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Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 4:40am On Sep 29, 2015 |
all4naija: I'm talking based on experience and the fact that majority of the guys on this thread are misogynistic or support such views. I clearly stated that I'm only attracted to nigerian guys and I generally like everything about them. My ish with them is that they can be so biased and prejudiced towards females. It's annoying being told that if I marry a Nigerian guy, I'll become a servant to him for the rest of my life and any dreams I had come second to his. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 4:42am On Sep 29, 2015 |
all4naija: I'm part of a progressive feminist group that fights for GENDER EQUALITY. Where dominance entered the definition of feminist, I don't know. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 4:43am On Sep 29, 2015 |
all4naija: You know what? I don't want to fight with you. We believe in the same thing so why are we even fighting? |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 6:28am On Sep 29, 2015 |
Johnnoah1st:mtchwww shoro niyen? |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by babatundeizbad(m): 7:13am On Sep 29, 2015 |
Vinshu: Whatever you focus on, you get more of. Stop ✋✋ focusing on the negatives in men and start seeing the positives and you won't need to carry that tag "feminist" around. Besides not all men treat women bad. In fact, most guys who don't treat ladies right are usually very insecure. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 7:14am On Sep 29, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation: I needed 'peace of mind' . Didn't forgive because af u ... Tbh anyway, Your idea on what feminism is all about is not what I used to know or made to believe it is , so go girl! Be the best version af u |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Etetejake(m): 10:04am On Sep 29, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Luv my dear. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by porozhniy(m): 11:31am On Sep 29, 2015 |
@op, you "nice" feminists always disown the radfems at every possible turn, yet the radfems are the policy drivers of the movement. you nice feminists keep quiet when feminist organisations like the NOW oppose shared parenthood with all their might. boys pay to get screened for HPV while girls get free screening. When feminist gender studies profs. churn out their biased 1 in 6 rape stats while negleting male victims, you nice feminists dont speak up. When a woman abuses a man, he asked for it or they recommend therapy, when a man does same...prison!. women get funding for health issues peculiar to women, nobody give a damn about men and prostate cancer. motherhood is a choice while fatherhood is a duty. women get "safe spaces" while male only spaces are breeding grounds for the patriachy. so dear op, how does feminism not demonise men? what rights do men have that women dont have?. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Who are the majority of guys(who are misogynistic) here that you talk about? I think you made that up. There is nothing wrong being attracted to your nationality but we have seen what you want is not found in them. There you have it. You are completely a biased lady yet you claim to be feminist. Bwahaha... You get scared easily. It is not hard to be told the truth about the Nigerian society that it's backward. For that simple reason learn to appreciate other nationalities that share your views. Looking at this very post, I would say you don't really know what you want, honey! |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
Vinshu:Are you even for real? You are now using Bill Clinton and Moniker Lewinsky case to judge every man. You are typically a supporter of misandry! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
pinceprinz:Thank you, buddy! It is good you forgive BeastOfNoNation. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:20pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:We aren't fighting. You are the one who usually takes the position of fighting in this argument though. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 1:35pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
Adanna28:I'm about to like your PERSONALITY, but like me keep on observing from an angle you won't even notice 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 4:27pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
all4naija:Feminism = equality of sexes so anything else is just confusion okay It doesn't discriminate against men or anything else your postulating and yes. Some of y'all need professional help as far as your gender differencs mentality is concerned Culture partially. Rather, culture enhances it. It's mostly nature tho I think. Cause even rootless cosmpolitans have this problem. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Sep 29, 2015 |
MrsPhyno:Ironically, it is like women aren't puffy but like to be noticed with the biggest butt, sophistication and best dressed when around men they often reject as not men enough. After all, men are the only ones who are arrogant in nature that need psychologists. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation: Everyone is already equal regardless of gender. Masculine and feminine exist to complement each other and not to compete against each other. Males have their functions and so do females or haven't you wondered why all humans don't belong to the same gender? The equality is there already. Feminism is just a phenomenon created by humans and we have seen all the confusion it has brought about. You say men are ego driven and believe they are superior to the women but I'll tell you this: Men are simply being what they are. I don't want to infuse too much religious talks in my argument but since the world's inception, man was first created and he was directed to lead- that was his primary assignment and then the woman was later created to accompany him and also for humans to multiply on earth (reproduction ). But of course, over the course of many many years, humans have learned new things and experienced a lot of incidents which have resulted in both genders (especially the females) taking roles which they were not "hard wired " for. In the course of history, we've seen women and girls achieve great feats in politics, science, arts, sports, e.t.c. Women have led religious groups, tribes, nations and even armies on the battlefield! The funny thing is that most of the things that bring about arguments such as this are coming from the west (white people!). For example, before the advent of slave trade and colonialism, there were certain indigenous rites and rituals that we africans HAPPILY performed until the white people came to our land and told us that our cultural practices are bizzare and wrong and we nodded our heads in gullibility. Fast forwarding to a more recent time, the western governments, through their institutionalized media, kept pushing that homosexual relationships are a good thing and now we have gay activists in Africa- I'm not condemning LGBT because I believe in God but because it is not correct in all aspects and it doesn't in any way conform with common sense. Now back to the topic, I strongly believe that you (op) have made this post based on your personal experiences with Nigerian men- the Nigerian men you've met. But I can assure you that not all Nigerian men- not all men believe they are superior to their feminine counterparts. The ego drive in men is a natural thing just as the show of emotions in women. But still, not all men are ego driven and not all women show emotions. Although, there are men who push their ego drive beyond limits and that seems to be the category of men you've met, they might have reasons for this sort of behavior such as; upbringing, insecurities, past experiences, e.t.c. (as earlier comments have stated) OR they simply believe they should always lead in every situation as it is their primary role in the society and then they take this belief to the extreme. Not all men are like this. Women also play very important roles in the society but the advent of movements such as feminism has blinded women from seeing how important they are even when they are not doing the heavy duties, professional jobs, or occupying political offices. The simple truth about feminism is that it was created by a group of women who had contradictory motives as to TRUE equality. The success of feminism was possible through convincing speeches and sentiments from other females that listened to the its proponents. Don't let a movement created by a gang of radical and desperate white women make you believe you are not equal to a man until tag yourself a feminist or call out for equality. YOU ARE ALREADY EQUAL. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 4:29pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
idbusah: I know men and women are equal. That is what I've been shouting since. My question was addressing why some men believe that isn't so. I'm not the person you should be telling this to. Talk to some of the guys above that believe women should be submissive slaves and are merely a support system for when men fall from their rise to the top. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Give it up! You aren't going to see the truth in what he wrote because you ignore it and here you are telling him, a well expressed writer, to talk to guys. That is very rude of you. This idea you carry about that you have the right to insult any man and cry foul when your are served your best medicine is unacceptable. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 8:47pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
all4naija:You know what You're Stu.pid. you're very stupid and ignorant and you don't know when to accept that you're wrong. I VERY CLEARLY ACCEPTED WHAT HE SAID AND SAID HE SHOULD ADDRESS THE GUYS WHO SPECIFICALLY THINK WOMEN ARE INFERIOR. DID I MENTION YOU?? IF YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE NOT ONE THEN SHUT UP AND GET OFF THE THREAD BECAUSE IT DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU. This thread is addressing misogynistic males. If you are not one then I'm not talking to you. I'm specifically asking why some guys don't believe in gender equality. I'm done talking to you. I easily easily easily agreed with him. I've been shouting gender equality since. The only person that is ignorant here is you because even when both of us are saying the same thin, you will disagree with me. Don't tell me that I'm rude when you go around insulting people you don't know and telling them they will divorce while pregnant. I've been saying men and women are equal and anything a man can do a woman can do also. I have EASILY shown you that I believe in gender equality yet you STILL attack me. WHY When did I attack all males. Did I not say he should specifically address the guys who don't beloved in gender equality? I already believe in it so there's nothing new he's telling me that I don't already know. My issue is that you people don't seem to know what a Feminist means. @all4naija let's end this conversation because neither of us are going to agree on this issue. later you will say I'm crying after you've insulted me for no reason. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by cruzyteejay(m): 10:56pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation: oh logic i guess.........as you know,the rib is closer to the head than to the leg.........why wasn't it in an equilibrium between the head and leg?(you may use a tape) |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 11:18pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation: You have no argument there. You are fond of ranting like somebody who is under the influence. I can't believe you claim to be feminist and at the same time has this explosive insulting manner of a ghetto b i t c h! You know what I am taking about. No descent guy is going to put up with it or accept that from somebody who is demanding for equality with impudence. Please, stop be petulant because you aren't making sense in this your very post. It is clear you hate to hear the right view on how wrong you are on your highly held ideology that is taking you to no where importance. The earlier you realize that the better for you to understand there is really some emptiness in you that needs to be filled with knowledge of the real world that you live in. You alone cannot fight this gender equality you preach about in the form of feminism while discriminating men by lying about how they address you here and how the society tries to hold you back from achieving your aim. This is 21st century and if you still believe everybody that disagrees with your feminine propensity to discriminate is your enemy then you can be my guest. I am not going to stand and continue to pat you in the back when you are going wrong - from the angle you address the issue from. I can buy you a drink any day if you can really prove beyond refutable fact that feminism as an ideology doesn't discriminate men. I am not done with you yet because there is lot of things that needs to be inculcated into your thick skull. It is becoming unbearable to have a heated debate with you on the ground of equality. You don't have to cry all the time, lady. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 1:22am On Oct 01, 2015 |
all4naija: Stay there with your blind hatred for feminists. Don't use sense. You even rant as much as I do. There's nothing you will tell me regarding feminists that I will accept. I've told you that in every ideology there are extremists. I am not an extremist I do not hate men and I don't go around insulting males because I have general respect for human beings. I've only insulted you because you were the first one to dish out insults (May I divorce during pregnancy. May you never see children). Lord knows I've never lost my cool the way I have here which doesn't even make sense because we're promoting the same thing! On a final note: I believe in gender equality therefore I am a feminist. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 7:16pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Oh, yeah! Here you go again with your randomness. When are you going to make sense for once? Jeez! I can't believe a smart lady as you can't make good use of her mental faculty to understand that feminism is completely out of line with gender equality when it goes beyond to discriminate men. Please, you have been using that divorce-and-pregnancy point to make excuses for your inability to comprehend what I have been saying here. That is a big shame on you. I don't even see you posts as insults to me but more of disrespect to people when you keep denying the facts of this matter and at the same time telling people what to do. I couldn't help laughing at 'may-you-never-have-children part' of your post. Indeed, the world population is more of a burden on resources and you expect me to procreate and increase the population. I think you need to be jailed for planning to increase the population and for planning to put more pressure on the environment. In this overpopulated earth you still see having kids as complimentary. Oh, my goodness! This lady is still living in the prehistoric time. This is actually one of the reasons why you are easily brainwashed by the ideology of feminism. Bwahaha... There is nothing wrong in losing your cool here but you have to do it from a civilized angle. I see you as a primitive African woman who still can't wrap her head over modern irrefutable notion like gender equality, feel threatened due to inferior complex and quickly align yourself with feminists to feel good. I can see why you are not so happy after all. If you really want to support gender equality you must treat it as such - as something based on both genders(the male and female sex). You are only asking for something you know it is not going to go down well with your wrong ideology. You can cry me a river and I am not going to pay attention to it. Not until you start acting as somebody who is equal to men and stop thinking you are superior I am not going to take you serious here nor would I treat you as my equal. Sorry to say that to you. But, I treat other ladies equal as I am but not a crying baby like you. Boohoo! You can't believe in gender equality and at the same time be a feminist. It doesn't make sense. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by BeastOfNoNation(f): 10:34pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
all4naija: So wanting to have kids should be a criminal offence now? the funny thing is that I made up my mind a long time ago that I would adopt children as well as have two of my own. Since having children is such a burden and a crime, go and tell your mother that she is a criminal for giving birth to you. You're so delusional. You don't even know me and you've determine that I'm a "Primitive African Woman who can't wrap her head around the notion of gender equality". How many times have I said that I represent the notion of gender equality? I don't understand how someone like you who is obviously well educated can't understand that feminism stands for gender equality and not female domination. I feel you know you're wrong but you won't just admit it at this point. And by the way, I am a VERY naturally happy person. It's people like you who are so passionate and arrogant in your ignorance of what issues such as feminism are that anger me. You're so godda.mm immature too. Are you seriously calling me a baby? Are you twelve? Happy Nigerian Independence Day msschew |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 11:33pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:No, it is not! I never said it is either. You are the one making a mountain out of a molehill from having babies in overpopulated world. The fact that you don't have a single idea of the world population and the probable consequences on the earth survival makes me wonder if you even know what you are talking about. You want to mess up this earth further. Instead of you educating people on depopulation you are here planning to have 2 kids and adopt another from somebody you possibly encouraged to produce more. Jeez! It's not a rocket science to understand the kind of person that you are from your posts. Aren't you an African woman? Please... Let's leave that trivial part of the argument alone and discuss on the issue of feminism at hand. Which has become like a religion to you and the food you eat. What more can I say when you gladly pride yourself for being a feminist?! Huh! I don't see you as somebody 'naturally happy' because you don't have a descent boyfriend yet. So what are you now happy about more than the wrong ideology of feminism? On the final note, you can't wish me a happy independence day with those frowns and msschew. That wish is hard to swallow, lady. You aren't equal until you learn to accept gender equality not feminism. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 11:48pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Hahahahahahahahaha your attitude contrasts with the message you are trying to pass along, all4naija let her be. Feminism?! This crap has caused more harm than good smh, well let who has time for it continue. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by macaranta(m): 11:49pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
grammer |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Yksoul(m): 12:14am On Oct 02, 2015 |
FIRST,THE SOCIETAL AND CULTURAL SETTINGS CAUSED THE MEN TO THINK WOMEN ARE LESS TO THEM.SECONDLY,FAMILY BACKGROUND IS MAJORLY RESPONSIBLE FOR IT.HOW DO UR PARENTS BEHAVE TO THEMSELVES?DOES UR DAD ALWAYS IN CHARGE AND BLAMES WHEN NECESSARY?THAT'S WHAT AM TALKING ABOUT |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by passionate88: 12:27am On Oct 02, 2015 |
AfroKnight:Booked. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 12:48am On Oct 02, 2015 |
Yksoul:Not just societal and cultural settings bro, what about biological, religious, strength, reasoning ( no disrespect to ladies some of you do utilize your brains ), responsibilities like protection, leading and more. Let me stop here, see God never planned it that way at all. Most of the things in the world is fkd up because we went against the laws that God and nature prescribed so they backfire. What most people don't understand is that the universe is all about balance fire= water, cold= heat , oppression/disrespect/incompetence/arrogance/fights/ defiance / irresponsibility/ lack of tolerance and understanding and so on = divorce/murder/beating/slapping and more in marriages ( using marriage as an example )which has to happen to create balance . Every action begets a reaction, we are directly or indirectly the cause of what happens around us and to us. I laugh at the naija so called feminists because they're a bunch of clowns, most of these brain washed females thinks its cool to adorn the " I'm a feminist " trash. Well fk them, after all I'm yet to see I got to do with them. FACT = MEN AND WOMEN CAN NEVER BE EQUAL FACT = EVERYONE CAN NEVER BE WEALTHY FACT = EVERYONE CAN NEVER BE A GOOD PERSON FACT = THE WHOLE WORLD CAN NEVER BE AT PEACE UNDER THE GOVERNANCE OF HUMAN BEINGS so why kill yourselves?! Do what you can to change most importantly YOUR world which you have control over and maybe just maybe the world if you can and quit hassling about things you can't control. |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by amInigerian: 12:54am On Oct 02, 2015 |
BeastOfNoNation:Well, first of all, I'm a Nigerian guy and growing up, my position was that if I was a girl, I would find it very difficult marrying a Nigerian guy. In fact, I felt it was very unlikely I would. Is any human created for most of these gross man misdemeanours Nigerian style? May good women find good men, wherever they are, Nigerian or no. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Nigerian Guys So Misogynistic? by Nobody: 1:08am On Oct 02, 2015 |
amInigerian:by gross men I hope you're defining yourself because any naija girl would be so lucky to have me BTW my girl is and I'm also lucky to have her. I was raised to respect love, care and treat people they way they are supposed to be treated, to respect people that earned the respect so Speak for yourself. I bet you're a gross, wild male being and not man. 1 Like |
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