorry about that...

humilitypays:
Good evening bro, sincerely, in as much as I would like to argue some of your points, I am nodding in agreement to all u said, well said.....very mature and sensible response

Adanna28:


No need to apologize I caught your gist and yes I am.

Krystalxxx:


YES, NEVER AGAIN. WE NOW HAVE TO BE WISE..

francizy:


Who's Igbo among your parents? And hope they taught you Igbo? Reminds me of one Igbo man based in Australia and married to a white lady. He posted a video of him teaching his kids Igbo language and I was like, awwww, so so cute.

Loved it. Made me conclude that even if I bring up my kids at the gate of heaven or in Mars, I'd still ensure they learn their native language...

Krystalxxx:



Well there was this one day that I was as hungry as anything in this world. For some reason the atm wasn't working and u don't eat food from anyone else so I was just helpless and hungrier than I've ever been before. It was at this point that I , so pushed to the wall, asked him for once to please buy me food. He bought the food that day, but he also embarrassed me seriously in public at that eatery. To the extent that some girls came over and asked me questions. So That was the first and last day I switched our roles to me collecting and him giving. This happened in this current year of us being together. So I don't think I'm badmouthing if I say he is rather stingy.

Well as for encouraging him to succeed I have done that. Obviously, because as you can see, he has now graduated before me. I made sure I funded anytime he was broke or anything was needed and I had it.

Krystalxxx:
Ok. All these guys that are always talking shit. I have been with my bf for quite a long while now. Since we met, I have been funding him with money and foodstuff as he always claimed that he is broke or hungry. Being my first but longest relationship, I adhered to this advice of 'be a helper not a golddigger' but in return he has mocked me by using this money to buy credit for other women and other such goodies. In our long time of sticking through thick and thin, he has never taken me out,. And now that he has graduated before me, I see no 'reward' in sight. Instead, it's as though he's saying 'shebi u thought you had enough to give me right? ' mocking me. Some fellow girls have blamed me for the outcome, saying all this happened because a woman is never meant to help a man out.

In this case you guys should absolutely shut up. You know why? You claim you want helpmates but if you find such a woman you mistreat her. Then you will go for a gold digger with curves all the same.
Obasonjo had wives before he became president. Women who stood by him in his tough times, but he went for Bleached and beautiful Stella who just came to sit on the throne other women worked for. How many stories do we hear of guys who marry a woman with nothing and when the going gets good they discard this woman to bring in a younger one ? I have seen these stories all around me ! In real life! When a woman sticks by you una take her to be a fool, so everyone , all d guys here should stop making needless noise. It's either men don't know what they want or they just love to complain. Abeg park well cuz we know the ending of all these rants even if a woman should stand by you, it's not as if you will appreciate it. We all know that in reality the girl who stands close or spends for his sake is seen as the fool.
#drops phone.

twoondei:
anyone who says a girl shouldn't go for a rich guy is an enemy of progress. When it's not that you were born to suffer in this one chance you have at life

safarigirl:
nobody is laughing at poor people. The issue here is that most are with a twisted mentality that anyone who isn't poor is rich and vice versa. There are many who are in-between. I don't know why this is an issue because I re-iterate that most guys are interested in gold-diggers. The shinier the better for them, so we who don't look shiny; no fake lashes, no drawn brows, no fake hair and all that never get guys who are interested. So, such discussions are personal for me. You guys say one thing online and another in reality

jomile:
if u don't know what happened den don't judge

Both of us were student in the same uni

He wanted to drop out of school cos he couldn't pay his fees, I sacrificed my fees for him right from 200level till wen he graduated

Our plans were wen he graduated nd get a job he will assist me in clearing the debt i was owning in school cos of him

But he did not keep his promise, he did not, he left me wen i needed him, but i was dere wen he had nothing

His only excuse for d breakup was dat his level has change nd he wants to change his taste in women

safarigirl:
nobody is laughing at poor people. The issue here is that most are with a twisted mentality that anyone who isn't poor is rich and vice versa. There are many who are in-between. I don't know why this is an issue because I re-iterate that most guys are interested in gold-diggers. The shinier the better for them, so we who don't look shiny; no fake lashes, no drawn brows, no fake hair and all that never get guys who are interested. So, such discussions are personal for me. You guys say one thing online and another in reality

lezz:
Sorry, you weren't playing the help meet then; You were simply the man in the relationship.

And darn right, many guys - the decent ones too - fill find you less intriguing when you do that.

You modern women know so little about men.

lezz:
Sorry, you weren't playing the help meet then; You were simply the man in the relationship.

And darn right, many guys - the decent ones too - fill find you less intriguing when you do that.

You modern women know so little about men.

safarigirl:
of course they're suffering from poverty. Poverty isn't restricted to finances. Some have poverty mentality, if you go about thinking every girl wants you for your money, even when you barely have it, then you should check yourself. Guys keep asking girls what they bring to the table aside sex, but we want to know, what else do guys bring to the table apart from money? Cuz I've met many dull-brained guys and intelligence is a criteria for me. If you're all about money, you'll attract girls who are all about money

kaboninc:


What else does a woman want if not the money and a means to it

lezz:
Sorry, you weren't playing the help meet then; You were simply the man in the relationship.

And darn right, many guys - the decent ones too - fill find you less intriguing when you do that.

You modern women know so little about men.

tonychristopher:
You ended up confusing the dude instead of communication

You wrote absolutely nothing

cc150615:


Really?? I wanna assume that was a joke...whatever happened to girls dt have dr own money nd dt in abundance...the likes of Linda Ikeji nd Chimamanda or Chidinma,or even those ones we don't know

kaboninc:


Sister...you need to run, faster than light.

If someone will tell the world how he helped a brother for just one time, I mean, such person is something. I see the reason behind your pain. Just leave anyone that will bring you hurt and regrets. Life is too sweet for that.

Don't worry, you've got experiences so you have an idea of the "gold digger's" pattern and can easily identify them.

You'll find someone who's damn too good!

Dcmg2:
I started out with the sole purpose of not getting "distracted" as stated in No 1,but now i don't even fancy ladies anymore or get attracted to them.It's that bad.That's what making my goals/work a priority as made me.