donTbone:

Am sure you not dumb... right?
I dont think thats funny!

Only dumb people need consent from others to get married. And intelligent people don't throw insult online.

NifemiOlu:


Only dumb people need consent from others to get married. And intelligent people don't throw insult online.

Only smart ppl will know questions are not insult!

OSU my ass.... That believe is nonsense. Happiness is the most important in marriage and she has find one. She should first of all talk to her parents in a matured manner and at the same time her final decision before them. Thanks

That's scary. Lol

Was just thinking if they don't know nothing or heard nothing about it, they be safe. Since ignorance is bliss. Lol

icedbeatz:
Ndi Igbo si na nku mba na enyere mba nri which means that a community's firewood is used to prepare their meal and it gets their meal done. an uncle of mine and his wife gave birth to their 2nd son and baby came into d world wt crazy stuff all over his skin, docs did all the could, dermatologist and whatnot even the best skin specialist in LA did with all their df drug and cream they prescribed nothing worked untill thay visited home durin xmas years ago and this baby was about 3 then the oldest man in our family then at 119 saw him and called him by one archaic name( name of a late fam) and this kid ran to him and hugged him. He then told my uncle that the skin reaction was a result of the boy wanting to be born at home and not a foreign country that he should bathe him with our village stream water and four days after he was bathed everything cleared meanwhike some docs approached my uncle with lot of zeros of dollars asking to buy off the baby for an experiment in order to find cure in case of tomorrow or if ppl strt suffering such and he smacked the the one that had the guts to say such trash and luckily no legal action ensued. So our customs and similar things like that knows no boundaries at all bros. We r nt westerners no matter hw we try or be programmed to think we r Africans and in this case IGBOS. These things happens and i guess other nlers got stories too. These shitt gives no fk about location, wish someone will teach it geography though hahahha.

Sometimes parents can be so annoying. Why will they accept introduction without knowing anything about the guy? It is very necessary that when your child brings someone home, you quickly find out about that person and warn your child if its not what you want before you accept that person and whatever they bring. Na wa oooo.
After introduction you will now come and tell me rubbish, it will not work na.

GboyegaD:


Who among those you mentioned will live her marital life for her? What matters is her happiness and those who grace your wedding leave you to face the reality all by yourself.

in a typical igbo tradition,a girl is married to her husband's family so goes to the man cos they play important roles in the marriage

hustler86:
What part of the txt u dnt get ryt.

what part of my smiley is confusing you?

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

So you want her to terminate the pregnancy and marry her father ?

End time advice. Ler her family not be involved nah.

Monalisa185:


what part of my smiley is confusing you?

This

I will start like this. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and one should think carefully before going into. Good news both of you love each other very much. Now Osu caste system is still strongly practiced in some Igbo communities inspite of the advent of christianity. And I can understand where the parents are coming from. Even if she eventually wins the parents' consent, I doubt if the members of her family will want to partake in such marriage. Before she makes up her mind and go ahead to marry the guy:
*she should confide in her mother about the pregnancy and see if they will shift ground
*Incase the parents refuses still, can she live without her parents' blessing for all her married life
*Can she ignore the effect on her kids
All in all, she should pray and seek God's counsel.

Just break up with him immediately. Osu cast system is something that even religion cannot stop. The consequences of marrying one is far more hurting than you can think of. A broken relationship is better than a marriage of bitterness! Find a way to tell him you're ending the relationship.

why get pregnant before being married. I don't support Osu in igbo land, it is barbaric and a lot of igbos will go to hell just because of this

rockyh:
ar u an igbo person ,traditions ar meant to b upheld cos if she goes on wif d marriage she's on ha own mind u ha parent,siblings and kinsmen won't attend d wedding

hear hear, traditions must be upheld. time to start beheading twithey must not be allowed to live.also women are properties, not property o, but properties and must be married to their dead husbands brother with no inheritance and put ashes on their head and drink dead husband juice. yes tradition must be upheld...... not.

donTbone:

U not gonna be the first to diss... Like.... ion bloody care




Now, i tell you.. clarifying my post. Is there a fight, stress or misunderstanding free marriage?

Me putting down the list doesn't meant u must have a yes from them b4 the marriage...
are you guys this DUMB!

What am trying to pass across is, there are things they see that the lover wont notice.
If they try and tell you to slow down a bit or giving the marriage a rethink...then the person
should....

As for those pointing at my four list... Here is more clarity

1. if u don't believe in your pastor knowing about your marriage, then you shouldnt tell me God matters!
2. If you tell me your parent doesn't matter in the choice, then same awaits you from your children too.
Mind you, ion know who you will run to for advice when the trouble starts.
3. You wanna neglect your siblings right? go ahead. I dont know if they will be there when you need someone around you or not
4. Friends too aren't neccessary... No probs, just go ahead and marry without seeking for advice and wisdom from elders!

I have said mine....
#soft

oh... i finally get. the problem was that actually, you don't know the meaning of some English words you are using. fyi, consent means approval o. (you can confirm from the dic). meaning friends must give approval first.
also you said.......[/quote]Friends too aren't neccessary... No probs, just go ahead and marry without seeking for advice and wisdom from elders![/quote]. bros.. friends and elders are two different things na. why are you confusing yourself. are you sure you don't need to start an english blog of words and meaning instead?... this dating blog doesnt seem to work. #softer

STFUareyouGod:
That's scary. Lol

Was just thinking if they don't know nothing or heard nothing about it, they be safe. Since ignorance is bliss. Lol

i think that force is a legal practioner, ignorance of its law is not an excuse for its people hahahahaahahahahah. I Wish well to the people that wants to go against it though. At some point someone have to MANDELA this things.

icedbeatz:
i think that force is a legal practioner, ignorance of its law is not an excuse for its people hahahahaahahahahah. I Wish well to the people that wants to go against it though. At some point someone have to MANDELA this things.

hahahahaha this got me laughing had.

Bros, You can be the Mandela. Fight against it bruv. You can do it

STFUareyouGod:
hahahahaha this got me laughing had.

Bros, You can be the Mandela. Fight against it bruv. You can do it

hahasha nooooo not against something that i cant see. Not me bro.

icedbeatz:
hahasha nooooo not against something that i cant see. Not me bro.

see this Bros o. Hahahahaha all is well sha. May we never fall victim

whether we admit it or not, family is important when getting married. She shld try as much as possible for her parents to accept de man she wants to marry and give them their blessings. I knw it will be hard or almost impossible, am an Igbo gal and I understand dis OSU ish. That thing can mess up Ur life and hurt Ur own children but at least with de blessings of her family, it will be easier