ThiefOfHearts:

just smearing lipstick on his clothes is way cheaper

St☆rStruck:

You're reading too much into it.

mi2009:

So he could be trying to turn me into his at-home-lover. That could be true, and yet the way he looks at me is diferent than before. It's warmer. Men are funny. You never know what's on their minds.

mi2009:

So he could be trying to turn me into his at-home-lover. That could be true, and yet the way he looks at me is diferent than before. It's warmer. Men are funny. You never know what's on their minds.

mi2009:

I have no clothes at his house. Is anyone listening to me? No clothes. He just asked.

mi2009:

You don't know me. I won't be crying. I will keep it moving and just date someone else. Relationships are relationships. You live and you learn, but it's the way that you bounce back which is so important. I won't be the first girl who got dumped and he won't be the last guy who got dumped. People move on all the time. That's life.

mi2009:

First of all, I am not stupid in the way of education, but naive to the way of African etiquette. The nigerian customs are different from American culture. I am an American woman dating a man from Africa. I have dated many American guys. I am not a bad looking girl. I get dates all the time. Don't ever think that I have to settle for this guy. I do have other options. I didn't mention this before, but I know a lot of women who are living with their boyfriend and they end up marrying them (meaning the guy is taking care of the girl). On the same token, I know guys that don't marry their girlfriend who are not staying together. Everyones situation is different. Some of you guys seen so tough, but I know some girls that could easily tame that.  Not every girl end up being dumped and hurt. You guys sometimes become victims of love too. Never forget that.

Archilles:

mi2009, I guess you will get accurate answers if you mention you are an american (I believe you mean thorough-bred, no that you won visa lottery or something) whenever you post a topic. Pple reply to your post thinking you are Nigerian and gave you advice as one. You americans can sleep with each other at first sight and its seen as normal but you try that in naija and you are "definitely" a wh ore.

To answer your question, since you feel you can move on whenever you like, then go ahead and leave your clothes (your entire wardrobe, if you like) in his house. Just remember to leave a big suitcase there too, you might need one in a hurry. Good luck.

mi2009:

from all the negative responses. no wonder this post views naija men in a bad light. people never post anythng positve.

sistawoman:

Should I start listing for you the thread topics that have covered this very behavior in Nigerian women?

sistawoman:

Carry your anti-american bullshit some place else.

mi2009:

from all the negative responses. no wonder this post views naija men in a bad light. people never post anythng positve.

oyb:

lets take a moment to leave all the religious aspects of fornication etal aside, we all know unmarried people have no business having sex, even though 90% do or have done that


the guy and the girl are already getting it on. . .so all this respect business is already moot. actually its just naija male double standards

i have friends who have shacked up with their chicks back in the day, and married them, and i have friends who shacked up with chicks and dumped them.

sadly out of school, there's no real way of knowing a guys intentions. you may get some hints from the sort of peeps  he rolls with.

by all means drop a few clothes. for me, i see it as more of convenience for both of you than anything else. you hit his house on a monday night, and you stay over. are you going to wear the same clothes you wore the day  before to work? unless you are going straight home from his house, having some stuff there is just simply logical.ditto if you plan on unscheduled weekends. i used to hang out at a friends place, so i dropped some clothes there.maybe not quite the same analogy, but you get the idea

a man who shacks up with you then calls you loose for doing so is nothing more than a sanctimonious hypocrite. so what does it say of him? is he not also loose for living in sin?

all such a guy is doing is going for the cowardly exit that so many of us men are known for. after all the lies and sweet nothings we tell to get into the panties, we can't exactly take them all back when we want to move on, so we resort to absurd excuses

anyhow.

@ op, do what your heart tells you. the business of love is nowhere near as cut an dried as so many of us want to believe it is