Tallesty1:
This post is very long so I will skip introduction and go straight to the three misconceptions that women believe about men.


1. Men Are Intimidated/Feel Insecure Around Women With Wealth: I don't know where this mentality is from but I have this to say about it.

Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her.

These are the women that my brothers are scared of. It is called being careful and not insecurity.

Men are scared of women that have personality disorder.

Secondly, if a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women(career women) is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Have you seen that it just isn't a Nigeria thing?

The same studies have found that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it.

Men are not scared of women with wealth, they're simply not ready for their endless troubles.

Nobody will willingly pierce his body with many sorrows.

Now lemme bring it down to Nigeria women.

This is what happens when a guy asks for the hand of a rich girl in marriage.

Each member of the family will buy one Laser-Sharp Binoculars that can pierce through his flesh and bones and zoom the guy's soul to search his spirit to know if he's after the woman's wealth.

Even when the Binoculars reads negative, they still won't believe it, they will become very envious and are likely to disrespect the guy.

The guy have alota work to do to prove his not after their sister's money before they can respect him.....

The mama will be like, "My daughter, that guy is after your money. He's not good for you, wait my dear, when a good guy comes I will tell you".

Who wants that?

Finally, these women, especially those working in an office or something of that nature do not know that there are things one needs to succeed in business and work.

These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are in trouble.

Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility.

Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone.

Stay Alone Then.

bronzegoddess:
Too long.

Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.
Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:

Cos they are physically challenged I'm sure

bronzegoddess:
Too long.


Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.




Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:

Cos they are physically challenged I'm sure

bronzegoddess:
Too long.


Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.




Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

Tallesty1:
2. Men Don't Value The Women That Asked Them Out: I shouted holy ghost fire the first time I heard this, because I have been in relationships where ladies made the first move.

I don't wanna go into details but what I learnt from dating them is that the women who have the guts to ask guys out also have cheating tendencies and security issues.

Though the later is not a real problem but who wants to reminded every ten minutes that the reason you did this was because she asked you out.

If she called and I didn't pick, it was because she asked me out

If my number is not available, it was because she asked me out

Truth is, Men value them but they're too difficult to date.

I almost fainted when I checked someone's inbox and saw that she's using the same "scope" she used on me on other guys.

No man wants to date a female version of himself.

3. Beauty Intimidate Men: False: If you are a beautiful woman and you are not in a steady relationship or no man wants to stay committed with you then here is why.

When I say beautiful, I mean the 10/10s.

I have dated one of the 10s and the experience was hellish!

Her beauty didn't intimidate me 1 bit neither did I feel insecure around her but the relationship didn't last because:

A: She initiated it. You already know the problem that is involved in dating a woman that asked you out.

B: She was always telling me how guys were on her neck. @ a point it started sounding like she was doing me a favour by dating me. One day, I gave her my Facebook password.

What she saw there calmed her down and she stopped telling me how guys were on her neck cause I had ladies on my neck too.

Handling a 10/10 is difficult and not many men can do it so they chose to stay away.

It is not intimidation, not insecurity, it is choice.

Most 10s are quite demanding and also incredibly self-absorbed, why? Because they feel they can pick and choose.

This is because they're constantly being bombarded with male attention.

Men fall all over themselves to try to please her in any way they can.
Endless compliments, outrageous gifts, free shopping sprees on Rodeo Drive, all expense paid trips to the finest resorts in the world, invitations to parties with the rich, famous and powerful men and women.

This always gets into their heads and spoils them.

A recent analysis revealed that having an attractive husband or boyfriend was no barrier to a relationship succeeding. But, if the woman was extremely beautiful, the relationships tend to last only a matter of months.

It is difficult to state how challenging it can be to get involved with a 10s.

Men consider this and backdown.

bronzegoddess:
Too long.


Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.




Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be women men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:
Too long.

Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them

Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:
Too long.


Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.




Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:
Too long.


Nigerian men are not scared of rich girls, they are scared of girls richer than them.




Yes, nigerian men take ladies for granted if they initiate romantic gestures and stuff. Even if he wasn't into the girl prior to the girl asking him out, he'll force himself to tolerate her just to get whatever he can. Men will always be men, they can never turn a woman down.

bronzegoddess:

Na lie ehhhhh. I believe not. U probably mistook her gestures to mean the green light.

Tallesty1:
This post is very long so I will skip introduction and go straight to the three misconceptions that women believe about men.


1. Men Are Intimidated/Feel Insecure Around Women With Wealth: I don't know where this mentality is from but I have this to say about it.

Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her.

These are the women that my brothers are scared of. It is called being careful and not insecurity.

Men are scared of women that have personality disorder.

Secondly, if a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women(career women) is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Have you seen that it just isn't a Nigeria thing?

The same studies have found that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it.

Men are not scared of women with wealth, they're simply not ready for their endless troubles.

Nobody will willingly pierce his body with many sorrows.

Now lemme bring it down to Nigeria women.

This is what happens when a guy asks for the hand of a rich girl in marriage.

Each member of the family will buy one Laser-Sharp Binoculars that can pierce through his flesh and bones and zoom the guy's soul to search his spirit to know if he's after the woman's wealth.

Even when the Binoculars reads negative, they still won't believe it, they will become very envious and are likely to disrespect the guy.

The guy have alota work to do to prove his not after their sister's money before they can respect him.....

The mama will be like, "My daughter, that guy is after your money. He's not good for you, wait my dear, when a good guy comes I will tell you".

Who wants that?

Finally, these women, especially those working in an office or something of that nature do not know that there are things one needs to succeed in business and work.

These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are in trouble.

Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility.

Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone.

Stay Alone Then.

coldHeat:

Your intelligence, as is your understanding, is legendary!
Wisdom flows through you like a waterfall; it appears the vessels of your mind are gorged with information corrupted by an experience with woman-hood that cannot boast of pride of prejudice.
I couldn't read your entire post; it was too deep and ladened with a mind that seeks to out-do itself in its quest for maturity and self-evolution. I shall come back at the crock of dawn and have me a feast on your regurgitated thoughts.
My Oh My!!!
Its been at least 3 and a half eternities since I beheld one with a level of enlightenment that would dwarf mine quietly in any conceivable time-line.
I shall seek out the verbose gesticulations of your thought processes, and I shall meditate deeply on your ideas and ideals in a bid to fashion out a most forbidden school of thought on woman-hood that would have you seated as its Principal.
Once more, I am humbled by your enlightenment!
For its practically very rare to meet matured minds on this forum. Believe me I have searched...

anumide:
Tallesty1, I have a lot to say regarding your post, but I am lazy when it comes to typing, so I will just pick two points
1. every human has at least one personality disorder, otherwise known as maladaptive behavior. hence the phrase "nobody is perfect". if men don't like women with personality disorder, then they are all hypocrites.
2. men are natural hunters. testosterone is to blame. i believe most men will prefer to do the wooing. my point is; stop generalising.

Tallesty1:
Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her.