gen2genius:

Seriously, I don't think this is about your ex; I think it's about YOU. You're doing as if you can't survive without a man. And that's why you seem to be falling into the wrong hands. If I were you, I'd get a grip on my emotions, take my mind off relationships and focus more on myself, my career and other things that matter to me. I'd have a positive, independent attitude to life and by and by, I'd regain my confidence and self-esteem. That way, things would definitely change for the better

If you don't check that tendency to always look for some man to lean on, men will continue to take advantage of you. Forget your ex and any other man for now and concentrate on yourself. Develop your mind. Be strong!

But going back to him is not a bad option, only if he doesn't take u 2be a confused cheap slot.

gen2genius:


Sorry, but aren't you being unrealistic here? How do you expect him to see her - like someone who knows what she's doing? See, this is a reality of life: whether you're a man or woman, the moment you begin to act like you can't do without someone or that it's the person that holds the key to your happiness and fulfilment in life, you risk becoming the person's slave!

@ Monica. . .I'm not saying you shouldn't go back to him or anyone else, but bear that fact in mind as you take the decision

ifyalways:

@Poster,no one can spoil or ruin ur emotional life without ur consent. . .direct or indriectly.First off,ur first love is a cheat,that rules him out. . .Unless u are willing to live with and marry a cheat cos he WONT change even after marriage.
Monicaa,Not dating does not make u less a woman ! Keep ur head up and walk tall,the right man wud come.Dont even think of going back to ur ex,it wud help massage his ego and believe u me,he wud get worse now with his cheating ways BUT however,if he comes back as a changed man,u can still give him a trail. . .u said u still have feelings for him.
Dont close the door of love,lock out urself or appear desperate,love lives in strange places.Use this opportunity to focus on ur life/career,take good care of urself,go out, have fun,meet new and intresting ppl,u surely wud attract the right man if u carry a positive outlook and carriage.

lawyer:

@Monicaa

Your worse than Adam Brody

I remember sometime last year when Adam Brody made a thread about him being callous with women because his ex treated him badly and left him and he does these bad things to women so as to make him remind him of his ex.

I also remembered a score of posters advising him against it and for him to move forward including you yourself who advised him to forget the past and move forward and hope for the best because you were in the same position and you would advise him to move on. But this is almost 1 year now since that post and you are still worried about your ex while the Adam Guy has vanished into thin air probably married with a new babe and your worring yourself stiff over your ex.

1. Your a prisoner to a person who doesnt wake up in the morning thinking of you and goes to bed with you as the last thing on his mind

2. He is probably either settled with someone he likes or still behaving like a jerk breaking other girls hearts

3. Your denying yourself the gift of life and happiness by tying your life to someone who never deserved you and will probably never know the difference between whats good and bad for him

4. Your letting your ego get into your way because you fantasize of what would have been and what should still be hereby making you stuck in time while the rest of the world moves forward light years ahead of you.

5. I have seen your picture before, you are a very pretty girl and you would probably meet a hoard of admirers and possible suitors that would appreciate you more than your ex, so why hold that eternal fondness for someone that doesnt care about you

Live your life to the fullness and enjoy the goodness of what life has to offer! Life is too short to brood over one person who doesnt care for you!

ezinne1212:

What exactly do u love so much about ur ex?

gen2genius:


Sorry, but aren't you being unrealistic here? How do you expect him to see her - like someone who knows what she's doing? See, this is a reality of life: whether you're a man or woman, the moment you begin to act like you can't do without someone or that it's the person that holds the key to your happiness and fulfilment in life, you risk becoming the person's slave!

@ Monica. . .I'm not saying you shouldn't go back to him or anyone else, but bear that fact in mind as you take the decision

190:

monicaaa
u again

davidylan:

this monicaa sef . . . when will you stop crying?

biola44:

move on, dont go back!

rhufffryda:


Abandon the thought of having a guy in your life. Give yourself sometime to just look, observe and think, have fun, do not take anyone serious. I'd say between 6-12months.

After this period, you should have healed. You may still think about the EX but the pain will not be there anymore. Even if u see him with another woman, u wont feel anything.

Save yourself stress. The guys is humping some other chiks now. I can assure you of that.

I had sex with a lady friend a day after breaking up with my gf of nearly 2 years. I forgot about the pain immediately.
lol. thats the way it is. Life is not fair.

190:

monicaaa
u again

davidylan:

this monicaa sef . . . when will you stop crying?

topup:

It takes different amounts of time for different people. I for one just want to say the longer you keep trying to convince yourself that you're over him, the longer it'll take. Forget the opinions of people pressuring you to salvage your ego and "move on already", and try and find out why you haven't.

It seems the main reason is that you are scared that he's the best you'll ever have - but unless you really don't expect much from your life, that couldn't be further from the truth.
I'm not saying that there is a perfect guy but there is a better guy, it's not much to ask for is it? Don't sell yourself short, you want a guy to genuinely care for you and be loyal to you, love you and NEVER cheat - why have you convinced yourself that you're asking too much. .

*shakes head*

igbele:

@ monicaa.

What else gladens our hearts than to be in love with some one who loves u in return? in this case you love the guy but he alwas hurt u. How are u sure if u go back to him he will not do the samething? Is he ready 2 take u back?Any way you knw him very well so follow your heart. Gud luck.

Monicaa:


U still remember my picture  after all this while? 10ks 4 the compliment though  nd this is what i really nd truly need, the hard/tough truth. i'm trying. i just happened to love him so much, but i believe there r potentials out there just haven't come across any yet.

ezinne1212:
What exactly do u love so much about ur ex?