Geraraheremehn:

Zdat ya advice?

Flameneo:
Hmmmm !
@OP Does this osu of a thing have any spiritual implication ? Or its just a cultural thing

If it does,I advice you to stay away, and if it doesn't, I will advice you to look for pple who can talk to your parent to make them understand.

You n your partner will be in charge of your happiness if it does not have any spiritual implication

emorse:


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schumastic:


what are you saying so if your above 21 u won't seek your parents consent when you plan on getting married or do you think marriage only ends between the two couples?

PICTURE THIS: when you go against your family disapproval and on the wedding day non of your family or relatives or clan appear at the occasion and disassociates with you after the marriage then you will know why you need their consent.

mzvyne:


The children Ofcourse....

how can u equate genotype incompatibility with segregation ?

jidxin:
im just sayin...under d requsite law btw it has happnd b4 notin new u ve friends collegue nd some naughty family of urs ur neigbhours could make it all 4 u

Fourwinds:
they didn't waste time... they have done the main the main already....nine months counting

hustler86:

Thers nothing new in this world we leaving babe.
Btw the face rili luk so mean, buh d beautiful heart behind it is wht I wna meet up 4a chat or the likes. If u dnt mind kffb or 07062655071whtsap

hustler86:

Thers nothing new in this world we leaving babe.
Btw the face rili luk so mean, buh d beautiful heart behind it is wht I wna meet up 4a chat or the likes. If u dnt mind kffb or 07062655071whtsap

V0lv0:
In this day and age people still are caught up in this shiit. When will we black people be delivered from all this nonsense. Smdfh

Spirit1:


Keep calling it shit. Why don't you go and marry an Osu if you are Igbo

Spirit1:


Sir are you an Igbo man? Do you have Osu in your part of Igbo? If you do am sure you will be sounding differently

Lerumo:
Please love is not enough. This Osu thing is a very serious matter and should be taken as such.
My candid advice, listen to your parents and present your current situation to them and work things out with them.
It's not too late to fix things.

P.S. when dem tell una to hold body until marriage una no go listen.

addictiv:

I am not just an igbo man but an mbaise man from one one of the historic families in igboland and I can tell you that we don't believe in the osu system. My kids are free to marry anybody that is said to be an outcast. If you won't show up at my wedding because I am marrying an outcast, it's your loss. I saw my parents build their little empire from scratch without a dime or assistance from anyone so the issue of family members deserting you when you re in need is a deceptive ploy. The osu caste system is devilish and barbaric n so is anybody believes and practises it.

emorse:


I speak as an individual. I know no tribe or religion. My stance is based on the the fact that love and respect must be mutual. If my family love me, they should value my happiness more than a simple tradition which I believe has no more value than the killing of twins in the days of Mary Slessor.

I concur that winning them over is a more diplomatic means though.

Spirit1:


Keep calling it shit. Why don't you go and marry an Osu if you are Igbo

addictiv:

I am not just an igbo man but an mbaise man from one one of the historic families in igboland and I can tell you that we don't believe in the osu system. My kids are free to marry anybody that is said to be an outcast. If you won't show up at my wedding because I am marrying an outcast, it's your loss. I saw my parents build their little empire from scratch without a dime or assistance from anyone so the issue of family members deserting you when you re in need is a deceptive ploy. The osu caste system is devilish and barbaric n so is anybody believes and practises it. There are far more important things to worry about when choosing a life partner .

V0lv0:

Clearly I am no match for your level of ignorance. Ignorance is indeed bliss. Please don't quote me again.

Spirit1:


Thank you educated wise man from the east. Again it's simple, go and marry an Osu if you are a free born.

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

V0lv0:


Firstly I am not a man. Secondly if you have a problem with 'Osu', nobody said you should marry them but don't be upset for those who do not have a problem with it. I personally feel that such believe is outdated but my opinion so let it rest

porshuch:
IF SHE LOVES THE GUY, TELL HER TO GO AHEAD AND MARRY HIM, NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO THEM. I MEAN NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.

Spirit1:
Why can't people see this guy as being a fraud, by hiding this information from the poor girl? Rather he went and pregnanted the poor girl.
Where is the trust in this relationship sef?

He clearly knows the implications of being an Osu in Igbo land. He knew this might be a big problem. He can't claim he doesn't know, because Osu is what you are born with and the family know very well the implications. He should have warned her.
That's what you do when you truly love someone. You don't trap them and then turn around to blame her family.

Let him leave this poor family alone that are practicing their culture as they deem fit. Let us not demonize them please.

It's like being HIV positive and hiding it from your prospective spouse. The only reason you will hide it is because you are scared he or she will run.
Is it right to wait until you have infected your prospective spouse ( pregnanted her in this case) before telling her.

What's the morale in this story. This guy is mean. Let him go marry his own!!!!

emorse:


You remember how we used to kill our twins until a certain Mary Slessor persuaded us to stop right?

schumastic:



don't you get it at all? you can't win them over..you think is mere talk right okay let me tell you something..

my mum friend whom her daughter got married to an osu man after much warnings from her family.. she gave birth and her mum visited her after ignoring plea from her husband not to go but due to the love she have for her daughter she went coming back she was involve in a ghastly motor accident and was the only person that died..my mum made it clear to me that she will accept any 1 but not an osu and if i go ahead with it then am on my own cus she won't risk her life because of my ignorance...even though nobody wish for it we just have to be careful, do the needful and avoid story that touch.

mzvyne:

Sir, I don't remember Oh... I wasn't born then.